820f09cf-2ace-4180-a92d-aa4c0008f5fb 2882641d-d5c1-4ae5-96ba-acf4002d4087 7070a66c-566e-4d0b-b99f-b242003206c0 2b8a9150-46c0-4837-ad45-b242003206fb en https://www.omnycontent.com/d/playlist/820f09cf-2ace-4180-a92d-aa4c0008f5fb/7070a66c-566e-4d0b-b99f-b242003206c0/2b8a9150-46c0-4837-ad45-b242003206fb/podcast.rss The Imperfects Interesting people, allowing themselves to be vulnerable, sharing with us, their imperfect lives. https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/ episodic We’re all imperfect. On this podcast, founder of The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg, his good friend Ryan Shelton, and only one of their brothers, Josh van Cuylenburg, talks to a variety of interesting people who vulnerably share their own struggles and imperfections, or expertly pass on their wisdom on the subject of imperfection. Whether it’s in The Vulnerabilitea House, The Academy of Imperfection, or with our very own psychologist, Dr Emily, The Imperfects are here to find some valuable takeaways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives. Josh van Cuylenburg theimperfects@theresilienceproject.com.au Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 2026 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg no yes https://www.omnycontent.com/d/programs/820f09cf-2ace-4180-a92d-aa4c0008f5fb/7070a66c-566e-4d0b-b99f-b242003206c0/image.jpg?t=1733800851&size=Large The Imperfects https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/ Our Phone Odyssey Begins Our Phone Odyssey Begins Could you live without your phone for a month?

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This week it's just the three of us. And like Odysseus before us, we embark on a life changing epic.

Where he fought the trojans, monsters, cannibals, sirens, the oceans, a cyclops and ACTUAL GODS!!

We will do something even ‘EPIC…ER’.

We’re tackling our phones.

Each of us take on a month-long challenge to fix our worst phone habits, inspired by the ‘god of no phones’ - Christopher Nolan and the release of THE ODYSSEY (if that wasn’t obvious already, but we promise this episode isn't an ad).

We then share some of our favourite bits from behind the pay wall, from our Patreon/Subscriber community. Ryan has an unplanned, very generous on-air hair donation; Josh shares a bit from a book which changed his life a bit; which leads to one of the most honest conversations he and Hugh have ever had on (or off) the show, about comparison, self-esteem, and growing up idolising your older brother.

This is one epic journey.

00:00 — The Phone Odyssey Begins
08:54 — Our Phone-Free Pledges
19:11 — Modelling Better Habits at Home
25:29 — Hairing is Caring
37:57 — A Bit From a Book That Changed Josh’s Life a Bit
48:18 — The Conversation Between Brothers That Needed to Be Had

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

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See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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This week it's just the three of us. And like Odysseus before us, we embark on a life changing epic.

Where he fought the trojans, monsters, cannibals, sirens, the oceans, a cyclops and ACTUAL GODS!!

We will do something even ‘EPIC…ER’.

We’re tackling our phones.

Each of us take on a month-long challenge to fix our worst phone habits, inspired by the ‘god of no phones’ - Christopher Nolan and the release of THE ODYSSEY (if that wasn’t obvious already, but we promise this episode isn't an ad).

We then share some of our favourite bits from behind the pay wall, from our Patreon/Subscriber community. Ryan has an unplanned, very generous on-air hair donation; Josh shares a bit from a book which changed his life a bit; which leads to one of the most honest conversations he and Hugh have ever had on (or off) the show, about comparison, self-esteem, and growing up idolising your older brother.

This is one epic journey.

00:00 — The Phone Odyssey Begins
08:54 — Our Phone-Free Pledges
19:11 — Modelling Better Habits at Home
25:29 — Hairing is Caring
37:57 — A Bit From a Book That Changed Josh’s Life a Bit
48:18 — The Conversation Between Brothers That Needed to Be Had

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/sign-up-to-our-newsletter/ 

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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/ 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Phone Use Hair Loss Comparrison The Odyssey Phone Odyssey Phone Addiction Parenting Screen Time Hair Growth Finasteride A little more imperfects Proust The Midnight Library Alain de Botton Hairing is Caring Alopecia The Imperfects Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Bridget Northeast Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection Dr Emily Musgrove Phone Use, Hair Loss, Comparrison The Odyssey, Phone Odyssey, Phone Addiction, Parenting, Screen Time, Hair Growth, Finasteride, A little more imperfects, Proust, The Midnight Library, Alain de Botton, Hairing is Caring, Alopecia The Imperfects, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Bridget Northeast, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, Dr Emily Musgrove full 8 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg edda143c-513a-425f-b951-b487001d64da edda143c-513a-425f-b951-b487001d64da Sun, 19 Jul 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4378 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/the-phone-odyssey-begins Dr Emily - You, Me & Jealousy Dr Emily - You, Me & Jealousy To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.

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Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.

According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.

Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.

In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

See you on the other side.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc

00:00 - The Day Has Arrived
02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish
7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It
10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market
15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous
22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous
43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later
47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust)
59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust

🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🎵Songs to listen to

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]]> To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.

💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.

According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.

Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.

In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

See you on the other side.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc

00:00 - The Day Has Arrived
02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish
7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It
10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market
15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous
22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous
43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later
47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust)
59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust

🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🎵Songs to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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]]> Jealousy Friendships Relationships Trust Jealous Hamish Blake Love Triangle Friendship Friends Envy Romance Cheating Harry Styles Dogs Parenting Domestic Violence Psychology The Imperfects Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Bridget Northeast Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection Dr Emily Musgrove Jealousy, Friendships, Relationships Trust, Jealous, Hamish Blake, Love Triangle, Friendship, Friends, Envy, Romance, Cheating, Harry Styles, Dogs, Parenting, Domestic Violence, Psychology The Imperfects, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Bridget Northeast, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, Dr Emily Musgrove full 8 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a44259b3-7c89-482c-8fab-b482002a698b a44259b3-7c89-482c-8fab-b482002a698b Sun, 12 Jul 2026 19:00:00 +0000 3917 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-you-me-jealousy Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey-print For Dads Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey-print For Dads Want can you learn from playing with a child?

In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.

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In this episode we dig into the world of play - ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.

Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.

00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove
08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time
11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard
21:00 - It’s All Improvising
38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again
51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey
54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason
58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions
01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry
01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs 

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Want can you learn from playing with a child?

In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.

💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

In this episode we dig into the world of play - ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.

Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.

00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove
08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time
11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard
21:00 - It’s All Improvising
38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again
51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey
54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason
58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions
01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry
01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs 

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

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See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Play Presence Parenting Bluey Improvisation Games Fun Bandit Storytelling Dad Kids Joy Present State of Origin Distractions Phone Use Smug Phone Fatherhood Motherhood Chilli Bingo Dogs Cartoon Animation Playing The Imperfects Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Bridget Northeast Ryan Shelton Joe Brumm Hamish Blake Academy of Imperfection Dr Emily Musgrove Play, Presence, Parenting Bluey, Improvisation, Games, Fun, Bandit, Storytelling, Dad, Kids, Joy, Present, State of Origin, Distractions, Phone Use, Smug Phone, Fatherhood, Motherhood, Chilli, Bingo, Dogs, Cartoon, Animation, Playing The Imperfects, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Bridget Northeast, Ryan Shelton, Joe Brumm, Hamish Blake, Academy of Imperfection, Dr Emily Musgrove full 8 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 5c0121b4-c1a3-44c4-a96a-b4790049f735 5c0121b4-c1a3-44c4-a96a-b4790049f735 Sun, 05 Jul 2026 19:00:00 +0000 5413 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/joe-brumm-hamish-blake-a-bluey-print-for-dads Janelle Booker & Hamish Blake - The ADHD Playbook for Parents Janelle Booker & Hamish Blake - The ADHD Playbook for Parents How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?

This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.

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Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.

And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.

We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.

Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.

0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

📖Things to read

  • ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3

🎧Things to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?

This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.

💌Join 8,300+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.

And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.

We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.

Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.

0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

📖Things to read

  • ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3

🎧Things to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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]]> ADHD parenting neurodivergence Hamish and Andy university smart time organisation planning prioritising relationships fast and loose diagnosis stigma spectrum struggle perspective exam pressure disorder radio career comedy comedians creativity boys girls dopamine complex phone medication Perth live show beer pub psychology psychiatry attention focus DSM5 Michael Phelps scaffolding curiosity urgent empathy history identity maths subjects Zoe Foster-Blake unique pride laziness behaviour compassion patience critical dyslexia friendship social cues emotions forgiveness different stressor hormones anxiety depression memory think estrogen education energy challenges over-identifying tension acceptance private school effort homeostasis mood neurodiversity neurotypical addiction strengths crisis adrenaline explorer adventurer innovators workplaces trampoline waves course The Imperfects Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Bridget Northeast Ryan Shelton Janelle Booker Hamish Blake Academy of Imperfection Dr Emily Musgrove ADHD, parenting, neurodivergence Hamish and Andy, university, smart, time, organisation, planning, prioritising, relationships, fast and loose, diagnosis, stigma, spectrum, struggle, perspective, exam, pressure, disorder, radio, career, comedy, comedians, creativity, boys, girls, dopamine, complex, phone, medication, Perth, live show, beer, pub, psychology, psychiatry, attention, focus, DSM5, Michael Phelps, scaffolding, curiosity, urgent, empathy, history, identity, maths, subjects, Zoe Foster-Blake, unique, pride, laziness, behaviour, compassion, patience, critical, dyslexia, friendship, social cues, emotions, forgiveness, different, stressor, hormones, anxiety, depression, memory, think, estrogen, education, energy, challenges, over-identifying, tension, acceptance, private school, effort, homeostasis, mood, neurodiversity, neurotypical, addiction, strengths, crisis, adrenaline, explorer, adventurer, innovators, workplaces, trampoline, waves, course, The Imperfects, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Bridget Northeast, Ryan Shelton, Janelle Booker, Hamish Blake, Academy of Imperfection, Dr Emily Musgrove full 8 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg bb60ac0e-4da1-4039-af21-b472006da217 bb60ac0e-4da1-4039-af21-b472006da217 Sun, 28 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000 6188 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/janelle-booker-hamish-blake-the-adhd-playbook-for-parents Jimmy Wales (Wikipedia) - In Trust We Trust Jimmy Wales (Wikipedia) - In Trust We Trust How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?

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In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).

And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.

You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.

Trust is important, and so is this conversation.

0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

🏆Competitions to enter

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]]> How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?

💌Join 8,100+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).

And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.

You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.

Trust is important, and so is this conversation.

0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

🏆Competitions to enter

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Trust transparency authenticity Non-for-profit volunteer nupedia collaboration history sources quality NY Times daughter clinical trial encyclopedia doctor question empathy science personal civility respect dignity authenticity reminder global mental health politics compromise social media uber Airbnb prosocial nature positive negative twitter social behaviour purpose information education town square billionaire opportunity charity censorship government donation freedom of expression bud light Washington Post AFL The Voice Alabama vulnerability safety The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Jimmy Wales Wikipedia Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Bridget Northeast Trust, transparency, authenticity Non-for-profit, volunteer, nupedia, collaboration, history, sources, quality, NY Times, daughter, clinical trial, encyclopedia, doctor, question, empathy, science, personal, civility, respect, dignity, authenticity, reminder, global, mental health, politics, compromise, social media, uber, Airbnb, prosocial, nature, positive, negative, twitter, social behaviour, purpose, information, education, town square, billionaire, opportunity, charity, censorship, government, donation, freedom of expression, bud light, Washington Post, AFL, The Voice, Alabama, vulnerability, safety, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Jimmy Wales, Wikipedia, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Bridget Northeast full 8 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e1c362cb-f0ed-429a-b354-b46c00618737 e1c362cb-f0ed-429a-b354-b46c00618737 Sun, 21 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000 3647 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/jimmy-wales-wikipedia-in-trust-we-trust Dr Emily - You're Full of Grit Dr Emily - You're Full of Grit Do you think you have grit?

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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.

Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.

Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!

We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.

Dr Em, so great to have you back.

0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k 

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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.

Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.

Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!

We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.

Dr Em, so great to have you back.

0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k 

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📚Things to read

📺Things to watch

⭐️Things to donate to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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]]> Grit persistence passion Learning researching earnestness Dyson Heppell Dr Angela Duckworth disappointment stamina idea fun success develop grow interest golf running perseverance trial natural ability love growth mindset play try confidence hobby money Michael Phelps feedback psychology inner critic resilience commentary performance childhood consistency intensity hope optimism albert bandura self-efficacy physical needs self- talk model admiration Bad Bunny Superbowl little victories shame pain purpose Marcus Aurelius evidence emotion regulation quit cheerleader childbirth epidural company environment enthusiasm values joy inevitable retirement capacity winning identity The Imperfects Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Grit, persistence, passion Learning, researching, earnestness, Dyson Heppell, Dr Angela Duckworth, disappointment, stamina, idea, fun, success, develop, grow, interest, golf, running, perseverance, trial, natural ability, love, growth mindset, play, try, confidence, hobby, money, Michael Phelps, feedback, psychology, inner critic, resilience, commentary, performance, childhood, consistency, intensity, hope, optimism, albert bandura, self-efficacy, physical needs, self- talk, model, admiration, Bad Bunny, Superbowl, little victories, shame, pain, purpose, Marcus Aurelius, evidence, emotion regulation, quit, cheerleader, childbirth, epidural, company, environment, enthusiasm, values, joy, inevitable, retirement, capacity, winning, identity, The Imperfects, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 8 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e5300b87-41a7-488f-9c40-b4650031c15a e5300b87-41a7-488f-9c40-b4650031c15a Sun, 14 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4493 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-grrrrrit Ellyse Perry - It Starts With Trying Ellyse Perry - It Starts With Trying At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.

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Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.

Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.

And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.

Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y 

0:00 – Is THAT AI?
5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course
11:24 – The feeling of not trying
17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport
29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed
40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup
46:48 – The complexity of ego
1:03:54 – Practicing presence
1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

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]]> At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.

💌Join 7,800+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.

Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.

And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.

Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y 

0:00 – Is THAT AI?
5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course
11:24 – The feeling of not trying
17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport
29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed
40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup
46:48 – The complexity of ego
1:03:54 – Practicing presence
1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Perspective success humility Cricket pull shot broadcast Pat Cummins longevity social anxiety humble best money Australia Post women’s sport sport humanity warmth opportunities athletics insecurity frailty fulfillment England acceptance dishonest identity shame guilt struggle forgiving fatherhood parenting persona world cup authentic accessible commercial professional gender ego introvert extrovert judgement presence training growth The Imperfects Ellyse Perry Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Perspective, success, humility Cricket, pull shot, broadcast, Pat Cummins, longevity, social anxiety, humble, best, money, Australia Post, women’s sport, sport, humanity, warmth, opportunities, athletics, insecurity, frailty, fulfillment, England, acceptance, dishonest, identity, shame, guilt, struggle, forgiving, fatherhood, parenting, persona, world cup, authentic, accessible, commercial, professional, gender, ego, introvert, extrovert, judgement, presence, training, growth The Imperfects, Ellyse Perry, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 8 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0c1e7a44-8b5b-4f01-b5d7-b45f004ce206 0c1e7a44-8b5b-4f01-b5d7-b45f004ce206 Sun, 07 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4731 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/ellyse-perry-it-starts-with-trying We're Doing a One-Off Live Show! We're Doing a One-Off Live Show! We have a BIG announcement.

August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?

ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!

And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!

🏆 Enter here NOW - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/

Tickets will go live Monday June 8.

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BUT to enter the competition OR buy tickets, you need a codeword (lowercase). And the only way you will hear the codeword is to be a Little More Imperfects subscriber and listen to the latest episode!

So quick, subscribe here!

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We can’t wait to see you there x

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]]> We have a BIG announcement.

August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?

ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!

And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!

🏆 Enter here NOW - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/

Tickets will go live Monday June 8.

🎟️ Buy here - https://bit.ly/4ecYtTw

BUT to enter the competition OR buy tickets, you need a codeword (lowercase). And the only way you will hear the codeword is to be a Little More Imperfects subscriber and listen to the latest episode!

So quick, subscribe here!

🩵Patreon - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷Apple Podcast - http://apple.co/theimperfects

We can’t wait to see you there x

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> bonus 8 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 8ecbf4a1-d96f-4972-a845-b45d001060b3 8ecbf4a1-d96f-4972-a845-b45d001060b3 Tue, 02 Jun 2026 19:00:00 +0000 590 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/were-doing-a-one-off-live-show Ryan Holiday - A Stoic Life & Death Ryan Holiday - A Stoic Life & Death We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. At least, that’s what the Stoic’s say.

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Today we are joined (deep breath Hugh) by Stoic philosopher Ryan Holiday.

Using the wisdom of the past to appreciate the present, Ryan’s work is dedicated to communicating how the practicalities of stoic philosophy can help us lead more present, mindful and resilient lives today.

In this incredible chat, Hugh, Josh and Ryan (our Ryan), each present Ryan Holiday with something they have been struggling with in their own lives. Through the lens of Stoic philosophers Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Epictetus, Ryan Holiday talks to how stoicism can really help us to live into our values, prioritise presence, and deal with existential dread.

We discuss with Ryan the importance of understanding what will actually make you happy (spoiler: it’s not a billion dollars), and how to reframe death as a reminder that we must appreciate every moment (or not waste anymore with shame and guilt).

This episode, and its practical take-aways (which you can find listed in our newsletter), has been a long time coming.

Ryan, what an absolute honour.

0:00 – What is Stoicism?
13:26 – For the Josh’s of the world
17:07 – Time and Energy of Worrying
27:01 – The illusion of freedom
33:50 – Am I a bad friend?
38:58 – Practicing what you preach ft. presence
45:42 – If today was your last day
50:22 – 5 quotes for a Stoic life

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

✍️Journals to journal

🎟️ Things to get tickets to

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]]> We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. At least, that’s what the Stoic’s say.

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Today we are joined (deep breath Hugh) by Stoic philosopher Ryan Holiday.

Using the wisdom of the past to appreciate the present, Ryan’s work is dedicated to communicating how the practicalities of stoic philosophy can help us lead more present, mindful and resilient lives today.

In this incredible chat, Hugh, Josh and Ryan (our Ryan), each present Ryan Holiday with something they have been struggling with in their own lives. Through the lens of Stoic philosophers Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Epictetus, Ryan Holiday talks to how stoicism can really help us to live into our values, prioritise presence, and deal with existential dread.

We discuss with Ryan the importance of understanding what will actually make you happy (spoiler: it’s not a billion dollars), and how to reframe death as a reminder that we must appreciate every moment (or not waste anymore with shame and guilt).

This episode, and its practical take-aways (which you can find listed in our newsletter), has been a long time coming.

Ryan, what an absolute honour.

0:00 – What is Stoicism?
13:26 – For the Josh’s of the world
17:07 – Time and Energy of Worrying
27:01 – The illusion of freedom
33:50 – Am I a bad friend?
38:58 – Practicing what you preach ft. presence
45:42 – If today was your last day
50:22 – 5 quotes for a Stoic life

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

✍️Journals to journal

🎟️ Things to get tickets to

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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]]> Stoicism power values Marcus Aurelius cricket Pat Cummins vulnerability ancient philosophy virtue resilience productive Epictetus powerlessness Seneca Nero playwright politics role model guidance practical circumstances reality obstacle is the way adversity problem solve time wasting time American politics government news worry information history vote protect impact engagement negative emotions positive emotions Cato honesty integrity cult of personality slavery freedom fear friendship imposter syndrome help gratefulness presence love attention momento mori space missing reframing focus the promise of more death commitment guilt shame patience conversation The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Ryan Holiday Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Stoicism, power, values Marcus Aurelius, cricket, Pat Cummins, vulnerability, ancient philosophy, virtue, resilience, productive, Epictetus, powerlessness, Seneca, Nero, playwright, politics, role model, guidance, practical, circumstances, reality, obstacle is the way, adversity, problem solve, time, wasting time, American politics, government, news, worry, information, history, vote, protect, impact, engagement, negative emotions, positive emotions, Cato, honesty, integrity, cult of personality, slavery, freedom, fear, friendship, imposter syndrome, help, gratefulness, presence, love, attention, momento mori, space, missing, reframing, focus, the promise of more, death, commitment, guilt, shame, patience, conversation, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Ryan Holiday, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 8 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg db88cc75-8f93-451c-b596-b458000bc622 db88cc75-8f93-451c-b596-b458000bc622 Sun, 31 May 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4509 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/ryan-holiday-a-stoic-life-death Joel Pearson - I Think, Therefore AI Joel Pearson - I Think, Therefore AI In the age of AI, do you feel that your future is more uncertain?

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In today’s Academy of Imperfection, we’re joined by Dr Joel Pearson; a neurofuturist, whose work centres around predicting how AI will impact every aspect of our lives from now on.

While many of us (us included) first and foremost imagine the impacts of AI in a tech-revolution-y, robot butler-y, terminator-adjacent way, this episode goes deeper.

Joel discusses how young people are forming attachments with AI companions and how we might see, perhaps the first generation in known history with a lower IQ than the one beforehand.

We talk about the tangible and interconnected mental health impacts that this major societal disruption will have, and Hugh and Josh ask how in the world can we broach this topic with our kids?

BUT, this episode isn’t all doom and gloom. Joel is a tech-optimist, after all.

We talk to Joel about how we can foster human connection, and continue to develop our critical thinking skills, whilst not turning away from AI altogether.

Joel, this has been invaluable.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPGa6heppjE 

0:00 – The episode we’ve been putting off
10:10 – The only certainty is disruption
14:15 – Impact of AI on the brain
21:23 – Rewards and moral responsibility
27:11 – A scary mental health spiral
30:31 – Think of the children
35:10 – You may now kiss the AI
45:06 – Purposeful Utopia
58:42 – Seeing is no longer believing
1:02:21 – The Roadmap to AI
1:11:35 – Finding Motivation in Limbo
1:18:15 – Let’s Stack Some Habits

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> In the age of AI, do you feel that your future is more uncertain?

💌Join 7,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

In today’s Academy of Imperfection, we’re joined by Dr Joel Pearson; a neurofuturist, whose work centres around predicting how AI will impact every aspect of our lives from now on.

While many of us (us included) first and foremost imagine the impacts of AI in a tech-revolution-y, robot butler-y, terminator-adjacent way, this episode goes deeper.

Joel discusses how young people are forming attachments with AI companions and how we might see, perhaps the first generation in known history with a lower IQ than the one beforehand.

We talk about the tangible and interconnected mental health impacts that this major societal disruption will have, and Hugh and Josh ask how in the world can we broach this topic with our kids?

BUT, this episode isn’t all doom and gloom. Joel is a tech-optimist, after all.

We talk to Joel about how we can foster human connection, and continue to develop our critical thinking skills, whilst not turning away from AI altogether.

Joel, this has been invaluable.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPGa6heppjE 

0:00 – The episode we’ve been putting off
10:10 – The only certainty is disruption
14:15 – Impact of AI on the brain
21:23 – Rewards and moral responsibility
27:11 – A scary mental health spiral
30:31 – Think of the children
35:10 – You may now kiss the AI
45:06 – Purposeful Utopia
58:42 – Seeing is no longer believing
1:02:21 – The Roadmap to AI
1:11:35 – Finding Motivation in Limbo
1:18:15 – Let’s Stack Some Habits

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Uncertainty AI imapct Attention economy human race future optimist tech optimist ai optimist consciousness philosophy neuroscience brain physics mathematics prediction job security fear computers tech revolution humanity intelligence revolutions bias societal disruption unemployment helplessness comfort discomfort anterior singular cortex meditation adaptability uber certainty mental tasks IQ rewired brains GPS brain rot atrophy critical deep thinking reward moral responsibility nuclear war app development fuel prices anxiety mental health covid purpose screens story social media generative AI connection loneliness compromise productive addictive stimulating business self-learning second wave resilience utopia problem solving skills ai agent socialise agency empowering Mark Zuckerman habits James Clear Dr Emily Musgrove The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Dr Joel Pearson Uncertainty, AI, imapct Attention economy, human race, future, optimist, tech optimist, ai optimist, consciousness, philosophy, neuroscience, brain, physics, mathematics, prediction, job security, fear, computers, tech revolution, humanity, intelligence, revolutions, bias, societal disruption, unemployment, helplessness, comfort, discomfort, anterior singular cortex, meditation, adaptability, uber, certainty, mental tasks, IQ, rewired brains, GPS, brain rot, atrophy, critical deep thinking, reward, moral responsibility, nuclear war, app development, fuel prices, anxiety, mental health, covid, purpose, screens, story, social media, generative AI, connection, loneliness, compromise, productive, addictive, stimulating, business, self-learning, second wave, resilience, utopia, problem solving skills, ai agent, socialise, agency, empowering, Mark Zuckerman, habits, James Clear, Dr Emily Musgrove The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Dr Joel Pearson full 8 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b819442e-235a-4304-a6df-b45000586956 b819442e-235a-4304-a6df-b45000586956 Sun, 24 May 2026 19:00:00 +0000 5363 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/joel-pearson-i-think-therefore-ai Dr Emily - What To Do With Envy Dr Emily - What To Do With Envy What is your envy telling you?

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).

Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.

In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.

Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.

Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.

Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.

To watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc

0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

📺Things to watch

📖Things to read

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).

Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.

In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.

Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.

Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.

Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.

To watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc

0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy

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]]> Envy comparison worthiness Jane Austen serious sincere earnest wise Dave Hughes success decision relationship emotion information evolutionary adaptive social media brains upward comparison downward comparison assimilate contrast admire resentment neighbour lottery shame acknowledge money house action anxiety therapy competition scarcity mindset withdrawal bitterness passive aggressive bullying devalue ruminating obsessing trolling pain anger grief loss abandonment hating energy values authentically excitement cars caring helpful narrow neurodivergence radical acceptance sleep friendships helplessness hopelessness corrosive pride rejection sensitive self-belief reflection communication infertility disconnecting judgement vulnerability body image belonging checking gratitude awareness appreciation story familiar The Imperfects Dr Emily Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Envy, comparison, worthiness Jane Austen, serious, sincere, earnest, wise, Dave Hughes, success, decision, relationship, emotion, information, evolutionary, adaptive, social media, brains, upward comparison, downward comparison, assimilate, contrast, admire, resentment, neighbour, lottery, shame, acknowledge, money, house, action, anxiety, therapy, competition, scarcity mindset, withdrawal, bitterness, passive aggressive, bullying, devalue, ruminating, obsessing, trolling, pain, anger, grief, loss, abandonment, hating, energy, values, authentically, excitement, cars, caring, helpful, narrow, neurodivergence, radical acceptance, sleep, friendships, helplessness, hopelessness, corrosive, pride, rejection, sensitive, self-belief, reflection, communication, infertility, disconnecting, judgement, vulnerability, body image, belonging, checking, gratitude, awareness, appreciation, story, familiar The Imperfects, Dr Emily, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg full 8 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg bc645911-6bba-4a19-84f2-b44a00401e4b bc645911-6bba-4a19-84f2-b44a00401e4b Sun, 17 May 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4728 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-what-to-do-with-envy Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?

For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.

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Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.

We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.

And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.

Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE 

0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute
6:44 – The night of the assault
19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism
33:09 – Family Dynamics
41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation
47:39 – The Waiting Game
59:15 – Reuben’s Letter
1:04:24 – A divine test
1:10:30 – Just help
1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend?

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to check out

🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?

For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.

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Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.

We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.

And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.

Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE 

0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute
6:44 – The night of the assault
19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism
33:09 – Family Dynamics
41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation
47:39 – The Waiting Game
59:15 – Reuben’s Letter
1:04:24 – A divine test
1:10:30 – Just help
1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend?

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to check out

🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Justice identity gratitude Change inspiration sport cricket Cricket Australia sexual assault Sports Grad Ricky Ponting Canberra Live Tour Rana Hussain Brisbane crime trial safety rape belief privilege right wrong silence victim survivor story narrative public human relations legal police court perpetrator statement psychological sports industry sexual violence motivation reoffending courage bravery depression anxiety divorce cancer mental health job loss love Christianity guilt therapy Catholicism George Pell pride covid redundancy appeal pain preparation Magistrates court letter break up business impact support growth documentation Palestine humanity language friendship Reuben Williams The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Vulnerabilitea House Justice, identity, gratitude Change, inspiration, sport, cricket, Cricket Australia, sexual assault, Sports Grad, Ricky Ponting, Canberra, Live Tour, Rana Hussain, Brisbane, crime, trial, safety, rape, belief, privilege, right, wrong, silence, victim survivor, story, narrative, public, human relations, legal, police, court, perpetrator, statement, psychological, sports industry, sexual violence, motivation, reoffending, courage, bravery, depression, anxiety, divorce, cancer, mental health, job loss, love, Christianity, guilt, therapy, Catholicism, George Pell, pride, covid, redundancy, appeal, pain, preparation, Magistrates court, letter, break up, business, impact, support, growth, documentation, Palestine, humanity, language, friendship, Reuben Williams, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Vulnerabilitea House full 8 15 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 80f1ceca-8922-4b11-96aa-b4430067c615 80f1ceca-8922-4b11-96aa-b4430067c615 Sun, 10 May 2026 19:00:00 +0000 5296 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/reuben-williams-what-happened-after-my-sexual-assault Jan Fran - Wars For Your Attention Jan Fran - Wars For Your Attention In a world so divided by hate, how can we choose to show love?

This week we are joined by journalist Jan Fran, who unpacks the horror of witnessing horror.

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Talking through her unravelling relationship with social media and the utter helplessness she feels watching atrocities cut into 30 second clips, Jan explores how becoming a mother cracked her open in ways she didn’t know possible.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer every question in the deck (kidding), Jan and Josh discuss the guilt of turning away, and the consequences of leaning in.

And finally, Jan bonds with the Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the fundamental importance of deliberately creating community.

Jan, you are remarkable.

0:00 – Introducing Josh’s housemate
8:42 – The art of being vulnerable
17:19 – I wish I could stop going on social media.
27:13 – Being cracked open
35:32 – Deliberately building community
46:39 – Anticipating the Comments
53:34 – Optimist by will

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube (and see Josh’s Frant banner), follow this link - https://youtu.be/BRoyNdZEZD0 

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🎧 Things to listen to

📱Things to help you set social media boundaries

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> In a world so divided by hate, how can we choose to show love?

This week we are joined by journalist Jan Fran, who unpacks the horror of witnessing horror.

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Talking through her unravelling relationship with social media and the utter helplessness she feels watching atrocities cut into 30 second clips, Jan explores how becoming a mother cracked her open in ways she didn’t know possible.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer every question in the deck (kidding), Jan and Josh discuss the guilt of turning away, and the consequences of leaning in.

And finally, Jan bonds with the Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the fundamental importance of deliberately creating community.

Jan, you are remarkable.

0:00 – Introducing Josh’s housemate
8:42 – The art of being vulnerable
17:19 – I wish I could stop going on social media.
27:13 – Being cracked open
35:32 – Deliberately building community
46:39 – Anticipating the Comments
53:34 – Optimist by will

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube (and see Josh’s Frant banner), follow this link - https://youtu.be/BRoyNdZEZD0 

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🎧 Things to listen to

📱Things to help you set social media boundaries

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Community social media parenthood United Nations Bangladesh housemates live tour struggle friendship understanding SBS The Frant blog Walkley Award vulnerability Gaza Lebanon world order despair solidarity coping Instagram TikTok YouTube addiction relationships work Antoinette Latouff management parenting innocence children ignorance therapy guilt anxiety worry perinatal mental health psychiatrist adjustment fragility OCD Penny Moodie Iraq War protection boundaries connection like-mindedness faith hope pragmatism documentary media fighter strength courage anger engagement destruction rage justice peace The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Jan Fran Israel lebanon genocide gaza palestine Community, social media, parenthood United Nations, Bangladesh, housemates, live tour, struggle, friendship, understanding, SBS, The Frant, blog, Walkley Award, vulnerability, Gaza, Lebanon, world order, despair, solidarity, coping, Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, addiction, relationships, work, Antoinette Latouff, management, parenting, innocence, children, ignorance, therapy, guilt, anxiety, worry, perinatal mental health, psychiatrist, adjustment, fragility, OCD, Penny Moodie, Iraq War, protection, boundaries, connection, like-mindedness, faith, hope, pragmatism, documentary, media, fighter, strength, courage, anger, engagement, destruction, rage, justice, peace, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Jan Fran, Israel, lebanon, genocide, gaza, palestine full 8 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 8855ba1a-ad3d-45dc-901c-b43c003bbb54 8855ba1a-ad3d-45dc-901c-b43c003bbb54 Sun, 03 May 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4232 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/jan-fran-wars-for-your-attention Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence. Dr Edna Lekgabe - New Baby… New Brain… Matrescence. According to perinatal and reproductive psychiatrist Dr Edna Lekgabe, matrescence is the motherhood equivalent of adolescence. Puberty 2.0, if you will.

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Joining us in the academy of imperfection, Dr Edna explores the cataclysmic identity shift women undergo during motherhood, and how partners can best support them.

Exploring the impacts of mastrescence with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Edna breaks down the difference between matrescence, anxiety and depression, and why mental illness is the number one pregnancy complication.

We’re talking hormonal changes, physiological changes, sociological changes that are SO significant, you can see them in brain scans. Matrescence is messy, a developmental earthquake, and it’s not talked about nearly enough.

This episode might just break the internet (and your heart) wide open.

0:00 – Introducing Hugh’s perinatal psychiatrist
7:30 – Matrescence? Huh?
21:14 – The biology of baby brain
34:10 – The difference between matrescence and depression
40:46 – Reasonable worry vs anxiety disorder
47:40 – The emergence of neurodivergence
54:04 – Post-natal depression
1:00:04 – Matrescence after loss
1:05:50 – Getting to know a brand new person
1:11:19 – Can women have it all?
1:18:32 – On a societal scale
 1:26:12 – The paternal earthquake

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

📺 Things to watch

💻Things to check out

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> According to perinatal and reproductive psychiatrist Dr Edna Lekgabe, matrescence is the motherhood equivalent of adolescence. Puberty 2.0, if you will.

💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Joining us in the academy of imperfection, Dr Edna explores the cataclysmic identity shift women undergo during motherhood, and how partners can best support them.

Exploring the impacts of mastrescence with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Edna breaks down the difference between matrescence, anxiety and depression, and why mental illness is the number one pregnancy complication.

We’re talking hormonal changes, physiological changes, sociological changes that are SO significant, you can see them in brain scans. Matrescence is messy, a developmental earthquake, and it’s not talked about nearly enough.

This episode might just break the internet (and your heart) wide open.

0:00 – Introducing Hugh’s perinatal psychiatrist
7:30 – Matrescence? Huh?
21:14 – The biology of baby brain
34:10 – The difference between matrescence and depression
40:46 – Reasonable worry vs anxiety disorder
47:40 – The emergence of neurodivergence
54:04 – Post-natal depression
1:00:04 – Matrescence after loss
1:05:50 – Getting to know a brand new person
1:11:19 – Can women have it all?
1:18:32 – On a societal scale
 1:26:12 – The paternal earthquake

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

🫖 Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

📺 Things to watch

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Matrescence motherhood identity Pregnancy psychiatry ADHD late anxiety birth mental health mental illness diagnosis treatment knowledge Oprah G Stanley Hall hormones industrialisation school growth Dayna Raphael babycentric anthropology sociology Alexandra Sacks complexity normal ambivalence depression stress emotional regulation empathy social cognition synaptic pruning baby brain brain fog Penny Moodie rewiring dementia amygdala threats hippocampus memory learning basil ganglia reward motivation behaviour thalamus sleep wake cycle micro signals post-natal depression post-natal anxiety post-natal psychosis OCD trauma grief worry functioning performance worried failure agoraphobia neurodivergence autism adhd Minecraft masking confinement baby blues conception miscarriage IVF relationships women’s rights work self-worth ambition praise value paternity leave maternity leave money affordability government The Resilience Project creative change stagnation protect The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection Dr Edna Lekgabe Matrescence, motherhood, identity Pregnancy, psychiatry, ADHD, late, anxiety, birth, mental health, mental illness, diagnosis, treatment, knowledge, Oprah, G Stanley Hall, hormones, industrialisation, school, growth, Dayna Raphael, babycentric, anthropology, sociology, Alexandra Sacks, complexity, normal ambivalence, depression, stress, emotional regulation, empathy, social cognition, synaptic pruning, baby brain, brain fog, Penny Moodie, rewiring, dementia, amygdala, threats, hippocampus, memory, learning, basil ganglia, reward, motivation, behaviour, thalamus, sleep wake cycle, micro signals, post-natal depression, post-natal anxiety, post-natal psychosis, OCD, trauma, grief, worry, functioning, performance, worried, failure, agoraphobia, neurodivergence, autism, adhd, Minecraft, masking, confinement, baby blues, conception, miscarriage, IVF, relationships, women’s rights, work, self-worth, ambition, praise, value, paternity leave, maternity leave, money, affordability, government, The Resilience Project, creative, change, stagnation, protect, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, Dr Edna Lekgabe full 8 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 71e2a3ea-beb1-47ae-9fde-b4340053243c 71e2a3ea-beb1-47ae-9fde-b4340053243c Sun, 26 Apr 2026 19:00:00 +0000 5727 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-edna-lekabe-new-baby-new-brain-matrescence Shane Jacobson - Permission To Laugh Shane Jacobson - Permission To Laugh How do you make sure your kids are proud of who they are?

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Propelled to international stardom after the release of Kenny, Shane Jacobson’s overnight success was years in the making.

Joining us in the studio, Shane is incredibly generous in sharing the cataclysmic impact that humour and laughter has had on his life from a young age.

Now at the age where he has attended more funerals than 21st’s, Shane talks about his realisation that he is in for the long mourn, and why he allows himself to feel joy during times of intense grief. Sharing a giggle at a funeral? Absolutely.

In a beautiful moment of connection with Hugh, Shane chats about parenting the ‘premium package’ (his neurodivergent child).

Shane, this was incredibly joyful.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/VHaK2fSiasA 

0:00 – A bird in her where?
3:19 – Butt of the joke
12:34 – The evolution of good manners
17:47 – Seeking validation
27:17 – Giggle at a funeral
42:00 – Autism, ADHD, Tourette’s: The Premium Package!
55:58 – Becoming softer
1:00:25 – Parenting your parents
1:08:03 – Don’t wait for the moment
1:18:04 – 5 things we can do to be warmer

🫖 Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

📺Things to watch

📋Check-in

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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> How do you make sure your kids are proud of who they are?

💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Propelled to international stardom after the release of Kenny, Shane Jacobson’s overnight success was years in the making.

Joining us in the studio, Shane is incredibly generous in sharing the cataclysmic impact that humour and laughter has had on his life from a young age.

Now at the age where he has attended more funerals than 21st’s, Shane talks about his realisation that he is in for the long mourn, and why he allows himself to feel joy during times of intense grief. Sharing a giggle at a funeral? Absolutely.

In a beautiful moment of connection with Hugh, Shane chats about parenting the ‘premium package’ (his neurodivergent child).

Shane, this was incredibly joyful.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/VHaK2fSiasA 

0:00 – A bird in her where?
3:19 – Butt of the joke
12:34 – The evolution of good manners
17:47 – Seeking validation
27:17 – Giggle at a funeral
42:00 – Autism, ADHD, Tourette’s: The Premium Package!
55:58 – Becoming softer
1:00:25 – Parenting your parents
1:08:03 – Don’t wait for the moment
1:18:04 – 5 things we can do to be warmer

🫖 Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

📺Things to watch

📋Check-in

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Humour parenthood grief Neurodivergent Nice Heath Ledger AFI humanity Kenny Clayton Jacobson decency judgement father pride manners carnival carny folk poor working class fun joy dancing confrontation conflict boxing validation bipolar disorder grief cancer ICU funeral burial wake comedy laughter autism spectrum ADHD love extraordinary superpower hyperfocus frustration diagnosis calmly softened teacher emotions occupational therapy curiosity Parkinson’s aged care burnt burns unit failure try again divorce friends relationships time anxiety thoughtfulness presence The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Shane Jacobson Humour, parenthood, grief Neurodivergent, Nice, Heath Ledger, AFI, humanity, Kenny, Clayton Jacobson, decency, judgement, father, pride, manners, carnival, carny folk, poor, working class, fun, joy, dancing, confrontation, conflict, boxing, validation, bipolar disorder, grief, cancer, ICU, funeral, burial, wake, comedy, laughter, autism, spectrum, ADHD, love, extraordinary, superpower, hyperfocus, frustration, diagnosis, calmly, softened, teacher, emotions, occupational therapy, curiosity, Parkinson’s, aged care, burnt, burns unit, failure, try again, divorce, friends, relationships, time, anxiety, thoughtfulness, presence The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Shane Jacobson full 8 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7e15bb6f-c70c-4f6e-b464-b417004b1a38 7e15bb6f-c70c-4f6e-b464-b417004b1a38 Sun, 19 Apr 2026 19:00:00 +0000 5626 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/shane-jacobson-permission-to-laugh Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You Esther Perel - It’s Not Them, It’s You Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?

Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.

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In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.

Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.

And, if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode’s for you;

  • is working from home causing social atrophy?
  • what does it mean to be an embodied creature?
  • what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?

Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ 

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0:00 – Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same? 
6:23 – This is my partner, AI
14:08 – A mismatch of affection
23:56 – Bids for connection
32:08 – Can you repair trust?
41:02 – Post-traumatic Growth
49:43 – The central hub of our needs
58:38 – The Mental Load Pt. 2

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]]> Are you stuck, focusing on what's wrong in your relationship?

Deeply embedded in the work of intimacy, desire and relationships, psychotherapist and best-selling author Esther Perel, ask us to take a look at ourselves first, rather than listing the short comings of our partner.

💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh (who sadly was violently ill last time we talked to Esther) comes armed with questions about the mental load (with love, from Penny), and how to navigate their differing needs for affection.

Ryan asks Esther whether we’re capable of falling in love with AI, and Josh wants to know why we sometimes put up walls with the ones we love the most.

And, if you’ve ever asked yourself any of the below, this episode’s for you;

  • is working from home causing social atrophy?
  • what does it mean to be an embodied creature?
  • what are the downfalls of a frictionless relationship?

Esther, you are welcome back anytime. ANYTIME.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u5HsDD9bjRQ 

🫖Other episodes of the Imperfects mentioned on this episode

💻Things to check out

🎧Things to listen to

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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0:00 – Intimacy: what has changed, what has stayed the same? 
6:23 – This is my partner, AI
14:08 – A mismatch of affection
23:56 – Bids for connection
32:08 – Can you repair trust?
41:02 – Post-traumatic Growth
49:43 – The central hub of our needs
58:38 – The Mental Load Pt. 2

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> elationships intimacy connection ADHD mating in captivity where should we begin the state of affairs joy love sex eroticism desire psychotherapy ethical non-monogamy IVF egg donor surrogacy transgender polyamory dating apps AI curiosity anthropomorphise New York Times rejection challenge conflict frictionless environments affection neurodivergence intrusive physicality language touch resentment positive connection criticism conversations comic humour artful diffusing avoidance Glenn Robbins trust accessibility cheating privilege resilience remorse guilt post-traumatic growth betrayal love story sorry vulnerability partner man keeping rituals routines hope joy Esther Perel Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection The Imperfects elationships, intimacy, connection ADHD, mating in captivity, where should we begin, the state of affairs, joy, love, sex, eroticism, desire, psychotherapy, ethical non-monogamy, IVF, egg donor, surrogacy, transgender, polyamory, dating apps, AI, curiosity, anthropomorphise, New York Times, rejection, challenge, conflict, frictionless environments, affection, neurodivergence, intrusive, physicality, language, touch, resentment, positive, connection, criticism, conversations, comic, humour, artful diffusing, avoidance, Glenn Robbins, trust, accessibility, cheating, privilege, resilience, remorse, guilt, post-traumatic growth, betrayal, love story, sorry, vulnerability, partner, man keeping, rituals, routines, hope, joy Esther Perel, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, The Imperfects full 8 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 521dd7ca-41a8-486d-969e-b40f0037ffdf 521dd7ca-41a8-486d-969e-b40f0037ffdf Sun, 12 Apr 2026 19:00:00 +0000 4288 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/esther-perel-it-s-not-them-it-s-you Dr Emily - Overcome With Overwhelm? Dr Emily - Overcome With Overwhelm? Looking for strategies to help deal with the overwhelm of, well, everything? Same.

Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk through overwhelm; how to greet it, how to get through it, and how to build your resilience towards it.

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In this episode, Dr Emily introduces how to understand your ‘window of tolerance,’ the cost of being overwhelmed for too long, and what happens when we slip into avoidance.

OF COURSE, this episode is delightfully sprinkled with practical strategies that you can do right now, in this moment, to ease the burden of the overwhelm.

Dr Em, this episode was an emotional regulation for the ages.

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💪 Things to do

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Looking for strategies to help deal with the overwhelm of, well, everything? Same.

Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk through overwhelm; how to greet it, how to get through it, and how to build your resilience towards it.

💌Join 6,500+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

In this episode, Dr Emily introduces how to understand your ‘window of tolerance,’ the cost of being overwhelmed for too long, and what happens when we slip into avoidance.

OF COURSE, this episode is delightfully sprinkled with practical strategies that you can do right now, in this moment, to ease the burden of the overwhelm.

Dr Em, this episode was an emotional regulation for the ages.

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💪 Things to do

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 8 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a88c9a3e-6d94-44d1-a1c2-b40f00388e67 a88c9a3e-6d94-44d1-a1c2-b40f00388e67 Sun, 05 Apr 2026 19:00:00 +0000 3740 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-overcome-with-overwhelm Hamish Macdonald - After The Facts Hamish Macdonald - After The Facts Is it true that we live in a world without facts?

With AI becoming increasingly intertwined with our lives, and fake news infiltrating our screens, where do you go for truthful information and how do you know what to trust?

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This Academy of Imperfection is not all doom and world collapse, we promise. One, because we are joined by the brilliant Hamish Macdonald. And two, because Ryan’s Gut says it’s all going to be okay (more on that later).

In this episode, Hamish shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh (and you, of course), how algorithms are impacting the way we think, whether we should be teaching media literacy in schools, and the consequences of AI generated content.

Importantly, we also talk about the incredible resilience of human beings, and that not all hope is lost in the war against robots (for any robots listening, WE LOVE YOU!)

For anyone else out there feeling overwhelmed, we’re right there with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/6Zepg3o3Y_w 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

🎧 Things to listen to

💻 Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Is it true that we live in a world without facts?

With AI becoming increasingly intertwined with our lives, and fake news infiltrating our screens, where do you go for truthful information and how do you know what to trust?

💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

This Academy of Imperfection is not all doom and world collapse, we promise. One, because we are joined by the brilliant Hamish Macdonald. And two, because Ryan’s Gut says it’s all going to be okay (more on that later).

In this episode, Hamish shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh (and you, of course), how algorithms are impacting the way we think, whether we should be teaching media literacy in schools, and the consequences of AI generated content.

Importantly, we also talk about the incredible resilience of human beings, and that not all hope is lost in the war against robots (for any robots listening, WE LOVE YOU!)

For anyone else out there feeling overwhelmed, we’re right there with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/6Zepg3o3Y_w 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

🎧 Things to listen to

💻 Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 8 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 730a20bf-8ac7-4561-ad52-b40f0023efbb 730a20bf-8ac7-4561-ad52-b40f0023efbb Sun, 29 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +0000 5131 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hamish-macdonald-after-the-facts Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety Is climate anxiety affecting your decision to have kids?

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Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House is Bri Lee; prolific author, advocate and change maker.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?”, Bri talks about the research that lead her to the South Pole, and how she learnt to prioritise love above all else.

Bri asks the question to Hugh, Josh and Ryan, “what does it mean to live a good life, and what do we owe each other?”

This chat explores the philosophies of anti and pronatalism, whilst being grounded in examples from the guys’ and Bri’s life. An intentional and judgement free zone, this conversation delves into the morality of should’s and shouldn’ts, and what it means to do the right thing.

As Bri says, hope is something that you earn through action, and we are all feeling a bit more hopeful after this episode. 


0:00 – A Bri-Lee-iant guest
9:42 – The Seed of The Idea
15:08 – What are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?
27:10 – Prioritising love
32:27 – Should I have kids?
41:43 – The morality of shoulds and shouldn’ts
52:43 – Some positivity, please
55:59 – Policy and bodily autonomy
59:22 – So, how’s the reckoning going?
1:03:46 – The weight of responsibility
1:08:43 – Finding action in the overwhelm

📺 to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/vUQMkMvyeMY 

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Is climate anxiety affecting your decision to have kids?

💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House is Bri Lee; prolific author, advocate and change maker.

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?”, Bri talks about the research that lead her to the South Pole, and how she learnt to prioritise love above all else.

Bri asks the question to Hugh, Josh and Ryan, “what does it mean to live a good life, and what do we owe each other?”

This chat explores the philosophies of anti and pronatalism, whilst being grounded in examples from the guys’ and Bri’s life. An intentional and judgement free zone, this conversation delves into the morality of should’s and shouldn’ts, and what it means to do the right thing.

As Bri says, hope is something that you earn through action, and we are all feeling a bit more hopeful after this episode. 


0:00 – A Bri-Lee-iant guest
9:42 – The Seed of The Idea
15:08 – What are you grateful for that profoundly changed you?
27:10 – Prioritising love
32:27 – Should I have kids?
41:43 – The morality of shoulds and shouldn’ts
52:43 – Some positivity, please
55:59 – Policy and bodily autonomy
59:22 – So, how’s the reckoning going?
1:03:46 – The weight of responsibility
1:08:43 – Finding action in the overwhelm

📺 to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/vUQMkMvyeMY 

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺Things to watch

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Climate change uncertainty ethics Parenthood eggshell skull sexual assault survivor beauty who gets to be smart the work change incarceration me too consent law reform prison women’s justice network freadom inside climate anxiety fires floods fear children ipcc red line for humanity scott Morrison Ipsos perils of perception impact recycling an inconvenient truth selfless south pole gratefulness fiction sensitivity challenge life love science southern ocean coping men self love self care prioritisation uncontrollable loss time presence climate nuclear war pro-natalist anti-natalist misanthropic philanthropic sacrifice anxiety inconvenience courage suffering adoption David Benatar bodily autonomy research peter singer shame perfection right thing to do The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bri Lee Vulnerabilitea House Climate change, uncertainty, ethics Parenthood, eggshell skull, sexual assault, survivor, beauty, who gets to be smart, the work, change, incarceration, me too, consent law reform, prison, women’s justice network, freadom inside, climate anxiety, fires, floods, fear, children, ipcc red line for humanity, scott Morrison, Ipsos perils of perception, impact, recycling, an inconvenient truth, selfless, south pole, gratefulness, fiction, sensitivity, challenge, life, love, science, southern ocean, coping, men, self love, self care, prioritisation, uncontrollable, loss, time, presence, climate, nuclear war, pro-natalist, anti-natalist, misanthropic, philanthropic, sacrifice, anxiety, inconvenience, courage, suffering, adoption, David Benatar, bodily autonomy, research, peter singer, shame, perfection, right thing to do The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bri Lee, Vulnerabilitea House full 8 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f6fc2c55-a2ac-4573-800b-b40f001d77c9 f6fc2c55-a2ac-4573-800b-b40f001d77c9 Sun, 22 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +0000 4886 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/bri-lee-babies-climate-anxiety Ben Crowe - Play School Ben Crowe - Play School When Ben Crowe, world-renowned professional mentor and leadership coach, tells us his favourite mantra, we listen.

“I am enough no matter what, but I’m not done yet”.

📺 If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/-0WWUuxvcyQ 

Back in The Academy of Imperfection FOR THE THIRD TIME, Ben is here to talk to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about purpose, play and love.

As Ben explains, ‘play’ and ‘love’ mean something different to everyone, however, they are both ridiculously important and explicitly linked. If love is the intention, then play is the action.

Ben, as always, it was an absolute pleasure to your wisdom bestowed upon us.

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0:00 – Is Ben the Pope?
11:13 – Acceptance vs compassion, confidence vs belief
15:14 – Reshaping your belief system
25:05 – Just Admit It List
30:42 – The dreaded E word
37:47 – Reward effort, not outcome
46:00 – Play deprivation
51:47 – Talking to teenagers about their career
1:01:47 – How to be a (anxious) leader
1:07:04 – Josh’s too generous assumption
1:10: 14 – Doing it for the right reasons

🎧Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧 Things to listen to

😃If you liked this episode, check out these!

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> When Ben Crowe, world-renowned professional mentor and leadership coach, tells us his favourite mantra, we listen.

“I am enough no matter what, but I’m not done yet”.

📺 If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/-0WWUuxvcyQ 

Back in The Academy of Imperfection FOR THE THIRD TIME, Ben is here to talk to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about purpose, play and love.

As Ben explains, ‘play’ and ‘love’ mean something different to everyone, however, they are both ridiculously important and explicitly linked. If love is the intention, then play is the action.

Ben, as always, it was an absolute pleasure to your wisdom bestowed upon us.

💌Join 6,000+ people getting our takeaways and favourite moments from this episode in our weekly newsletter - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

0:00 – Is Ben the Pope?
11:13 – Acceptance vs compassion, confidence vs belief
15:14 – Reshaping your belief system
25:05 – Just Admit It List
30:42 – The dreaded E word
37:47 – Reward effort, not outcome
46:00 – Play deprivation
51:47 – Talking to teenagers about their career
1:01:47 – How to be a (anxious) leader
1:07:04 – Josh’s too generous assumption
1:10: 14 – Doing it for the right reasons

🎧Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧 Things to listen to

😃If you liked this episode, check out these!

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Play love purpose Expectation Les Mis Russel Crowe Hugh Jackman Qantas Mojo Crowe shame vulnerability Brene Brown public speaking live tour guitar picks good enough growth value meaning intention courage heart imperfect wabi sabi kinsugi where the light gets in perspectives confidence belief Molly Picklum negative bias unconditional love trust expectations pressure grades talent interest parenting pride intrinsic motivation effort outcome success distraction attachment theory rejection career opportunity journey Luke McGregor potential sbi situation behaviour impact generous assumption agency curiosity Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The Imperfects Ben Crowe Academy of Imperfection A Little More Imperfects Play, love, purpose Expectation, Les Mis, Russel Crowe, Hugh Jackman, Qantas, Mojo Crowe, shame, vulnerability, Brene Brown, public speaking, live tour, guitar picks, good enough, growth, value, meaning, intention, courage, heart, imperfect, wabi sabi, kinsugi, where the light gets in, perspectives, confidence, belief, Molly Picklum, negative bias, unconditional love, trust, expectations, pressure, grades, talent, interest, parenting, pride, intrinsic motivation, effort, outcome, success, distraction, attachment theory, rejection, career, opportunity, journey, Luke McGregor, potential, sbi, situation, behaviour, impact, generous assumption, agency, curiosity, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The Imperfects, Ben Crowe, Academy of Imperfection, A Little More Imperfects full 8 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7660b1de-3299-4222-a701-b40b0014f04c 7660b1de-3299-4222-a701-b40b0014f04c Sun, 15 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +0000 4959 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/ben-crowe-play-school Matt Preston - Only 14 Summers Left Matt Preston - Only 14 Summers Left According to Matt Preston, he only has 14 more summers. And he’s determined to make the most of them.

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Known predominantly for his role on the inaugural (and incredibly successful) seasons of MasterChef Australia, alongside his excellent choice of cravats, Matt Preston is a recognisable face in most Australian households.

Joining Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the studio (in yet another incredible outfit), Matt delicately talks through the importance of having a conversation with your parents about end-of-life care.

In a decision that requires both deep emotion and administrative focus, Matt draws from his experience with his grandmother, and then his mother, about how to ensure the people you love are nurtured, cared for, and celebrated in the way they would have wanted.

Matt, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – The typo to end all typos
9:13 – Every family has a scandal
24:34 – The unknowables of epilepsy
30:45 – Grieving what could have been
40:44 – Mission of mortality: make it count
44:47 – Parenting not like your parents
53:40 – Conversations about end-of-life care
1:07:35 – The secret ingredient to marriage
1:13:46 – Logistics of death and dying

If you want to watch the full episode (and see Matt’s outfit), follow this link - https://youtu.be/sEN8Mfapi6Y 

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]]> According to Matt Preston, he only has 14 more summers. And he’s determined to make the most of them.

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Known predominantly for his role on the inaugural (and incredibly successful) seasons of MasterChef Australia, alongside his excellent choice of cravats, Matt Preston is a recognisable face in most Australian households.

Joining Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the studio (in yet another incredible outfit), Matt delicately talks through the importance of having a conversation with your parents about end-of-life care.

In a decision that requires both deep emotion and administrative focus, Matt draws from his experience with his grandmother, and then his mother, about how to ensure the people you love are nurtured, cared for, and celebrated in the way they would have wanted.

Matt, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – The typo to end all typos
9:13 – Every family has a scandal
24:34 – The unknowables of epilepsy
30:45 – Grieving what could have been
40:44 – Mission of mortality: make it count
44:47 – Parenting not like your parents
53:40 – Conversations about end-of-life care
1:07:35 – The secret ingredient to marriage
1:13:46 – Logistics of death and dying

If you want to watch the full episode (and see Matt’s outfit), follow this link - https://youtu.be/sEN8Mfapi6Y 

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned in this episode

📺Things to watch

📖Things to read

🩵SUDEP Support Services

*The average life expectancy for Australian males is calculated at birth, and does not take into account their personal circumstances. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Epilepsy ageing family Masterchef Kate Reid Lune epilepsy dementia parents end of life playbook for death croquembouche France ADHD whats app RSPCA dog Cibi Marion sport logies neighbours home and away food critic food reviews The Age Vogue entertainment The Hospital In The Deep End family tree shame family foster homes orphanages legitimacy wedlock judgement grandmother Russell Crowe seizure SUDEP bereavement hospital medication children death coping communication parenting fantasy reality empathy loss Catholicism care at home acceptance positivity impotence control stoics Marcus aurelius resilient The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Matt Preston The Resilience Project Epilepsy, ageing, family Masterchef, Kate Reid, Lune, epilepsy, dementia, parents, end of life, playbook for death, croquembouche, France, ADHD, whats app, RSPCA, dog, Cibi, Marion, sport, logies, neighbours, home and away, food critic, food reviews, The Age, Vogue entertainment, The Hospital In The Deep End, family tree, shame, family, foster homes, orphanages, legitimacy, wedlock, judgement, grandmother, Russell Crowe, seizure, SUDEP, bereavement, hospital, medication, children, death, coping, communication, parenting, fantasy, reality, empathy, loss, Catholicism, care at home, acceptance, positivity, impotence, control, stoics, Marcus aurelius, resilient, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Matt Preston, The Resilience Project full 8 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c97e5e34-10a8-4ced-8b23-b40400287e0b c97e5e34-10a8-4ced-8b23-b40400287e0b Sun, 08 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +0000 5184 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/matt-preston-only-14-summers-left Dr Emily - Acceptance, That's Radical Dr Emily - Acceptance, That's Radical Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

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]]> Pain is inevitable, but suffering does not have to be.

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist and general provider of wisdom, is here to talk about radical acceptance.

Drawing inspiration from our holy grail episode with Gina Chick, Dr Em deep dives radical acceptance; what is it, how do we cultivate it, and why is it important to us as human beings?

According to Dr Em, radical acceptance is not about liking or accepting (insert profanity here) situations or circumstances, or denying an experience, but rather, accepting the pain inside of us to avoid the reaction of suffering.

Instead of feeling better, it’s about finding a better way of feeling.

For Hugh, the concept of radical acceptance really hits close to home, and he reflects on how it has changed his life insurmountably.

Dr Emily, we love ya, and we missed ya.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

0:00 – Getting the Gina Chick zoomies
6:23 – The Radical Acceptance origin story
14:20 – Change how you relate
21:19 – On a global scale
27:25 – An Unwanted Guest
34:42 – The third option
40:38 – Grieving the loss of what you wanted
45:28 – Living proof ft. Hugh
53:18 – Anxious about my anxiety
1:03:26 – Main character moment
1:10:17 – Putting it in practice

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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]]> Acceptance emotions energy Melbourne show whoopi cushion live show intention effort movement relationship presence process emotions challenges dialectical behavioural theory borderline personality disorder distress emotional dysregulation reality experience physical pain reaction buddhism four noble truths anxious turbulence denial meaning traffic running late worries narrative story stress response frustration judgment resignation poor behaviour denying experience crises horror grief value belongs feeling trauma Instagram nurturing compassion community care distress tolerance skills crisis anxiety energy control complain vent dopamine helpfulness loss belief hope Hamish Blake fear grateful journey wisdom physiological chemical mindfulness based cognitive therapy evidence Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Dr Emily Musgrove The Imperfects Gina Chick The Resilience Project Acceptance, emotions, energy Melbourne show, whoopi cushion, live show, intention, effort, movement, relationship, presence, process emotions, challenges, dialectical behavioural theory, borderline personality disorder, distress, emotional dysregulation, reality, experience, physical pain, reaction, buddhism, four noble truths, anxious, turbulence, denial, meaning, traffic, running late, worries, narrative, story, stress response, frustration, judgment, resignation, poor behaviour, denying experience, crises, horror, grief, value, belongs, feeling, trauma, Instagram, nurturing, compassion, community, care, distress tolerance skills, crisis, anxiety, energy, control, complain, vent, dopamine, helpfulness, loss, belief, hope, Hamish Blake, fear, grateful, journey, wisdom, physiological, chemical, mindfulness based cognitive therapy, evidence, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Dr Emily Musgrove, The Imperfects, Gina Chick, The Resilience Project full 8 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 8a3b76ff-9fb4-4d9e-9e23-b3fb00120842 8a3b76ff-9fb4-4d9e-9e23-b3fb00120842 Sun, 01 Mar 2026 18:00:00 +0000 4584 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-dont-fight-the-feeling Maggie Dent - ‘Good Enough’ Parenting is Good Enough Maggie Dent - ‘Good Enough’ Parenting is Good Enough  You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.

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In our Academy of Imperfection, Maggie schools parents Hugh and Josh, and trusted non-parental figure Ryan, about the ‘no matter what’ rule, the importance of micro connections and the beauty of a well-timed fart.

An advocate for imperfect parenting (which is REALLY great for brand alignment), Maggie insists on the significance of unconditional love when raising boys.

Maggie you are wonderful. This was wonderful. You’re the best.

Watch the full episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/iUHYScQ3WgQ 

0:00 – Why boys are better than girls
6:22 – The science of boys
14:02 – Shedding the shame
22:28 – Growing healthy boys
31:09 – Connecting with your rooster
42:56 – The S words: screens and social media
47:00 – The good enough factors
57:45 – Correcting the narrative
1:06:05 – Importance of Lightness + Letting go of mistakes
1:11:41 – Raising an autistic boy
1:16:05 – How do you resist the easy method

 

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

💻 Things to check out

🎧 Things to listen to

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]]>  You just have to be a good parent 30-40% of the time. According to the research, and parenting expert Maggie Dent.

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In our Academy of Imperfection, Maggie schools parents Hugh and Josh, and trusted non-parental figure Ryan, about the ‘no matter what’ rule, the importance of micro connections and the beauty of a well-timed fart.

An advocate for imperfect parenting (which is REALLY great for brand alignment), Maggie insists on the significance of unconditional love when raising boys.

Maggie you are wonderful. This was wonderful. You’re the best.

Watch the full episode on YouTube - https://youtu.be/iUHYScQ3WgQ 

0:00 – Why boys are better than girls
6:22 – The science of boys
14:02 – Shedding the shame
22:28 – Growing healthy boys
31:09 – Connecting with your rooster
42:56 – The S words: screens and social media
47:00 – The good enough factors
57:45 – Correcting the narrative
1:06:05 – Importance of Lightness + Letting go of mistakes
1:11:41 – Raising an autistic boy
1:16:05 – How do you resist the easy method

 

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

💻 Things to check out

🎧 Things to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Parenting love boys Teaching counselling palliative care suicide prevention boys prayers apologise culture conditioning choices gender temperament competitive assertive courage thoughtful rooster lamb argue sleep social connection friendship patriarchy Alan Shore testosterone brain linguistics correlation reading development punch self-sufficient communication coached play role play wrestling boundaries aggression nurturance gift safety muck-up shame amygdala fixing self-worth inner critic presence mistake respond testing the limit imperfect parenting connection photos single focus disappointment safe-based written word screens social media big tech pornography teachers schools gaming manosphere body image lighthouse figures brain pruning dendrites neurons memory organisation problem solving scripts forgive forget character myelination rights of passage brain cells growth meltdowns Bluey parental guilt autism unique hugs ADHD polyvagal theory imprints Dan segal The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Maggie Dent The Resilience Project Parenting, love, boys Teaching, counselling, palliative care, suicide prevention, boys, prayers, apologise, culture, conditioning, choices, gender, temperament, competitive, assertive, courage, thoughtful, rooster, lamb, argue, sleep, social connection, friendship, patriarchy, Alan Shore, testosterone, brain, linguistics, correlation, reading, development, punch, self-sufficient, communication, coached, play, role play, wrestling, boundaries, aggression nurturance, gift, safety, muck-up, shame, amygdala, fixing, self-worth, inner critic, presence, mistake, respond, testing the limit, imperfect parenting, connection, photos, single focus, disappointment, safe-based, written word, screens, social media, big tech, pornography, teachers, schools, gaming, manosphere, body image, lighthouse figures, brain pruning, dendrites, neurons, memory, organisation, problem solving, scripts, forgive, forget, character, myelination, rights of passage, brain cells, growth, meltdowns, Bluey, parental guilt, autism, unique, hugs, ADHD, polyvagal theory, imprints, Dan segal The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Maggie Dent, The Resilience Project full 8 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 6e6d5b82-593c-4576-94dd-b3f6005c1778 6e6d5b82-593c-4576-94dd-b3f6005c1778 Sun, 22 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +0000 5181 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/maggie-dent-good-enough-parenting-is-good-enough Bron Lewis - Is It Me or Postnatal Anxiety? Bron Lewis - Is It Me or Postnatal Anxiety? What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?

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Motherhood is really hard. And Bron Lewis isn’t afraid to talk about it (anymore).

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bron answers the question ‘when was a time you genuinely needed help and were you able to ask for it?’, and recounts the worst week of her life.

Deals with the devil, post-natal anxiety, and post-natal depression, Bron is incredibly vulnerable with Hugh and Ryan, sharing how the love from friends, professional help, and medication allowed her to return to herself.

Bron, it was a delight.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/qc9ZNO6VpeY

0:00 – We’re all best friends / fathers / daughters 
8:51 – When was a time you genuinely needed help?
18:44 – Long nights, relentless days
25:42 – Socially accepted punishment
33:36 – Using pain to drown out the noise
40:50 – Obviously, I can do it all
45:44 – It doesn’t have to be this hard
54:55 – On day 3, he didn’t wake up
1:07:27 – The worst week of her life
1:22:54 – This should feel good, shouldn’t it?
1:33:01 – The aftermath

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, these are a few great resources

  • PANDA - 1300 726 306
  • ForWhen - 1300 24 23 22
  • Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636

📖 Things to read

🎟️ Things to go see

🎧Things to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> What do you do when your 3 day-old-baby just doesn’t wake up?

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Motherhood is really hard. And Bron Lewis isn’t afraid to talk about it (anymore).

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bron answers the question ‘when was a time you genuinely needed help and were you able to ask for it?’, and recounts the worst week of her life.

Deals with the devil, post-natal anxiety, and post-natal depression, Bron is incredibly vulnerable with Hugh and Ryan, sharing how the love from friends, professional help, and medication allowed her to return to herself.

Bron, it was a delight.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/qc9ZNO6VpeY

0:00 – We’re all best friends / fathers / daughters 
8:51 – When was a time you genuinely needed help?
18:44 – Long nights, relentless days
25:42 – Socially accepted punishment
33:36 – Using pain to drown out the noise
40:50 – Obviously, I can do it all
45:44 – It doesn’t have to be this hard
54:55 – On day 3, he didn’t wake up
1:07:27 – The worst week of her life
1:22:54 – This should feel good, shouldn’t it?
1:33:01 – The aftermath

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with postpartum depression or anxiety, these are a few great resources

  • PANDA - 1300 726 306
  • ForWhen - 1300 24 23 22
  • Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636

📖 Things to read

🎟️ Things to go see

🎧Things to listen to

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Post-natal anxiety post- depression motherhood Comedy friendship tears compliment talk vulnerability funny newborn pregnancy honesty children challenge love excitement boyfriend storytelling parenting self-flagellation relief regret shame feelings unnatural walking chaotic terrified hard worried baby jingle bells humiliation embarrassment guilt dread sleep tired moving clean sarcasm crossfit exercise failure addiction punishment crying praise deserve hurt traumatic identity body image weight loss agitation annoyance medication belief enjoyment covid stand-up forgiveness slow times anxiety depression birth traumatic birth hospital disability Easter tests results nurse doctor autism history future furious anger seizure rage perspective social media hide and seek happiness trust luck Lexapro light penance disappointed stoicism milestones miracle Post-natal anxiety, post- depression, motherhood Comedy, friendship, tears, compliment talk, vulnerability, funny, newborn, pregnancy, honesty, children, challenge, love, excitement, boyfriend, storytelling, parenting, self-flagellation, relief, regret, shame, feelings, unnatural, walking, chaotic, terrified, hard, worried, baby, jingle bells, humiliation, embarrassment, guilt, dread, sleep, tired, moving, clean, sarcasm, crossfit, exercise, failure, addiction, punishment, crying, praise, deserve, hurt, traumatic, identity, body image, weight loss, agitation, annoyance, medication, belief, enjoyment, covid, stand-up, forgiveness, slow times, anxiety, depression, birth, traumatic birth, hospital, disability, Easter, tests, results, nurse, doctor, autism, history, future, furious, anger, seizure, rage, perspective, social media, hide and seek, happiness, trust, luck, Lexapro, light, penance, disappointed, stoicism, milestones, miracle full 8 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 92a98462-a681-4210-8b5b-b3ee005fe194 92a98462-a681-4210-8b5b-b3ee005fe194 Sun, 15 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +0000 6078 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/bron-lewis-is-it-me-or-postnatal-anxiety Dr Lucy Hone - A Life Worth Grieving Dr Lucy Hone - A Life Worth Grieving Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

To full this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Zyb7kELxFxI 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Two cataclysmic events have shaped Dr Lucy Hone’s relationship with grief, and resilience.

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Today in the Academy of Imperfection, we welcome Dr Lucy Hone. Dr Lucy’s work focuses on making sense of the senseless, and helping others to do the same.

As a legitimate expert in grief, resilience and wellbeing, Dr Lucy is able to blend the science with her own lived experience.

This episode explores living losses (divorce, estrangement, infertility), grief comparison, as well as the research around post-traumatic growth. Guided by questions from Dr Lucy’s latest book, How will I ever get through this?, Hugh, Josh and Ryan ask Dr Lucy why grief feels so lonely, how you are supposed to accept loss, and will you ever be happy again, amongst others.

This is a special one.

0:00 – An Unsuspecting Saturday Morning
12:11 – Grief comparison
21:25 – How am I supposed to accept this?
31:14 – How do you keep hope alive?
35:48 – Why do I feel so lonely?
50:20 – Will I ever be happy again?
56:36 – Letting the other children live
1:03:44 – Do you know your strengths?
1:09:12 – Who and what do you want to live for?
1:14:59 – Who and what is good in your world?

To full this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Zyb7kELxFxI 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuW

🩵To join our subscriber community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://apple.co/theimperfects

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]]> Grief resilience purpose Psychology wellbeing science positivity feelings expert irony Christchurch Christchurch Earthquake fear government agencies science memory family physiology lived experience living losses dementia divorce estrangement infertility grief comparison keynote stressful life event study physically exhausted exhaustion dysregulation distress relationship non-finite loss values wellbeing pop psychology happiness experience understand will power way power loneliness social ineptitude expectations pets humour laughter process of adapting loss oscillation theory healthy grieving down syndrome worry contentment awe environment nature music flourishing enthusiasm forgiveness inspiration aspiration joy The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Lucy Hone Academy of Imperfection Grief, resilience, purpose Psychology, wellbeing science, positivity, feelings, expert, irony, Christchurch, Christchurch Earthquake, fear, government agencies, science, memory, family, physiology, lived experience, living losses, dementia, divorce, estrangement, infertility, grief comparison, keynote, stressful life event study, physically exhausted, exhaustion, dysregulation, distress, relationship, non-finite loss, values, wellbeing, pop psychology, happiness, experience, understand, will power, way power, loneliness, social ineptitude, expectations, pets, humour, laughter, process of adapting, loss, oscillation theory, healthy grieving, down syndrome, worry, contentment, awe, environment, nature, music, flourishing, enthusiasm, forgiveness, inspiration, aspiration, joy, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Lucy Hone, Academy of Imperfection full 8 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d39a97d8-5426-4668-9e85-b3e80020bbe2 d39a97d8-5426-4668-9e85-b3e80020bbe2 Sun, 08 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +0000 5031 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-lucy-hone-a-life-worth-grieving Claudia Karvan - Love, Her Way Claudia Karvan - Love, Her Way Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.

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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.

Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.

With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.

Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.

This is one for the highlight reel.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click on this link - https://youtu.be/4qH4vBr0i6Y

0:00 – Hugh ‘questionable-decisions’ van Cuylenburg
12:24 – The role of a lifetime
17:55 – An unconventional childhood
28:50 – It’s not up to you to fix everything
39:55 – The opening of another world
45:47 – Doing it all (with support)
51:12 – Love and family HER way
59:33 – Play the long game
1:07:15 – Managing mental ill-health
1:24:39 – The benefit of helping others
1:26:48 – How to love in a healthy way

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]]> Stop. Everything. Now. It’s Claudia Karvan day.

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An icon of the screen, and of the heart, Claudia is Australian entertainment royalty.

Claudia’s life itself feels like a movie (no one else grew up in a nightclub, did they?) and it was an absolute privilege to listen to all the lessons that she has learnt along the way.

With incredible grace, Claudia talks to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about playing the long game during divorce, and how she came to the realisation that it wasn’t up to her to fix everything.

Claudia speaks openly about separating the person from the diagnosis, and how, and why, she thinks so often about death.

This is one for the highlight reel.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click on this link - https://youtu.be/4qH4vBr0i6Y

0:00 – Hugh ‘questionable-decisions’ van Cuylenburg
12:24 – The role of a lifetime
17:55 – An unconventional childhood
28:50 – It’s not up to you to fix everything
39:55 – The opening of another world
45:47 – Doing it all (with support)
51:12 – Love and family HER way
59:33 – Play the long game
1:07:15 – Managing mental ill-health
1:24:39 – The benefit of helping others
1:26:48 – How to love in a healthy way

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

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]]> Acceptance love schizophrenia Studio gobo lighting facebook marketplace pizza oven sauna relatable holiday Italy Steve Curry Arthur’s nightclub acting Judy Davis High Tide Secret Life of Us Love My Way Bump talent humanity grace strength warmth vulnerability dignity stories Guy Pearce future protective permission volatility drama social honesty Hannah Ferguson drugs Bryan Brown King’s Cross recession bankruptcy healing inspiration bush fires blue mountains relief storage responsibility creation psychologist pattern selfish pain parent adaptable bush river builder bipolar schizo-effective disorder narcissism friends psychiatric institutes teenager interested empathy creativity steiner alternative film connection appreciation opportunity Richard Brennan control belonging laughter faith Samuel Johnson children abortion Hollywood female directors wisdom step-mum depression Jean Paul Satre divorce death liberating neurodiversity impact volunteering helping others EDFA eating disorders The Imperfects Claudia Karvan Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Acceptance, love, schizophrenia Studio, gobo lighting, facebook marketplace, pizza oven, sauna, relatable, holiday, Italy, Steve Curry, Arthur’s nightclub, acting, Judy Davis, High Tide, Secret Life of Us, Love My Way, Bump, talent, humanity, grace, strength, warmth, vulnerability, dignity, stories, Guy Pearce, future, protective, permission, volatility, drama, social, honesty, Hannah Ferguson, drugs, Bryan Brown, King’s Cross, recession, bankruptcy, healing, inspiration, bush fires, blue mountains, relief, storage, responsibility, creation, psychologist, pattern, selfish, pain, parent, adaptable, bush, river, builder, bipolar, schizo-effective disorder, narcissism, friends, psychiatric institutes, teenager, interested, empathy, creativity, steiner, alternative, film, connection, appreciation, opportunity, Richard Brennan, control, belonging, laughter, faith, Samuel Johnson, children, abortion, Hollywood, female directors, wisdom, step-mum, depression, Jean Paul Satre, divorce, death, liberating, neurodiversity, impact, volunteering, helping others, EDFA, eating disorders, The Imperfects, Claudia Karvan, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 8 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b9f13fee-e819-4b54-9445-b3e100288043 b9f13fee-e819-4b54-9445-b3e100288043 Sun, 01 Feb 2026 18:00:00 +0000 5865 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/claudia-karvan-love-her-way Soul Searching Summer - Ryan’s TV Show Soul Searching Summer - Ryan’s TV Show Ryan’s got news.

Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.

Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.

With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.

Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.

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]]> Ryan’s got news.

Well, past-Ryan had news, and now future-Ryan is going to reflect on how present-day-Ryan is currently feeling about said news. Get it? It’s reflecting on a reflection about a rejection.

Today we’re giving you two for the price of none, and bringing you two of the most memorable moments from our subscriber based show A Little More Imperfects.

With both segments focusing on wildest dreams, Hugh, Ryan and Josh explore how to navigate regret when you’re not at your best, and how to show yourself compassion and love when your dreams are, well, crushed.

Also, we ask Hugh what happened to him today.

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]]> Rejection self-compassion regret Tv show reflection pond goals aspirational goals reflection regret parenting psychology mental health discomfort dreams aspirations repair work calmness adult reliability parent perfection emotions control anger firm boundaries legend challenge flexibility connection energy mental energy harsh expectations judgement running app pattern repetition courage sadness self-worth sensitivity Laura Waters disappointment empathy worthiness heartbreak achievement belief The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton A Little More Imperfects Rejection, self-compassion, regret Tv show, reflection pond, goals, aspirational goals, reflection, regret, parenting, psychology, mental health, discomfort, dreams, aspirations, repair work, calmness, adult, reliability, parent, perfection, emotions, control, anger, firm, boundaries, legend, challenge, flexibility, connection, energy, mental energy, harsh, expectations, judgement, running, app, pattern repetition, courage, sadness, self-worth, sensitivity, Laura Waters, disappointment, empathy, worthiness, heartbreak, achievement, belief, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, A Little More Imperfects full 7 57 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a96775ef-e154-4193-93aa-b3d2003fce17 a96775ef-e154-4193-93aa-b3d2003fce17 Sun, 25 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +0000 2757 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/soul-searching-summer-ryan-s-tv-show Spooky Summer - Hugh’s Haunted House Spooky Summer - Hugh’s Haunted House  Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.

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It’s the second episode of our super sexy summer series (the alliteration is wild in this episode), and we’re revisiting the time that Hugh got haunted.

Blending together a few episodes of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber platform that you can sign up for below, we’ll introduce you to Geraint the shamanic healer, what happened during Hugh’s ghost busting appointment, and whether Hugh has had any paranormal activity since.

And finally, whether this whole ordeal has convinced Josh that ghosts are real.

Long live summer!

0:00 – A phoenus? Draw it
4:17 – Team Josh v Team Ryan
10:28 – Meeting the shamanic healer
16:25 – The not-so-light-hearted update
30:01 – Cursed artwork: to burn or not to burn
35:46 – Has the ghost been busted?

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  • Garant

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]]>  Do you believe in ghosts? Josh doesn’t, Ryan does, and Hugh is actually being haunted.

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It’s the second episode of our super sexy summer series (the alliteration is wild in this episode), and we’re revisiting the time that Hugh got haunted.

Blending together a few episodes of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber platform that you can sign up for below, we’ll introduce you to Geraint the shamanic healer, what happened during Hugh’s ghost busting appointment, and whether Hugh has had any paranormal activity since.

And finally, whether this whole ordeal has convinced Josh that ghosts are real.

Long live summer!

0:00 – A phoenus? Draw it
4:17 – Team Josh v Team Ryan
10:28 – Meeting the shamanic healer
16:25 – The not-so-light-hearted update
30:01 – Cursed artwork: to burn or not to burn
35:46 – Has the ghost been busted?

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/u4XNRTLXtrQ 

🩵Sign up for A Little More Imperfects here

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

👻Ghost busters

  • Garant

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]]> Ghost humour belief Summer patreon supernatural fear funny sleep terrified swooped haunting night spirit children sixth sense shemanic healer ghost busters Hamish and andy portals nervous entity dog content promise history research morality nightmares artwork painting neighbours breath work gas paranormal activity The Imperfects A Little More Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Ghost, humour, belief Summer, patreon, supernatural, fear, funny, sleep, terrified, swooped, haunting, night, spirit, children, sixth sense, shemanic healer, ghost busters, Hamish and andy, portals, nervous, entity, dog, content, promise, history, research, morality, nightmares, artwork, painting, neighbours, breath work, gas, paranormal activity, The Imperfects, A Little More Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 7 56 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b1a200be-5114-4bd8-bced-b3d20032da2b b1a200be-5114-4bd8-bced-b3d20032da2b Sun, 18 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +0000 2414 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/spooky-summer-hugh-s-haunted-house Psychology Summer - Your Inner Fan with Dr Emily Psychology Summer - Your Inner Fan with Dr Emily Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.

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Welcoming you into the world of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber-based platform available on Patreon and Apple Podcasts, our resident psychologist Dr Emily reaches into the reflection pond, to discuss and decode a reflection from one of our community members.

Responding to this reflection, Dr Emily chats to Ryan, Josh, and special guest Producer Bridge, about how life changing it can be to receive an ADHD diagnosis, as well as the not so joyful emotions, such as grief and anger, which can accompany this.

Josh talks about his own inner critic, which leads into a broader discussion about self-compassion, top down vs bottom up therapy, and the therapeutic benefits to showing up for your younger self as the adult you are today.

Don’t say we don’t spoil you.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzBxIFUOJL0 

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]]> Today, we come to you with a gift: bonus Dr Emily. Thank you in advance for the standing ovation.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale! One show left! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Welcoming you into the world of A Little More Imperfects, our subscriber-based platform available on Patreon and Apple Podcasts, our resident psychologist Dr Emily reaches into the reflection pond, to discuss and decode a reflection from one of our community members.

Responding to this reflection, Dr Emily chats to Ryan, Josh, and special guest Producer Bridge, about how life changing it can be to receive an ADHD diagnosis, as well as the not so joyful emotions, such as grief and anger, which can accompany this.

Josh talks about his own inner critic, which leads into a broader discussion about self-compassion, top down vs bottom up therapy, and the therapeutic benefits to showing up for your younger self as the adult you are today.

Don’t say we don’t spoil you.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AzBxIFUOJL0 

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]]> full 7 55 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c1b781f1-56b0-4f82-82b9-b3b60187fc8d c1b781f1-56b0-4f82-82b9-b3b60187fc8d Sun, 11 Jan 2026 18:00:00 +0000 4057 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/psychology-summer-your-inner-fan-with-dr-emily The Little Drummer Girl - A Christmas Scandal The Little Drummer Girl - A Christmas Scandal Little heads up, this episode contains some language that is exclusively found on the naughty list, and therefore, isn’t suitable for kids.

Now, it’s time to spill some Vulnerabili-TEA.

It’s our annual holiday episode, and this year, with many thanks to comedian Becky Lucas, we welcome into the studio Little Drummer Girl. Who has some, um, grievances to air.

Little Drummer Girl is taking us back in the space-time-continuum to re-write history, and let us in on the scandal which surrounds the infamous lyrics ‘pa rum pum pum pum’.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Becky’s chosen charity of HeartKids, who do an incredible job providing lifelong support, resources, and advocacy to the 250,000 people impacted by childhood-onset heart disease.

0:00 – Introducing the Little Drummer Girl
5:50 – The ultimate gift guide
9:51 – An original song, an original crime
15:22 – Sharing enriching information from 20 AD
25:28 – Know what you’re good at
30:20 - Hello Becky, Hello HeartKids

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]]> Little heads up, this episode contains some language that is exclusively found on the naughty list, and therefore, isn’t suitable for kids.

Now, it’s time to spill some Vulnerabili-TEA.

It’s our annual holiday episode, and this year, with many thanks to comedian Becky Lucas, we welcome into the studio Little Drummer Girl. Who has some, um, grievances to air.

Little Drummer Girl is taking us back in the space-time-continuum to re-write history, and let us in on the scandal which surrounds the infamous lyrics ‘pa rum pum pum pum’.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Becky’s chosen charity of HeartKids, who do an incredible job providing lifelong support, resources, and advocacy to the 250,000 people impacted by childhood-onset heart disease.

0:00 – Introducing the Little Drummer Girl
5:50 – The ultimate gift guide
9:51 – An original song, an original crime
15:22 – Sharing enriching information from 20 AD
25:28 – Know what you’re good at
30:20 - Hello Becky, Hello HeartKids

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (you really do), follow this link - https://youtu.be/oXBEij8q5Tc 

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to do

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]]> Christmas comedy humour little drummer boy Jesus Mary Joseph wise men gift camel drums Oprah Winfrey bitter anger honesty ego intrusive thoughts God The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Becky Lucas Vulnerabilitea House Christmas, comedy humour, little drummer boy, Jesus, Mary, Joseph, wise men, gift, camel, drums, Oprah Winfrey, bitter, anger, honesty, ego, intrusive thoughts, God, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Becky Lucas, Vulnerabilitea House bonus 7 54 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fd91674e-c504-440f-b1f5-b3b50047fd31 fd91674e-c504-440f-b1f5-b3b50047fd31 Sun, 21 Dec 2025 18:00:00 +0000 2312 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/little-drummer-girl Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego Dave Hughes has a complicated relationship with his ego.

Performing in prestigious venues around the world, Dave Hughes has solidified himself as one of Australia’s comedy icons, but the journey was (and still is) far from easy.

Joining us in the studio today, Dave vulnerably shares how the burden of feeling unworthy affected his ability to give and receive love.

Dave chats to Ryan about how much he has struggled with comparison, both with others, and the success of his past self, and the role that ego plays in never being able to turn down an opportunity.

Hughesy, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – Ryan got papped, Hugh got crumpets
7:19 – The failures that lead to success
17:12 – A feeling of general greatness
21:06 – Reckoning with comparison
30:18 – The joy is in the giving
36:03 – Walking the family / work tightrope
41:07 – Humour as a way in
47:56 – You had me at IMAX helmet
56:00 – Ego doesn’t let you enjoy the moment
1:08:10 – Five strategies to let go of ego

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]]> Dave Hughes has a complicated relationship with his ego.

Performing in prestigious venues around the world, Dave Hughes has solidified himself as one of Australia’s comedy icons, but the journey was (and still is) far from easy.

Joining us in the studio today, Dave vulnerably shares how the burden of feeling unworthy affected his ability to give and receive love.

Dave chats to Ryan about how much he has struggled with comparison, both with others, and the success of his past self, and the role that ego plays in never being able to turn down an opportunity.

Hughesy, thank you so much for joining us.

0:00 – Ryan got papped, Hugh got crumpets
7:19 – The failures that lead to success
17:12 – A feeling of general greatness
21:06 – Reckoning with comparison
30:18 – The joy is in the giving
36:03 – Walking the family / work tightrope
41:07 – Humour as a way in
47:56 – You had me at IMAX helmet
56:00 – Ego doesn’t let you enjoy the moment
1:08:10 – Five strategies to let go of ego

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]]> Ego spirituality comparison Rove self-worth confidence comedy Kate Langbroek Warrnambool alcohol binge drinking sobriety acceptance memory belief shame dole pride addiction adrenaline success vulnerability failure humiliation liberation joy giving struggle obsession The Project caffeine laughter celebrity Hamish Andy fame wisdom Dali Llama Carlton narcissism rejection regret Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dave Hughes The Imperfects Ego, spirituality, comparison Rove, self-worth, confidence, comedy, Kate Langbroek, Warrnambool, alcohol, binge drinking, sobriety, acceptance, memory, belief, shame, dole, pride, addiction, adrenaline, success, vulnerability, failure, humiliation, liberation, joy, giving, struggle, obsession, The Project, caffeine, laughter, celebrity, Hamish, Andy, fame, wisdom, Dali Llama, Carlton, narcissism, rejection, regret, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dave Hughes, The Imperfects full 7 53 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 32907315-a251-42f5-ae15-b3b0005c240d 32907315-a251-42f5-ae15-b3b0005c240d Sun, 14 Dec 2025 18:00:00 +0000 5241 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dave-hughes-me-myself-ego Mary Fowler - Forgiving Yourself-Harm Mary Fowler - Forgiving Yourself-Harm We’re nervous. We’re excited. We’re nervous and excited. Because it’s Mary freaking Fowler day.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, all the way from Manchester, Mary answers the question ‘what do you worry about the most?’

With wisdom far beyond her 22 years, Mary explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the impossible task of being the ‘perfect’ role model, especially when you are still growing up yourself.

And then, in a conversation that will help many, and maybe even save the life of a few, Mary graciously shares her experiences with self-harm, and why she thinks it is so important to have the heavy conversations, even with the risk of saying the wrong thing.

Mary talks about her journey with pressure and forgiveness that lead her to rediscover ‘Little Mary’, her wall of things that make her feel loved, and how she has been able to reframe her darkest times to find more empathy for others.

Mary, it was an absolute dream come true to speak with you.

0:00 – The 2023 Fairy tale
6:52 – What do you worry about most?
23:00 – Giving and taking power
34:01 – Appreciating the little things
41:01 – Saying the hard thing
56:22 – Beauty after pain
1:04:29 – Am I supposed to be here?
1:09:16 – Looking after Little Mary

if you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/O_9Wf0WSfMM 

📖Things to read;

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide or self-harm, Lifeline on 13 11 14 is a great place to start. In an emergency, please call 000.

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]]> We’re nervous. We’re excited. We’re nervous and excited. Because it’s Mary freaking Fowler day.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, all the way from Manchester, Mary answers the question ‘what do you worry about the most?’

With wisdom far beyond her 22 years, Mary explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the impossible task of being the ‘perfect’ role model, especially when you are still growing up yourself.

And then, in a conversation that will help many, and maybe even save the life of a few, Mary graciously shares her experiences with self-harm, and why she thinks it is so important to have the heavy conversations, even with the risk of saying the wrong thing.

Mary talks about her journey with pressure and forgiveness that lead her to rediscover ‘Little Mary’, her wall of things that make her feel loved, and how she has been able to reframe her darkest times to find more empathy for others.

Mary, it was an absolute dream come true to speak with you.

0:00 – The 2023 Fairy tale
6:52 – What do you worry about most?
23:00 – Giving and taking power
34:01 – Appreciating the little things
41:01 – Saying the hard thing
56:22 – Beauty after pain
1:04:29 – Am I supposed to be here?
1:09:16 – Looking after Little Mary

if you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/O_9Wf0WSfMM 

📖Things to read;

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide or self-harm, Lifeline on 13 11 14 is a great place to start. In an emergency, please call 000.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> Power growth empathy Manchester Matilda’s wisdom soccer football world cup beliefs Nathan cleary public eye celebrity opinion role model adidas attention motivation positivity authenticity respect boundaries paparazzi reframe fame people please standards happiness unhealthy covid Montpellier coach value Olympics development protection France degradation racism psychologist confusion sad anger upset grateful mental health depression numb cynicism shame embarrassment struggle judgement relief courage mental load reset forgiveness taboo beauty pressure weakness fallible reason humble kind resilient The Imperfects Mary Fowler Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Vulnerabilitea House Power, growth, empathy Manchester, Matilda’s, wisdom, soccer, football, world cup, beliefs, Nathan cleary, public eye, celebrity, opinion, role model, adidas, attention, motivation, positivity, authenticity, respect, boundaries, paparazzi, reframe, fame, people please, standards, happiness, unhealthy, covid, Montpellier, coach, value, Olympics, development, protection, France, degradation, racism, psychologist, confusion, sad, anger, upset, grateful, mental health, depression, numb, cynicism, shame, embarrassment, struggle, judgement, relief, courage, mental load, reset, forgiveness, taboo, beauty, pressure, weakness, fallible, reason, humble, kind, resilient, The Imperfects, Mary Fowler, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 52 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 60cfd4ca-ed71-427e-bf1c-b3a900435605 60cfd4ca-ed71-427e-bf1c-b3a900435605 Sun, 07 Dec 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4891 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/mary-fowler-forgiving-yourself-harm Dr Emily - You Had Me At Communication Dr Emily - You Had Me At Communication Is your communication style a red flag?

It’s our favourite time of the month and Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk the talk (and walk the walk) about healthy communication.

The impact of our learning history (colloquially known as “baggage”) gets a heavy feature in this episode, as Ryan, Josh and Bridge unpack their communication styles, and how this has impacted their intimate relationships.

Dr Emily talks us through why the real challenge of communicating is not our use of language, but rather regulation of emotion, and gifts us a plethora of acronyms to practice at home the skills of effective communication.

Dr Em, always a pleasure.

Chapters:
0:00 – Communication, conflict, and Hannah Ferguson 
10:19 – How do you (mostly?) communicate?
14:57 – The impact of our learning history
22:10 – Interpersonal Effectiveness
27:41 – Practicing getting it wrong to get it right
31:59 – Do opposites attract?
34:44 – Respond rather than react
47:51 – We all love an acronym
1:01:45 – Dealing with unreasonable people
1:15:49 – Breaking patterns

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📺 Things to watch:

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]]> Is your communication style a red flag?

It’s our favourite time of the month and Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk the talk (and walk the walk) about healthy communication.

The impact of our learning history (colloquially known as “baggage”) gets a heavy feature in this episode, as Ryan, Josh and Bridge unpack their communication styles, and how this has impacted their intimate relationships.

Dr Emily talks us through why the real challenge of communicating is not our use of language, but rather regulation of emotion, and gifts us a plethora of acronyms to practice at home the skills of effective communication.

Dr Em, always a pleasure.

Chapters:
0:00 – Communication, conflict, and Hannah Ferguson 
10:19 – How do you (mostly?) communicate?
14:57 – The impact of our learning history
22:10 – Interpersonal Effectiveness
27:41 – Practicing getting it wrong to get it right
31:59 – Do opposites attract?
34:44 – Respond rather than react
47:51 – We all love an acronym
1:01:45 – Dealing with unreasonable people
1:15:49 – Breaking patterns

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🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to do:

📺 Things to watch:

📖 Things to read:

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]]> Communication conflict empathy Weather cinema Hannah Ferguson friendship Instagram romance mode early childhood experiences communication style self sacrifice angry aggressive avoidant withdrawing adaptive frustration Thomas Killman assertiveness cooperation competitive truth harmony accommodating personality temperament Terry Real resolved learning history ultimatum love compassion couples counselling reaction message tone content change goals nuanced emotion respect context schema dialectical behaviour therapy mindfulness judgement compromise freedom psychology curiosity defensiveness criticism customer service advocating apologise confidence ignore reasonable bill eddie chat gpt distress tolerance lying red flags The Imperfects Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bridget Northeast Communication, conflict, empathy Weather, cinema, Hannah Ferguson, friendship, Instagram, romance, mode, early childhood experiences, communication style, self sacrifice, angry, aggressive, avoidant, withdrawing, adaptive, frustration, Thomas Killman, assertiveness, cooperation, competitive, truth, harmony, accommodating, personality, temperament, Terry Real, resolved, learning history, ultimatum, love, compassion, couples counselling, reaction, message, tone, content, change, goals, nuanced, emotion, respect, context, schema, dialectical behaviour therapy, mindfulness, judgement, compromise, freedom, psychology, curiosity, defensiveness, criticism, customer service, advocating, apologise, confidence, ignore, reasonable, bill eddie, chat gpt, distress tolerance, lying, red flags, The Imperfects, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bridget Northeast full 7 51 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c0c10df3-237e-42b4-be97-b3a2003d3c71 c0c10df3-237e-42b4-be97-b3a2003d3c71 Sun, 30 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +0000 5163 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-you-had-me-at-communication Jamila Rizvi - Awoken by a Broken Brain Jamila Rizvi - Awoken by a Broken Brain Jamila Rizvi has not been the perfect sick person.

When Jamila was last in our studio, she was deep in the grief stage.

Jamila’s life had been irrevocably changed by the imposition of a brain tumour, and the myriad of health complications due to surgery. To put it simply, Jamila didn’t know who Jamila was anymore, and that terrified her.

This week, in the Vulnerabilitea House, Jamila answers the questions “what aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?”

The drip-fed loss of cognitive functions and a new hormone condition which made her constantly starving, Jamila felt like her body and mind were no longer her own. Speaking to Hugh, Josh, and Ryan really honestly, Jamila opens up about her eating disorder during this time; how it impacted her sense of self, her relationships, and ability to connect.

Jamila, it was a joy to have you back. We’re so proud of you.

Chapters:
0:00 – Where are they now?
7:31 – What aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?
20:06 – Phases of identity
25:24 – Impact of a brain tumour on a relationship
29:52 – Constantly starving, craving thinness
36:51 – Intense, urgent desperation
48:38 – Train your brain to love your body
54:12 – Would you take it back?
59:39 – Adrenal Crisis and Crisis of Self

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/A_lE3nSA2Mc

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖Things to read:

💻Things to look up:

📱Games to download:

🦋 If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place check out - https://butterfly.org.au

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Jamila Rizvi has not been the perfect sick person.

When Jamila was last in our studio, she was deep in the grief stage.

Jamila’s life had been irrevocably changed by the imposition of a brain tumour, and the myriad of health complications due to surgery. To put it simply, Jamila didn’t know who Jamila was anymore, and that terrified her.

This week, in the Vulnerabilitea House, Jamila answers the questions “what aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?”

The drip-fed loss of cognitive functions and a new hormone condition which made her constantly starving, Jamila felt like her body and mind were no longer her own. Speaking to Hugh, Josh, and Ryan really honestly, Jamila opens up about her eating disorder during this time; how it impacted her sense of self, her relationships, and ability to connect.

Jamila, it was a joy to have you back. We’re so proud of you.

Chapters:
0:00 – Where are they now?
7:31 – What aspects of your identity have you held onto for too long?
20:06 – Phases of identity
25:24 – Impact of a brain tumour on a relationship
29:52 – Constantly starving, craving thinness
36:51 – Intense, urgent desperation
48:38 – Train your brain to love your body
54:12 – Would you take it back?
59:39 – Adrenal Crisis and Crisis of Self

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/A_lE3nSA2Mc

🫖Other episodes of The Imperfects mentioned on this episode

📖Things to read:

💻Things to look up:

📱Games to download:

🦋 If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place check out - https://butterfly.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Identity compassion body image Pride brain tumour health sickness questions grief death author keynote speaker happiness sunrise 2048 resistance mental health unwell brain functions adjustment process radiation pituitary gland hormones cortisol eyesight hypothalamus ambitious high standards Kevin Rudd William Dean Bob Hawke Scott Morrison loneliness disease exhaustion weight gain defeat anger ADHD hyperfocus research lawyer relationship eating disorder understanding body image hypothalamic obesity steroids memory body dysmorphia fat freezing pain frozen panic judgement Ozempic joyful food therapy Grace Tame hearing loss gratefulness Clare Bowditch support helpful hope memory loss future women chronic adrenal crisis mum guilt The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Jamila Rizvi Broken Brains Vulnerabilitea House Identity, compassion, body image Pride, brain tumour, health, sickness, questions, grief, death, author, keynote speaker, happiness, sunrise, 2048, resistance, mental health, unwell, brain functions, adjustment process, radiation, pituitary gland, hormones, cortisol, eyesight, hypothalamus, ambitious, high standards, Kevin Rudd, William Dean, Bob Hawke, Scott Morrison, loneliness, disease, exhaustion, weight gain, defeat, anger, ADHD, hyperfocus, research, lawyer, relationship, eating disorder, understanding, body image, hypothalamic obesity, steroids, memory, body dysmorphia, fat freezing, pain, frozen, panic, judgement, Ozempic, joyful, food, therapy, Grace Tame, hearing loss, gratefulness, Clare Bowditch, support, helpful, hope, memory loss, future women, chronic, adrenal crisis, mum guilt, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Jamila Rizvi, Broken Brains, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 50 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0f03a939-9ada-4fbe-b673-b39b00555c27 0f03a939-9ada-4fbe-b673-b39b00555c27 Sun, 23 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4406 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/jamila-rizvi-awoken-by-a-broken-brain Troy Kinne - It’s What’s Inside That’s Backwards Troy Kinne - It’s What’s Inside That’s Backwards Troy Kinne’s heart is in the right place. As in, it’s on the wrong side.

In fact, many of Troy’s organs are in the ‘wrong’ place. Which can be hard on the immune system, but great material for a stand-up comedian.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, and answering the question, ‘when is a time you’ve felt ashamed?’ Troy takes us on a journey, from being offered a (life)line by a fish and chip shop in his 20’s, to the effect that being sick for an entire year had on his mental health.

Troy chats to Josh about the light he found in his darkest times, and how living without fear allowed him to venture into the comedy world for the first time.

Speaking about success, and whether it will ever be enough, Troy is really open about what it is like to have to find yourself again after realising that you are no longer the underdog, and how hard it can be to offer your current self compassion.

Troy, what a pleasure.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/ZZm6VAq7g_o

Chapters:
0:00 – An episode years in the making
7:40 – When is a time that you’ve felt ashamed?
16:21 – Reality of chronic illness
24:50 – Reality of chronic illness during a pandemic
29:53 – The positive payoff of depression
38:37 – Constantly on the rollercoaster
48:43 – When you’re no longer the Underdog
55:57 – At what point will it be enough?

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

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🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Troy Kinne’s heart is in the right place. As in, it’s on the wrong side.

In fact, many of Troy’s organs are in the ‘wrong’ place. Which can be hard on the immune system, but great material for a stand-up comedian.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, and answering the question, ‘when is a time you’ve felt ashamed?’ Troy takes us on a journey, from being offered a (life)line by a fish and chip shop in his 20’s, to the effect that being sick for an entire year had on his mental health.

Troy chats to Josh about the light he found in his darkest times, and how living without fear allowed him to venture into the comedy world for the first time.

Speaking about success, and whether it will ever be enough, Troy is really open about what it is like to have to find yourself again after realising that you are no longer the underdog, and how hard it can be to offer your current self compassion.

Troy, what a pleasure.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/ZZm6VAq7g_o

Chapters:
0:00 – An episode years in the making
7:40 – When is a time that you’ve felt ashamed?
16:21 – Reality of chronic illness
24:50 – Reality of chronic illness during a pandemic
29:53 – The positive payoff of depression
38:37 – Constantly on the rollercoaster
48:43 – When you’re no longer the Underdog
55:57 – At what point will it be enough?

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Shame depression fear Wilson’s promontory comedy New York American Institute of Comedy sketch show tv show magic coffee table dextrocardia hope light connection medical condition royal children’s hospital situs inversus mirror image lung student escape room cilia hairs infection Logies sickness pulmonary blood vaccine covid myocarditis antibiotics sandy point struggling fish and chip shop attitude miserable terminal illness emotions friendship Dr Karina Smith acupuncture. Immune system compromised Thailand ice-bath writing underdog excuse psychologist artist addicted Michael Jordan Space Jam finances tour time joy Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Troy Kinne Vulnerabilitea House The Imperfects Shame, depression, fear Wilson’s promontory, comedy, New York, American Institute of Comedy, sketch show, tv show, magic coffee table, dextrocardia, hope, light, connection, medical condition, royal children’s hospital, situs inversus, mirror image, lung, student, escape room, cilia hairs, infection, Logies, sickness, pulmonary, blood, vaccine, covid, myocarditis, antibiotics, sandy point, struggling, fish and chip shop, attitude, miserable, terminal illness, emotions, friendship, Dr Karina Smith, acupuncture. Immune system compromised, Thailand, ice-bath, writing, underdog, excuse, psychologist, artist, addicted, Michael Jordan, Space Jam, finances, tour, time, joy Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Troy Kinne, Vulnerabilitea House, The Imperfects full 7 49 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ae2736c5-18e7-49ed-be0f-b394004ec48d ae2736c5-18e7-49ed-be0f-b394004ec48d Sun, 16 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4418 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/troy-kinne-it-s-what-s-inside-that-s-backwards Dr Emily - Am I Sick or Is It Anxiety? Dr Emily - Am I Sick or Is It Anxiety? Do you ever feel anxious about your health?

Same. And it is the fundamental uncertainty of our health which can make this anxiety really exhausting, complicated and, well, hard, to live with.

Back in the studio with our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re going to unpack this perpetual state of worry; how it’s exacerbated by our fight or flight response, how to respond when someone’s seeking assurance and how to surf the urge and sit with your discomfort.

Josh, being Josh, asks some hard hitting questions about accepting the certainty of death, and Dr Em talks through what it looks like to be so fearful of dying that it’s stopping you from living.

Of course, we don’t ever want people to stop getting checked out by a medical professional. This episode is focused on untangling what is worry, what is excessive worry, and when is it reasonable.

Dr Em, it was so great to hang out.

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Chapters:
0:00 – Our fears for our health 
9:54 – Are you a hypochondriac? 
15:59 – Exacerbation of the fight / flight response 
23:08 – The difficult positions of GP’s
29:48 – Not feeding the loop
35:19 – Body checking and post-diagnosis anxiety
39:50 – Accepting the certainty of death
50:55 – First time parent fear
53:24 – Obsession with being well

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Do you ever feel anxious about your health?

Same. And it is the fundamental uncertainty of our health which can make this anxiety really exhausting, complicated and, well, hard, to live with.

Back in the studio with our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re going to unpack this perpetual state of worry; how it’s exacerbated by our fight or flight response, how to respond when someone’s seeking assurance and how to surf the urge and sit with your discomfort.

Josh, being Josh, asks some hard hitting questions about accepting the certainty of death, and Dr Em talks through what it looks like to be so fearful of dying that it’s stopping you from living.

Of course, we don’t ever want people to stop getting checked out by a medical professional. This episode is focused on untangling what is worry, what is excessive worry, and when is it reasonable.

Dr Em, it was so great to hang out.

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Chapters:
0:00 – Our fears for our health 
9:54 – Are you a hypochondriac? 
15:59 – Exacerbation of the fight / flight response 
23:08 – The difficult positions of GP’s
29:48 – Not feeding the loop
35:19 – Body checking and post-diagnosis anxiety
39:50 – Accepting the certainty of death
50:55 – First time parent fear
53:24 – Obsession with being well

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Health anxiety uncertainty Cinema popcorn Balwyn Bryan Brown DSM 5 ICD10 psychology hypochondriasis hypochondriac illness anxiety disorder serious illness disease OCD diagnostic criteria diagnosis reassurance seeking intrusive thought worry symptoms concern certainty uncertainty fear loss struggle death ADHD psychiatrist safety doctors exhaustion shame internal embarrassment cancer thrive joy body checking cognitive decision chat GPT presence positively curiosity harm value distress children parenting impaired daily functioning preoccupation covid The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Dr Emily Musgrove Health, anxiety, uncertainty Cinema, popcorn, Balwyn, Bryan Brown, DSM 5, ICD10, psychology, hypochondriasis, hypochondriac, illness anxiety disorder, serious illness, disease, OCD, diagnostic criteria, diagnosis, reassurance seeking, intrusive thought, worry, symptoms, concern, certainty, uncertainty, fear, loss, struggle, death, ADHD, psychiatrist, safety, doctors, exhaustion, shame, internal, embarrassment, cancer, thrive, joy, body checking, cognitive decision, chat GPT, presence, positively, curiosity, harm, value, distress, children, parenting, impaired daily functioning, preoccupation, covid, The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Dr Emily Musgrove full 7 48 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b5e53477-7012-4b2c-b7da-b38d005801df b5e53477-7012-4b2c-b7da-b38d005801df Sun, 09 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +0000 3706 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-am-i-sick-or-is-it-anxiety Bryan Brown - The Value of Being Alive Bryan Brown - The Value of Being Alive Not to be dramatic, but Bryan Brown is an Australian icon of the silver screen.

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Cast in over 80 film and tv projects throughout his career, working with people such as Jennifer Aniston, Ben Stiller and Sigourney Weaver (possibly biggest name drop we’ve ever had), Bryan was all set for a life of numbers and mathematics before he allowed himself to be guided by joy.

Joining Josh and Ryan in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bryan answers the question, ‘what has been the scariest moment of your life?’

Covering all elements (literally), Bryan recounts a near drowning, and a close call with flames, before he was grounded by his first experience with anxiety.

Chatting to Josh and Ryan about what it felt like to have his perception of mental health changed, Bryan talks about becoming comfortable with vulnerability, what it means to be a man, and how he was able to ask for help.

Bryan, it was an absolute pleasure.

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Chapters
0:00 – Australian Icon Alert
9:23 – How do you live as a man?
12:54 – What has been the scariest moment in your life?
22:16 – This could all end
25:23 – When anxiety becomes physical
35:54 – The Human Experience
41:08 – Embracing the No’s
45:56 – Finding his voice through story
49:46 – Friends, girls + growing up



The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Not to be dramatic, but Bryan Brown is an Australian icon of the silver screen.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Cast in over 80 film and tv projects throughout his career, working with people such as Jennifer Aniston, Ben Stiller and Sigourney Weaver (possibly biggest name drop we’ve ever had), Bryan was all set for a life of numbers and mathematics before he allowed himself to be guided by joy.

Joining Josh and Ryan in the Vulnerabilitea House, Bryan answers the question, ‘what has been the scariest moment of your life?’

Covering all elements (literally), Bryan recounts a near drowning, and a close call with flames, before he was grounded by his first experience with anxiety.

Chatting to Josh and Ryan about what it felt like to have his perception of mental health changed, Bryan talks about becoming comfortable with vulnerability, what it means to be a man, and how he was able to ask for help.

Bryan, it was an absolute pleasure.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here -

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Chapters
0:00 – Australian Icon Alert
9:23 – How do you live as a man?
12:54 – What has been the scariest moment in your life?
22:16 – This could all end
25:23 – When anxiety becomes physical
35:54 – The Human Experience
41:08 – Embracing the No’s
45:56 – Finding his voice through story
49:46 – Friends, girls + growing up



The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Fear anxiety masculinity Actor icon high school actuary drama surfing rugby league career dramatic work salesman father England support National Theatre Sam Neil golden globe emmy Rachel Ward children grandfather emotion living role model appreciation thank you question memory story nature fire masculinity burns hospital appearance narcissism values hypothetical age change Ben Stiller Jennifer Aniston UTI travel psychologist depression mental health writing The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bryan Brown Vulnerabilitea House Fear, anxiety, masculinity Actor, icon, high school, actuary, drama, surfing, rugby league, career, dramatic, work, salesman, father, England, support, National Theatre, Sam Neil, golden globe, emmy, Rachel Ward, children, grandfather, emotion, living, role model, appreciation, thank you, question, memory, story, nature, fire, masculinity, burns, hospital, appearance, narcissism, values, hypothetical, age, change, Ben Stiller, Jennifer Aniston, UTI, travel, psychologist, depression, mental health, writing The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bryan Brown, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 47 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0df0e957-a26e-4bb7-a006-b3840051290a 0df0e957-a26e-4bb7-a006-b3840051290a Sun, 02 Nov 2025 18:00:00 +0000 3331 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/bryan-brown-the-value-of-being-alive Hugo Toovey - The Reality of Surviving Cancer. Twice. Hugo Toovey - The Reality of Surviving Cancer. Twice. Hugo Toovey has beaten cancer, twice. But this is far from the whole story.

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In this special bonus episode, Hugo joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk about health; how to know when to go to a doctor, how to wrangle with the emotions of being cancer free and how to be vulnerable with the people who love you most.

Extraordinarily open in the hope that it will help someone else, Hugo discusses his fertility and decision to have kids, how being a parent has effected his outlook on life, and how exhausting it was acting like everything was okay.

Hugo, you’re a lifesaver.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/00RG9jPCGXs

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Chapters
0:00 – The other side of cancer free
12:36 – An invincible young bloke
15:54 – Knowing your ‘normal’
24:40 – Doom, burden, guilt, escape
36:17 – The vulnerability ice-breaker
44:05 – The biggest killer
49:33 – 25’s the new 50
52:25 - Being responsible, just in case
1:01:10 – And what does she mean to you?

 

 

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]]> Hugo Toovey has beaten cancer, twice. But this is far from the whole story.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

In this special bonus episode, Hugo joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk about health; how to know when to go to a doctor, how to wrangle with the emotions of being cancer free and how to be vulnerable with the people who love you most.

Extraordinarily open in the hope that it will help someone else, Hugo discusses his fertility and decision to have kids, how being a parent has effected his outlook on life, and how exhausting it was acting like everything was okay.

Hugo, you’re a lifesaver.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/00RG9jPCGXs

🩺Things to do (for your health):

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – The other side of cancer free
12:36 – An invincible young bloke
15:54 – Knowing your ‘normal’
24:40 – Doom, burden, guilt, escape
36:17 – The vulnerability ice-breaker
44:05 – The biggest killer
49:33 – 25’s the new 50
52:25 - Being responsible, just in case
1:01:10 – And what does she mean to you?

 

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Cancer purpose anxiety Bowel cancer surgery chemo fear army mental health fatherhood husband hospital pain killers pain distraction perception health guilt grateful bowel movements nutrients fistula opioids social work history milestone ignorant optimism burden escape resilient pressure leadership guidance advice vulnerability inspiration joy compliments version normality education empowerment miscarriage carer support person depression recovery love freedom happiness The Imperfects Hugo Toovey Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Cancer, purpose, anxiety Bowel cancer, surgery, chemo, fear, army, mental health, fatherhood, husband, hospital, pain killers, pain, distraction, perception, health, guilt, grateful, bowel movements, nutrients, fistula, opioids, social, work, history, milestone, ignorant, optimism, burden, escape, resilient, pressure, leadership, guidance, advice, vulnerability, inspiration, joy, compliments, version, normality, education, empowerment, miscarriage, carer, support person, depression, recovery, love, freedom, happiness, The Imperfects, Hugo Toovey, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 7 46 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fc057587-5da1-4824-ac23-b37e00622e2b fc057587-5da1-4824-ac23-b37e00622e2b Sun, 26 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4369 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hugo-toovey-the-reality-of-surviving-cancer-twice Melanie Bracewell - Untangling a Toxic Relationship Melanie Bracewell - Untangling a Toxic Relationship Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps?

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Melanie Bracewell has, and she joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question, ‘who do you go to advice for? Why?’ (spoiler: it’s not her puppeteer ex-boyfriend).

Unpacking the disarming realisation that all of our parents were once our age, Mel talks to the guys about making useful mistakes in your twenties, finding a litmus for what loves looks and feels like, and how to make friends with people as an adult (who aren’t already on your netball team).

Mel bonds with Hugh about the realities of an ADHD brain and the fallacy of thinking you are super organised for something, and most importantly, the burst of self-compassion that can come from a diagnosis.

Mel, we’ll be your side-by-side friend.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/NDKke1ATdLE

🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺Things to watch

💻Things to check out

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0:00 – Can you just give me the clothes off your back?
12:48 – Who do you go to for advice and why?
23:57 – Realising your parents are human too
27:20 – The no-strings puppeteer
31:24 – A lot to un-pack, a lot to understand
35:56 – Side by side relationships
43:16 – Making useful mistakes
50:02 – Dodging a break-ups and short term memory loss
59:27 – Replying to negative comments


The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Have you ever dated someone you knew, logically, was a bad idea? A puppeteer twenty years your senior, perhaps?

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Melanie Bracewell has, and she joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question, ‘who do you go to advice for? Why?’ (spoiler: it’s not her puppeteer ex-boyfriend).

Unpacking the disarming realisation that all of our parents were once our age, Mel talks to the guys about making useful mistakes in your twenties, finding a litmus for what loves looks and feels like, and how to make friends with people as an adult (who aren’t already on your netball team).

Mel bonds with Hugh about the realities of an ADHD brain and the fallacy of thinking you are super organised for something, and most importantly, the burst of self-compassion that can come from a diagnosis.

Mel, we’ll be your side-by-side friend.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/NDKke1ATdLE

🫖Other imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺Things to watch

💻Things to check out

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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0:00 – Can you just give me the clothes off your back?
12:48 – Who do you go to for advice and why?
23:57 – Realising your parents are human too
27:20 – The no-strings puppeteer
31:24 – A lot to un-pack, a lot to understand
35:56 – Side by side relationships
43:16 – Making useful mistakes
50:02 – Dodging a break-ups and short term memory loss
59:27 – Replying to negative comments


The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> ADHD trust empathy Cheap seats excited connection NRL rookie airport xero conference dragon sound check embarrassed target diagnosis laughter stupid shame intelligence ten play Jacinda Ardern have you been paying attention Vulnerabilitea house advice mum pub parenting Glenfield leisure centre love misunderstood Auckland university puppeteer comedy adult relationships manipulation litmus apologise protection mortified embarrassment attention betrayal dinner party dating cheating infidelity gaslighting hurt control regret negative traits autism partner messy accountability Hannah Ferguson comfortability friendship first dates conversation girl group netball rejection sensitivity New Zealand writer’s room confidence wisdom reaction therapy childhood elf vulnerability self-worth justification narcos short term memory loss caretaking Māori cultural heritage Māori culture hierarchy powerful family values negativity The Imperfects Vulnerabilitea House Melanie Bracewell Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton ADHD, trust, empathy Cheap seats, excited, connection, NRL, rookie, airport, xero, conference, dragon, sound check, embarrassed, target, diagnosis, laughter, stupid, shame, intelligence, ten play, Jacinda Ardern, have you been paying attention, Vulnerabilitea house, advice, mum, pub, parenting, Glenfield leisure centre, love, misunderstood, Auckland, university, puppeteer, comedy, adult, relationships, manipulation, litmus, apologise, protection, mortified, embarrassment, attention, betrayal, dinner party, dating, cheating, infidelity, gaslighting, hurt, control, regret, negative traits, autism, partner, messy, accountability, Hannah Ferguson, comfortability, friendship, first dates, conversation, girl group, netball, rejection sensitivity, New Zealand, writer’s room, confidence, wisdom, reaction, therapy, childhood, elf, vulnerability, self-worth, justification, narcos, short term memory loss, caretaking, Māori cultural heritage, Māori, culture, hierarchy, powerful, family, values, negativity The Imperfects, Vulnerabilitea House, Melanie Bracewell, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 7 45 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c7318731-262a-4c96-b45f-b378005fbab5 c7318731-262a-4c96-b45f-b378005fbab5 Sun, 19 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4572 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/melanie-bracewell-untangling-a-toxic-relationship Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals Dr Emily - Goals For Your Goals Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to do

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5

 

Chapters
0:00 – A strange start to the episode
3:42 – Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward
13:58 – Strength-based approach to change
22:18 – SMART domains for change
34:57 – Strategies to achieve your goals
44:56 – Lapse vs relapse
51:09 – The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore!
59:09 – Celebrate!
1:08:31 – Now is the time to get on the wrong train

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Whether you’re a ‘new year new me’ aficionado, a 5-year planner, or get sweaty at the thought of setting goals, this episode is for you.

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, we’re unpacking goal setting, which at its core, is the intention to change our behaviour.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh, with the help of Dr Em, talk through why goals may seem intimidating, and how to reconcile the idea that there is no growth when you are not changing.

Leading us into a very lovely introduction of a strengths-based approach to change, Dr Em explains SMART goals using Hugh’s bedtime as a real-life example. And for those with a particularly strong inner critic (or rocky relationship with goals), Dr Em gently guides Hugh, Ryan and, especially Josh, through the blessing of allowing ourselves some slack, leading from the feet up and engaging in committed action.

AND, we learn about temptation bundling and Hugh’s taste in music (not as dirty as it sounds).

Dr Em, you’re in all of our inner cheer squads

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/bUOUs0UKg_w 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to do

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

💌To subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, click here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - http://bit.ly/4mqunxu

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here - http://bit.ly/4mq5BO5

 

Chapters
0:00 – A strange start to the episode
3:42 – Chrissie Swan tells us to move forward
13:58 – Strength-based approach to change
22:18 – SMART domains for change
34:57 – Strategies to achieve your goals
44:56 – Lapse vs relapse
51:09 – The fresh start effect, motivation slump and metaphors galore!
59:09 – Celebrate!
1:08:31 – Now is the time to get on the wrong train

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Goals risk change Perthians Unstuck Chrissie Swan change process reflection suffering movement walking fear expectation winning losing behaviour changing behaviour yearning pain burden discomfort homeostasis lost disconnected disengaged relationships courage empathy narrative connection values honesty aspirational distress flourishing vitality domains SMART goals specific measurable attainable REM time achievable relevance Maria Ruberto ADHD flexible success observation Hawthorn Effect studying shame private experience performance exercise mood medicine choice affiliative love gateway power inner critic stress response compassion gentle nudging committed action playful gardening metaphor mistakes fresh start milestones motivation pride excitement joy celebration approaching temptation bundling shakane Aiden Hart The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Goals, risk, change Perthians, Unstuck, Chrissie Swan, change, process, reflection, suffering, movement, walking, fear, expectation, winning, losing, behaviour, changing behaviour, yearning, pain, burden, discomfort, homeostasis, lost, disconnected, disengaged relationships, courage, empathy, narrative, connection, values, honesty, aspirational, distress, flourishing, vitality, domains, SMART goals, specific, measurable, attainable, REM, time, achievable, relevance, Maria Ruberto, ADHD, flexible, success, observation, Hawthorn Effect, studying, shame, private, experience, performance, exercise, mood, medicine, choice, affiliative, love, gateway, power, inner critic, stress response, compassion, gentle nudging, committed action, playful, gardening, metaphor, mistakes, fresh start, milestones, motivation, pride, excitement, joy, celebration, approaching, temptation bundling, shakane, Aiden Hart The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove full 7 44 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 70ef778d-06aa-4cc7-a329-b3710063bf10 70ef778d-06aa-4cc7-a329-b3710063bf10 Sun, 12 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4477 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-goals-for-your-goals Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost Kemi Nekvapil - A Compass for When You're Lost If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way).

Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life.

Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values.

In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

💻Things to check out

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Chapters
0:00 – Third time (which is a charm)
6:38 – Croissant as a value
12:54 – Josh’s values are a pink flag
27:56 – Who you are vs who you want be
33:45 – Real world, reframing and living in alignment
38:06 – Trying on your values and setting goals
42:44 – Imperfect (company) Values
1:03:02 – Same value, differing actions
1:08:43 – How to get pants on a three year old

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> If you’re not navigating your life through your values, what are you using?

🎟️ Our live show Together Again is on sale now! Tickets here - https://bit.ly/4mEK9Ep

Our lord and saviour is back (in a secular, informal way).

Kemi Nekvapil is back in the Academy of Imperfection to talk all things values: what they are, how we choose them, and how you add croissant as one of yours. Extending the conversation of our previous episode on values with Dr Em, Kemi talks with the guys about how their current personal values are working in their life.

Introducing terms such as val-rules, aspirational values and umbrella values, Kemi walks them through the difference between manipulation and modelling, and why the hard work starts AFTER we’ve chosen our values.

In a peak behind the metaphorical (and literal, hi Producer Bridge) curtain, we discuss what went down in our company values session with Kemi, and how these values come into play in a day-in-the-life of The Imperfects production team.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/TV-GL3dgtjg

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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Chapters
0:00 – Third time (which is a charm)
6:38 – Croissant as a value
12:54 – Josh’s values are a pink flag
27:56 – Who you are vs who you want be
33:45 – Real world, reframing and living in alignment
38:06 – Trying on your values and setting goals
42:44 – Imperfect (company) Values
1:03:02 – Same value, differing actions
1:08:43 – How to get pants on a three year old

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Values connection choice Leadership purpose Brene Brown power happiness company values hierarchy bonding meaning unstuck process joyous thought feeling navigation integrity success alignment creativity care courage croissants time reminder fun stressful decision-making perfect curiosity flexibility self-compassion ghost stories intention presence aspirational inspirational wellbeing growth cultivation writing flower farmer judgement val-rule mindful weaponize open minded health wellness betrayal loyal boundaries intellectually projecting kindness humour providing an example manipulation modelling humility lost drifting off course ego duty responsibility brunch positivity reframing play family values morals challenged vicarious trauma pride culture trust Instagram feedback psychology expectations politics Kemi Nekvapil The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Values, connection, choice Leadership, purpose, Brene Brown, power, happiness, company values, hierarchy, bonding, meaning, unstuck, process, joyous, thought, feeling, navigation, integrity, success, alignment, creativity, care, courage, croissants, time, reminder, fun, stressful, decision-making, perfect, curiosity, flexibility, self-compassion, ghost stories, intention, presence, aspirational, inspirational, wellbeing, growth, cultivation, writing, flower farmer, judgement, val-rule, mindful, weaponize, open minded, health, wellness, betrayal, loyal, boundaries, intellectually, projecting, kindness, humour, providing an example, manipulation, modelling, humility, lost, drifting off course, ego, duty, responsibility, brunch, positivity, reframing, play, family values, morals, challenged, vicarious trauma, pride, culture, trust, Instagram, feedback, psychology, expectations, politics Kemi Nekvapil, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 7 43 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 2baafbe9-062e-49d6-8fc4-b36a00480c90 2baafbe9-062e-49d6-8fc4-b36a00480c90 Sun, 05 Oct 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4510 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/kemi-nekvapil-a-compass-for-when-youre-lost Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted Josh van Cuylenburg - Midlife Crisis Averted The mid-life update we've all been waiting for. 

In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn. 

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life.

Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset.

Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!

This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK.

If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> The mid-life update we've all been waiting for. 

In the final instillation of the Vulnerabilitea Volume 2 Cards Announcement Week, where Ryan, Hugh and Josh have each answered one of the 52 brand-spanking-new-vulnerable-questions, it’s Josh’s turn. 

Answering the question, “what moment from your life are you grateful for, that profoundly changed you?” Josh reflects on the recording of the episode; Dr Emily – The Meaning of Mid Life, where he vulnerably disclosed that he was really struggling with finding meaning in the second half of his life.

Sparked from this moment of authentic connection, Josh shares with Hugh and Ryan how he was able to find compassion for himself and the joy of adopting a beginner’s mindset.

Josh, we love it when good things happen to great people. And we love you!

This can be a stand-alone episode, however Ryan and Hugh’s have been absolute corkers (and we don’t say corker lightly) and you can listen to them here https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH and here http://bit.ly/4nNXNWK.

If you’d like to watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MrL2No3YiLQ

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> Gratitude connection compassion Mid-life depression anger goodness parenting frustration resentment struggling lost terrifying heart palpitations emotion Dr Emily Musgrove role personhood transition burden flourish life mid-life crisis realisation decline psychology diagnosis medicine exercise diet sleep meditation sun alcohol negative thoughts people matter The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Vulnerabilitea House Gratitude, connection, compassion Mid-life, depression, anger, goodness, parenting, frustration, resentment, struggling, lost, terrifying, heart palpitations, emotion, Dr Emily Musgrove, role, personhood, transition, burden, flourish, life, mid-life crisis, realisation, decline, psychology, diagnosis, medicine, exercise, diet, sleep, meditation, sun, alcohol, negative thoughts, people matter, The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Vulnerabilitea House bonus 7 42 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 288726d8-a192-40f1-b2e5-b34d0089bf4c 288726d8-a192-40f1-b2e5-b34d0089bf4c Thu, 02 Oct 2025 19:00:00 +0000 1359 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/josh-van-cuylenburg-midlife-crisis-averted Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout Hugh van Cuylenburg - This Is Burnout Hugh’s turn!

This week, to celebrate the launch of our BRAND NEW Vulnerabilitea House Cards (with 52 brand-new life changing questions), Ryan, Hugh and Josh will each be answering a VII question on an episode this week.

Ryan kicked us off on Monday, and you can listen to that episode here (it’s a goody) - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH

In this episode, Hugh answers the question “When was a time when you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?”

In an answer which provides a little more context to Ryan’s episode (an unplanned narrative arc), Hugh is vulnerable about the intense burnout he has been experiencing, and his fantasies for a guilt free period of time where he can just lie down for a bit.

Unpacking the symptoms of burnout, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh the heaviness of the past year, how it has been impacting his mental health, and why it feels like everything is too much.

Hugh, thanks for calling the press conference. We love you so much.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/8K0eKoIfR-U

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

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]]> Hugh’s turn!

This week, to celebrate the launch of our BRAND NEW Vulnerabilitea House Cards (with 52 brand-new life changing questions), Ryan, Hugh and Josh will each be answering a VII question on an episode this week.

Ryan kicked us off on Monday, and you can listen to that episode here (it’s a goody) - https://bit.ly/3VBvcrH

In this episode, Hugh answers the question “When was a time when you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?”

In an answer which provides a little more context to Ryan’s episode (an unplanned narrative arc), Hugh is vulnerable about the intense burnout he has been experiencing, and his fantasies for a guilt free period of time where he can just lie down for a bit.

Unpacking the symptoms of burnout, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh the heaviness of the past year, how it has been impacting his mental health, and why it feels like everything is too much.

Hugh, thanks for calling the press conference. We love you so much.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/8K0eKoIfR-U

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> Burnout stress communication Vulnerability teach us consent violence nervous the resilience project Ben Shewry commitments holidays hospital full-time jobs neurodivergent parenting neurodivergent child production sleep moving house guilt suicidal surprise choice symptoms anxiety depression withdrawal exhaustion motivation music Jojo Siwa focus accomplishment physical symptoms annoyance perfect awareness care creativity inspiration joy empathy patience emotional exhaustion love angry worthy scared The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Vulnerabilitea House Burnout, stress, communication Vulnerability, teach us consent, violence, nervous, the resilience project, Ben Shewry, commitments, holidays, hospital, full-time jobs, neurodivergent, parenting, neurodivergent child, production, sleep, moving house, guilt, suicidal, surprise, choice, symptoms, anxiety, depression, withdrawal, exhaustion, motivation, music, Jojo Siwa, focus, accomplishment, physical symptoms, annoyance, perfect, awareness, care, creativity, inspiration, joy, empathy, patience, emotional exhaustion, love, angry, worthy, scared, The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Vulnerabilitea House bonus 7 41 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d91e801d-1d9a-46d8-9280-b34d008942be d91e801d-1d9a-46d8-9280-b34d008942be Tue, 30 Sep 2025 19:00:00 +0000 1831 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hugh-van-cuylenburg-this-is-burnout Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be Ryan Shelton - The Friend I Want To Be It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week.

Because, drum roll please*,* we have a BRAND-NEW deck of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, with 52 brand-new, life-changing questions.

That’s right baby, Volume II is available for purchase. Now.

This week, we are releasing three whole episodes (lucky you).

Each episode will feature either Ryan, Hugh or Josh in the spotlight as they answer one of our new Vulernabilitea House questions.

In this episode, Ryan answers the question, “do you have any regrets about the way you have treated others?” and talks about his relationship with Hugh, and why he has been feeling guilty.

See you Wednesday!

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see the new Tequila-Sunrise Card Deck), follow this link - https://youtu.be/PDsY2kaA4uU

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> It’s a different sort of episode(s) this week.

Because, drum roll please*,* we have a BRAND-NEW deck of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, with 52 brand-new, life-changing questions.

That’s right baby, Volume II is available for purchase. Now.

This week, we are releasing three whole episodes (lucky you).

Each episode will feature either Ryan, Hugh or Josh in the spotlight as they answer one of our new Vulernabilitea House questions.

In this episode, Ryan answers the question, “do you have any regrets about the way you have treated others?” and talks about his relationship with Hugh, and why he has been feeling guilty.

See you Wednesday!

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see the new Tequila-Sunrise Card Deck), follow this link - https://youtu.be/PDsY2kaA4uU

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, (with the new cards!) purchase here - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/shop/

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Regret friendship guilt Card game original story live show vulnerability live nation newsletter my imperfect email questions together again connection marketing memory authenticity emotional risk authentic connection George Lucas empire strikes back emotion joy perspective support humour siblings brother younger sibling family work The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Vulnerabilitea House Regret, friendship, guilt Card game, original story, live show, vulnerability, live nation, newsletter, my imperfect email, questions, together again, connection, marketing, memory, authenticity, emotional risk, authentic connection, George Lucas, empire strikes back, emotion, joy, perspective, support, humour, siblings, brother, younger sibling, family, work, The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Vulnerabilitea House bonus 7 40 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg abfc629e-edfc-446c-bc4d-b34d008863db abfc629e-edfc-446c-bc4d-b34d008863db Sun, 28 Sep 2025 19:00:00 +0000 1866 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/ryan-shelton-the-friend-i-want-to-be Mitch Brown - AFL’s First Openly Bisexual Man Mitch Brown - AFL’s First Openly Bisexual Man This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown.

💌 subscribe to our newsletter, my imperfect email, here - http://bit.ly/45NyQDy.

Tie up your laces and pull up your socks, this story is ones for the ages.

As the first male AFL player in the sport’s 129 year history to come out as bisexual, Mitch, and the public’s reaction to his story, epitomises the importance of visibility, role models and the creation of safe and inclusive environments.

Joining us in the studio, Mitch takes us back to the beginning, vulnerably telling Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the hyper-masculine environments which formed (and suppressed) his identity from a young age.

Talking through his newfound imposter syndrome, past-mistakes, and journey to finding his true, authentic self, Mitch emphasizes the critical importance of empathy.

Confiding with the guys about how monumental, overwhelming and joyful the past few weeks have been, Mitch also acknowledges the deep grief of people in his life who felt like they had let him down.

Mitch, you are making the world a better place. We love you (so much).

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cLHU4CJkqww

This episode discusses an experience of sexual assault, if this is something you're not ready to hear right now, we suggest you skip this one and come back when you are ready. 

🎧Things to listen to:

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

  • QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
  • Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
  • 1800 RESPECT - If you, or someone you know needs support after after experiencing a sexual assault, please call the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.
  • Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> This moment is bigger than Mitch Brown.

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Tie up your laces and pull up your socks, this story is ones for the ages.

As the first male AFL player in the sport’s 129 year history to come out as bisexual, Mitch, and the public’s reaction to his story, epitomises the importance of visibility, role models and the creation of safe and inclusive environments.

Joining us in the studio, Mitch takes us back to the beginning, vulnerably telling Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the hyper-masculine environments which formed (and suppressed) his identity from a young age.

Talking through his newfound imposter syndrome, past-mistakes, and journey to finding his true, authentic self, Mitch emphasizes the critical importance of empathy.

Confiding with the guys about how monumental, overwhelming and joyful the past few weeks have been, Mitch also acknowledges the deep grief of people in his life who felt like they had let him down.

Mitch, you are making the world a better place. We love you (so much).

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cLHU4CJkqww

This episode discusses an experience of sexual assault, if this is something you're not ready to hear right now, we suggest you skip this one and come back when you are ready. 

🎧Things to listen to:

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

  • QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
  • Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
  • 1800 RESPECT - If you, or someone you know needs support after after experiencing a sexual assault, please call the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.
  • Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> Belonging bisexuality identity Jack Steele Inspired Unemployed mullet bluey afl honour support positivity worth love life imposter syndrome privilege sport value aesthetic suppression human experience understanding twin family brothers psyche comparison masculine hypermasculinity strength stoicism dopamine confidence anxiety weakness homophobia AFL football lying reality community character regrets West Coast Eagles comfortable barriers questions friendship ignorance shame responsibility embarrassment selfish impact role models basketball camp sadness blame reflection children behaviour safety connection opportunity Nathan Brown respect privacy anger change empathy people pleasing co-parenting resentment communication vulnerability cultural systematic standards values accountability The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Mitch Brown Belonging, bisexuality, identity Jack Steele, Inspired Unemployed, mullet, bluey, afl, honour, support, positivity, worth, love, life, imposter syndrome, privilege, sport, value, aesthetic, suppression, human experience, understanding, twin, family, brothers, psyche, comparison, masculine, hypermasculinity, strength, stoicism, dopamine, confidence, anxiety, weakness, homophobia, AFL, football, lying, reality, community, character, regrets, West Coast Eagles, comfortable, barriers, questions, friendship, ignorance, shame, responsibility, embarrassment, selfish, impact, role models, basketball camp, sadness, blame, reflection, children, behaviour, safety, connection, opportunity, Nathan Brown, respect, privacy, anger, change, empathy, people pleasing, co-parenting, resentment, communication, vulnerability, cultural, systematic, standards, values, accountability, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Mitch Brown full 7 39 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 181c0eb5-a4a7-44a5-87a3-b35a006f0107 181c0eb5-a4a7-44a5-87a3-b35a006f0107 Sun, 21 Sep 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4538 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/mitch-brown-afl-s-first-openly-bisexual-man Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy Matt Okine - Comedy & Tragedy Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.

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Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage.

A triple threat, you might say.

Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death.

Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on.

Matt, what a feeling.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg 

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]]> Matt Okine has been privy to a few life changing events.

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Hailing from Triple J infamy (the radio station ……. not the athletic event), Matt has seen success across television screens, the comedy scene and music stage.

A triple threat, you might say.

Joining us in the studio, Matt is incredibly vulnerable in sharing with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the pain and confusion of losing his mum at just 12 years old, and how becoming a parent himself has filled him with an irrational, but at times crippling, fear of death.

Matt and Ryan bond over the cathartic and confronting process of writing about yourself as a character, who doesn’t always get it right, and Matt talks to Josh about jealousy and how he learned to trust again after being cheated on.

Matt, what a feeling.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/SnV65OzHxEg 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

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]]> Grief infidelity purpose Steve Curry Toyota Triple J comedy mother cancer relationships friendship West Indies school dental van Brisbane triple jump AFL star search Brisbane Lions drama school QUT Billy Elliot neighbours drama smart RAW Comedy Melbourne International Comedy Festival Edinburgh Fringe Festival The Other Guy ACCTA fatherhood relief care happiness love Alex Dyson connection guilt responsibility funeral weakness strength letter processing emotions pretending tough vulnerability Adam and Will motivation flights challenge failure Rove impactful behaviour cheating trust shame logic paranoia fear anger furious frustration lying ego pride empathy flaws stress revenge The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Matt Okine Grief, infidelity, purpose Steve Curry, Toyota, Triple J, comedy, mother, cancer, relationships, friendship, West Indies, school dental van, Brisbane, triple jump, AFL, star search, Brisbane Lions, drama school, QUT, Billy Elliot, neighbours, drama, smart, RAW Comedy, Melbourne International Comedy Festival, Edinburgh Fringe Festival, The Other Guy, ACCTA, fatherhood, relief, care, happiness, love, Alex Dyson, connection, guilt, responsibility, funeral, weakness, strength, letter, processing, emotions, pretending, tough, vulnerability, Adam and Will, motivation, flights, challenge, failure, Rove, impactful, behaviour, cheating, trust, shame, logic, paranoia, fear, anger, furious, frustration, lying, ego, pride, empathy, flaws, stress, revenge, The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Matt Okine full 7 38 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 8ed07bd4-a4aa-4dec-b940-b355005603d6 8ed07bd4-a4aa-4dec-b940-b355005603d6 Sun, 14 Sep 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5681 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/matt-okine-comedy-tragedy Karissa Lewis - We're Not Better Off Without You Karissa Lewis - We're Not Better Off Without You Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.

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On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone.

Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide.

We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention.

Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language.

Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry.

Life is not better off without you.

To watch this incredible episode on YouTube, follow this link:

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🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide;

  • Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
  • 13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76
  • Please call 000 in an emergency
  • StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247

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]]> Suicide is the leading cause of death for Australians aged 15 to 44.

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On average in Australia, 9 people die by suicide each day, and for every suicide, it is suggested 135 people find themselves in the impact zone.

Today we speak to Karissa Lewis, a lived experience practitioner, who sits with those in perhaps their darkest moment, in the hours, days and weeks after someone they know has died by suicide.

We discuss what a lived experience practitioner is, how it is professionalised, and how postvention (done well) is the most incredible prevention.

Going into specifics, Ryan asks Karissa what the impact zone is like in a school environment, and how you can know what to say, what to do, and how to talk to children about suicide with honesty and age-appropriate language.

Karissa is candid with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about the stigma of suicide, which prompts Josh to share a story about the complicated nature of the word ‘choice’. And we get some scientific evidence of the power of a good cry.

Life is not better off without you.

To watch this incredible episode on YouTube, follow this link:

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖 Things to read

📱Things to download

💻Things to check out

🎟️Things to buy tickets for

🚨If you, or someone you know, is thinking about suicide;

  • Contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.
  • 13YARN (Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander Crisis Support Line) – 13 92 76
  • Please call 000 in an emergency
  • StandBy Support After Suicide – 1300 727 247

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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]]> Suicide grief hope Lived experience impact post vention trauma physically close suicide notes why blame guilt aftermath statistics complexity process witnesses celebrity Robin Williams love like single mum mental health episodes death sick alcohol money boarding school violence anger coercive control share boundaries Social Futures community vicarious trauma wellbeing plan life changing mentors supervision stigma children honest age appropriate NCCG National Centre for Childhood Grief bereavement cancer future group therapy neurodivergent ADHD therapy neglect confusing selfish crazy choice miss shocking coping isolation stress validation safety plan sad systemic peer work breast cancer psychology laughter experience listen privilege smile healing showing up Dr Emily The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Karissa Lewis Suicide, grief, hope Lived experience, impact, post vention, trauma, physically close, suicide notes, why, blame, guilt, aftermath, statistics, complexity, process, witnesses, celebrity, Robin Williams, love, like, single mum, mental health episodes, death, sick, alcohol, money, boarding school, violence, anger, coercive control, share, boundaries, Social Futures, community, vicarious trauma, wellbeing plan, life changing, mentors, supervision, stigma, children, honest, age appropriate, NCCG, National Centre for Childhood Grief, bereavement, cancer, future, group therapy, neurodivergent, ADHD, therapy, neglect, confusing, selfish, crazy, choice, miss, shocking, coping, isolation, stress, validation, safety plan, sad, systemic, peer work, breast cancer, psychology, laughter, experience, listen, privilege, smile, healing, showing up, Dr Emily, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Karissa Lewis full 7 37 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7abb87b7-0468-46de-9fc2-b34b0061cee2 7abb87b7-0468-46de-9fc2-b34b0061cee2 Sun, 07 Sep 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4801 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/karissa-lewis-were-not-better-off-without-you Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life Dr Emily - The Meaning of Mid-Life Mid-life crises have a bad rap.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car).

Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose.

Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly.

And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world.

Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o

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]]> Mid-life crises have a bad rap.

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Joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove, this emisode is for everyone, but especially for those who’s back goes out more than them, and who are trying to fill the void with purpose (or a ponytail, or a sports car).

Technically, you’re in your mid-life from about the ages of 35-70. Which would be quite bleak, if we didn’t have Dr Emily in the studio to reframe this period of our lives with hope, meaning and purpose.

Tuning into what our soul is yearning for, Dr Emily discusses how we can intentionally look at generating legacy, combat narratives which suggest “we should have it all worked out”, and maybe even turn our intelligence into a …. um, butterfly.

And then we hear from Josh, who’s right in the thick of it. Cue tears. Cue hugs. Cue sending Josh all of the love in the entire world.

Dr Em, you’ve hit the nail on the head with this one.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/r6tdU-r5k4o

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

📖Things to read

💻Things to check out

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]]> Midlife purpose identity Challenge therapy psychology friend Elizabeth Day developmental task meaning parenting child-free fearful lost confused peace happiness sadness creative age Erik Erikson identity conflict generativity stagnation menopause mid-life crisis nurture legacy goals intentions James Hollis Jungian therapy Carl Jung Arthur C Brooks psyche psychopathology suffering of the soul achievement milestones crisis realisation journey growth existential crises bored unfulfilled ego avoidance time courage grief significant loss sandwich generation suicide suicide risk suicidal ideation comparison hope expectation regret disappointment rumination life circumstances emotion childhood the delusion of living Ron Siegel freedom health health anxiety uncertainty cancer fluid intelligence problem solving abstract thinking science crystalised intelligence butterfly mentoring teaching wisdom rest stillness burnout change depression alone unknown bravery balloon fatherhood space people pleasing narratives crises stimulus golf mature aged student play curiosity The Imperfects Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Unstuck Midlife, purpose, identity Challenge, therapy, psychology, friend, Elizabeth Day, developmental task, meaning, parenting, child-free, fearful, lost, confused, peace, happiness, sadness, creative, age, Erik Erikson, identity, conflict, generativity, stagnation, menopause, mid-life crisis, nurture, legacy, goals, intentions, James Hollis, Jungian therapy, Carl Jung, Arthur C Brooks, psyche, psychopathology, suffering of the soul, achievement, milestones, crisis, realisation, journey, growth, existential crises, bored, unfulfilled, ego, avoidance, time, courage, grief, significant loss, sandwich generation, suicide, suicide risk, suicidal ideation, comparison, hope, expectation, regret, disappointment, rumination, life circumstances, emotion, childhood, the delusion of living, Ron Siegel, freedom, health, health anxiety, uncertainty, cancer, fluid intelligence, problem solving, abstract thinking, science, crystalised intelligence, butterfly, mentoring, teaching, wisdom, rest, stillness, burnout, change, depression, alone, unknown, bravery, balloon, fatherhood, space, people pleasing, narratives, crises, stimulus, golf, mature aged student, play, curiosity, The Imperfects, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Unstuck full 7 36 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ae31dc2c-b09e-4c41-9593-b347006ba69c ae31dc2c-b09e-4c41-9593-b347006ba69c Sun, 31 Aug 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5101 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-the-meaning-of-mid-life Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken Hannah Ferguson - Outspoken But Not Broken Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place.

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In saying that, everything Hannah tries (and touches), inevitably turns to gold (media company, podcast, author, you get the point).

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah answers the question, “what have you learnt about love from the way you were cared for as a child?”

Recounting the moment she was asked to be responsible for the lives of her siblings, Hannah is incredibly vulnerable and honest in reflecting on the status of her relationship with her parents now, and goes deep with Ryan about the importance of intention.

In the spirit of her word of the year being ‘soft’, Hannah and Josh unpack why she has felt undesirable and undatable, and what makes her current partner feel like forev- a very long time (this could age poorly, but hopefully won’t).

Hannah, our BFLT.

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🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.

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]]> Not shut down by the fear of humiliation, Hannah Ferguson believes her biggest failure would be to never try in the first place.

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In saying that, everything Hannah tries (and touches), inevitably turns to gold (media company, podcast, author, you get the point).

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah answers the question, “what have you learnt about love from the way you were cared for as a child?”

Recounting the moment she was asked to be responsible for the lives of her siblings, Hannah is incredibly vulnerable and honest in reflecting on the status of her relationship with her parents now, and goes deep with Ryan about the importance of intention.

In the spirit of her word of the year being ‘soft’, Hannah and Josh unpack why she has felt undesirable and undatable, and what makes her current partner feel like forev- a very long time (this could age poorly, but hopefully won’t).

Hannah, our BFLT.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3JLOd7S

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🎧Things to listen to

📺Things to watch

📖Things to read

💻Things to check out

🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - http://bit.ly/4lyuuWz

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> hugh van cuylenburg ryan shelton josh van cuylenburg hannah ferguson cheek media politics relationships instagram online news gen z hugh van cuylenburg, ryan shelton, josh van cuylenburg, hannah ferguson, cheek media, politics, relationships, instagram, online, news, gen z full 7 35 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e47c3e9f-8c23-41a1-8d79-b33f00494811 e47c3e9f-8c23-41a1-8d79-b33f00494811 Sun, 24 Aug 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5006 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hannah-ferguson-caring-repairing Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make.

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A leader from the beginning of his career, Dyson was living his childhood dream playing AFL for the Essendon Bombers when everything turned upside down.

In this episode, Dyson chats to Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about his relationship with trust, his teammates and the public in the aftermath of the scandal. Reframing, and rebuilding, Dyson shares how he was able to find joy, empathy and positivity in footy, and life, again.

Hugh discusses with Dyson how he chased control through limiting calories, which resulted in a period of disordered eating and finally, the guys talk about Dyson’s relationship with Harrison, and the starting of Haych the Label.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/41EIbw1

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🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place to visit - https://butterfly.org.au

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Inside what might be the biggest scandal in Australian sporting history, Dyson Heppell, at 23 years old, found himself at the centre with a choice to make.

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A leader from the beginning of his career, Dyson was living his childhood dream playing AFL for the Essendon Bombers when everything turned upside down.

In this episode, Dyson chats to Hugh, Ryan, and Josh about his relationship with trust, his teammates and the public in the aftermath of the scandal. Reframing, and rebuilding, Dyson shares how he was able to find joy, empathy and positivity in footy, and life, again.

Hugh discusses with Dyson how he chased control through limiting calories, which resulted in a period of disordered eating and finally, the guys talk about Dyson’s relationship with Harrison, and the starting of Haych the Label.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/41EIbw1

🎧Things to listen to

🧢Things to check out

🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, the Butterfly Foundation 1800 33 4673 is a great place to visit - https://butterfly.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Forgiveness leadership friendship Essendon football club afl football sport nicknames megatron Puss in Boots supplement scandal kindness compassion disordered eating purpose meaning direction Jobe Watson wellbeing guilt emotion lawyers the resilience project gratitude empathy mindfulness Hawthorn football club Haych the label calorie counting food restriction sports psychology player development James Hird love loyalty support trust relationships mentoring dirty dozen mental health positivity optimism The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dyson Heppell Forgiveness, leadership, friendship Essendon football club, afl, football, sport, nicknames, megatron, Puss in Boots, supplement scandal, kindness, compassion, disordered eating, purpose, meaning, direction, Jobe Watson, wellbeing, guilt, emotion, lawyers, the resilience project, gratitude, empathy, mindfulness, Hawthorn football club, Haych the label, calorie counting, food restriction, sports psychology, player development, James Hird, love, loyalty, support, trust, relationships, mentoring, dirty dozen, mental health, positivity, optimism, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dyson Heppell full 7 34 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 01c69742-658e-4079-80a1-b3390073c811 01c69742-658e-4079-80a1-b3390073c811 Sun, 17 Aug 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5584 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dyson-heppell-whatever-it-takes-to-forgive Andy Cooks - Andy Doesn't Drink (Anymore) Andy Cooks - Andy Doesn't Drink (Anymore) Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea?

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Andy Hearnden, better known for his online moniker Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and home cook extraordinaire, with more YouTube and TikTok followers than the population of a small country.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Andy answers the question, “what’s been your biggest failure and how was it good or bad for you?”

Imitating the behaviour of others around him, alcohol became a normal part of Andy’s daily routine, and eventually, his identity. Andy opens up to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the non-linear nature of his sobriety journey, and the incredible support of his partner Katelyn (Babe).

As a garnish, Andy chats to Ry about breaking the cycle of poor people management, and learning how to become a leader.

Andy, you can cook (or chat) with us anytime.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/Pq8iKXWIfGA 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Hey Babe, what’s for (vulnerabili)tea?

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Andy Hearnden, better known for his online moniker Andy Cooks, is a professional chef and home cook extraordinaire, with more YouTube and TikTok followers than the population of a small country.

Joining us in the Vulnerabilitea House, Andy answers the question, “what’s been your biggest failure and how was it good or bad for you?”

Imitating the behaviour of others around him, alcohol became a normal part of Andy’s daily routine, and eventually, his identity. Andy opens up to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the non-linear nature of his sobriety journey, and the incredible support of his partner Katelyn (Babe).

As a garnish, Andy chats to Ry about breaking the cycle of poor people management, and learning how to become a leader.

Andy, you can cook (or chat) with us anytime.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/Pq8iKXWIfGA 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Addiction sobriety failure Cooking London Auckland gastronomy Tom’s Kitchen Tom Atkins Notting Hill Adele Jamiroquai jazz Emirates St Ali Ben Shewry learn family food Katelyn growth YouTube TikTok chef social media fail quickly shame industry alcohol abuse behaviour purpose shakes alcoholic Anthony Bourdain partying identity care linear confrontation support decision people management team work depression exercise relationships Laundry Bar Gill’s Diner drive motivation fun holiday friendship dyslexia Chat GPT writing ideas creativity accessibility self reflection reflection The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Andy Cooks Andy Hearnden Vulnerabilitea House Addiction, sobriety, failure Cooking, London, Auckland, gastronomy, Tom’s Kitchen, Tom Atkins, Notting Hill, Adele, Jamiroquai, jazz, Emirates, St Ali, Ben Shewry, learn, family, food, Katelyn, growth, YouTube, TikTok, chef, social media, fail quickly, shame, industry, alcohol abuse, behaviour, purpose, shakes, alcoholic, Anthony Bourdain, partying, identity, care, linear, confrontation, support, decision, people management, team work, depression, exercise, relationships, Laundry Bar, Gill’s Diner, drive, motivation, fun, holiday, friendship, dyslexia, Chat GPT, writing, ideas, creativity, accessibility, self reflection, reflection, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Andy Cooks, Andy Hearnden, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 33 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a75ee860-206c-4baa-bf3c-b32f0018e221 a75ee860-206c-4baa-bf3c-b32f0018e221 Sun, 10 Aug 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4147 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/andy-cooks-andy-doesnt-drink-anymore Dr Emily - We're Longing for Belonging Dr Emily - We're Longing for Belonging Do you ever wonder whether you belong?

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According to Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, belonging is an evolutionary need, literally built into our DNA. And in our current loneliness epidemic, the feeling of belonging uncertainty can impact our sense of safety, identity and even physical health.

This week, Dr Em goes into the intolerable state of uncertainty, and the self-fulfilling prophecy we may induce when trying to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, for all of us introverts, creating connection involves risk.

Thorough in her research as always, Dr Em explains the benefits to seeking perspective and crafting situations to help others feel like they belong.

AND with a guest star appearance from Producer Bridge, we unpack what it looks and feels like to get it wrong, and how you can work to get it right.

Dr Em, this is our favourite time of the month.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/r1qTUZwBLDw 

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

  • A question of belonging: race, social fit, and achievement by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/4mbPMds
  • A Brief Social-Belonging Intervention Improves Academic and Health Outcomes of Minority Students by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/3UCcS0Y
  • Breaking the cycle of mistrust: wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide by Geoffrey Cohen, David Yeager & others - https://bit.ly/4odZKgc
  • Pygmalion in the Classroom by Robert Rosenthal & Lenore Jacobson - http://bit.ly/4fa2Tte
  • BELONGING: The Feeling That We “Belong” May Depend in Part on “Affirmations” by Mary Rowe - http://bit.ly/4l8fPBo
  • Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/3J8tieV

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Do you ever wonder whether you belong?

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According to Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, belonging is an evolutionary need, literally built into our DNA. And in our current loneliness epidemic, the feeling of belonging uncertainty can impact our sense of safety, identity and even physical health.

This week, Dr Em goes into the intolerable state of uncertainty, and the self-fulfilling prophecy we may induce when trying to protect ourselves. Unfortunately, for all of us introverts, creating connection involves risk.

Thorough in her research as always, Dr Em explains the benefits to seeking perspective and crafting situations to help others feel like they belong.

AND with a guest star appearance from Producer Bridge, we unpack what it looks and feels like to get it wrong, and how you can work to get it right.

Dr Em, this is our favourite time of the month.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/r1qTUZwBLDw 

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

  • A question of belonging: race, social fit, and achievement by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/4mbPMds
  • A Brief Social-Belonging Intervention Improves Academic and Health Outcomes of Minority Students by Geoffrey Cohen and Gregory Walton - https://bit.ly/3UCcS0Y
  • Breaking the cycle of mistrust: wise interventions to provide critical feedback across the racial divide by Geoffrey Cohen, David Yeager & others - https://bit.ly/4odZKgc
  • Pygmalion in the Classroom by Robert Rosenthal & Lenore Jacobson - http://bit.ly/4fa2Tte
  • BELONGING: The Feeling That We “Belong” May Depend in Part on “Affirmations” by Mary Rowe - http://bit.ly/4l8fPBo
  • Unstuck by Dr Emily Musgrove - http://bit.ly/3J8tieV

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 7 32 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e42ed941-b190-4c5c-a2e7-b3290065bb5c e42ed941-b190-4c5c-a2e7-b3290065bb5c Sun, 03 Aug 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4715 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-longing-for-belonging Dis Works - A Game-Changing Study of The Resilience Project Dis Works - A Game-Changing Study of The Resilience Project Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things.

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Today we’re jumping in your ears for a public service announcement: The Resilience Project (TRP) is officially backed by some rock-hard, super-sciencey evidence.

Founded by our very own Hugh (you know, from the podcast), TRP delivers emotionally engaging programs to over 1000 schools across Australia, as well as workplaces and sporting clubs.

This longitudinal, independent study conducted by Roshini Balasooriya Lekamge is peer reviewed (no Ryan, not that pier), published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, and most importantly, highlights a staggering decrease in depression and anxiety for kids who are engaged with TRP programs and content. Yay!

We hope you love this news as much as we do xx

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MGLr0I9UE94

🧐To read this study yourself, click here! - https://bit.ly/4l7y9KR

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Well, well, well, it’s time to prove things.

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Today we’re jumping in your ears for a public service announcement: The Resilience Project (TRP) is officially backed by some rock-hard, super-sciencey evidence.

Founded by our very own Hugh (you know, from the podcast), TRP delivers emotionally engaging programs to over 1000 schools across Australia, as well as workplaces and sporting clubs.

This longitudinal, independent study conducted by Roshini Balasooriya Lekamge is peer reviewed (no Ryan, not that pier), published in The British Journal of Psychiatry, and most importantly, highlights a staggering decrease in depression and anxiety for kids who are engaged with TRP programs and content. Yay!

We hope you love this news as much as we do xx

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/MGLr0I9UE94

🧐To read this study yourself, click here! - https://bit.ly/4l7y9KR

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things to check out

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Resilience mental health happiness Schools proud research data Monash University longitudinal gratitude empathy mindfulness peer reviewed evidence Piers Brosnan Journal of British Psychiatry Resilient Youth mental health crisis seek help help psychology alone resource life satisfaction hope coping skills social media safe parenting neurodiversity curiosity excitement advocacy The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The Imperfects Resilience, mental health, happiness Schools, proud, research, data, Monash University, longitudinal, gratitude, empathy, mindfulness, peer reviewed, evidence, Piers Brosnan, Journal of British Psychiatry, Resilient Youth, mental health crisis, seek help, help, psychology, alone, resource, life satisfaction, hope, coping skills, social media, safe, parenting, neurodiversity, curiosity, excitement, advocacy, The Resilience Project, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The Imperfects bonus 7 31 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c25e3bbc-355f-4fae-b343-b32a006034c7 c25e3bbc-355f-4fae-b343-b32a006034c7 Thu, 31 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0000 2029 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dis-works-a-game-changing-study-of-the-resilience-project Joe Williams - Concussion, Bipolar & Being a Dad Joe Williams - Concussion, Bipolar & Being a Dad Approached by 5 NRL clubs by the time he was 13, Joe was a sporting prodigy.

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Thrust into the spotlight Joe was introduced to a world of concussions, accolades and copious amounts of drugs and alcohol.

Now 18 years sober, Joe is honest about how he found his power through truth and the experiences and learnings through which he navigates racism and understands human behaviour.

Joe chats to Josh about the difference between being a dad and a father, and how he has found compassion for his younger self.

This conversation also touches on Joe’s bipolar diagnosis, his relationship with the natural environment and the incredible difference that he is making in the mental health space now.

Joe, we can’t believe you found the time to join us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here:

📖 Things to read:

📺Things to watch:

💻Things to check out:

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with suicidal ideation, thinking about suicide, or has issues with addiction, please call 000 in an emergency. Lifeline on 13 11 14 is also great resource, as well as the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline on 1800 250 015.

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Approached by 5 NRL clubs by the time he was 13, Joe was a sporting prodigy.

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Thrust into the spotlight Joe was introduced to a world of concussions, accolades and copious amounts of drugs and alcohol.

Now 18 years sober, Joe is honest about how he found his power through truth and the experiences and learnings through which he navigates racism and understands human behaviour.

Joe chats to Josh about the difference between being a dad and a father, and how he has found compassion for his younger self.

This conversation also touches on Joe’s bipolar diagnosis, his relationship with the natural environment and the incredible difference that he is making in the mental health space now.

Joe, we can’t believe you found the time to join us. Thank you for sharing your wisdom.

If you’d like to watch this full video on YouTube, click here:

📖 Things to read:

📺Things to watch:

💻Things to check out:

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with suicidal ideation, thinking about suicide, or has issues with addiction, please call 000 in an emergency. Lifeline on 13 11 14 is also great resource, as well as the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline on 1800 250 015.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 7 30 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b238a267-7b45-47b4-b7db-b32200448d3c b238a267-7b45-47b4-b7db-b32200448d3c Sun, 27 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5166 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/joe-williams-concussion-bipolar-being-a-dad Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control Jess Hill - A 'love' of Control Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.

 

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Joining us in the Academy of Imperfection, Jess explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the unrelenting system of entrapment that many women find themselves in, including a detailed look at the history of coercive control, and the term ‘perspecticide’.

Describing the importance of early intervention for young boys, and answering the question ‘Why don’t they just leave?’, Jess discusses with Josh the difference between guilt and shame, and the fundamental impact of these emotions.

This episode is compulsory listening for everyone (obviously, it’s Jess Hill talking about one of the most significant issues in our country), but especially those who, in their quietest, most vulnerable moment, recognise themselves as a perpetrator and want to take the next steps to changing the cycle of trauma.

Jess, we cannot thank you enough.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPAi24DyWRc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🎧Things to listen to

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🚨If you, or someone you know, is exhibiting behaviour that may be concerning or problematic, call MensLine on 1300 78 99 78, or No To Violence on 1300 766 491.

🚨If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Domestic violence is an epidemic in Australia, and Jess Hill has dedicated a good chunk of time trying to understand why.

 

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

 

Joining us in the Academy of Imperfection, Jess explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh the unrelenting system of entrapment that many women find themselves in, including a detailed look at the history of coercive control, and the term ‘perspecticide’.

Describing the importance of early intervention for young boys, and answering the question ‘Why don’t they just leave?’, Jess discusses with Josh the difference between guilt and shame, and the fundamental impact of these emotions.

This episode is compulsory listening for everyone (obviously, it’s Jess Hill talking about one of the most significant issues in our country), but especially those who, in their quietest, most vulnerable moment, recognise themselves as a perpetrator and want to take the next steps to changing the cycle of trauma.

Jess, we cannot thank you enough.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qPAi24DyWRc

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🎧Things to listen to

📺 Things to watch

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

🚨If you, or someone you know, is exhibiting behaviour that may be concerning or problematic, call MensLine on 1300 78 99 78, or No To Violence on 1300 766 491.

🚨If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 7 29 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b295312d-1399-4a1a-800b-b31d0069e4e1 b295312d-1399-4a1a-800b-b31d0069e4e1 Sun, 20 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5784 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/jess-hill-a-love-of-control Vincent Fantauzzo - A Brush With Pain Vincent Fantauzzo - A Brush With Pain Art saved Vincent Fantauzzo’s life.

 

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In this episode, Vincent paints the picture of his childhood in Broadmeadows, a childhood marked with violence and abuse, and how undiagnosed dyslexia deeply affected Vincent’s ability to read and write, as well as his memory. Now known worldwide for his award winning portraits of Asher Keddie (his now wife), Julia Gillard and Heath Ledger, Vincent chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the incredible father figures, role models and friends that he has connected with throughout his life, and the impact they have had on his sense of self. Vincent, this was a dream come true.

To watch this video on YouTube (a picture paints a thousand words after all), follow this link - 🫖 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwH3A-jSd3U

 

Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back - https://bit.ly/45ZZfQ6

🎨Things to check out

Vincent’s Gallery - https://bit.ly/4n4CyAr

‘Heath’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/3Tp8amG

‘Love Face’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/4lcE4yQ

‘All that’s good in me’ (self-portrait as son Luca) - https://bit.ly/4kJF8u1

 

📖Things to read

Unveiled by Vincent Fantauzzo - https://bit.ly/4e3PsKO

 

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with thoughts surrounding suicide, suicidal ideation or self-harm, please call 000 or Life Life on 13 11 14. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Art saved Vincent Fantauzzo’s life.

 

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In this episode, Vincent paints the picture of his childhood in Broadmeadows, a childhood marked with violence and abuse, and how undiagnosed dyslexia deeply affected Vincent’s ability to read and write, as well as his memory. Now known worldwide for his award winning portraits of Asher Keddie (his now wife), Julia Gillard and Heath Ledger, Vincent chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the incredible father figures, role models and friends that he has connected with throughout his life, and the impact they have had on his sense of self. Vincent, this was a dream come true.

To watch this video on YouTube (a picture paints a thousand words after all), follow this link - 🫖 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gwH3A-jSd3U

 

Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back - https://bit.ly/45ZZfQ6

🎨Things to check out

Vincent’s Gallery - https://bit.ly/4n4CyAr

‘Heath’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/3Tp8amG

‘Love Face’ Portrait - https://bit.ly/4lcE4yQ

‘All that’s good in me’ (self-portrait as son Luca) - https://bit.ly/4kJF8u1

 

📖Things to read

Unveiled by Vincent Fantauzzo - https://bit.ly/4e3PsKO

 

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with thoughts surrounding suicide, suicidal ideation or self-harm, please call 000 or Life Life on 13 11 14. 🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects 🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Vincent Fantauzzo artist art heath ledger archibald trauma violence childhood trauma boxing interview resilience mental health parenting The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Vincent Fantauzzo, artist, art, heath ledger, archibald, trauma, violence, childhood trauma, boxing, interview, resilience, mental health, parenting full 7 28 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 61fb4cb1-c65e-4c33-a36e-b315001c431a 61fb4cb1-c65e-4c33-a36e-b315001c431a Sun, 13 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5996 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/vincent-fantauzzo-a-brush-with-pain Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling Dr Emily - That Guilty Feeling How often do you feel guilty?

Guiding us on a guilt trip today is our resident psychologist (and published author) Dr Emily Musgrove.

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Differentiating guilt from shame or regret, Dr Emily takes us back to the very beginning to explain the purpose and function of guilt as a pro-social behaviour which your cave-person ancestor probably would have used to keep them in the tribe.

When used wisely, guilt is a useful recognition of information that can alert us when we have gone against our values or dropped our moral standards.

However, as Dr Em explains (and people pleasers would know all too well) guilt can quickly becoming overwhelming, exhausting and make you feel like you’re always letting someone down. In this episode, Dr Em dives into the seemingly never-ending guilt of being a parent, especially a mum, as well as the guilt associated with caring for ageing parents.

Dr Em, you’ve done it again.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wLLJdF1edVE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> How often do you feel guilty?

Guiding us on a guilt trip today is our resident psychologist (and published author) Dr Emily Musgrove.

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

Differentiating guilt from shame or regret, Dr Emily takes us back to the very beginning to explain the purpose and function of guilt as a pro-social behaviour which your cave-person ancestor probably would have used to keep them in the tribe.

When used wisely, guilt is a useful recognition of information that can alert us when we have gone against our values or dropped our moral standards.

However, as Dr Em explains (and people pleasers would know all too well) guilt can quickly becoming overwhelming, exhausting and make you feel like you’re always letting someone down. In this episode, Dr Em dives into the seemingly never-ending guilt of being a parent, especially a mum, as well as the guilt associated with caring for ageing parents.

Dr Em, you’ve done it again.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wLLJdF1edVE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖Things to read

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 7 27 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 38fb02d8-b5ab-47cd-bac1-b30d003935d1 38fb02d8-b5ab-47cd-bac1-b30d003935d1 Sun, 06 Jul 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4646 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-em-that-guilty-feeling Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression Cate Campbell - Even Olympians Have Depression 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au - this week, featuring a reflection from none other than Cate Campbell.

By the time she was 16, Cate Campbell had figured out her social currency: achievement, in the form of gold medals, no less.

Four time Olympian and world record holder Cate joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question ‘How and when have you been dishonest with yourself?’

From telling herself she was ‘fine’ to having a breakdown over a Milo, Cate recounts the intense period of loneliness she experienced during Covid, and the depression she ‘didn’t deserve’ to feel.

This episode emphasises the critical importance of connection for our mental health, and Cate so beautifully articulates the impact of finding love at first sight (friend addition), and navigating a changing relationship with her sister Bronte.

Coming of age in a world where perfection is praised and your failure makes headlines, Cate is so generous in sharing how she had learn to ask for help and to value her mental health like she would her physical.

Cate, you are simply the best.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/40ecuJc 

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au - this week, featuring a reflection from none other than Cate Campbell.

By the time she was 16, Cate Campbell had figured out her social currency: achievement, in the form of gold medals, no less.

Four time Olympian and world record holder Cate joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to answer the question ‘How and when have you been dishonest with yourself?’

From telling herself she was ‘fine’ to having a breakdown over a Milo, Cate recounts the intense period of loneliness she experienced during Covid, and the depression she ‘didn’t deserve’ to feel.

This episode emphasises the critical importance of connection for our mental health, and Cate so beautifully articulates the impact of finding love at first sight (friend addition), and navigating a changing relationship with her sister Bronte.

Coming of age in a world where perfection is praised and your failure makes headlines, Cate is so generous in sharing how she had learn to ask for help and to value her mental health like she would her physical.

Cate, you are simply the best.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: http://bit.ly/40ecuJc 

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Depression loneliness connection Olympian gold medal family world records school jealousy shy introverted social currency achievement breathe emotional relationship sisters competition individuality Bronte Campbell friendship grace performance embarrassment shame psychologist therapy sadness unwell fragility stoicism cerebral palsy communication poverty disability privilege journaling psychology internal voice pressure darkness kindness protection reach out athlete confidence medication risk judgement dishonesty coping mechanism perfectionism The Imperfects Vulnerabilitea House cate Campbell Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Depression, loneliness, connection Olympian, gold medal, family, world records, school, jealousy, shy, introverted, social currency, achievement, breathe, emotional, relationship, sisters, competition, individuality, Bronte Campbell, friendship, grace, performance, embarrassment, shame, psychologist, therapy, sadness, unwell, fragility, stoicism, cerebral palsy, communication, poverty, disability, privilege, journaling, psychology, internal voice, pressure, darkness, kindness, protection, reach out, athlete, confidence, medication, risk, judgement, dishonesty, coping mechanism, perfectionism The Imperfects, Vulnerabilitea House, cate Campbell, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg full 7 26 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e06242fa-999f-4418-9400-b300003a1cc8 e06242fa-999f-4418-9400-b300003a1cc8 Sun, 29 Jun 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4669 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/cate-campbell-even-olympians-have-depression Campbell "Struthless" Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing Campbell "Struthless" Walker - Withdrawing with Drawing Do you think of yourself as a creative person? How does being creative make you feel?

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Today we welcome into the Academy of Imperfection (reluctant) expert Campbell Walker, better known by his online moniker, Struthless.

Drawing on his hypothesis that creativity is the antithesis of destruction, Struthless discusses how to train yourself in creativity, the 70% rule in completing a creative pursuit, and, thankfully for Hugh, how to recognise and celebrate your creative brain in everyday tasks.

Struthless opens up about the moment he realised drugs had stopped becoming fun, going deeper into his struggles with addiction and how he reframed one of his most shameful moment by asking “how could this be the best thing that has ever happened to me”?

Ryan and Struthless chat about the mental health benefits, and absolute joy, of journalling (just ask anyone who’s bought My Imperfect Life), and how to make sure that the pain doesn’t win.

Figuratively, illustratively and literally, we loved hanging out with you, Struthless.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3TrGI7I 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction, the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline 1800 250 015, is a great place to start.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Do you think of yourself as a creative person? How does being creative make you feel?

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Today we welcome into the Academy of Imperfection (reluctant) expert Campbell Walker, better known by his online moniker, Struthless.

Drawing on his hypothesis that creativity is the antithesis of destruction, Struthless discusses how to train yourself in creativity, the 70% rule in completing a creative pursuit, and, thankfully for Hugh, how to recognise and celebrate your creative brain in everyday tasks.

Struthless opens up about the moment he realised drugs had stopped becoming fun, going deeper into his struggles with addiction and how he reframed one of his most shameful moment by asking “how could this be the best thing that has ever happened to me”?

Ryan and Struthless chat about the mental health benefits, and absolute joy, of journalling (just ask anyone who’s bought My Imperfect Life), and how to make sure that the pain doesn’t win.

Figuratively, illustratively and literally, we loved hanging out with you, Struthless.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - http://bit.ly/3TrGI7I 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling with addiction, the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline 1800 250 015, is a great place to start.

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Creativity addiction shame Doom bloom YouTube suicide friendship family Pingu escapism drugs pain LHC illustration god particle attempt mental health poverty line answer disassociation shame ritual fun Instagram social media sobriety support love acceptance time career advertising ideas corporate receiving poetry emotions biosphere two winter science resilience mundane anniversary fatherhood responsibility faith perfectionism breath work failure 70% the resilience project Joan Didion journaling Mr Bean freedom unique content community Boss Baby The imperfects academy of imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Campbell walker struthless Doom and Bloom Creativity, addiction, shame Doom, bloom, YouTube, suicide, friendship, family, Pingu, escapism, drugs, pain, LHC, illustration, god particle, attempt, mental health, poverty line, answer, disassociation, shame, ritual, fun, Instagram, social media, sobriety, support, love, acceptance, time, career, advertising, ideas, corporate, receiving, poetry, emotions, biosphere two, winter, science, resilience, mundane, anniversary, fatherhood, responsibility, faith, perfectionism, breath work, failure, 70%, the resilience project, Joan Didion, journaling, Mr Bean, freedom, unique, content, community, Boss Baby The imperfects, academy of imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Campbell walker, struthless, Doom and Bloom full 7 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a805557e-9015-4d2e-a56d-b2f0004567cc a805557e-9015-4d2e-a56d-b2f0004567cc Sun, 22 Jun 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5061 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/campbell-struthless-walker-withdrawing-with-drawing Isaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court Isaac Humphries - Coming Out On Court 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio.

Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates.

However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage.

In this episode, Isaac talks through his horrific experience of childhood bullying, and how basketball became both a sanctuary and a space of secrecy. For Isaac, he never imagined a world where he could keep his career and live authentically as his whole self.

An incredible journey, which includes a Beyonce-esque move of dropping his last name for a time, Isaac describes to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it felt like to come out to his mum, live as an openly gay man for the first time, and finally, come out to the world.

Finding light in the darkest of times, Josh and Isaac discuss the importance of purpose, which prompts Hugh to reflect on how this episode is the epitome of The Imperfects: how vulnerability leads to authentic connection.

Isaac, we love you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see Hugh’s model shot), click here - https://bit.ly/43YQXpc 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

🎧 Things to listen to

📖 Things to read

🏳️‍🌈For some great educational resources, head to Pride in Sport - www.prideinsport.com.au/resources

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

  • QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
  • Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
  • Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> 💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

There is currently only one gay man actively playing in a professional, top-tier basketball league anywhere in the world. And today, we had the enormous privilege of welcoming him into the studio.

Demonstrating Olympic-level vulnerability, Isaac Humphries made global headlines in 2022 when he came out as gay to his basketball teammates.

However, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh learn in this chat, this moment was the result of a lifetime of chaos, confusion, darkness, and ultimately, courage.

In this episode, Isaac talks through his horrific experience of childhood bullying, and how basketball became both a sanctuary and a space of secrecy. For Isaac, he never imagined a world where he could keep his career and live authentically as his whole self.

An incredible journey, which includes a Beyonce-esque move of dropping his last name for a time, Isaac describes to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it felt like to come out to his mum, live as an openly gay man for the first time, and finally, come out to the world.

Finding light in the darkest of times, Josh and Isaac discuss the importance of purpose, which prompts Hugh to reflect on how this episode is the epitome of The Imperfects: how vulnerability leads to authentic connection.

Isaac, we love you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and see Hugh’s model shot), click here - https://bit.ly/43YQXpc 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📺 Things to watch

🎧 Things to listen to

📖 Things to read

🏳️‍🌈For some great educational resources, head to Pride in Sport - www.prideinsport.com.au/resources

🚨If you, or someone you know, is struggling, these are a few great resources

  • QLife - provides anonymous and free LGBTI peer support and referral for people over 18 wanting to talk about sexuality, identity, gender, bodies, feelings or relationships. 1800 184 527, www.qlife.org.au
  • Minus 18 - Through a preventative model of mental health support, Minus 18 tackle social isolation by creating fun-filled spaces where LGBTQIA+ people under 18 feel they belong and are celebrated www.minus18.org.au
  • Lifeline - 13 11 14, www.lifeline.org.au

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Bullying Identity Courage NBL National Basketball League Basketball LGBTQI cricket Pat Cummins India Serbia America Adelaide 36’s R U Okay homophobia negative self-talk suicide sport friendship trust Canada insecure parent bravery teachers environment culture Cronulla diversity achievement music barber shop quartet hypnotherapy children white picket fence suicide attempt be all right family nephew therapist shame pain liberating authenticity confusing support impact vulnerability purpose influencer body image father figure ADHD gay emotional judgement safety leadership values connection The Imperfects Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Isaac Humphries Bullying, Identity, Courage NBL, National Basketball League, Basketball, LGBTQI, cricket, Pat Cummins, India, Serbia, America, Adelaide 36’s, R U Okay, homophobia, negative self-talk, suicide, sport, friendship, trust, Canada, insecure, parent, bravery, teachers, environment, culture, Cronulla, diversity, achievement, music, barber shop quartet, hypnotherapy, children, white picket fence, suicide attempt, be all right, family, nephew, therapist, shame, pain, liberating, authenticity, confusing, support, impact, vulnerability, purpose, influencer, body image, father figure, ADHD, gay, emotional, judgement, safety, leadership, values, connection The Imperfects, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Isaac Humphries full 7 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0c861ad4-bf4d-419e-81f7-b2ec005e719a 0c861ad4-bf4d-419e-81f7-b2ec005e719a Sun, 15 Jun 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5979 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/isaac-humphries-coming-out-on-court Dr Emily - Using The Force For Good Dr Emily - Using The Force For Good This is where the fun begins.

 

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Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory.

Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference.

Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acceptance Commitment Therapy, whilst also pointing out the incredible power of mindfulness (just ask Luke Skywalker).

Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat with Dr Emily about The Hero’s Journey, main character syndrome and how to let go of our ego to embrace your authentic self.

May the Force be with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FGlYG6

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things / people to check out

📖 Things to read

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> This is where the fun begins.

 

💌 Subscribe to our newsletter, the Vulnerabilitea-mail - www.theimperfects.com.au

 

Today we welcome the Return of the Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, to talk about the Force in all its (clinical) glory.

Amongst the immense excitement of Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Dr Emily talks through the lightness and darkness inside us all, and how the presence of a good mentor makes a world of difference.

Bringing psychology back to the forefront of this ep, Dr Emily likens Yoda’s general vibe to the principles of Acceptance Commitment Therapy, whilst also pointing out the incredible power of mindfulness (just ask Luke Skywalker).

Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat with Dr Emily about The Hero’s Journey, main character syndrome and how to let go of our ego to embrace your authentic self.

May the Force be with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FGlYG6

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻Things / people to check out

📖 Things to read

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Star Wars hope mentors Resentment star wars the force Yoda the force awakens Darth Vada human suffering living psychological metaphors a new hope storytelling meaning making harry potter lord of the rings adversity challenge hopeful nostalgia acceptance and commitment therapy personality traits structures the dark triad psychopathy narcissism power manipulation the light triad humanism faith Kantianism Machiavellianism jedi Kylo Ren love emotion regulation feelings Luke Skywalker balance overwhelm avoidance anger anxiety fear aggression fundamental attribution error presence welcoming phone parenting values exposure therapy Maria Ruberto hero’s journey joseph campbell mono myth fourth wing mentor support system grief journaling meaning post traumatic growth denial identity hopelessness The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Unstuck Star Wars, hope, mentors Resentment, star wars, the force, Yoda, the force awakens, Darth Vada, human suffering, living, psychological metaphors, a new hope, storytelling, meaning making, harry potter, lord of the rings, adversity, challenge, hopeful, nostalgia, acceptance and commitment therapy, personality traits, structures, the dark triad, psychopathy, narcissism, power, manipulation, the light triad, humanism, faith, Kantianism Machiavellianism, jedi, Kylo Ren, love, emotion regulation, feelings, Luke Skywalker, balance, overwhelm, avoidance, anger, anxiety, fear, aggression, fundamental attribution error, presence, welcoming, phone, parenting, values, exposure therapy, Maria Ruberto, hero’s journey, joseph campbell, mono myth, fourth wing, mentor, support system, grief, journaling, meaning, post traumatic growth, denial, identity, hopelessness, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove, Unstuck full 7 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 51a1a110-f5ca-40ec-8061-b2ec005dae42 51a1a110-f5ca-40ec-8061-b2ec005dae42 Sun, 08 Jun 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4771 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-use-the-force-for-good Nas Campanella - The First Blind Newsreader in the World Nas Campanella - The First Blind Newsreader in the World As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient).

 

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You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either.

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”

Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity.

Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing.

Nas, it has been an absolute joy.

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]]> As the title suggests, Nas Campanella is really cool (and accomplished and driven and resilient).

 

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You might recognise her voice from the Triple J cinematic universe or know her work as the Disability Affairs Reporter for the ABC. But what you might not know is that Nas is vision impaired, or that a neurological condition means that she can’t read braille either.

In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Nas answers the questions “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”

Chatting to Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Nas talks about her relationship with her disability, and how it shapes her identity.

Nas also dives into a powerful conversation with the guys about the role agency and accessibility in the experience of discrimination, and shares why, if a magical operation could restore her sight, she wouldn’t change a thing.

Nas, it has been an absolute joy.

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Disability identity pride Newsreader ABC person blind braille childhood neurology school teachers anxiety vision impaired sense public speaking phobia hospital memory pressure social butterfly different disability affairs reporter career empathy understanding challenges vulnerability lazy wrong emotion news journalism Disability Royal Commission discrimination opportunity abuse producer trust communication concentration incredible sound unique special reliance website concert tickets agency teenage years belonging comfortable happy authenticity inclusive family parenthood motherhood parenting cane teaching balance fairness privilege friend study support network perspective alone lonely hope trauma legacy busy projects The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Nas Campanella Vulnerabilitea House Disability, identity, pride Newsreader, ABC, person, blind, braille, childhood, neurology, school, teachers, anxiety, vision impaired, sense, public speaking, phobia, hospital, memory, pressure, social butterfly, different, disability affairs reporter, career, empathy, understanding, challenges, vulnerability, lazy, wrong, emotion, news, journalism, Disability Royal Commission, discrimination, opportunity, abuse, producer, trust, communication, concentration, incredible, sound, unique, special, reliance, website, concert tickets, agency, teenage years, belonging, comfortable, happy, authenticity, inclusive, family, parenthood, motherhood, parenting, cane, teaching, balance, fairness, privilege, friend, study, support network, perspective, alone, lonely, hope, trauma, legacy, busy, projects, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Nas Campanella, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e45bcade-aab7-4107-9cf9-b2ec005799f3 e45bcade-aab7-4107-9cf9-b2ec005799f3 Sun, 01 Jun 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4145 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/nas-campanella-the-first-blind-newsreader-in-the-world Dr Louise Newson - It's Hormones. Period. Dr Louise Newson - It's Hormones. Period. It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones.

In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024.

Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed.

Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression.

Dr Louise, this has been life changing.

If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/l4naB7-GKto

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

🎧Things to listen to:

  • The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Talking to my daughter: understanding hormones, contraception, PMS & the gaps in sex ed - https://bit.ly/43vnliX
  • The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Testosterone and the hormone triangle, with Dr Mohit Khera - https://apple.co/4duWhow

💻 Things to check out:

💊To find more information about contraception

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]]> It’s that time of the month (sorry), and we’re welcoming back Dr Louise Newson to talk all things hormones.

In case you missed it, last time we had Dr Louise on the pod, she shared her expertise on perimenopause and menopause. This, to no surprise, was Apple Australia's most shared podcast episode in 2024.

Today, Dr Louise talks to the guys about hormones; what they are, how they impact our lives, and what the difference is between the natural and synthetic forms we can be prescribed.

Discussing the naturally occurring cycles of hormones, as well as the dramatic hormone drop offs that can happen throughout a lifetime, Dr Louise shares the impact of hormones for PMS, PMDD and post-natal depression.

Dr Louise, this has been life changing.

If you would like to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/l4naB7-GKto

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

🎧Things to listen to:

  • The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Talking to my daughter: understanding hormones, contraception, PMS & the gaps in sex ed - https://bit.ly/43vnliX
  • The Dr Louise Newson Podcast - Testosterone and the hormone triangle, with Dr Mohit Khera - https://apple.co/4duWhow

💻 Things to check out:

💊To find more information about contraception

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Hormones contraception advocacy Donald Bradman perimenopause menopause education change chemical messengers health GP Newson Health Clinic Balance App PMS estrogen progesterone testosterone PMDD Post-natal depression cycles biology insulin history 1941 ovaries money market urine synthetic natural commercialised HRT career gynaecology side effects risks science carbon chemical structure the pill period menstruation womb pregnancy studies serotonin dopamine regulate dysregulate pathology cellular process empathy NHS hysteria orgasm vibrator suicide psychiatric hospitals anti-depressants suffering evidence libido age deficiency myelin sheath knowledge The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Louise Newson Academy of Imperfection Hormones, contraception, advocacy Donald Bradman, perimenopause, menopause, education, change, chemical messengers, health, GP, Newson Health Clinic, Balance App, PMS, estrogen, progesterone, testosterone, PMDD, Post-natal depression, cycles, biology, insulin, history, 1941, ovaries, money, market, urine, synthetic, natural, commercialised, HRT, career, gynaecology, side effects, risks, science, carbon, chemical structure, the pill, period, menstruation, womb, pregnancy, studies, serotonin, dopamine, regulate, dysregulate, pathology, cellular process, empathy, NHS, hysteria, orgasm, vibrator, suicide, psychiatric hospitals, anti-depressants, suffering, evidence, libido, age, deficiency, myelin sheath, knowledge The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Louise Newson, Academy of Imperfection full 7 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg cf1660b4-c43e-4678-9e66-b2e4003c3928 cf1660b4-c43e-4678-9e66-b2e4003c3928 Sun, 25 May 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5891 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-louise-newson-its-hormones-period Dr Emily - How To Get UNSTUCK Dr Emily - How To Get UNSTUCK Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here!

Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live.

Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it.

We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things).

At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change.

It’s compulsory reading.

Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4mvgSgE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read:

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Quick! Is anyone here an author? Yes! And her book is finally here!

Our favourite psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, has published the most anticipated book of the year, Unstuck: A guide to finding your way forward to the life you want to live.

Feeling stuck, and the yearning for something to change, is a human experience. And in Unstuck, Dr Emily doesn’t just acknowledge this feeling, she walks with you through it.

We’re talking values, we’re talking an introduction to acceptance commitment therapy, and we’re talking self-compassion (among many, many other things).

At its core, this book is a model for how we might approach change.

It’s compulsory reading.

Unstuck is available now in all good bookstores, or you can order it online here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4mvgSgE

🫖Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read:

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Unstuck change life Book love author opportunity writing hard enrichment therapy quote narrative acceptance commitment therapy mindfulness theoretical therapeutic audiobook recording Mary Oliver wild precious breast cancer cancer values children pain suffering grief lived experience authenticity diagnosis curiosity openness knowledge grounding emotions exercise problems joy The Imperfects Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Unstuck, change, life Book, love, author, opportunity, writing, hard, enrichment, therapy, quote, narrative, acceptance commitment therapy, mindfulness, theoretical, therapeutic, audiobook, recording, Mary Oliver, wild, precious, breast cancer, cancer, values, children, pain, suffering, grief, lived experience, authenticity, diagnosis, curiosity, openness, knowledge, grounding, emotions, exercise, problems, joy The Imperfects, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton bonus 7 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c702c24e-4163-471b-a7ee-b2e30184b725 c702c24e-4163-471b-a7ee-b2e30184b725 Thu, 22 May 2025 19:00:00 +0000 1656 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-how-to-get-unstuck Monty Dimond - Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired Monty Dimond - Sick & Tired of Being Sick & Tired It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio.

In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year.

Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others.

If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy).

Monty, we are in awe of you.

To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3GVUYmf

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Things to listen to:

💻 Things to check out:

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

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🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> It’s a Monty type of day - and thank god, because this week we welcome the brilliant Monty Dimond into the studio.

In this episode, Monty opens up about the heartbreak of losing her mum—her person, her sense of home and safety. She speaks candidly about the tunnel vision of ambition, living with imposter syndrome, and how a debilitating chronic illness left her bed-bound for 90% of last year.

Hugh and Monty share an incredibly vulnerable chat about parenting neurodivergent children; sharing the intense challenges, boundless love and ways they can show compassion to themselves and others.

If you're not familiar with Monty yet, she's the founder and co-host of the Show and Tell platform, which includes the newly released podcast iChronic, Monty is a pillar of Australian media (including a co-hosting a national drive show with our very own Sheltzy).

Monty, we are in awe of you.

To watch this full video of YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3GVUYmf

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Things to listen to:

💻 Things to check out:

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfects, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

🩷 AND you can subscribe to A Little More Imperfects through Apple Podcasts too, here apple.co/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Neurodiversity grief chronic illness Radio AI hair nostalgic nerves vulnerable comedy women’s rights FM breakfast radio emotional death home connection dependence separation safety memory adult cancer oncology ADHD hyperfocus haunted pain trauma sadness happiness ambition disk jockey black thunder pilots imposter syndrome freelance ratings job security pregnancy miscarriage industry show and tell podcast self-esteem identity purpose inner critic occupation supporting yourself secret bank account anxiety mental health depression migraines lonely ichronic embarrassment sickness carer combination ADHD time blindness compassion understanding dumb comparison challenge resilience choice self-awareness professional help diagnosis praise achievement awe laughter money The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Monty Dimond Neurodiversity, grief, chronic illness Radio, AI, hair, nostalgic, nerves, vulnerable, comedy, women’s rights, FM breakfast radio, emotional, death, home, connection, dependence, separation, safety, memory, adult, cancer, oncology, ADHD, hyperfocus, haunted, pain, trauma, sadness, happiness, ambition, disk jockey, black thunder pilots, imposter syndrome, freelance, ratings, job security, pregnancy, miscarriage, industry, show and tell, podcast, self-esteem, identity, purpose, inner critic, occupation, supporting yourself, secret bank account, anxiety, mental health, depression, migraines, lonely, ichronic, embarrassment, sickness, carer, combination ADHD, time blindness, compassion, understanding, dumb, comparison, challenge, resilience, choice, self-awareness, professional help, diagnosis, praise, achievement, awe, laughter, money, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Monty Dimond full 7 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ddebc2ca-ff13-4876-84d9-b2de00a0c96e ddebc2ca-ff13-4876-84d9-b2de00a0c96e Sun, 18 May 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5891 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/monty-dimond-sick-tired-of-being-sick-tired Dr Emily - Grief Lightening Dr Emily - Grief Lightening What would it look like if we were more open to grief?

This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective.

Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well.

Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path. 
Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear.

And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jKdlco 

If you would like to pre-order Em’s book Unstuck, click here: https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻 Things to check out

☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> What would it look like if we were more open to grief?

This week, as promised, we are joined by our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove to talk through grief from a clinical perspective.

Grief is proof of life, and proof of love. And while it is an incredibly unique experience for each person, there is a universality to it as well.

Dr Em walks us through how grief impacts the brain on a neurological level, and unpacks its unpredictable, non-linear path. 
Explaining the difference between grief and grieving, Em reminds us about the importance of turning towards the pain and how to learn to ride the waves of grief, rather than expecting them to disappear.

And on a practical level, Ryan asks about what you can actually do for someone in grief to show them love and support.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jKdlco 

If you would like to pre-order Em’s book Unstuck, click here: https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻 Things to check out

☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, Griefline 1300 845 745 is a great place to start

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 7 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ac010059-c9bb-4950-9b27-b2d700044f2f ac010059-c9bb-4950-9b27-b2d700044f2f Sun, 11 May 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5187 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-grief-lightening Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift Lauren Zonfrillo - Grief: The Shittest Greatest Gift Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully.

Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children.

In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right.

Lauren, thank you for such a special episode.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4mi4mkD 

📖 Things to read:

☎️ If you, or someone you know, is struggling with grief, these are some great resources to start with

🩷To host your own Vulnerabilitea House, purchase the Vulnerabilitea House Cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩵To purchase our journal (or your novel) My Imperfect Life, click here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

🩷To subscribe to the Vulnerabilitea-mail weekly newsletter, join through our website - www.theimperfects.com.au

🩵To join our patreon community, A Little More Imperfect, follow this link - patreon.com/theimperfects

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Lauren Zonfrillo knows grief - intimately, devastatingly, and meaningfully.

Almost two years since the sudden death of her husband Jock, Lauren describes grief as the ‘shittest, greatest gift’, and how she navigated unimaginable loss while continuing to parent two young children.

In this episode, Lauren shares what she learnt about herself in the days, weeks, and months since Jock’s passing. Discussing with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her evolving relationship with spirituality, Lauren vulnerably shares how she is beginning to reconcile her identity as a mother, widow, and person in her own right.

Lauren, thank you for such a special episode.

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]]> Grief spirituality parenting Till Death Do Us Part charisma grace Jock Zonfrillo aura presence MasterChef loss identity heart marketing happiness chaos pain stillness hurt Rome husband cooking breakfast trauma emotions numbness griefnesia brain journals grief partner anger blame wishes emotional capability overwhelm joy innocence affluent loneliness medication panic attacks drinking alcohol sleep guilt coroners office privacy funeral ritual burial control gratitude fun eulogy widow celebration addiction sensitivity coping time shock romantic therapy therapist drugs heroin writing The Imperfect Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Lauren Zonfrillo Grief, spirituality, parenting Till Death Do Us Part, charisma, grace, Jock Zonfrillo, aura, presence, MasterChef, loss, identity, heart, marketing, happiness, chaos, pain, stillness, hurt, Rome, husband, cooking, breakfast, trauma, emotions, numbness, griefnesia, brain, journals, grief partner, anger, blame, wishes, emotional capability, overwhelm, joy, innocence, affluent, loneliness, medication, panic attacks, drinking, alcohol, sleep, guilt, coroners office, privacy, funeral, ritual, burial, control, gratitude, fun, eulogy, widow, celebration, addiction, sensitivity, coping, time, shock, romantic, therapy, therapist, drugs, heroin, writing The Imperfect, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Lauren Zonfrillo full 7 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 2bc98578-61f8-4835-87dd-b2d1005e6e9a 2bc98578-61f8-4835-87dd-b2d1005e6e9a Sun, 04 May 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5089 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/lauren-zonfrillo-grief-the-shittest-greatest-gift Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon) Hugh’s ADHD…brief (Bonus From Patreon) It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain.

After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD.

Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD.

Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths.

This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of.

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]]> It’s the episode we’ve all been waiting for – a peek inside Hugh’s brain.

After our episode with psychologist and ADHD expert Janelle Booker - and a reboot of his algorithm that Hugh related to on a spiritual level - Hugh began to wonder whether his time-blindness, reject sensitivity and inability to focus on things he wasn’t interested in, could be explained by ADHD.

Turns out, yeah. Hugh pretty much definitely has ADHD.

Exploring Hugh’s lived experience, Ryan and Josh chat through how Hugh has reconciled his incredible frustrations into acknowledgment and celebration for his strengths.

This episode is a snippet from an A Little More Imperfects Patreon episode: a place where we publish fortnightly bonus episode, early access to tickets and talk to our community about upcoming guests, bonus content and what they want to see more of.

If you would like to become a member of our Patreon community, follow this link: www.patreon.com/theimperfects

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/4cGOPpO

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

💻 Things to check out

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]]> ADHD Neurodiversity Compassion Janelle Booker negativity self-indulgence help stereotypes frustration anxiety depression algorithm UNILAD LADBible Alex Patridge memes ChatGPT diagnosis psychiatrist psychologist mental health childhood shock high pressure shame judgement self-esteem forgiveness organisation respect brain mistakes care empathy time- blindness guilt distraction concentration intelligence rejection sensitivity dysmorphia rejection people pleasing live tour big ideas hyperfocus crisis creatively ADHD coach breathwork meditation cold shower dopamine challenges behaviour focus medication The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton A Little More Imperfects ADHD, Neurodiversity, Compassion Janelle Booker, negativity, self-indulgence, help, stereotypes, frustration, anxiety, depression, algorithm, UNILAD, LADBible, Alex Patridge, memes, ChatGPT, diagnosis, psychiatrist, psychologist, mental health, childhood, shock, high pressure, shame, judgement, self-esteem, forgiveness, organisation, respect, brain, mistakes, care, empathy, time- blindness, guilt, distraction, concentration, intelligence, rejection sensitivity dysmorphia, rejection, people pleasing, live tour, big ideas, hyperfocus, crisis, creatively, ADHD coach, breathwork, meditation, cold shower, dopamine, challenges, behaviour, focus, medication, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, A Little More Imperfects bonus 7 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e4b30191-a3d5-4f61-90e7-b2c9001ab703 e4b30191-a3d5-4f61-90e7-b2c9001ab703 Sun, 27 Apr 2025 19:00:00 +0000 3325 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hugh-s-adhd-brief-bonus-from-patreon Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating Simon Hill - Eating Imperfectly vs Perfectly Eating Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand.

Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science.

In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease.

Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat.

And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day.

Simon, thank you for all that you says.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

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🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support:

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]]> Chasing the ‘perfect’ diet is a trap; which is really great news for our brand.

Simon Hill, nutritionist, physiotherapist, and host of The Proof podcast, joins us in the Academy of Imperfection to break down whether the latest dietary trends on social media actually match up with nutrition science.

In this episode, Simon unpacks the role of both genetics and lifestyle choices in shaping our health, and specifically our risk of disease.

Acknowledging the pressure, and sometimes shame, that comes with chasing the ‘perfect’ diet, Hugh, Ryan, and Josh discuss how to encourage kids to build positive relationships with food, and the incredible significance of ‘joy’ and ‘human connection’, that occurs when we get together to eat.

And then, of course, we play Simon Says and bust some food-myths about supplements, plant protein, and whether breakfast is the most important meal of the day.

Simon, thank you for all that you says.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4jyH2NL 

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

📖 Things to read:

🎧Things to listen to:

💻Things to research:

🦋If this conversation has raised some uncomfortable feelings for you around eating and food, these are some great resources to find support:

🩷If you want A Little More Imperfects, join our Patreon to get just that - www.patreon.com/theimperfects

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]]> Nutrition health shame Diet vegetarian information confusion science agency confidence anxiety heart attack lifestyle healthcare debrief prognosis genetics chronic disease pre-disposition lifestyle choices physiotherapy nature vs nurture biomechanics rehabilitation research Felice Jacka context perfection pressure orthorexia clean better cooking frozen vegetables cancer diabetes fibre legumes whole grains plant diversity mental health fruit metabolism cholesterol micro-biome ApoB stroke fun perimenopause carnivore diet creatine supplements 38TERA soy and soy products evolution breast cancer microwaves fasting egg yolks plant protein breakfast ethics vegan Mediterranean eating disorders The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Simon Hill Nutrition, health, shame Diet, vegetarian, information, confusion, science, agency, confidence, anxiety, heart attack, lifestyle, healthcare, debrief, prognosis, genetics, chronic disease, pre-disposition, lifestyle choices, physiotherapy, nature vs nurture, biomechanics, rehabilitation, research, Felice Jacka, context, perfection, pressure, orthorexia, clean, better, cooking, frozen vegetables, cancer, diabetes, fibre, legumes, whole grains, plant diversity, mental health, fruit, metabolism, cholesterol, micro-biome, ApoB, stroke, fun, perimenopause, carnivore diet, creatine, supplements, 38TERA, soy and soy products, evolution, breast cancer, microwaves, fasting, egg yolks, plant protein, breakfast, ethics, vegan, Mediterranean, eating disorders, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Simon Hill full 7 15 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 443f559f-2016-4adb-912a-b2c20042ed8d 443f559f-2016-4adb-912a-b2c20042ed8d Sun, 20 Apr 2025 19:00:00 +0000 5724 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/simon-hill-eating-imperfectly-vs-perfectly-eating Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength Courtney Ugle - Intergenerational Strength Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her.

CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today.

In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you.

Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon.

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]]> Trauma ran through Courtney Ugle’s family - until it ran into her.

CEO and founder of Waangkiny, as well as a football superstar, Courtney is on a mission to transform her adversity into resilience, power, and love.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Courtney answers the question, “what childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?”, diving into how she copes with the loss of her greatest source of unconditional love and support, and how this drives the work that she does today.

In conversation with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Courtney speaks to the raw intersection of grief and joy, and what it is like to realise that the only person coming to save you, is you.

Courtney, we can’t wait to have an oat magic with you soon.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/G_Rdt1EhA0U

If you would like to host your own Vulneratilitea House, you can purchase the cards here - https://bit.ly/3Cx4tGP

💻 Things to checkout:

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🚨If you, or someone you know, has experienced or is at risk of domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you’re feeling unsafe, call 000. 

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]]> Trauma love pride Vulnerability Essendon Bombers indigenous Aboriginal Western Bulldogs North Melbourne Kangaroos Djirra YoungLuv community strength resilience coffee single parent instant coffee Waangkiny Bunbury small town storytelling learning help drugs alcohol addiction idolisation judgement sharing generosity abuse domestic abuse normalised fear family shame respect awe tragedy murder Perth present money Swann District Footy Club kindness compassion football escape avoidance define soul energy spiritual ancestors sisters pride supporter adversity safety net acknowledgement survival mode intergenerational trauma heal Brendan Major romantic relationships financial abuse The Imperfects Vulnerabilitea House Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Courtney Ugle Trauma, love, pride Vulnerability, Essendon Bombers, indigenous, Aboriginal, Western Bulldogs, North Melbourne Kangaroos, Djirra, YoungLuv, community, strength, resilience, coffee, single parent, instant coffee, Waangkiny, Bunbury, small town, storytelling, learning, help, drugs, alcohol, addiction, idolisation, judgement, sharing, generosity, abuse, domestic abuse, normalised, fear, family, shame, respect, awe, tragedy, murder, Perth, present, money, Swann District Footy Club, kindness, compassion, football, escape, avoidance, define, soul, energy, spiritual, ancestors, sisters, pride, supporter, adversity, safety net, acknowledgement, survival mode, intergenerational trauma, heal, Brendan Major, romantic relationships, financial abuse The Imperfects, Vulnerabilitea House, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Courtney Ugle full 7 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 586b2461-a0e3-45dd-a348-b2bb005f1b87 586b2461-a0e3-45dd-a348-b2bb005f1b87 Sun, 13 Apr 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4586 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/courtney-ugle-intergenerational-strength Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On Dr Emily - How to Be Leaned On Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will.

To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove.

Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice.

Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity.

To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3XILzEe

To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

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]]> Chances are, you’ve supported someone going through a tough time. And while the meaning sustains the sacrifice, today we want to support you ….. supporting them. A bit of support inception, if you will.

To guide us through this incredibly complex and meaningful topic is our resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove.

Navigating relationships requires awareness. Showing up as a partner, friend, parent, or sibling while holding space for pain – without being overwhelmed – is a skill that takes practice.

Reminding us that no one hates their struggle more than the person suffering, Dr Em delves into some practical strategies of support, such as walking the line between respect and care, as well as always understanding the difference between effort and capacity.

To all of the supporters and carers listening, we see you. We love you. And we hope you felt held, too.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3XILzEe

To pre-order Dr. Em’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🎧 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

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]]> Support Care Empathy Psychologist mental health pain anxiety depression nuance unpredictable uncertain suicidal eating disorder therapy love OCD ADHD rejection sensitivity dysmorphia helpless worry future longevity pride complex role carer partner soothe calm be there judgement frustration better active listening open ended questions curiosity patronizing genuine authentic sincere chronic episodic capacity schema theory respect inadequate defensiveness readiness withdraw parenting mermaid pirates violent safety emotional contagion mirror neurons emotional mimicry joy empathy vulnerability co-regulating dis-regulating Esther Perel power powerless impact identity resentment guilt communication burnout compassion fatigue psychological functioning goal setting natural respite NDIS grief loneliness meaning sacrifice awareness mindfulness The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Support, Care, Empathy Psychologist, mental health, pain, anxiety, depression, nuance, unpredictable, uncertain, suicidal, eating disorder, therapy, love, OCD, ADHD, rejection sensitivity dysmorphia, helpless, worry, future, longevity, pride, complex, role, carer, partner, soothe, calm, be there, judgement, frustration, better, active listening, open ended questions, curiosity, patronizing, genuine, authentic, sincere, chronic, episodic, capacity, schema theory, respect, inadequate, defensiveness, readiness, withdraw, parenting, mermaid, pirates, violent, safety, emotional contagion, mirror neurons, emotional mimicry, joy, empathy, vulnerability, co-regulating, dis-regulating, Esther Perel, power, powerless, impact, identity, resentment, guilt, communication, burnout, compassion fatigue, psychological functioning, goal setting, natural, respite, NDIS, grief, loneliness, meaning, sacrifice, awareness, mindfulness, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove full 7 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3e5a7bbe-0ecd-4656-b95a-b2b4016b2ce0 3e5a7bbe-0ecd-4656-b95a-b2b4016b2ce0 Sun, 06 Apr 2025 19:00:00 +0000 4976 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-how-to-be-leaned-on Danielle Laidley PART 2 - Her Public Outing Danielle Laidley PART 2 - Her Public Outing This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below).

In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity.

A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others.

To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2 

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]]> This is PART TWO of our chat with footballer, coach and uniter of people, Danielle Laidley. We HIGHLY recommend you go back and listen to part one if you haven’t heard it (linked below).

In this episode, Danielle recounts how it felt to be publicly outed, her own voice removed as the media crafted their own narrative about her identity.

A story of courage, resilience and love, Danielle vulnerably shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she united her two worlds, and found the strength to live authentically for herself, and become a role model for others.

To watch the entire interview with Danielle on YouTube, click here - https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2 

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]]> Transgender authenticity courage Ghost painting pride suicide suicidal thoughts trans community AFL gender dysphoria secret love love story trauma public outing resilience nail polish Vulnerabilitea Mick Fanning presence brain tumour empathy childhood identity cricket football brother disconnection quiet introvert long hair connection teenage depression anxiety sport balance shame Caroline Cossey West Coast Eagles masculinity addiction obsession compartmentalisation fear pedestal behaviour role playing diagnosis burden substance abuse children family forgiveness parenting grief alcohol cocaine responsibility self-sabotage workaholic psychologist sleep vulnerability transition media change of legislation training package education care embrace raw jealousy envy gender diverse youth rainbow community community resources The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Danielle Laidley Transgender, authenticity, courage Ghost, painting, pride, suicide, suicidal thoughts, trans community, AFL, gender dysphoria, secret, love, love story, trauma, public outing, resilience, nail polish, Vulnerabilitea, Mick Fanning, presence, brain tumour, empathy, childhood, identity, cricket, football, brother, disconnection, quiet, introvert, long hair, connection, teenage, depression, anxiety, sport, balance, shame, Caroline Cossey, West Coast Eagles, masculinity, addiction, obsession, compartmentalisation, fear, pedestal, behaviour, role playing, diagnosis, burden, substance abuse, children, family, forgiveness, parenting, grief, alcohol, cocaine, responsibility, self-sabotage, workaholic, psychologist, sleep, vulnerability, transition, media, change of legislation, training package, education, care, embrace, raw, jealousy, envy, gender diverse youth, rainbow community, community, resources, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Danielle Laidley full 7 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d5a495c6-ac86-474d-8305-b2ad001ae2cf d5a495c6-ac86-474d-8305-b2ad001ae2cf Sun, 30 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 2877 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/danielle-laidley-part-2-her-public-outing Danielle Laidley PART 1 - Her Private Struggle Danielle Laidley PART 1 - Her Private Struggle Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman.

An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic.

Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes.

In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy.

Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self.

You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2 

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]]> Danielle May Laidley was known by a different name for the first 53 years of her life. We are so proud that this episode is a contributing factor to her reclaiming her narrative as a transgender woman.

An extremely talented AFL footballer, Danielle would go on to become a highly respected coach, always keeping within arm’s reach the version of herself which felt most authentic.

Danielle’s story, in its entirety, is so incredibly important that we had to split it over two big and special episodes.

In this first part, we are introduced to phase 1 of her life: the footballer, the husband and the coach and with an addictive personality that caused her to become tough, fierce and obsessed with footy.

Danielle discusses with Hugh, Ryan, and Josh the strict compartmentalisation of the different parts of her life during her AFL career, and the terrifying risks she took to satisfy the cravings to be her authentic self.

You can watch the entire interview (Part One and Part Two) on YouTube, here – https://bit.ly/3FJ8Lw2 

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]]> Transgender authenticity courage Ghost painting pride suicide suicidal thoughts trans community AFL gender dysphoria secret love love story trauma public outing resilience nail polish Vulnerabilitea Mick Fanning presence brain tumour empathy childhood identity cricket football brother disconnection quiet introvert long hair connection teenage depression anxiety sport balance shame Caroline Cossey West Coast Eagles masculinity addiction obsession compartmentalisation fear pedestal behaviour role playing diagnosis burden substance abuse children family forgiveness parenting grief alcohol cocaine responsibility self-sabotage workaholic psychologist sleep vulnerability transition media change of legislation training package education care embrace raw jealousy envy gender diverse youth rainbow community community resources The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Danielle Laidley Transgender, authenticity, courage Ghost, painting, pride, suicide, suicidal thoughts, trans community, AFL, gender dysphoria, secret, love, love story, trauma, public outing, resilience, nail polish, Vulnerabilitea, Mick Fanning, presence, brain tumour, empathy, childhood, identity, cricket, football, brother, disconnection, quiet, introvert, long hair, connection, teenage, depression, anxiety, sport, balance, shame, Caroline Cossey, West Coast Eagles, masculinity, addiction, obsession, compartmentalisation, fear, pedestal, behaviour, role playing, diagnosis, burden, substance abuse, children, family, forgiveness, parenting, grief, alcohol, cocaine, responsibility, self-sabotage, workaholic, psychologist, sleep, vulnerability, transition, media, change of legislation, training package, education, care, embrace, raw, jealousy, envy, gender diverse youth, rainbow community, community, resources, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Danielle Laidley full 7 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0f1536d0-7b24-459f-bf5c-b2ad001a979b 0f1536d0-7b24-459f-bf5c-b2ad001a979b Sun, 30 Mar 2025 17:50:00 +0000 3880 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/danielle-laidley-part-1-her-private-struggle Let’s Talk About Hugh’s Open Letter Let’s Talk About Hugh’s Open Letter It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode.

Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since.

Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live.

We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support.

Love,

The Imperfects xxx

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]]> It’s been a big few weeks since Hugh released his Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People (episode linked below). If you haven't heard it, it’s best to listen to that before you listen to this episode.

Today we wanted to catch up and reflect on whats happened since.

Hugh shares some beautiful messages, and Josh asks, practically, how we can show less judgement and more empathy to neurodivergent people and the people who care for them. Then, Ryan does some quick maths to fact check Hugh’s claim to reply to every single message he’s received since the Open Letter went live.

We are so profoundly grateful for every message of love and support.

Love,

The Imperfects xxx

🎧 If you want to listen to Hugh’s Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People, click here - https://apple.co/4l4kw0m

💻 If you want to watch this full chat on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/wFrlUkqR8y4 

 

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]]> Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Open Letter Autism Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Open Letter, Autism full 7 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg dc8464d5-38af-44f9-bee6-b2ad00010d1e dc8464d5-38af-44f9-bee6-b2ad00010d1e Thu, 27 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 2583 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/let-s-talk-about-hugh-s-open-letter Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole… and Found Myself Stephen Curry - I Dug a Hole… and Found Myself Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day.

Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort.

This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?)

*not the basket baller

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]]> Get excited, it’s finally Steve Curry* day.

Actor, comedian, and expert hole digger (you bet we snuck this in here), Steve joins us to share his personal and professional epiphany: a ‘collaboration realisation’ his lightbulb moment about teamwork, success, and the power of vulnerability.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Steve answers the questions ‘When was a time you genuinely needed help? Were you able to ask for it?’, and discusses the joy of working in a team where success is a joint effort.

This is such a joyful episode, Steve, we are definitely friends for life (can you hook us up with Helen too?)

*not the basket baller

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]]> Collaboration failure risk Gardening acting The Castle Balwin The Secret Life of Us Graham Kennedy Revolver heroes The King pressure nerves fear overthinking self-belief crisis research time essence spirit character confidence trust friendship Helen Carmichael imposter syndrome shame bluffing anxiety extroverted social mentor energy success appreciation gratefulness people whisperer life coach Thor: Love and Thunder accent vulnerability empathy opportunity fight or flight The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Stephen Curry Vulnerabilitea House Collaboration, failure, risk Gardening, acting, The Castle, Balwin, The Secret Life of Us, Graham Kennedy, Revolver, heroes, The King, pressure, nerves, fear, overthinking, self-belief, crisis, research, time, essence, spirit, character, confidence, trust, friendship, Helen Carmichael, imposter syndrome, shame, bluffing, anxiety, extroverted, social, mentor, energy, success, appreciation, gratefulness, people whisperer, life coach, Thor: Love and Thunder, accent, vulnerability, empathy, opportunity, fight or flight, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Stephen Curry, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 76b0bee8-0c32-49f3-8679-b2a500524726 76b0bee8-0c32-49f3-8679-b2a500524726 Sun, 23 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4208 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/stephen-curry Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick Dr Julie Smith - Building Confidence, Brick by Brick Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans).

With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream.

In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear.

Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward.

Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved?

Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz 

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]]> Clinical psychologist Dr Julie Smith has a gift for explaining complex ideas in under a minute (which is GREAT for new-age attention spans).

With over 4.8 million TikTok followers, two best-selling books and a glowing endorsement from our own Dr Em, having Dr Julie join our Academy of Imperfection is nothing short of a dream.

In this episode, Dr Julie reframes the feeling of overwhelm, helping us to see it as valuable information about how we might not be meeting our needs, rather than something to fear.

Then, it’s all about confidence, baby. Getting into the nitty-gritty, Ryan and Dr Julie redefine failure, showing how confidence isn’t just built from successes, but from every experience – good, bad and (luckily for Hugh) the awkward.

Oh, and did we mention she’s Dr Em approved?

Smithy, we’d gladly talk to you forever.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4iwtFwz 

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]]> Overwhelm confidence Psychology why has no one told me this before open when tiktok accessibility mindfulness emotional capacity parenting judgement coping information meeting needs stress stress management replenish joy brightness roles childhood expectations diffusion distress empowerment skills Missy Higgins therapy structure relationship mistakes writing embarrassment shame behaviour curiosity self-worth good ideas creativity criticism values failure discomfort success perfection reframing hope growth-mindset pointlessness suffering world purpose meaning humbling The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Julie Smith Academy of Imperfection Overwhelm, confidence, Psychology, why has no one told me this before, open when, tiktok, accessibility, mindfulness, emotional capacity, parenting, judgement, coping, information, meeting needs, stress, stress management, replenish, joy, brightness, roles, childhood, expectations, diffusion, distress, empowerment, skills, Missy Higgins, therapy, structure, relationship, mistakes, writing, embarrassment, shame, behaviour, curiosity, self-worth, good ideas, creativity, criticism, values, failure, discomfort, success, perfection, reframing, hope, growth-mindset, pointlessness, suffering, world, purpose, meaning, humbling, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Julie Smith, Academy of Imperfection full 7 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 288ba1fc-61f8-4470-996e-b2a000004690 288ba1fc-61f8-4470-996e-b2a000004690 Sun, 16 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4128 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-julie-smith-building-confidence-brick-by-brick Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People Hugh's Open Letter to Parents of Neurodivergent People This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people.

It may be confronting.

Please take care when listening.

Love,

Hugh

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]]> This is an open letter to parents of autistic and neurodivergent people.

It may be confronting.

Please take care when listening.

Love,

Hugh

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]]> Parenting neurodivergence autism Vulnerability honesty awe pain grief love social norms overwhelm meltdown shame struggle expression over-stimulated stress loneliness siblings hurt confused safety patience compassion understanding present comparison sleep truth future fear exhaustion relationships misunderstanding hope kindness judgment The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Parenting, neurodivergence, autism Vulnerability, honesty, awe, pain, grief, love, social norms, overwhelm, meltdown, shame, struggle, expression, over-stimulated, stress, loneliness, siblings, hurt, confused, safety, patience, compassion, understanding, present, comparison, sleep, truth, future, fear, exhaustion, relationships, misunderstanding, hope, kindness, judgment The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg bonus 7 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg cca9d97a-92f7-4604-b98c-b297004680b6 cca9d97a-92f7-4604-b98c-b297004680b6 Thu, 13 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 908 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hughs-open-letter-to-parents-of-neurodivergent-peo Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World Hannah Diviney - Disabled in an Able-Bodied World Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture.

At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts.

Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?”

Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success.

We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future.

Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/41vzALg

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Hannah Diviney is one of the most powerful people in pop culture.

At just 25 years old, the author, advocate, and actor hasn’t just called out Lizzo for using an ableist slur—she also took on Queen B herself. And she succeeded on both fronts.

Which, once you get to know her, isn’t surprising at all.

In our Vulnerabilitea House, Hannah reflects on the questions: “How do you see yourself? Is it the same way your loved ones see you?”

Answering with incredible vulnerability, Hannah shares how her relationship with her disability has evolved over time and what it was like growing up in a world where the Paralympics seemed like the only visible marker of success.

We talk to Hannah about being a part of intimate television history, and Ryan, the love doctor, Shelton manifests a Brad (or Stewie, or Chris, or Michael-Angelo) in her future.

Hannah, we are so desperate to be your friend.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/41vzALg

🫖 Imperfects episode’s mentioned in this episode

🎟️ Things to go see

📺 Things to watch

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Identity self-worth disability Cerebral palsy PVL writer storytelling Mamamia Lizzo Beyonce dystonia trolling internet opportunity disability wheelchair inside out curiosity latecomers Audrey drama control unlearning Disney therapy disability advocate anger sadness friendship paralympic sport success mental health acceptance I’ll Let Myself In memoir nervous breakdown inclusion exclusion trauma imposter syndrome guilty vulnerability power kindness belonging suicidal ideation depression uncertainty change anxiety meltdowns toolbox The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan van Cuylenburg Vulnerabilitea House Identity, self-worth, disability Cerebral palsy, PVL, writer, storytelling, Mamamia, Lizzo, Beyonce, dystonia, trolling, internet, opportunity, disability, wheelchair, inside out, curiosity, latecomers, Audrey, drama, control, unlearning, Disney, therapy, disability advocate, anger, sadness, friendship, paralympic sport, success, mental health, acceptance, I’ll Let Myself In, memoir, nervous breakdown, inclusion, exclusion, trauma, imposter syndrome, guilty, vulnerability, power, kindness, belonging, suicidal ideation, depression, uncertainty, change, anxiety, meltdowns, toolbox, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan van Cuylenburg, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 6d20b84f-906a-4b51-81b8-b29800330e91 6d20b84f-906a-4b51-81b8-b29800330e91 Sun, 09 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 5681 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/hannah-diviney-a-question-without-an-answer Dr Emily - Hope Dr Emily - Hope Today, Dr Emily talks about hope.

And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time.

In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion.

Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated.

Psychological mic-drop.

This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life.

We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/41j0pT1

📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

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]]> Today, Dr Emily talks about hope.

And in a world where things can feel a little bit hopeless, this really couldn’t have come at a better time.

In contrast to all of our understanding up until this point, hope is not an emotion.

Expertly defined by Dr Emily, hope is a belief. And most significantly, it can be learned, and it can be cultivated.

Psychological mic-drop.

This episode delves into strategies for creating both a sense of collective and individual hope, and in a discovery which happens to be VERY on-brand for this podcast, Dr Emily talks to the significance of vulnerability and connection in living a hopeful life.

We hope you enjoy this one as much as we did.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/41j0pT1

📚To pre-order Dr Emily’s book Unstuck, click here - https://bit.ly/4bhmCp2

🫖 Other Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

📖 Things to read

💻Things to check out

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Hope community belief Unstuck choice stuck human flourishing despair mistrust cynicism world circumstances progress psychology immobility Martin Seligman nervous anxiety Rick Snyder emotion belief learned cultivated goal agency thinking optimism willpower power motivation David Orr intelligence threat self-fulfilling prophecy experience faith trust neighbours belonging online grief loss Bridget Jones’ Diary Never Been Kissed naivety witness truth curiosity acceptance compassion uncertainty traumatic risk yearning self-protection disappointment failure suicide sorrow love challenging meaning imagining values regret social savouring Julia Baird Dacher Keltner moral beauty Nick Cave movement depression capacity Barbara Frederickson happiness Victor Frankl The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Hope, community, belief Unstuck, choice, stuck, human flourishing, despair, mistrust, cynicism, world circumstances, progress, psychology, immobility, Martin Seligman, nervous, anxiety, Rick Snyder, emotion, belief, learned, cultivated, goal, agency thinking, optimism, willpower, power, motivation, David Orr, intelligence, threat, self-fulfilling prophecy, experience, faith, trust, neighbours, belonging, online, grief, loss, Bridget Jones’ Diary, Never Been Kissed, naivety, witness, truth, curiosity, acceptance, compassion, uncertainty, traumatic, risk, yearning, self-protection, disappointment, failure, suicide, sorrow, love, challenging, meaning, imagining, values, regret, social savouring, Julia Baird, Dacher Keltner, moral beauty, Nick Cave, movement, depression, capacity, Barbara Frederickson, happiness, Victor Frankl The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove full 7 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 14d6d519-c94a-4075-be79-b29100743794 14d6d519-c94a-4075-be79-b29100743794 Sun, 02 Mar 2025 18:00:00 +0000 4587 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/dr-emily-hope Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat Matthew Murphy - A Sober Wombat Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025.

In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?”

He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch.

Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy.  Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again.

Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation. 

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]]> Matthew Murphy, front-man of the iconic UK band The Wombats, joins us in our first VulnerabiliTea House of 2025.

In this episode, Murph answers one of life’s most terrifying questions, “In what ways do you fear you could negatively impact your children?”

He also shares his experience with panic attacks, anxiety and depression and is extremely honest detailing how alcohol became a crutch.

Becoming sober, which Murph describes as the best decision of his life, was not easy.  Murph goes into detail about what the withdrawal process was like and how he began to find joy in activities again.

Murph, thank you for soundtracking our youths (and current lives), and thank you for this incredibly helpful conversation. 

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4i6hRRi 

💿 Things to listen to:

Enjoyed this episode but want a little more? Good news, we have a brand new show called A Little More Imperfects over on Patreon! Visit: www.patreon.com/theimperfects

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]]> Depression Sobriety Parenting Music marriage band children Natural History Museum joy confidence fear sense of self anxiety small-talk fake-ness trust friendship making friends social skills shyness panic attack therapy depression gratitude present learning drugs alcohol self-medicating tour sobriety soul resentment hungover fame self-compassion love gifts relationships dopamine creativity anti-depressants medication struggle laughter humour suicidal ideation The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Matthew Murphy The Wombats Vulnerabilitea House Depression, Sobriety, Parenting Music, marriage, band, children, Natural History Museum, joy, confidence, fear, sense of self, anxiety, small-talk, fake-ness, trust, friendship, making friends, social skills, shyness, panic attack, therapy, depression, gratitude, present, learning, drugs, alcohol, self-medicating, tour, sobriety, soul, resentment, hungover, fame, self-compassion, love, gifts, relationships, dopamine, creativity, anti-depressants, medication, struggle, laughter, humour, suicidal ideation, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Matthew Murphy, The Wombats, Vulnerabilitea House full 7 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ced36a12-1863-42a8-a764-b28a004e9ffb ced36a12-1863-42a8-a764-b28a004e9ffb Sun, 23 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000 3169 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/matthew-murphy-a-sober-wombat Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show! Get Ready. We’re Touring A Brand New Live Show! It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).

That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country!

It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!

We would love and adore to see you there!

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]]> It’s time for Announcement Number Three! A brand-new Imperfects Live Show (!!!!!!).

That’s right, we’re going on the road again. In October, November, and December of this year (2025), we’ll be performing a brand-new stage show, around the country!

It’s gonna be bigger, it’s gonna be better, and we promise we won’t let Hugh (or Chat GPT) write the show. All responsibility will henceforth be given to Random Word Generator!

We would love and adore to see you there!

🎟️ Click here to get your tickets – https://bit.ly/3EHPYkj 

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3CYoOF8 

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]]> Tour Live Show Fun Ghosts ADHD morning routine prank audience chat gpt random word generator patreon community The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton A Little More Imperfects live on stage Tour, Live Show, Fun Ghosts, ADHD, morning routine, prank, audience, chat gpt, random word generator, patreon, community, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, A Little More Imperfects, live on stage bonus 7 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 42b99b0e-8c3e-4360-9875-b28a004bf1ec 42b99b0e-8c3e-4360-9875-b28a004bf1ec Thu, 20 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000 936 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/get-ready-we-re-touring-a-brand-new-live-show Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.

Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?

In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.

So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!

Sweet dreams x

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]]> Psychologist Maria Ruberto is back to talk about one of the most important parts of our day: sleep.

Starting off with the biology of sleep, Maria takes us through how we get to sleep, what happens when we sleep, and why we desperately need to sleep for good health and longevity. With metaphors galore to make the science as relatable as possible, we discuss the role of melatonin, the impact of screens on our suprachiasmatic nucleus and whether it’s worth cutting your sleep short to exercise?

In more practical terms, Maria shares what sleep hygiene actually looks like, and, to Hugh and Josh’s relief, how hormones released during parenthood act to buffer against sleep deprivation.

So set your sleep alarms, get comfy, and tuck yourself in for a BIG episode!

Sweet dreams x

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📺 Things to watch:

💤 Melbourne Sleep Labs:

*please note, some of these require a referral from a GP or specialist

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Sleep science longevity Psychology neuropsychotherapy resilience first aid care insomnia neuroscience biology behaviour descriptive not prescriptive treatment plan health altered state of consciousness brain diurnal compromise quality quantity society restorative risk factors suprachiasmatic nucleus Kylie Minogue limbic system hypothalamus light sensitivity pineal gland melatonin hormones circadian rhythm cortisol screens blue light epinephrin sedation adenosine ATP caffeine nap rest alpha waves beta waves theta waves non-REM REM safety slow wave sleep dream memory emotion immunity psychosis rational brain hallucination delusion disorientation glucose toxins amyloid beta inflammation tau proteins Parkinson’s disease Alzheimer’s disease synapses mood Matt Walker Why We Sleep QQRT sleep hygiene story food exercise self-prescription sleep debt ketosis stress chronology THC medication anxiety reflection receiving The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Maria Ruberto Salutogenics Sleep, science, longevity, Psychology, neuropsychotherapy, resilience first aid, care, insomnia, neuroscience, biology, behaviour, descriptive not prescriptive, treatment plan, health, altered state of consciousness, brain, diurnal, compromise, quality, quantity, society, restorative, risk factors, suprachiasmatic nucleus, Kylie Minogue, limbic system, hypothalamus, light sensitivity, pineal gland, melatonin, hormones, circadian rhythm, cortisol, screens, blue light, epinephrin, sedation, adenosine, ATP, caffeine, nap, rest, alpha waves, beta waves, theta waves, non-REM, REM, safety, slow wave sleep, dream, memory, emotion, immunity, psychosis, rational brain, hallucination, delusion, disorientation, glucose, toxins, amyloid beta, inflammation, tau proteins, Parkinson’s disease, Alzheimer’s disease, synapses, mood, Matt Walker, Why We Sleep, QQRT, sleep hygiene, story, food, exercise, self-prescription, sleep debt, ketosis, stress, chronology, THC, medication, anxiety, reflection, receiving The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Maria Ruberto, Salutogenics full 7 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fa5e7445-b388-4ac5-b29c-b282017eb14e fa5e7445-b388-4ac5-b29c-b282017eb14e Sun, 16 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000 6799 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/maria-ruberto-sleep-your-way-to-your-top Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss Mick Fanning - Riding The Waves of Loss The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning.

We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy.

Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship).

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]]> The stoke level is pretty high this week because we are joined by three-time world champion surfer, shark attack survivor, and maybe the nicest guy we have ever met, Mick Fanning.

We had high expectations for this chat (we mean, it’s Mick Fanning), but he absolutely blew us out of the water with his humanity, compassion, empathy, and positivity in the face of incredible tragedy.

Mick, we’ll definitely take you up on that offer of a surf (and lifelong friendship).

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]]> Grief connection resilience Surfing athlete resilience love laconic tragedy vulnerability honesty community siblings divorce memories beach ocean fatherhood competitive sport talent hard work lifestyle joy success burden spirituality energy identity celebration laughter dolphins loss reincarnation isolation humanity NSW Floods respect friendship shark attack sports psychology flashbacks family trust therapy The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Mick Fanning Grief, connection, resilience Surfing, athlete, resilience, love, laconic, tragedy, vulnerability, honesty, community, siblings, divorce, memories, beach, ocean, fatherhood, competitive, sport, talent, hard work, lifestyle, joy, success, burden, spirituality, energy, identity, celebration, laughter, dolphins, loss, reincarnation, isolation, humanity, NSW Floods, respect, friendship, shark attack, sports psychology, flashbacks, family, trust, therapy The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Mick Fanning full 7 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 82c51701-5e7e-4bc1-8828-b27c006144eb 82c51701-5e7e-4bc1-8828-b27c006144eb Sun, 09 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000 6006 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/mick-fanning-riding-the-waves-of-loss We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect We're Back! And A Little More Imperfect Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby!

On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show.

A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch.

So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead.

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]]> Well, well, well. We’re (officially) back for 2025, baby!

On Hugh’s agenda for today’s episode: nugatory chat, ghosts, general excitement for the new season and we also reveal THE SECOND BIG ANNOUNCEMENT!

That’s right, The Imperfects are bringing you a new show.

A Little More Imperfects, which can be found on Patreon, is bonus fortnightly episodes featuring everything that you know and love (Josh going deep, Ryan being hilarious and Hugh giving life changing advice / intense second hand embarrassment) PLUS early access to live show tickets and events and great discounts on our merch.

So enjoy this sneak preview, and we can’t wait for the season ahead.

If you would like to subscribe to our Patreon, follow this link - https://www.patreon.com/theimperfects

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube (and catch a glimpse of organised Hugh for the only time this millennia), click here - https://bit.ly/4hC4XKI

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]]> Welcome Community ADHD Welcome organisation disorganisation nugatory snake Hemsworth ghost ghost story haunting shamanic healer portal My Imperfect Life Journal Patreon A Little More Imperfects imperfections The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Welcome, Community, ADHD Welcome, organisation, disorganisation, nugatory, snake, Hemsworth, ghost, ghost story, haunting, shamanic healer, portal, My Imperfect Life, Journal, Patreon, A Little More Imperfects, imperfections, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton trailer 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a4833383-ab78-45cb-a8df-b27500437e01 a4833383-ab78-45cb-a8df-b27500437e01 Sun, 02 Feb 2025 18:00:00 +0000 1708 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/were-back-and-a-little-more-imperfect James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status? James van Cuylenburg - What’s Your Relationship Status? It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg.

In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover.

From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons.

Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography.

Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care.

James, we thank you for your guidance.

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]]> It’s our last episode of Summer School, and today we welcome back clinical psychologist (and “clinical cousin” of Hugh and Josh), James van Cuylenburg.

In this episode, James tells us EVERYTHING we need to know about our relationships… well almost everything…there’s a lot to cover.

From attachment styles, to breaking trust, to learning how to own your feelings and navigating coupledom through life’s changing seasons.

Getting into the nitty gritty, Hugh asks James about intimacy and what happens when you’re not…. having any. And how to start a conversation with your kids about pornography.

Relationships make life worth living and whether they’re with an intimate partner, a friend, or yourself, they should be cherished and treated with care.

James, we thank you for your guidance.

If you liked this episode, and wanted to do some further reflection on it, each week our Vulnerabilitea-mail newsletter shares a question to get you thinking deeper. We’d love to hear from you, so please send your reflections in to the link provided. Subscribe here!

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]]> Relationships communication connection Mental health heartbreak romantic relationships childhood couples counselling argument conflict needs other-centeredness balance mental load equality trust humility seasons change healthy divorce feelings empowering therapy emotional intelligence self-compassion intimacy generosity kindness resolution honesty resentment habits neural pathways history practice jealousy controlling domestic violence coercive control attachment style vulnerability shame sex rejection hurt safety pornography respect authentic connection quality time children break-up loneliness single The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton James van Cuylenburg Relationships, communication, connection Mental health, heartbreak, romantic relationships, childhood, couples counselling, argument, conflict, needs, other-centeredness, balance, mental load, equality, trust, humility, seasons, change, healthy, divorce, feelings, empowering, therapy, emotional intelligence, self-compassion, intimacy, generosity, kindness, resolution, honesty, resentment, habits, neural pathways, history, practice, jealousy, controlling, domestic violence, coercive control, attachment style, vulnerability, shame, sex, rejection, hurt, safety, pornography, respect, authentic connection, quality time, children, break-up, loneliness, single, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, James van Cuylenburg full 6 65 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c83c4cc5-1428-412a-8e38-b26e00349437 c83c4cc5-1428-412a-8e38-b26e00349437 Sun, 26 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000 5726 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/james-van-cuylenburg-what-s-your-relationship-stat Imperfect Birth Stories with Sophie Walker Imperfect Birth Stories with Sophie Walker In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories.

With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners.

Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around.

The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him.

Sophie, it was such a pleasure.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw 

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]]> In this episode of our Summer School, we are joined by Sophie Walker, creator, and host of Australian Birth Stories.

With over 17 million downloads, and 500 episodes, Australian Birth Stories podcast has been accredited by the Australian College of Midwives and has been instrumental in educating and empowering both people who are giving birth, as well as birthing partners.

Hugh shares the incredible trauma and fear involved with his first experience of birth, and how tools of education and empowerment, such as Lael Stone’s excellent counselling, helped him prepared for birth a second time around.

The power of information is invaluable, and Josh opens up about how Hugh’s experience with birth shaped his own, and what the experience was like for him.

Sophie, it was such a pleasure.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/3sey26-L4Rw 

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📖 Things to read: 

If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression or anxiety surrounding birth, these are a few great websites we’ve found

 

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]]> Birth trauma support Empowerment education control epidural pain panic exhaustion parenting post-partum support positive birth stress judgement fear health system haemorrhage placenta documentation processing counselling elective caesarean birth debrief preparation present fatherhood stillbirth miscarriage miracle spirituality animal guilt shame mental health Academy of Imperfection The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Summer School Sophie Walker Australian Birth Stories The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth Birth, trauma, support Empowerment, education, control, epidural, pain, panic, exhaustion, parenting, post-partum support, positive birth, stress, judgement, fear, health system, haemorrhage, placenta, documentation, processing, counselling, elective caesarean, birth debrief, preparation, present, fatherhood, stillbirth, miscarriage, miracle, spirituality, animal, guilt, shame, mental health Academy of Imperfection, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Summer School, Sophie Walker, Australian Birth Stories, The Complete Australian Guide to Pregnancy and Birth full 6 64 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 2a1e15d7-2929-4dd6-a9f2-b267000ab65d 2a1e15d7-2929-4dd6-a9f2-b267000ab65d Sun, 19 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000 3715 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/imperfect-birth-stories-with-sophie-walker Surprise! You’re Writing A Book! Surprise! You’re Writing A Book! B b b bonus episode!

We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work.

With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT).

To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy).

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]]> B b b bonus episode!

We proudly present to you My Imperfect Life: a novel journal written by you. That’s right, we’re releasing a book, but making you do all the work.

With 100 questions inspired by episodes from 2024 on The Imperfects, My Imperfect Life is an introduction to vulnerability, allowing you to unpack your own imperfect life and be more vulnerable with yourself (because we know vulnerability with others can be A LOT).

To celebrate the launch of My Imperfect Life, we are inviting you to a reverse book singing at Readings Emporium Melbourne on Friday January 31st at 5:30pm, where we want to meet you, the author (and perhaps get a photo with you too, and maybe an autograph if you’re not too busy).

🎟️ To buy a ticket to the Reverse Book Signing (which includes a copy of My Imperfect Life that you will pick up on the day), follow this link – https://bit.ly/4hh0tcl

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]]> Journal self-worth reverse book singing vulnerability comfortability acceptance opinion age family success identity existential crisis anxiety creativity fear relevancy writing belonging friendship connection regret impact respect sharing mailing-list The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton my imperfect life the imperfects Journal, self-worth, reverse book singing, vulnerability, comfortability, acceptance, opinion, age, family, success, identity, existential crisis, anxiety, creativity, fear, relevancy, writing, belonging, friendship, connection, regret, impact, respect, sharing, mailing-list The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, my imperfect life, the imperfects bonus 6 63 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e47e8c85-2b56-46c2-a142-b264016d56ca e47e8c85-2b56-46c2-a142-b264016d56ca Thu, 16 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000 2041 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/my-imperfect-life-a-novel-journal-written-by-you Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets? Bronnie Ware - What Are Your Future Regrets? There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality.

Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets?

In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware.

Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did.

Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh.

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did.

Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/

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]]> There will come a time for all of us (unless we REALLY make some improvements with bio-hacking) where we are faced with our own mortality.

Who is at your hypothetical bedside? Are you happy with how you’ve lived? Do you have any regrets?

In this Summer School edition of the Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Bronnie Ware.

Bronnie found herself in palliative care, caring for, and listening to, the dying. And boy, are we glad she did.

Bronnie collated, and published, the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (listed below for your convenience), and this episode is devoted to talking through what each of these might mean for Hugh, Ryan and Josh.

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier

Perfectly timed for the New Year, we hope you get as much out of this episode as we did.

Bronnie, thank you so much for sharing your wisdom with us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.theimperfects.com.au/episode/bronnie-ware-wha…r-future-regrets/

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]]> Regret Courage Happiness Palliative care angelic warm death perspective trauma grounded motivation children sacred time love comfort listening grandparents honour prayer faith expectations career pain Buddhism life’s work potential Christmas alcohol belonging acceptance uncertainty relationships identity mistakes enjoyment passion fear lonely memories parenting communication vulnerability judgement friendships social media grief choice depression risk wisdom The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Summer School Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bronnie Ware Top 5 Regrets of the Dying Regret, Courage, Happiness Palliative care, angelic, warm, death, perspective, trauma, grounded, motivation, children, sacred, time, love, comfort, listening, grandparents, honour, prayer, faith, expectations, career, pain, Buddhism, life’s work, potential, Christmas, alcohol, belonging, acceptance, uncertainty, relationships, identity, mistakes, enjoyment, passion, fear, lonely, memories, parenting, communication, vulnerability, judgement, friendships, social media, grief, choice, depression, risk, wisdom, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Summer School, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bronnie Ware, Top 5 Regrets of the Dying bonus 6 62 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3a18df87-a005-4c49-8b0e-b25e004fd2f3 3a18df87-a005-4c49-8b0e-b25e004fd2f3 Sun, 12 Jan 2025 18:00:00 +0000 3784 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/bronnie-ware-what-are-your-future-regrets Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus Little Boy Christmas - The Forgotten Son of Mr & Mrs Claus Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids.

Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus?

Nope, neither had we.

That’s probably why he’s forgotten.

Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world. 

A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM

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  • Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs
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  • Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay

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  • I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour
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]]> Quick heads up: Little Boy Christmas has a tenuous relationship with his parents, and therefore, this episode isn’t suited for kids.

Have you ever wondered about Little Boy Christmas, the forgotten son of Santa and Mrs Claus?

Nope, neither had we.

That’s probably why he’s forgotten.

Looking like an unbelievably shredded Dickensian orphan (you’re going to want to watch the YouTube for this one), Little Boy Christmas chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the physical and psychological pressures of being in the most famous family in the world. 

A BIG thank you to Guy Montgomery who introduced us to Little Boy Christmas.

All ad revenue from this episode will be donated to Guy Montgomery’s chosen charity of Auckland City Mission. Auckland City Mission responds to poverty, aiming to help people find permanent housing and food. If you’d like to donate, or check out what they’re about, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VB0dfM

🎧Things to listen to:

  • Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://bit.ly/4gns2zX
  • Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://apple.co/40Y7HNs
  • Guy’s podcast - The Worst Idea of All Time - https://apple.co/3DkUYKI

📺 Things to watch:

  • Guy Montgomery’s Guy Mont Spelling Bee - https://ab.co/4izbmay

🎟️ Things to buy tickets to:

  • I’ve Noticed So Many Things, It’d Be Unfair To Keep Them To Myself tour
    • Australian Tickets - https://bit.ly/3DczzDx
    • NZ Tickets - https://bit.ly/49BCuC4

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]]> full 6 61 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fa1cd6a3-24f4-4cb5-b37e-b25c01508cff fa1cd6a3-24f4-4cb5-b37e-b25c01508cff Sun, 22 Dec 2024 18:00:49 +0000 1673 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/little-boy-christmas-the-forgotten-son-of-mr-mrs-c Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum Michael Theo - Life on the Spectrum You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far.

We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv).

Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU

🎧 Things to listen to:

  • Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i
  • Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax
  • Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7
  • Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf
  • Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL
  • Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456
  • Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs
  • Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX

📺 Things to watch:

  • Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb
  • Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl
  • Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX
  • Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF

📱Things to check out:

  • Wable - https://www.hellowable.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> You may know Michael from Love on the Spectrum, or his podcast Mr A+, or even his appearance on Ellen – he’s done it all and has gained an incredible amount of wisdom on his journey so far.

We’ve been doing this show for six years, and no-one has ever summarised it as well as Michael Theo: trying to be perfect is a wild goose chase.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about how he found his voice after growing up as a non-verbal kid, and instils on the guys some advice on how to handle nerves (and do some proper improv).

Michael, we had an absolute blast. We’ll see you for a Yowie sometime soon.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/eVtYKdJUpVU

🎧 Things to listen to:

  • Mr. A+ - https://apple.co/3C3kS5i
  • Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World - https://apple.co/48nT3Ax
  • Grace Tame - “Sexy, Scissoring, Autism!” - https://apple.co/404jXv7
  • Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me - https://apple.co/3yHdawf
  • Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety - https://apple.co/41jNSjL
  • Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://apple.co/41nL456
  • Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House - https://bit.ly/40Y7HNs
  • Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half - https://apple.co/4gns2zX

📺 Things to watch:

  • Love On The Spectrum - https://ab.co/48r5iwb
  • Austin - https://ab.co/4eYmvQl
  • Michael’s Interview on Ellen - https://bit.ly/4eXRYBX
  • Puss In Boots - The Last Wish - https://bit.ly/4foCuqF

📱Things to check out:

  • Wable - https://www.hellowable.com

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> full 6 60 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d8f814ec-90a8-479e-bda9-b248015d2585 d8f814ec-90a8-479e-bda9-b248015d2585 Sun, 15 Dec 2024 18:00:18 +0000 3834 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects-1/michael-theo-life-on-the-spectrum Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down Layne Beachley - Surf’s Up… And Down Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley.

Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself.

Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself.

What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships.

There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley).

Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd

ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf

📖 Things to read:

☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover):

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]]> Today we welcome into the studio 7 time world champion surfer, and all-round legend, Layne Beachley.

Layne, who had the self-described ‘compassion of a tiger shark’ during her competition days, has lived an incredible journey to learn how to love others, and more importantly, herself.

Upon discovering that she was adopted, Layne internalised a fear of rejection and intense need to prove herself.

What’s one way to prove yourself, you may ask? Becoming a world champion, no matter the cost.

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh talk to Layne about the narrative that she created for herself, and how this affected her self-worth, body image and relationships.

There is SO MUCH good stuff in this episode, and we can’t wait for you to enjoy your day at the Beach(ley).

Layne, you are an absolute legend. Thank you for your generous vulnerability.

If you would like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3VsnIrd

ALSO if you would like to buy tickets to Josh’s gig (!!!!!) click here - https://bit.ly/3ZO6ojf

📖 Things to read:

☕️Places to get coffee (and find your laptop cover):

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Adoption Self-worth Success Surfing accomplishment success friendship control relationships family brother grief loss lost validation sport disassociation step-parents partying rebirthing rejection fear victimisation trust love self-acceptance awareness injury pain body-image self-loathing self-doubt comparison narrative media liposuction pressure connection depression suicidal ideation chronic fatigue syndrome Brene Brown compassion wisdom menopause HRT forgiveness judgement cancer saying goodbye wholehearted mentorship The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Layne Beachley Awake Academy Beneath the Waves Adoption, Self-worth, Success Surfing, accomplishment, success, friendship, control, relationships, family, brother, grief, loss, lost, validation, sport, disassociation, step-parents, partying, rebirthing, rejection, fear, victimisation, trust, love, self-acceptance, awareness, injury, pain, body-image, self-loathing, self-doubt, comparison, narrative, media, liposuction, pressure, connection, depression, suicidal ideation, chronic fatigue syndrome, Brene Brown, compassion, wisdom, menopause, HRT, forgiveness, judgement, cancer, saying goodbye, wholehearted, mentorship, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Layne Beachley, Awake Academy, Beneath the Waves full 6 59 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d9075243-6230-4124-a6cc-b23d005fd4c6 10927a97-8e6b-4487-b08d-b24200320ff3 Sun, 08 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +0000 5303 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/layne-beachley Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill Johann Hari - Beware The Thrill of The Magic Pill Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects.

In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom.

Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance.

This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready.

Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE 

🎧 Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

💻Things to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Johann Hari is a prolific author, deep thinker, and seasoned guest of The Imperfects.

In this episode, Johann takes the guys on a deep dive into the Western food system, and how processed food has completely derailed our nutritional wisdom.

Our relationship with food is a very personal one, and Johann and Josh get vulnerable about how they have used food to manage emotions. They discuss how vanity comes into play, the plethora of risks and benefits to the new weight-loss drug like Ozempic, and if their introduction of could derail any notion of self-acceptance.

This episode does discuss eating disorders and suicidal ideation so tread carefully, and only listen to this episode when you’re ready.

Johann, it is always a pleasure. This is a big and tricky conversation, and we thank you for having it with us.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/2rcWI8zSOvE 

🎧 Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

💻Things to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Food System Shame Body-image Body shape weight obesity processed food nutrition satiety diet nutritional wisdom body image will-power beauty industry Ozempic environment appetite food over-eating psychological therapy metabolic set-points famine evolution dopamine Japan weight-loss drugs sugar-tax nutritionist culture parenting baby food exercise mental health bariatric surgery eating disorders BMI addiction The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Johann Hari The Food System, Shame, Body-image Body shape, weight, obesity, processed food, nutrition, satiety, diet, nutritional wisdom, body image, will-power, beauty industry, Ozempic, environment, appetite, food, over-eating, psychological therapy, metabolic set-points, famine, evolution, dopamine, Japan, weight-loss drugs, sugar-tax, nutritionist, culture, parenting, baby food, exercise, mental health, bariatric surgery, eating disorders, BMI, addiction, The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Johann Hari full 6 58 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg be723fc0-d947-4f6e-88dc-b236018583e4 9eb27d07-3712-4241-a0b3-b24200320fa0 Sun, 01 Dec 2024 18:00:00 +0000 5167 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/s06exx-aoi-johannhari-ozempic-v4-pc-master Jim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than Dementia Jim Rogers - A Life Bigger Than Dementia Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia.

So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far.

The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family.

In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing.

Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms.

This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did.

Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug 

🎧 Things to listen to:

📺 Things to watch:

🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Today we are introducing you to Jim Rogers, who, in amongst a wild and vibrant life, has been diagnosed with younger-onset dementia.

So generous, and such an amazing storyteller, Jim tells us the three acts of his life, so far.

The grief of losing his first love, the surprise of his second, and the shock of a dementia diagnosis at 55, this conversation left Hugh, Ryan, and Josh with an invigorated sense for the preciousness of life, love, and family.

In Jim’s words, dementia strips you of the most important things: your memory and recognition of your loved ones, as well as your ability to make choices for your own wellbeing.

Dementia affects the lives of more than 421,000 individual Australians, and countless family members, loved ones and carers. There is no known cure for dementia, however there are treatments for many of the symptoms.

This episode is heart-breaking and heart-warming in the same breath, and we know you’re about to fall in love with Jim, just like we did.

Special thanks to Hamish Macdonald, and the Dementia Australia team, who introduced us to Jim.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/MUk5ED2Ppug 

🎧 Things to listen to:

📺 Things to watch:

🧠 If you, or someone you know, has been diagnosed with Dementia, here are some great resources as a starting point:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Dementia Love Grief Children immigration skin cancer support family instinct anxiety death anger friends relief responsibility sadness single parenting depression Australia trauma parenting being present pressure therapy mental health gay sexuality connection control self-preservation happiness commitment shock grandparents memory mind fog memory clinic Alzheimer’s bucket list worry kindness Dementia Australia Hold The Moment stigma euthanasia fear The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Jim Rogers Dementia, Love, Grief Children, immigration, skin cancer, support, family, instinct, anxiety, death, anger, friends, relief, responsibility, sadness, single parenting, depression, Australia, trauma, parenting, being present, pressure, therapy, mental health, gay, sexuality, connection, control, self-preservation, happiness, commitment, shock, grandparents, memory, mind fog, memory clinic, Alzheimer’s, bucket list, worry, kindness, Dementia Australia, Hold The Moment, stigma, euthanasia, fear, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Jim Rogers full 6 57 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 72ade83d-f2ec-4908-9f74-b22f0027fa48 064ee5ce-cd9f-4495-9e35-b24200320f04 Sun, 24 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000 5796 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jim-rogers-jims-dementia-story Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More Dr Emily - Resent Less, Live More How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?

These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.

In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.

However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).

Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.

So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt

🎧Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

💻 Things to check out:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> How long have you been holding on to that grudge? Are you picturing that person or moment right now? Have you ever considered what a step towards forgiveness might look like?

These are BIG questions, and thank God, Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to talk us through it all.

In today’s episode, Dr Em begins by acknowledging that resentment is a normal human emotion. Phew.

However, holding on to resentment for prolonged periods of time can have a serious impact on your physical and emotional wellbeing, as well as your relationships (just ask Hugh and Josh).

Then we get onto the F-word. Yep, that’s right. We’re talking about forgiveness. And more specifically, how forgiveness is FOR YOU, and not about excusing behaviour.

So get comfy, and enjoy the last of Dr Em for 2024.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4i1FETt

🎧Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

💻 Things to check out:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Resentment forgiveness envy Consequences Sean Turnell empathy hurt anger disappointment jealousy expressing feelings injustice truth v harmony discomfort frustration conflict stress response physiological costs immune system cancer social media protection armour vulnerable well-being relationships envy parenting counselling communication boundaries grief choice reconciliation Star Wars compassion the force karma intergenerational trauma emotion action The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Emily Musgrove Resentment, forgiveness, envy Consequences, Sean Turnell, empathy, hurt, anger, disappointment, jealousy, expressing feelings, injustice, truth v harmony, discomfort, frustration, conflict, stress response, physiological costs, immune system, cancer, social media, protection, armour, vulnerable, well-being, relationships, envy, parenting, counselling, communication, boundaries, grief, choice, reconciliation, Star Wars, compassion, the force, karma, intergenerational trauma, emotion, action The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Emily Musgrove full 6 56 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d672e602-c1e5-4ec3-9cbe-b228004186d9 1e7a0d47-296f-4257-8f19-b24200320ee7 Sun, 17 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000 3923 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-forgive-me-i-m-resentful Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts Peter Bol - 800m & 3 Free Haircuts You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.

Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.

Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.

Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.

In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.

Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.

Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP

🎧 Things to listen to:

📺 Things to watch:

📱Apps to download

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]]> You may know Peter Bol as the 800m runner, who came fourth in the 2021 Tokyo Olympics and second in the 2022 Commonwealth Games.

Or, if you’re Hugh, you may have hundreds of photos of Peter training.

Wherever you are on the Peter-obsession-meter, we think you’re going to love this episode.

Our chat with Peter starts in Sudan, where Peter and his family moved as a unit, through Egypt, before settling in Australia. They were chasing safety and opportunity, two values that continue to ground Peter through all of his sporting success.

In 2023, Peter was on the most amazing upward trajectory, he'd just become the WA Young Australian of the year and things were looking good for the Paris 2024 Olympics. Then he was completely derailed with a false-positive drug test.

Hugh, Ryan, and Josh talk to Peter about how he remained consciously grateful and resilient throughout the entire saga and was able to instil within himself such fundamental lessons around positivity, justice and mindset.

Peter, we (Hugh) will see you on the track soon.

To watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4hC3CnP

🎧 Things to listen to:

📺 Things to watch:

📱Apps to download

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Peter Bol Olympics running BBL refugee family brothers racism safety belonging gratitude support happiness education sport psychology experience guilt athletics resilience growth opportunity wisdom The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Peter Bol, Olympics, running, BBL, refugee, family, brothers, racism, safety, belonging, gratitude, support, happiness, education, sport psychology, experience, guilt, athletics, resilience, growth, opportunity, wisdom full 6 55 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 684a5b74-eef3-43ea-9ed2-b224004ef9d4 ba5253fa-4e55-47d1-a190-b24200320ff8 Sun, 10 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000 5283 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/peter-bol Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait.

There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain.

We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive.

However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting.

People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful. 

With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents.

On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait.

Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner.

Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7

💻 ADHD Resources to check out:

🎧 Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

📺 Things to watch:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> In this long-awaited Academy of Imperfection, we chat to psychologist Janelle Booker, who specialises in ADHD and Highly Sensitive Person trait.

There is SO MUCH to learn (and love) about an ADHD brain.

We learn how ADHDers are often extremely creative, innovative, and talented, and in the right conditions, absolutely thrive.

However, ADHDers may struggle with executive functions such as time keeping, organisation and emotional regulation, which can make daily life really hard and exhausting.

People with ADHD can be more susceptible to mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as dopamine boosting activities such as risk-taking behaviour, addiction and disordered eating. This is why seeking the right diagnosis and treatment plan can be really impactful. 

With school as a battleground, and friendships sometimes hard to maintain, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat through how neurotypical people can be better allies and support systems to ADHDers, as friends, partners, employers, and parents.

On a HSP note (not the snack pack, unfortunately), we bet a few of you might resonate with Janelle’s explanation, especially since 15-20% of the population have the Highly Sensitive Person trait.

Janelle, it was an absolute pleasure, and we can’t believe we didn’t do this sooner.

Janelle is based in Western Australia, and her practice Janelle Booker Psychology, will be accepting new clients in February 2025. Click here to find out more - https://bit.ly/3BZimwO

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NPDDf7

💻 ADHD Resources to check out:

🎧 Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

📺 Things to watch:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Janelle Booker Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection ADHD HSP Highly Sensitive Trait empathy attention stereotype focus medication emotional regulation executive function inattentive hyperactive shame dopamine over-thinking fMRI overwhelm organisation elite athletes DSM 5 screens anxiety depression mental health support frustration productivity school friendships treatment self-regulation binge-eating overwhelming boring work deadlines diagnosis hyperfocus memory exams university kindness Elaine Aron orchid children environment The Imperfects, Janelle Booker, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, ADHD, HSP, Highly Sensitive Trait, empathy, attention, stereotype, focus, medication, emotional regulation, executive function, inattentive, hyperactive, shame, dopamine, over-thinking, fMRI, overwhelm, organisation, elite athletes, DSM 5, screens, anxiety, depression, mental health, support, frustration, productivity, school, friendships, treatment, self-regulation, binge-eating, overwhelming, boring work, deadlines, diagnosis, hyperfocus, memory, exams, university, kindness, Elaine Aron, orchid children, environment full 6 54 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a93bac11-d9a1-4ecf-9748-b21a0035ea83 feb6dbd1-c529-49ef-8265-b242003219eb Sun, 03 Nov 2024 18:00:00 +0000 5282 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/janelle-booker-living-with-adhd Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House.

In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today.

Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time.

In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life.

Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you.

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]]> Chef extraordinaire, creative genius and owner of Attica, Ben Shewry is welcomed back to the studio, this time into the Vulnerabilitea House.

In this episode, Ben answers the question, “When was a time you stayed silent, and regretted it?” and talks about his own culpability in racism, and how this event shaped the person that he is today.

Hugh and Josh share a moment they wish they could have back, and how they have been moving through the shame to do better next time.

In determining what success means to him, Ben talks so graciously about how showing sensitivity and love within relationships leads to deeper connections, and a more enriching life.

Ben, we’re IN LOVE with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/s2ZnJ1fw35w

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]]> Ben Shewry The Imperfects Vulnerabilitea House Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Attica Uses for Obsession regret racism chef Māori shame failure Prince Philip reflection humanity dignity power guilt fear privilege empathy Rana Hussain expectations alone value love care friendship sensitivity masculinity teamwork mistakes accountability Ben Shewry, The Imperfects, Vulnerabilitea House, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Attica, Uses for Obsession, regret, racism, chef, Māori, shame, failure, Prince Philip, reflection, humanity, dignity, power, guilt, fear, privilege, empathy, Rana Hussain, expectations, alone, value, love, care, friendship, sensitivity, masculinity, teamwork, mistakes, accountability full 6 53 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7adc0a29-b25e-48a0-b353-b213006ea10a 11dee52d-dec7-45a3-bb95-b24200320f2c Sun, 27 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000 3320 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ben-shewry What's Your ATAR? What's Your ATAR? It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again).

And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM!

Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay.

So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy.

Love,

The Imperfects.

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]]> It’s tiiimmmmeeee, to get vulnyyyyy (again).

And this time, we’re talking about year 12 exams. With the WHOLE TEAM!

Whether you’ve hid a possum in your cupboard the night before your English exam, or lost your voice on stage in your drama final, or maybe didn’t even take exams, we’ve been there, and we’re here to tell you, it will be okay.

So, get out your papers and pens (do kids still use these?), sit down and enjoy.

Love,

The Imperfects.

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]]> The Imperfects Getting’ Vulny Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton exams pressure exam pressure team sleep failure drama stage fright self-worth writing connections intern media video university contacts kindness Hamish and Andy ethics year 12 Finishing school school High school The Imperfects, Getting’ Vulny, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, exams, pressure, exam pressure, team, sleep, failure, drama, stage fright, self-worth, writing, connections, intern, media, video, university, contacts, kindness, Hamish and Andy, ethics, year 12, Finishing school, school, High school bonus 6 52 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 9d012c08-4b99-47e6-8724-b213005b36a2 2cc996e8-7171-4c9c-92a6-b24200321deb Thu, 24 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000 2888 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/whats-your-atar Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation Dr Julia Baird - An Awe-full Conversation As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!).

Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip).

With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society.

Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list.

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]]> As an author, journalist and broadcaster, Dr Julia Baird has spent the last decade researching awe, wonder, grace and forgiveness (...and now the title makes sense!).

Finding joy and purpose through ocean swimming, Julia shows us how impactful nature and community can be when we say yes to adventure (and also what to do when caught in a rip).

With Josh out sick, Ryan and Hugh do the heavy lifting with bountiful good questions, Ryan becomes enlightened and discovers the meaning behind church (no really, he’s onto something), and Hugh and Ryan get deep with Julia and discuss the role of justice in forgiveness and the place of grace in today’s society.

Julia, it was such an honour, and definitely a name ticked off our dream-guest bucket list.

To watch the full episode on YouTube click here - https://youtu.be/3Xjy4eABOQ4

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]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection Julia Baird awe nature moral beauty cancer resilience Phosphorescence ocean swimming author awe- hunter collective effervescence connectedness Rachel Carson Dacher Keltner peace unity blood donors grief beauty empathy graceful forgiveness love stolen generation divorce Nick Cave ritual community ocean happiness hedonic treadmill screens vulnerability The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, Julia Baird, awe, nature, moral beauty, cancer, resilience, Phosphorescence, ocean swimming, author, awe- hunter, collective effervescence, connectedness, Rachel Carson, Dacher Keltner, peace, unity, blood donors, grief, beauty, empathy, graceful, forgiveness, love, stolen generation, divorce, Nick Cave, ritual, community, ocean, happiness, hedonic treadmill, screens, vulnerability full 6 51 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f597e598-6bf7-46c2-bb6f-b20d0032aa7e 8a91f8ff-62d7-4b62-817a-b24200321aa9 Sun, 20 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000 4441 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/julia-baird Jack Post-Natal Depression Jack Post-Natal Depression The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right?

But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling?

Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here.

This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one.

We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA

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]]> The birth of a child is completely overwhelming, in every way. What gets you through is your newfound love and connection. Right?

But what happens when your heart doesn’t break open with love? What happens when you don’t feel what you’re meant to be feeling?

Jack Post is a pillar of Australian radio. Cackling Jack of Hamish and Andy, Side-Kick of the Christian O’Connell Show, Jack has worked hard to always be in the right place at the right time.

In this Vulnerabilitea House, Jack is so remarkably honest about his experience with post-natal depression. The shame, the unbearable expectation, the support, and the newfound self-love, Jack shares his journey and the hard work that he has done to get here.

This is not an easy conversation, but it is such a very important one.

We don’t have favourites, but this episode is an exception. Jack, it was an honour speaking to you. We love you so much.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/1ly4jm4vrqA

🎧 Things to listen to:

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If you, or someone you know, is struggling with post-natal depression, these are a few great resources:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Vulnerabilitea House Jack Post Hamish and Andy Fox FM SYN FM jealousy shame children parenting fatherhood post-natal depression birth Christian O’Connell Hamish Blake anxiety depression support empathy love future therapy connection father- son bond The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Vulnerabilitea House, Jack Post, Hamish and Andy, Fox FM, SYN FM, jealousy, shame, children, parenting, fatherhood, post-natal depression, birth, Christian O’Connell, Hamish Blake, anxiety, depression, support, empathy, love, future, therapy, connection, father- son bond full 6 50 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e2c32c6e-cb78-4295-93bb-b20800644a95 bf77d753-a38d-484a-8b2e-b242003217eb Sun, 13 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000 3848 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jack-post-natal-depression Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement Getting Vulny - Josh’s Big Announcement We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh.

Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it.

Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous).

We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x

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]]> We’re gettin’ vullllnnnnyyyyy. Oooohhhhh yeahhhhhh.

Yeah, that’s right. We’re trying something new. And, in the coolest way possible, we really hope you like it.

Specifically, Josh is gettin’ vulny, and letting us in on a little something he’s been working on (or hoping to work on) (he’s nervous).

We’re so proud of you Josh, and we can’t wait to see everyone there x

TO BUY TICKETS TO JOSH’S GIG (!!!!!) - follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zG9XxG

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]]> Josh van Cuylenburg Vulnerbility Gettin Vulny Music Playing a gig Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Northcote Social Club We Where Here Josh's Gig Nervous Vulnerable Singing Guitar writing music Josh van Cuylenburg, Vulnerbility, Gettin Vulny, Music, Playing a gig, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Northcote Social Club, We Where Here, Josh's Gig, Nervous, Vulnerable, Singing, Guitar, writing music bonus 6 49 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ffd7082c-d36a-4379-b084-b204017c504a d8903cf5-ceb8-4886-b3ff-b242003222df Thu, 10 Oct 2024 18:22:55 +0000 1350 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/getting-vulny-josh-s-big-announcement Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen?

According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent).

If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty.

In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process.

We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives.

Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment.

You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - https://youtu.be/jo5Ex1a2OwM

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Do you believe that if you stop worrying, the worst-case scenario will happen?

According to Dr Emily, uncertainty, is the only certainty (mic drop) (jaw drop) (the crowd goes silent).

If you weren’t having an existential crisis yet, strap yourself in, because today we’re talking worry and uncertainty.

In this emisode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove talks us through our new-age uncertainty intolerance, and why we continuously seek reassurance and data to drive our decision-making process.

We talk big, global-warming size unpredictability, and also small, picking a restaurant without reading reviews uncertainty, to explore the role of worry in our lives.

Without further ado, let’s dive into the unknown and find safety in the present moment.

You can watch this full episode on YouTube here - https://youtu.be/jo5Ex1a2OwM

🎧Things to listen to:

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💻Things to check out:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Dr Emily The Imperfects uncertainty worry ryan shelton hugh van cuylenburg josh van cuylenburg Dr. Emily Embracing uncertainty Mental health podcast Coping with anxiety The Imperfects podcast Overcoming worry Dealing with uncertainty Psychology tips Managing stress Grounding techniques Practicing gratitude Mental well-being Dr Emily, The Imperfects, uncertainty, worry, ryan shelton, hugh van cuylenburg, josh van cuylenburg, Dr. Emily, Embracing uncertainty, Mental health podcast, Coping with anxiety, The Imperfects podcast, Overcoming worry, Dealing with uncertainty, Psychology tips, Managing stress, Grounding techniques, Practicing gratitude, Mental well-being full 6 48 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 6f351665-a90b-4d69-9c93-b1fe0054525c 3c15f4ae-803a-4122-9481-b24200321a4f Sun, 06 Oct 2024 18:00:00 +0000 3331 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-certainty-of-uncertainty Zoë Foster Blake - Zero Lucks Given Zoë Foster Blake - Zero Lucks Given Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific.

Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time.

Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following.

But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent.

Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it).

Zoë, what a joy. 

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]]> Author, business lady and skincare wizard (according to her customs card), Zoë Foster Blake is nothing short of prolific.

Chatting with Hugh, Ryan and Josh in this Vulnerabilitea House, Zoë talks through the pressure and responsibility she felt during her loneliest time.

Striking ‘luck’ as a dirty word, Zoë’s compulsion to be productive and produce ‘good work’ has earned her a multitude of publishing awards for her numerous books, the production of one of her novels into a TV show, the stocking of her skincare brand Go-To in Mecca and Sephora, and a cult following.

But something’s gotta give when you’re striving to have it all, and Zoë knows better than anyone how relationships, mental and physical health can all suffer when you’re burn-out adjacent.

Zoë preaches the importance of sleep, and discusses how she combats anxious thoughts before bedtime, as well as perimenopause (and how you’re probably gaslighting yourself into thinking you aren’t going through it).

Zoë, what a joy. 

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/cfaS-lIj9Mk

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]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Zoe Foster Blake Vulnerabilitea House Scaredy Bath No One Likes A Fart Go-To Bro-To Gro-To business founder Things Will Calm Down Soon writing community connection risk beauty skincare science luck self-deprecation responsibility instinct success anxiety anxious thoughts pressure relationships burn out self-care guilt childhood friends change introvert extrovert highly social skilled introvert sleep THC CBD oil children motherhood perimenopause women hormones adrenaline Michael Phelps The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Zoe Foster Blake, Vulnerabilitea House, Scaredy Bath, No One Likes A Fart, Go-To, Bro-To, Gro-To, business, founder, Things Will Calm Down Soon, writing, community, connection, risk, beauty, skincare science, luck, self-deprecation, responsibility, instinct, success, anxiety, anxious thoughts, pressure, relationships, burn out, self-care, guilt, childhood, friends, change, introvert, extrovert, highly social skilled introvert, sleep, THC, CBD oil, children, motherhood, perimenopause, women, hormones, adrenaline, Michael Phelps full 6 47 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f0853227-dfcf-436f-90fa-b1f600137ac3 d1e138e2-65a4-4f27-a0fa-b2420032264f Sun, 29 Sep 2024 20:00:00 +0000 3425 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/zo-foster-blake-zero-lucks-given Dr Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men Dr Billy Garvey - From Boyz II Men Dr Billy Garvey gets kids.

A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem.

Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health.

In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues).

Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.

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]]> Dr Billy Garvey gets kids.

A developmental and behavioural paediatrician with over twenty years experience, Billy is an expert at up-skilling kids with the fundamental skills of empathy, kindness, compassion and self-esteem.

Due to the extremely high demand for his expertise (the clinic waiting list is most likely seven years long at this point), Billy decided to co-produce his own podcast ‘Pop-Culture Parenting’, and has also just released a book Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health.

In this Academy, Billy gets into the nitty gritty about masculinity, role modelling and teaching emotional regulation to kids, especially young boys (we even talk about porn). Extremely generous in sharing his own story, Billy reveals the purpose behind his clinic, and how he finds immense privilege in being here to do the work that he does (you’re going to need tissues).

Thank you Billy, it is always pleasure.

To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47BHJAw

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]]> The Imperfects Pop Culture Parenting Dr Billy Garvey Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg child psychologist ten things I wish you knew about your child’s mental health paediatric development men’s violence masculinity toxic masculinity violence attachment bond genetics environment consequences community emotional regulation respect latch-key kids social learning theory developmental trauma love kindness compassion football assertiveness childhood social norms identity mob mentality power intimacy connection belonging trust cancer teacher Academy of Imperfection The Imperfects, Pop Culture Parenting, Dr Billy Garvey, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, child psychologist, ten things I wish you knew about your child’s mental health, paediatric development, men’s violence, masculinity, toxic masculinity, violence, attachment bond, genetics, environment, consequences, community, emotional regulation, respect, latch-key kids, social learning theory, developmental trauma, love, kindness, compassion, football, assertiveness, childhood, social norms, identity, mob mentality, power, intimacy, connection, belonging, trust, cancer, teacher, Academy of Imperfection full 6 46 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c5d3ad4f-42f2-498c-b7fe-b1f000644f9c c5762402-a73f-432a-b298-b24200321a73 Sun, 22 Sep 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4105 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-billy-garvey-from-boyz-ii-men Nathan Buckley - Out of The Woods Nathan Buckley - Out of The Woods For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 

Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.

In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.

Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 

Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv

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  • Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

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]]> For Nathan Buckley, self-reflection is critical for becoming the person he wants to be. 

Placed on a pedestal during his playing career (for good reason), Bucks was Collingwood’s favourite son, and GOD he felt the pressure. Communicating only through criticism, both to himself and his teammates, Bucks says he was "demented" in the way he trained.

In this episode, Bucks shares the steps he took to change his entire approach to playing and coaching footy. Importantly, unlearning that playing good footy meant being worthy and how letting go and asking for help completely changed his relationship with himself.

Also... The Courage To Be Disliked gets a few mentions, we PROMISE Ryan isn’t sponsored, just obsessed! 

Bucks, for someone who bleeds black and white, you have the biggest heart, and we love you a lot.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MIykxv

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  • Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> full 6 45 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 9b258f46-ebb7-4061-ae52-b1ea005e68a6 b27b7b81-a68e-47d4-a87f-b24200322876 Sun, 15 Sep 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5219 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/nathan-buckley-out-of-the-woods Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others?

That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do. 

Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering.

In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments.

And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?) 

 

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B 

📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point)

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to check out

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Do you feel like you're on your own side? Are you able to speak to yourself with kindness? Or stick up for yourself in front of others?

That, my friend, is self-compassion and it can be incredibly hard to do. 

Dr Em says, "compassion" in Latin translates to “with suffering.” And SELF-compassion is how we relate, reflect and react when our self is suffering.

In this episode, Dr Em talks about why cultivating a self-compassionate voice is SO DIFFICULT, but how it's also pivotal in getting us through our darkest moments.

And we chat through whether self-compassion needs a re-brand? (Hugh's gunning for self-chop-out, but we're still taking recommendations?) 

 

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4gdli8B 

📖Books Josh hasn’t read (but definitely will at some point)

🎧Things to listen to

💻Things to check out

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Grace Tame Vulnerabilitea House anorexia eating disorder sexual abuse survivor vulnerability The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner compassion time experience grooming child sexual abuse connection dysregulation family unit love autism trauma fear survival mode dissociation endometriosis mental illness gaslighting loneliness control vicarious trauma support services Lifeline shame alexithymia maladaptive coping mechanisms running endurance grounding exploitation instability consent arousal trust intimate relationships pain sex confidence communication neurodivergence sensory profile recovery sharing healing The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Grace Tame, Vulnerabilitea House, anorexia, eating disorder, sexual abuse, survivor, vulnerability, The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner, compassion, time, experience, grooming, child sexual abuse, connection, dysregulation, family unit, love, autism, trauma, fear, survival mode, dissociation, endometriosis, mental illness, gaslighting, loneliness, control, vicarious trauma, support services, Lifeline, shame, alexithymia, maladaptive coping mechanisms, running, endurance, grounding, exploitation, instability, consent, arousal, trust, intimate relationships, pain, sex, confidence, communication, neurodivergence, sensory profile, recovery, sharing, healing full 6 44 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0488804a-e9ae-468e-8476-b1e101847e48 f5ab6edc-cbed-4d8b-b198-b24200321b4d Sun, 08 Sep 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4101 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-compassion-of-the-self Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism" Grace Tame - "Sexy-time, Scissoring, Autism" In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.”

Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed.

Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye.

Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.

Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way! 

Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely.

To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC

📖Things to Read

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📺Things to watch


🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> In this Vulnerabilitea House, Grace addresses her adolescent self with a simple message - “It wasn’t your fault.”

Australian of the Year, Next Generation Leader (as voted by Time Magazine), ultra-marathon runner and changer of laws, Grace Tame can't be tamed.

Here she discusses the uncomfortable truths of her child sexual abuse, grooming & rape. She shares how survival mode became her new normal while dealing, and continuously recounting, her trauma in the public eye.

Talking body, Grace is honest about her struggle with anorexia and the relief (after a whole lot of pain) of a recent endometriosis diagnosis.

Ohh and she talks about autism, in the most beautiful unfiltered way! 

Grace, it was the biggest privilege to have you in the studio. We love you immensely.

To see Grace speak live (we implore you to), tickets for her show, Lightening the Load with Grace Tame are available here - https://bit.ly/3MitxTh.

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cMEvLC

📖Things to Read

💻Things to check out

📺Things to watch


🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Grace Tame Vulnerabilitea House anorexia eating disorder sexual abuse survivor vulnerability The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner compassion time experience grooming child sexual abuse connection dysregulation family unit love autism trauma fear survival mode dissociation endometriosis mental illness gaslighting loneliness control vicarious trauma support services Lifeline shame alexithymia maladaptive coping mechanisms running endurance grounding exploitation instability consent arousal trust intimate relationships pain sex confidence communication neurodivergence sensory profile recovery sharing healing The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Grace Tame, Vulnerabilitea House, anorexia, eating disorder, sexual abuse, survivor, vulnerability, The Ninth Life of a Diamond Miner, compassion, time, experience, grooming, child sexual abuse, connection, dysregulation, family unit, love, autism, trauma, fear, survival mode, dissociation, endometriosis, mental illness, gaslighting, loneliness, control, vicarious trauma, support services, Lifeline, shame, alexithymia, maladaptive coping mechanisms, running, endurance, grounding, exploitation, instability, consent, arousal, trust, intimate relationships, pain, sex, confidence, communication, neurodivergence, sensory profile, recovery, sharing, healing full 6 43 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 6e5d3602-f18b-441b-949d-b1db0062138e cf185ca5-aa75-48be-ac91-b24200321aa8 Sun, 01 Sep 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5116 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/grace-tame-sexy-time-scissoring-autism Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection

Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. 

In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.

In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!  

Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

💻Things to check out

🎧Things to listen to

📖Things to read

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Have you ever felt excluded? Or like you don't belong? It turns out that belonging is a fundamental human need. To thrive, we need to feel safe, we need to feel welcome, but very importantly, we need to know the tribe has our back. 

In this Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to founder of Good Human, Rana Hussain. Rana is a host of The Outer Sanctum podcast, a board member of Reconciliation Australia and consultant to a plethora of elite sporting clubs on bettering their diversity and inclusion strategies.

In this episode, she shares how to get curious in a respectful way, why listening is everything and how to live a life true to your identity. Ohh and there's a pretty incredible love story in the ep as well!  

Rana, it was an absolute joy, and you definitely left us better than you found us.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link -

💻Things to check out

🎧Things to listen to

📖Things to read

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Academy of Imperfection Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Rana Hussain Melbourne Demons AFL sport diversity inclusion Good Human belonging Pallavi Sharda representation body image issues code-switching identity culture authenticity respect language history connection faith purpose spirituality Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs 9/11 stereotype Richmond Football Club Bachar Houli Muslim welcoming Russel Robertson Dave Thornton trust facilitated marriage Ramadan values family honesty romance love parenthood Adam Goodes desperation risk grief listening guilt privilege agency compassion racism The Imperfects, Academy of Imperfection, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Rana Hussain, Melbourne Demons, AFL, sport, diversity, inclusion, Good Human, belonging, Pallavi Sharda, representation, body image issues, code-switching, identity, culture, authenticity, respect, language, history, connection, faith, purpose, spirituality, Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, 9/11, stereotype, Richmond Football Club, Bachar Houli, Muslim, welcoming, Russel Robertson, Dave Thornton, trust, facilitated marriage, Ramadan, values, family, honesty, romance, love, parenthood, Adam Goodes, desperation, risk, grief, listening, guilt, privilege, agency, compassion, racism full 6 42 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg bc1ed02b-ef5d-4a4c-b48b-b1d500642beb f2534713-4a9f-4b7f-b3a5-b24200322bf2 Sun, 25 Aug 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4584 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/rana-hussain-belonging-for-connection Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety Jack Steele - Socials Anxiety ‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas.

Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect.

In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates.

Jack, we’re in love with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8 

🎧Things to listen to:

📖Things to read:

📱Things to scroll:

📺Things to watch:

📋Things to do:

👨‍🦲Things for hair loss

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> ‘The Inspired Unemployed’ began when a couple of tradies, Jack Steele and Matt ‘Falcon’ Ford, began an Instagram to catalogue the skits they were writing and filming overseas.

Since then, Jack and Falcon have launched Australia’s fastest selling beer, collaborated with Fendi and Louis Vuitton, have 2 million followers on Instagram, launched a podcast exclusive to Spotify AND star in their own TV show The Inspired Unemployed (Impractical) Jokers. Life, from the outside, seems pretty much perfect.

In this Vulnerabilitea House we chat with Jack Steele about his fear of losing relevance. Extremely generous in his vulnerability, Jack opens up about his terrifying panic attacks, anxiety over not being productive; his ADHD diagnosis; and what it’s like to live and work with your best mate, while still trying to be, well, best mates.

Jack, we’re in love with you.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click this link: https://youtu.be/xxAx0kOOAo8 

🎧Things to listen to:

📖Things to read:

📱Things to scroll:

📺Things to watch:

📋Things to do:

👨‍🦲Things for hair loss

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Jack Steel The Inspired Unemployed vulnerability hair loss relevance eczema productivity competitive lost podcast success dopamine panic attack anxiety joy purpose ego partying ADHD friends disassociation break-ups breathwork routine falcon matt ford inspired unemployed skits tiktok instagram influencer fame The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Jack Steel, The Inspired Unemployed, vulnerability, hair loss, relevance, eczema, productivity, competitive, lost, podcast, success, dopamine, panic attack, anxiety, joy, purpose, ego, partying, ADHD, friends, disassociation, break-ups, breathwork, routine, falcon, matt ford, inspired unemployed, skits, tiktok, instagram, influencer, fame full 6 41 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg adddde03-f820-45cd-872b-b1cc0008e652 adb3cff0-9817-48ae-a87a-b24200321b57 Sun, 18 Aug 2024 20:00:00 +0000 3973 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jack-steele-socials-anxiety Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one.

We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist.

Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes).

We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people.

So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business.

To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp 

🎧Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Settle in and grab your notebooks, you’re in for a good one.

We’re joined by Maria Ruberto, director and founder of Salutegenics Psychology, who just happens to be Ryan and Josh’s (ex) psychologist.

Maria is the co-designer of Resilience First Aid, an internationally recognised two-day certification program, which teaches the neuroscience of resilience (Ryan took sooooo many notes).

We discuss with Maria the relationship between biology and behaviour, and the six domains of resilience. Getting technical, we delve into the negatives of screen time (hello darkness our old friend) and the ridiculously positive benefits of doing stuff with other people.

So join us as we get started on building our resilience toolbox, practice breathing like a baby AND co-regulate like it’s no one’s business.

To sign up to Maria’s Resilience First Aid training, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3WuhOFG

To watch this full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/3AvhAqp 

🎧Things to listen to:

📖 Things to read:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenberg Josh van Cuylenberg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection Maria Ruberto Mental Health First Aid mental health psychology anxiety neuropsychotherapist Saultegenics Resilience First Aid advancing despite adversity impact self-help books therapy neuromechanics of wellbeing behaviour growth biology brain fear amygdala hypothalamus thalamus breathing regulate pre-frontal cortex toolbox collaboration vision purpose values goals composure emotional regulation emotional currency reasoning health stress belief tenacity hope diversity neurodivergence children The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenberg, Josh van Cuylenberg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, Maria Ruberto, Mental Health First Aid, mental health, psychology, anxiety, neuropsychotherapist, Saultegenics, Resilience First Aid, advancing despite adversity, impact, self-help books, therapy, neuromechanics of wellbeing, behaviour, growth, biology, brain, fear, amygdala, hypothalamus, thalamus, breathing, regulate, pre-frontal cortex, toolbox, collaboration, vision, purpose, values, goals, composure, emotional regulation, emotional currency, reasoning, health, stress, belief, tenacity, hope, diversity, neurodivergence, children full 6 40 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a8e405e2-8a52-4a47-add9-b1c6002209d5 718a1c71-d4aa-454d-a329-b2420032272e Sun, 11 Aug 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5060 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/maria-ruberto-advancing-despite-adversity Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me Jackson Tozer - Don’t Give Up On Me Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree.

Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom.

Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.

This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9

Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX 

🎭Things to check out

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If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start:

🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Jackson Tozer embodies the essence of The Imperfects podcast. Well, that’s what Ryan thinks, and we’re pretty keen to agree.

Hugely successful and outrageously talented, Jackson, from the outside, is living the dream. Behind the professional success of acting alongside Shaun Micallef, John Cena and Zac Efron (and Ryan, can’t forget Ryan), Jackson found himself learning how to be a high-functioning addict (literally high) at rock bottom.

Sharing his experience with grief, the loss of his best friend and marijuana addiction, which contributed to his battle with bulimia, anxiety and depression, we thank Jackson for being so bloody generous with his vulnerability.

This episode with Jackson Tozer includes a discussion about eating disorders, marijuana addiction and suicide . If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're ready.

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/3YrXrf9

Join Movember and be part of the solution. To advocate for more action around men's health, head to https://bit.ly/3yv9BZX 

🎭Things to check out

📺Things to watch

🎧Things to listen to

If you or someone you love is suffering from a marijuana addiction, these are some good places to start:

🦋 If you or someone you know if experiencing an eating disorder, these are some helpful resources to look into:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

Or visit the below support services. 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> The Imperfects Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Jackson Tozer friendship actor comedy Rick Stanicky community service vulnerability strength grateful diabetes Portland mental health masculinity ADHD inattentive school learning teacher passion medication grief death marijuana addicted therapy shame depression social anxiety bulimia negative self-talk fear dopamine embarrassment eating disorder The Killers pain support drugs parents compassion reflection joy money burden gratitude meditation confidence The Imperfects, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Jackson Tozer, friendship, actor, comedy, Rick Stanicky, community service, vulnerability, strength, grateful, diabetes, Portland, mental health, masculinity, ADHD, inattentive, school, learning, teacher, passion, medication, grief, death, marijuana, addicted, therapy, shame, depression, social anxiety, bulimia, negative self-talk, fear, dopamine, embarrassment, eating disorder, The Killers, pain, support, drugs, parents, compassion, reflection, joy, money, burden, gratitude, meditation, confidence full 6 39 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a7ec41a4-71b3-4bcc-bea8-b1bd0047dcdd 99dc008a-81ac-4e14-a589-b24200321b5a Sun, 04 Aug 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4436 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jackson-tozer-don-t-give-up-on-me Another Imperfect Chat About Men Another Imperfect Chat About Men This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is.

We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it. 

We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues. 

In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be.

You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO

Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly. 

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP 

🎧Things to listen to

📖Things to read

💻 Things to help you learn

If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> This is not compulsory listening, but then again, it kind of is.

We’re back to have another imperfect conversation about men, violence and consent, because we're still imperfect and we believe reflecting on behaviour is key to changing it. 

We don't have all the answers, but in collaboration with Teach Us Consent and future OAM Chanel Contos, we’ve come up with some new Vulnerabilitea House questions to help anyone get vulnerable and think deeply about these issues. 

In all honesty, we’re pretty nervous about answering them, but reflecting and getting vulnerable with ourselves and others is how we do better and become the people we want to be.

You can find the questions on our instagram: https://bit.ly/4dnfjvO

Vulnerability is the willingness to be seen as our authentic selves, even when we don’t know how others will respond. To be vulnerable is to take an emotional risk and while it does promote connection, it can also cause distress and should never be forced. So take care of yourself and others while answering these questions. Always vulnerable responsibly. 

To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://bit.ly/4fx8lWP 

🎧Things to listen to

📖Things to read

💻 Things to help you learn

If you're a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the nation24-hour national sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

If you need support for your own mental health of the back of this episode please contact Lifeline on 13 11 14.

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> violence consent mens violence fights fight men feelings emotions Hugh van cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Chanel Contos Teach Us Consent Boys Rape Culture Footy Cricket The Imperfects Mens Violence Hugh van Cuylenburg loyalty social status footy sport exciting messaging real man safety pressure masculinity fantasy guilt disappointed social expectations movies disrespectful apology shame locker room talk self-esteem power Malcolm Gladwell vulnerability violence, consent, mens violence, fights, fight, men, feelings, emotions, Hugh van cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Chanel Contos, Teach Us Consent, Boys, Rape Culture, Footy, Cricket, The Imperfects, Mens Violence, Hugh van Cuylenburg, loyalty, social status, footy, sport, exciting, messaging, real man, safety, pressure, masculinity, fantasy, guilt, disappointed, social expectations, movies, disrespectful, apology, shame, locker room talk, self-esteem, power, Malcolm Gladwell, vulnerability full 6 38 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 551263e2-6893-4512-987c-b1be00075a1a 3c6f642e-9d8b-495f-8813-b24200321d41 Thu, 01 Aug 2024 20:00:00 +0000 3496 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/another-imperfect-chat-about-men How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story How I Built Dis - The Resilience Project Story Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it.

The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!

Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now.

From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success.

So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.

 

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🦋 If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder, these are some great resources to look into: 

 

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]]> Dis episode is a little bit different, but if you’re as obsessed with Hugh van Cuylenburg as we are, we think you’ll enjoy it.

The Resilience Project (TRP) is the company that Hugh started building 12 years ago. Today, it delivers evidence-based, wellbeing programs to over 1000 schools in Australia, as well as countless work-places and helps provide people with strategies to build resilience too!

Hugh always knew that TRP would be something special, but god, it took a lot of hard work (and some might say resilience) to get it to where it is now.

From the first spark of inspiration, to the make-or-break scene straight from a movie, Hugh gets pretty vulnerable with Ryan and Josh about all the ways he failed on the road to success.

So grab your glitter pens, rule up your calendar, and pencil in dis super special episode.

 

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]]> The Imperfects The Resilience Project Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton business schools workplace mental health happiness tools teacher comfort zone India priorities gratitude joy empathy mindfulness work ethic engagement positive messaging support risk public speaking help success pride teamwork Martin Heppell mistakes exhaustion money organisation weakness skills leadership energy principals The Imperfects, The Resilience Project, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, business, schools, workplace, mental health, happiness, tools, teacher, comfort zone, India, priorities, gratitude, joy, empathy, mindfulness, work ethic, engagement, positive messaging, support, risk, public speaking, help, success, pride, teamwork, Martin Heppell, mistakes, exhaustion, money, organisation, weakness, skills, leadership, energy, principals full 6 37 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fb783bcd-d1e4-415b-b834-b1b800013b89 ab2fa49d-daa2-4986-afb1-b24200322049 Sun, 28 Jul 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4598 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/how-i-built-dis-the-resilience-project-story Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? Dr Emily - What Are Your Values? Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove.

Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start.

Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be.

Links mentioned in the episode:

 

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ 

The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 

Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO 


📺 Things to watch

Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U

 

📖Steven Hayes books to read 

A Liberated Mind -  https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou 


🛠️ Tools to use

The Resilience Project 6 month journal -  https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU


📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC

 

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

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]]> Your values are perfect - according to our resident psychologist Dr. Emily Musgrove.

Although this sounds counter intuitive to what we usually say…it’s actually a beautiful place to start.

Figuring out what your values are, and where they come from can be a pretty intense experience. Lucky we have Dr Em to help, breaking down why they are important and how they can add purpose to your life. As she explains, our values work like a compass, and when used responsibly, can point us in the direction of the person we want to be.

Links mentioned in the episode:

 

🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects
Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ 

The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe - https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - https://bit.ly/3XZhQGr 

Chrissie Swan - Honesty - https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO 


📺 Things to watch

Life of Brian “Individual” - https://bit.ly/4bLR74U

 

📖Steven Hayes books to read 

A Liberated Mind -  https://amzn.to/4bRIHJz 

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - https://amzn.to/3Wp95ou 


🛠️ Tools to use

The Resilience Project 6 month journal -  https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

Steve Hayes’ research into values - https://bit.ly/4fhrsnU


📺 To watch the full episode on YouTube, click here: https://bit.ly/46795xC

 

Dr Emily is a clinical psychologist and you can find out more about her here - https://bit.ly/4gesuBy

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Values Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The Imperfects Pat Cummins childhood cricket choice feeling Steve Hayes acceptance commitment struggle pain of absence pain of presence morals creativity relationships work fear of failure deadlines discomfort compass goals behaviour maturity sense of self purpose hedonic happiness eudaimonic happiness cost grief finite compassion connection addiction mindfulness activity comparison people pleasing social media present admiration perfectionism value values work worth Values, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The Imperfects, Pat Cummins, childhood, cricket, choice, feeling, Steve Hayes, acceptance, commitment, struggle, pain of absence, pain of presence, morals, creativity, relationships, work, fear of failure, deadlines, discomfort, compass, goals, behaviour, maturity, sense of self, purpose, hedonic happiness, eudaimonic happiness, cost, grief, finite, compassion, connection, addiction, mindfulness activity, comparison, people pleasing, social media, present, admiration, perfectionism, value, values work, worth full 6 36 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 56303f7e-5cb3-4024-986d-b1af018208d0 5cb2d5ef-bf84-44fd-82e1-b24200321e2c Sun, 21 Jul 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5346 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-what-are-your-values Zan Rowe - If I Had A Year To Live Zan Rowe - If I Had A Year To Live In the ultimate power move, we interview Zan Rowe, ‘one of Australia’s best interviewers’. Talk about pressure. 

Champion of the airwaves, TV presenter, music journalist and podcaster, Zan has soundtracked the lives of many Australians. In this episode of the Vulnerabilitea House,  Zan draws the card; ‘how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?’ 

In between getting ‘death ready’ and facing burnout just when her professional dreams were all coming true, Zan and Hugh fan-girl hard for Johann Sebastian Bach.

You can watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/g-ABdHgMKyE 

Links mentioned in this episode:

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]]> In the ultimate power move, we interview Zan Rowe, ‘one of Australia’s best interviewers’. Talk about pressure. 

Champion of the airwaves, TV presenter, music journalist and podcaster, Zan has soundtracked the lives of many Australians. In this episode of the Vulnerabilitea House,  Zan draws the card; ‘how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?’ 

In between getting ‘death ready’ and facing burnout just when her professional dreams were all coming true, Zan and Hugh fan-girl hard for Johann Sebastian Bach.

You can watch the full episode here: https://youtu.be/g-ABdHgMKyE 

Links mentioned in this episode:

🎧 Previous episodes of the imperfects

📺 Things to watch

🎧 Things to listen to

 

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

]]> Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg mental health psychology radio triple j death parents orphan content producer zan rowe life The Imperfects music communication connection Take 5 story vulnerability stoicism control panic attack relationships kindness present appreciation support identity resilience regret confidence change value intention Johann Sebastian Bach classical music work success feedback criticism burn out taking risks fear hustling motivation hard work friendship love enrichment Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, mental health, psychology, radio, triple j, death, parents, orphan, content, producer, zan rowe, life, The Imperfects, music, communication, connection, Take 5, story, vulnerability, stoicism, control, panic attack, relationships, kindness, present, appreciation, support, identity, resilience, regret, confidence, change, value, intention, Johann Sebastian Bach, classical music, work, success, feedback, criticism, burn out, taking risks, fear, hustling, motivation, hard work, friendship, love, enrichment full 6 35 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f8c22e31-8d44-49a6-af7b-b1a900141932 990ddbc3-2cd2-4e5d-a551-b24200321d0e Sun, 14 Jul 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4062 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/zan-rowe-if-i-had-a-year-to-live Poh Ling Yeow - When The Relationship Ends Poh Ling Yeow - When The Relationship Ends Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort. 

But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance. 

A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo). 

In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before.

Links mentioned in this episode.

📺 Things to watch

🍽️ Things to cook

🎨 Art to see

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Have you ever made a really bad decision? Made a call that you couldn’t undo? It's a fear for many, and for others, living with the reality of a ‘roll of the dice’ gone wrong, is cause for great sadness, and discomfort. 

But, there is wisdom in mistakes. And for Poh Ling Yeow, learning to own her bad decisions, meant she could move forward with empathy and acceptance. 

A skill she's honed through a life of ‘magooing’ to her way onto our screens through Master Chef, into our kitchens through cookbooks, and very much into our hearts. (Ref. Mr. Magoo). 

In fact, the level of maturity Poh is able to bring to so much of her life, is unlike anyone we’ve ever met before.

Links mentioned in this episode.

📺 Things to watch

🍽️ Things to cook

🎨 Art to see

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Poh Ling Yeow Imperfects Podcast self-esteem resilience MasterChef Australia migration art cooking decision-making imposter syndrome relationships pregnancy loss personal growth gardening self-acceptance cultural identity wisdom Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg mental health health food Masterchef belonging Mormonism culture destiny shyness performance confidence alienated purpose capability parents separation anxiety family guilt mothering loyalty grief owning mistakes risk taking divorce flow state healing kindness compassion friendship anger recognising yourself joy courage happiness religion challenge connection sacrifice meaning mindfulness morals community fellowshipping children miscarriage love creating body image gut instinct shame empathy Poh Ling Yeow, Imperfects Podcast, self-esteem, resilience, MasterChef Australia, migration, art, cooking, decision-making, imposter syndrome, relationships, pregnancy loss, personal growth, gardening, self-acceptance, cultural identity, wisdom, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, mental health, health, food, Masterchef, belonging, Mormonism, culture, destiny, shyness, performance, confidence, alienated, purpose, capability, parents, separation anxiety, family, guilt, mothering, loyalty, grief, owning mistakes, risk taking, divorce, flow state, healing, kindness, compassion, friendship, anger, recognising yourself, joy, courage, happiness, religion, challenge, connection, sacrifice, meaning, mindfulness, morals, community, fellowshipping, children, miscarriage, love, creating, body image, gut instinct, shame, empathy full 6 34 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 14a72729-f24e-4bce-963a-b1a30064fc45 b098614e-9761-467f-940a-b24200321f54 Sun, 07 Jul 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5350 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/poh-ling-yeow-when-the-relationship-ends Professor Felice Jacka - Food For Thought Professor Felice Jacka - Food For Thought How does food affect our mood? Does diet actually impact our mental health? What is a gut micro-biome, and can we still eat a few chips without ruining it?

In this Academy of Imperfection episode, we are joined one of the worlds leading experts on the relationship between what we eat, and how it effects our mental health, Professor Felice Jacka.

And if can we trust anyone to get to the bottom of the vagus nerve ‘highway’; our hippocampus shrinking; our mitochondrial reaction to ultra-processed foods (don’t worry we didn’t know these words before either) - it’s her. 

There was a lot to 'digest' in this chat (so to speak), but thankfully, there is so much we can do, by making informed choices about what we put in our bodies, to improve our mental health. 

 

See below for links & research mentioned in this episode, information on Felice and her work and extra resources:

📖 Things to read

 

🎧 previous Imperfects Episodes mentioned in this episode:

 

This episode with Professor Felice Jacka includes a discussion about disordered eating. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> How does food affect our mood? Does diet actually impact our mental health? What is a gut micro-biome, and can we still eat a few chips without ruining it?

In this Academy of Imperfection episode, we are joined one of the worlds leading experts on the relationship between what we eat, and how it effects our mental health, Professor Felice Jacka.

And if can we trust anyone to get to the bottom of the vagus nerve ‘highway’; our hippocampus shrinking; our mitochondrial reaction to ultra-processed foods (don’t worry we didn’t know these words before either) - it’s her. 

There was a lot to 'digest' in this chat (so to speak), but thankfully, there is so much we can do, by making informed choices about what we put in our bodies, to improve our mental health. 

 

See below for links & research mentioned in this episode, information on Felice and her work and extra resources:

📖 Things to read

 

🎧 previous Imperfects Episodes mentioned in this episode:

 

This episode with Professor Felice Jacka includes a discussion about disordered eating. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Felice Jacka Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Academy of Imperfection The Imperfects research micro-biome gut health nutritional psychiatry mental health food evidence based health panic disorder genetics depression running brain psychology prevention treatment medicine pioneer immune system data neuroscience diet SMILEs trial anxiety risk factors protein ultra-processed diversity supplements epigenetics environment HPA axis vagus nerve hippocampus Kevin Hall memory appetite economics marketing mental disorder body weight cancer alcohol Felice Jacka, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Academy of Imperfection, The Imperfects, research, micro-biome, gut health, nutritional psychiatry, mental health, food, evidence based, health, panic disorder, genetics, depression, running, brain, psychology, prevention, treatment, medicine, pioneer, immune system, data, neuroscience, diet, SMILEs trial, anxiety, risk factors, protein, ultra-processed, diversity, supplements, epigenetics, environment, HPA axis, vagus nerve, hippocampus, Kevin Hall, memory, appetite, economics, marketing, mental disorder, body weight, cancer, alcohol full 6 33 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 532e963b-9f35-4c43-96d1-b19b005eeb70 222864fc-48bc-4639-8636-b24200321cde Sun, 30 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5060 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/professor-felice-jacka-food-for-thought IMPERFIX: What is Rape Culture? with Chanel Contos IMPERFIX: What is Rape Culture? with Chanel Contos Last season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year. 

In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it. 

To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

🎧 Things to listen to

📖 Things to read

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Last season we met Chanel Contos from Teach Us Consent and we were completely blown away by her courage and the work she's taking on. So much so, that within minutes of Hugh opening and reading Chanel’s book, “Consent Laid Bare”, he had nominated her for Australian of The Year. 

In this snippet from the full episode, Hugh, Ryan, Josh and Chanel discuss the normalised and systemic nature of sexual violence against women and the pervasive issue of rape culture; including what it is and how we can all take steps to dismantle it. 

To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

🎧 Things to listen to

📖 Things to read

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Chanel Contos Rape Culture Rape Sexual Assult Sexual Violence Hugh Ryan and Josh Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Consent Education Chanel Contos, Rape Culture, Rape, Sexual Assult, Sexual Violence, Hugh Ryan and Josh, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Consent, Education full 6 32 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 00208c71-b15a-45e4-b2f3-b19d0094a289 da97db40-9e76-4923-b7fc-b2420032260c Fri, 28 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1411 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-what-is-rape-culture-with-chanel-contos Michael Klim - The Race of His LIfe Michael Klim - The Race of His LIfe What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?

As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.

However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.

In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi

 

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

 

📺 Things to watch

 

🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

 

📖 Things to read

 

⛑️ To support

 

🎧  Things to listen to:

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> What would it feel like to have the very thing that mad you great - your body, strength and co-ordination - slowly and painfully taken away from you?

As a swimmer, Michael Klim was on top of the world - he was literally ‘World Swimmer of the Year’. Trips to the Olympics, medals of every colour, 21 world records AND his face on the cover of a Foo Fighters Album, Michael really did have it all.

However, in 2022 Michael was diagnosed with a life changing condition, wherein your body attacks it’s own tissue - chronic inflammatory demyelination polyneuropathy (CIDP).

In this episode, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Michael about his equally impressive life out of the pool, and how his CIDP diagnosis has taught him a lot about identity, grief and relationships.

In 2023, Michael partnered with Australian Red Cross Lifeblood to help raise awareness for the vital role blood donation plays in not just his life, but the 1 in 3 Australians who will need blood products in their lifetime. To help recipients like Michael and countless others book a blood donation here. https://bit.ly/4c8Z6tN

To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link. https://bit.ly/3RHPUoi

 

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

 

📺 Things to watch

 

🎧 Previous Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode:

 

📖 Things to read

 

⛑️ To support

 

🎧  Things to listen to:

 

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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]]> Michael Klim Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The Imperfects swimming Olympics talent athlete migrant failure pressure identity purpose sporting heroes retirement routine disappointment intensity pain management marriage health divorce children rehab mental health CIPD chronic inflammatory demyelinating polyneuropathy grief movement socialising support anger motivation Foo Fighters perspective loss partner giving back disability wellness inspiration community The Klim Foundation parenting connection donate gratitude Michael Klim, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The Imperfects, swimming, Olympics, talent, athlete, migrant, failure, pressure, identity, purpose, sporting heroes, retirement, routine, disappointment, intensity, pain management, marriage, health, divorce, children, rehab, mental health, CIPD, chronic inflammatory demyelinating polyneuropathy, grief, movement, socialising, support, anger, motivation, Foo Fighters, perspective, loss, partner, giving back, disability, wellness, inspiration, community, The Klim Foundation, parenting, connection, donate, gratitude full 6 31 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 653e99e6-84c8-41ac-b1d8-b1930182a628 07666e80-403e-4f41-8d9b-b24200321f4a Sun, 23 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4865 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/michael-klim-the-race-of-his-life Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries? Dr Emily - What Are Your Boundaries? Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell.

Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward.

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects

📱 Things to follow

📖 Things to read

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The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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]]> Do you have boundaries? Have you ever crossed someone else’s boundaries? How would you react if someone crossed yours? It is WAY easier to ignore it. Avoiding potential conflict and awkwardness is second nature to most of us. For those of us with people-pleasing tendencies, telling someone they have violated a boundary can be an acute version of living hell.

Luckily for us, our resident psychologist Dr. Emily is here to help us navigate what a healthy boundary looks, feels and sounds like. And why understanding, implementing and protecting heathy boundaries is good for all of us...even if it does feel a little awkward.

Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

🎧 Previous episode of The Imperfects

📱 Things to follow

📖 Things to read

📺 Things to watch

The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.
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]]> Dr. Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton boundaries psychology Grant Denyer change pressure choice resentment family priorities porous boundaries rigid boundaries healthy boundaries communication time physical touch physical space trauma over-sharing negative impact aversion judgement inappropriate discomfort assert embarrassment guilt people pleasing burnout truth v harmony flexibility avoidance respect self-care selfish parenting sensitivity values Dr. Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, boundaries, psychology, Grant Denyer, change, pressure, choice, resentment, family, priorities, porous boundaries, rigid boundaries, healthy boundaries, communication, time, physical touch, physical space, trauma, over-sharing, negative impact, aversion, judgement, inappropriate, discomfort, assert, embarrassment, guilt, people pleasing, burnout, truth v harmony, flexibility, avoidance, respect, self-care, selfish, parenting, sensitivity, values full 6 30 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a415a530-4834-4ca5-a2a5-b18d001cb8ca bf03a6ee-ad4e-4cbd-b31d-b24200321eb1 Sun, 16 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4385 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-what-are-your-boundaries IMPERFIX: How Rick Davies Deals with His OCD IMPERFIX: How Rick Davies Deals with His OCD Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old.

Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment.

🎧 Things to listen to

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    • Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back - bit.ly/3x3IG6T

    The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

     

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    ]]>     Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is not a life sentence, as Rick Davies so eloquently tells Hugh and Josh in this episode of The Imperfix. Best known as Jimmy from the TV show 'Offspring', Rick is unbelievably vulnerable in sharing his story with OCD - from the awkward and painful compulsions, to the relief of a diagnosis at 18 years old.

    Here Rick share's how he was inspired by the trailblazing work of Penny Moodie and talks through finding peace and happiness amidst the torment.

    🎧 Things to listen to

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      • Penny’s book, The Joy Thief: How OCD steals your happiness and how to get it back - bit.ly/3x3IG6T

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       The Imperfects The imperfix rick davies hugh van cuylenburg ryan shelton josh van cuylenburg ocd mental health obsessive compulsive disorder offspring tv comedy Penny Moodie The Imperfects, The imperfix, rick davies, hugh van cuylenburg, ryan shelton, josh van cuylenburg, ocd, mental health, obsessive compulsive disorder, offspring, tv, comedy, Penny Moodie full 6 29 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0c36625e-a288-407a-9ab2-b18e0075cc87 461a8121-6640-40cf-81a8-b242003224fa Fri, 14 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 925 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-how-rick-davies-deals-with-his-ocd       Yumi Stynes - Me and Alcohol Don’t Mix Yumi Stynes - Me and Alcohol Don’t Mix From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.

      Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still. 

      In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.

      So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did!

      📖 Things to read

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      ⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression

      ⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       From being ‘canceled’, to alcoholism and post-natal depression, Yumi Stynes knows how to get vulnerable in the Vulnerabilitea House.

      Starting as a magnetic, music presenter on Channel V, Yumi’s career spans more than 20 years on our screens, on the radio, or in the very successful books she’s written. However as she shares with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, there were times when the phone simply didn't ring and her career felt like it was at a stand-still. 

      In this episode, Yumi shares stories from her childhood, from feelings of isolation; to being the victim of racism in 1980s Swan Hill; we discuss the loss of her father and how that experience shaped her perspective on life; to what it was actually like being 'cancelled' and the role friendship played in her lowest moments; above all, Yumi tells us of her struggles with alcohol, and how her decision to quit transformed her life.

      So buckle up for a big one! We know you’ll love this chat as much as we did!

      📖 Things to read

      📺 Things to watch

      ⛑️ For help & support with post natal depression

      ⛑️ For help & support with alcohol abuse

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       Yumi Stynes Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg alcoholism breakfast radio female sexuality consent connection food culture Swan Hill drinking childhood illness choice parenthood frustration escapism trauma authentic self vulnerability confidence performing cancelled racism minority pride friendship showing up media post natal depression exercise resilience mental health Yumi Stynes, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, alcoholism, breakfast radio, female sexuality, consent, connection, food, culture, Swan Hill, drinking, childhood, illness, choice, parenthood, frustration, escapism, trauma, authentic self, vulnerability, confidence, performing, cancelled, racism, minority, pride, friendship, showing up, media, post natal depression, exercise, resilience, mental health full 6 28 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 62049926-b4bc-419c-9b3e-b187001e967a 5b987911-e9b9-4eec-acec-b24200324bd1 Sun, 09 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4170 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/yumi-stynes-me-and-alcohol-don-t-mix       Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back Billy Slater - Leading from the (Full)Back Unfortunately, we all know what bad leadership looks like, for many of us, it doesn’t take long to think of examples…but what does it actually take to be a ‘good leader’?

      This week in the Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh are joined by a legend of the sport, former rugby league player and current coach of the Queensland Maroons, Billy Slater. Billy has been called the best fullback ever to have played the game. As a player, he’s won more awards than we could possibly list. As a coach and a leader, he is nothing short of inspiring.

      In this episode, Billy talks about leadership, coaching and how he approaches it. He shares how playing to your strengths can actually be more beneficial than lingering on weaknesses; he discusses how sometimes, good leadership requires ‘letting go’; and he shares why he spends so much time creating feelings and moments for his players, reminding them that what they’re trying to achieve is something bigger than themselves.

      You can watch the full episode with Billy on youtube here. https://bit.ly/4c45lih

      Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

      📖 Things to read

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Unfortunately, we all know what bad leadership looks like, for many of us, it doesn’t take long to think of examples…but what does it actually take to be a ‘good leader’?

      This week in the Academy of Imperfection, Hugh, Ryan and Josh are joined by a legend of the sport, former rugby league player and current coach of the Queensland Maroons, Billy Slater. Billy has been called the best fullback ever to have played the game. As a player, he’s won more awards than we could possibly list. As a coach and a leader, he is nothing short of inspiring.

      In this episode, Billy talks about leadership, coaching and how he approaches it. He shares how playing to your strengths can actually be more beneficial than lingering on weaknesses; he discusses how sometimes, good leadership requires ‘letting go’; and he shares why he spends so much time creating feelings and moments for his players, reminding them that what they’re trying to achieve is something bigger than themselves.

      You can watch the full episode with Billy on youtube here. https://bit.ly/4c45lih

      Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

      📖 Things to read

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Billy Slater Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg sport coaching vulnerability leadership NRL success connection teacher improvement strengths athletes health masculinity fairness honesty impact purpose unity work ethic opportunity making decisions selflessness control kindness credit fear failure presence mistakes maturity team personality relationships earning luck winning environment energy ubuntu culture passion Billy Slater, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, sport, coaching, vulnerability, leadership, NRL, success, connection, teacher, improvement, strengths, athletes, health, masculinity, fairness, honesty, impact, purpose, unity, work ethic, opportunity, making decisions, selflessness, control, kindness, credit, fear, failure, presence, mistakes, maturity, team, personality, relationships, earning, luck, winning, environment, energy, ubuntu, culture, passion full 6 27 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 49e43908-40a6-4cc4-87c8-b17e00213dad 08afd935-0085-463e-a6c6-b24200323995 Sun, 02 Jun 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4121 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/billy-slater-leading-from-the-full-back       IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic IMPERFIX: Dr. Em - Befriending Your Inner Critic How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?

      We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.

      In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.

      In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.

      To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 

      Links mentioned in the episode:

      📺 Things to watch

      📖 Things to read

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       How kind is your inner voice? What does it say to you when your with friends, having family dinner, at work, when you mistakes, or, when you look in the mirror?

      We all have an inner critic and for lots of us, that voice can be loud and relentless - holding us back from thriving, from living the life we want to live and being the person we want to be.

      In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we jump back into an episode with Dr Em and get up close and personal with ‘our inner critics’.

      In this snippet we explore the role of the inner critic, what’s its purpose? How can we learn to live with, and maybe even befriend it.

      To listen to this full episode with Dr. Em, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 

      Links mentioned in the episode:

      📺 Things to watch

      📖 Things to read

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       the imperfects the imperfix hugh van cuylenburg josh van cuylenburg ryan shelton dr emily inner critic psychology Dr Emily Musgrove Inner Voice Negative self talk self talk the imperfects, the imperfix, hugh van cuylenburg, josh van cuylenburg, ryan shelton, dr emily, inner critic, psychology, Dr Emily Musgrove, Inner Voice, Negative self talk, self talk full 6 26 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 642d0ea5-e63e-4a7a-932a-b17c0186ca95 b0edc9cc-c097-4466-bb80-b24200326e63 Fri, 31 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1045 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-dr-em-befriending-your-inner-critic       Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri.

      Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about.

      In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects.


      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8 

      To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x

      To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0

      To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with  fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY

      Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

       

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

       

      📺 Things to watch

       

      🎧 Things to listen to

       

      🚨 To support

       

      🛒 Things to buy

       

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

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      ]]>       Its hard to imagine a life more remarkable, or as unique as that of Nathan Cavaleri.

      Nathan rose to fame as an 8 year old blues prodigy, regularly appearing on Aussie TV screens in the 90’s, but there is so much more to Nathan and his story than that. Whether it’s touring Australia with the likes of Jimmy Barnes; or touring America with blues Legend B.B. King; being signed to Michael Jackson’s label; or starring in a Baywatch spin off with David Hasselhoff; Nathan’s life from the outside, really does look perfect. However, as we all know, perfect isn't what this podcast is about.

      In this episode, Nathan talks about the challenges he has faced along the way. From his battle with Leukaemia as a child; to his overwhelming struggles with anxiety as an adult that resulted in him passing out on stage. Nathan is a wonderful person, a beautiful storyteller and he’s a real joy to listen to in this episode of the imperfects.


      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/9XlJBw6fdq8 

      To see Nathan perform live & check out his tour dates follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Kgqz0x

      To book Nathan for speaking events, or exclusive performances, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44Z6IN0

      To follow Nathan on Twitch, where he live streams his creative process and regularly connects with  fans, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3yqDutY

      Links mentioned in the episode and extra resources:

       

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

       

      📺 Things to watch

       

      🎧 Things to listen to

       

      🚨 To support

       

      🛒 Things to buy

       

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Music anxiety fame cancer performing childhood touring leukaemia anticipation awareness purpose starlight foundation guitar Mark Knopfler emotion joy exhaustion pride lost success insomnia panic attacks hope nutrition integrated medicine psychology compassion moving forward realistic thinking mind-body connection nathan cavaleri ryan shelton hugh van cuylenburg josh van cuylenburg the imperfects mental health Music, anxiety, fame, cancer, performing, childhood, touring, leukaemia, anticipation, awareness, purpose, starlight foundation, guitar, Mark Knopfler, emotion, joy, exhaustion, pride, lost, success, insomnia, panic attacks, hope, nutrition, integrated medicine, psychology, compassion, moving forward, realistic thinking, mind-body connection, nathan cavaleri, ryan shelton, hugh van cuylenburg, josh van cuylenburg, the imperfects, mental health full 6 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg fd15514a-0f3e-400e-aa43-b17801862c43 05867497-cf7e-44ee-bd23-b242003229dd Sun, 26 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5725 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/nathan-cavaleri-the-ups-the-blues       IMPERFIX: Believing Women with Tarang Chawla IMPERFIX: Believing Women with Tarang Chawla After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian.

      In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women.

      Here are some important links from this episode.

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

      📱 Things to follow

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      🚨 For support

      If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

      The I      mperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       After his sister, Niki, was murdered by her ex-partner, Tarang Chawla made a decision - that he wouldn’t allow Niki to be remembered as just another statistic. Since then, Tarang has become an activist, working to reduce incidents of all forms of violence and abuse towards women in Australian.

      In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we reflect on a conversation we had with Tarang back in 2022. Here, Tarang discusses the importance of believing and supporting women when they disclose abuse, and understanding the role of power, control, and gender inequality in such scenarios. Tarang also emphasises the need to separate individuals from their potentially abusive behaviour, underscoring the collective responsibility of men in combating violence against women.

      Here are some important links from this episode.

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

      📱 Things to follow

      🎧 Things to listen to

      🚨 For support

      If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend calling the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

      The I      mperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Tarang Chawla hugh van cuylenburg ryan shelton josh van cuylenburg domestic violence violence against women mental health the imperfects the imperfix Tarang Chawla, hugh van cuylenburg, ryan shelton, josh van cuylenburg, domestic violence, violence against women, mental health, the imperfects, the imperfix full 6 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 511d2d02-44b1-4284-8284-b1780185c1d9 0bc20bc5-b60d-4625-99ef-b2420032293c Fri, 24 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1089 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-believing-women-with-tarang-chawla       Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk Dr Emily - The Risk of Avoiding Risk Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.

      As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.

      In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.

      Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l

      There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:

       

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

      📺 Things to watch

      🎧 Things to listen to

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      🛒 Things to buy

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Taking a risk, by definition, is hard. A lot of us spend most of our life avoiding risks, under the assumption that it’s the ‘safe’ thing to do.

      As Dr Em explains, we have an evolutionary instinct for self-preservation; tendencies to overestimate danger and underestimate our ability to cope; and we often have early childhood experiences and messages around safety that can coalesce into ‘playing it safe’ behaviours.

      In this episode, Dr Em reveals that paradoxically, if we spend our whole life avoiding risk, then we are guaranteeing a less engaged, less fulfilling, less ‘lived’ life than we are capable of. That in fact, avoiding risk, is the biggest risk of all.

      Dr Em, also offers strategies to guide us in the direction of letting a little more risk into our everyday lives.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dMUP0l

      There is a lot mentioned in this episode, find it all below:

       

      🎧 Previous episodes of The Imperfects

      📺 Things to watch

      🎧 Things to listen to

      📖 Things to read

      🛒 Things to buy

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Risk Tim Minchin confidence self-belief fear embarrassment self- preservation discomfort safety potential language early childhood experiences vulnerability independence indecisiveness strength courage trust accountability progress self-efficacy Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Dr Emily Musgrove Dr Em Risk, Tim Minchin, confidence, self-belief, fear, embarrassment, self- preservation, discomfort, safety, potential, language, early childhood experiences, vulnerability, independence, indecisiveness, strength, courage, trust, accountability, progress, self-efficacy, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Dr Emily Musgrove, Dr Em full 6 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b12d0950-3143-4f80-b16c-b1720065c62a 3a018435-1df8-4cee-b626-b242003230eb Sun, 19 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 3488 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-the-risk-of-avoiding-risk       IMPERFIX: Dr. Kiran Martin - Leadership IMPERFIX: Dr. Kiran Martin - Leadership We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.

      Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.

      In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.

      You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP.

      To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://apple.co/4hUYThh 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We mean no disrespect to any of our other guests, but when Hugh says that Dr. Kiran Martin, is the most impressive person he has ever met, it’s hard not to agree.

      Dr. Kiran Martin is the founder of ASHA in India. It’s a not for profit, that for over 35 years, has provided healthcare and education to millions of people living in slums in India.

      In this clip, Dr Kiran tells us of the time she decided to wash the feet of a Dalit woman (an ‘untouchable’ in the caste system of India) in order to demonstrate humility. And it was this moment of true leadership that lead to a feet washing movement throughout ASHA, breaking down caste barriers in the process.

      You can learn more, or support Dr. Kiran Martin and ASHA’s work here. https://bit.ly/44Fl1WP.

      To listen to the full episode with Dr. Kiran Martin, click here https://apple.co/4hUYThh 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Kiran Martin Asha India Humility Leadership ImperFIX Imperfects Hugh Ryan and Josh Hugh van cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Gratitude Catse System Untouchble Dr Kiran Martin, Asha, India, Humility, Leadership, ImperFIX, Imperfects, Hugh Ryan and Josh, Hugh van cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Gratitude, Catse System, Untouchble full 6 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 41eef571-6a22-44ac-a022-b1710020b1f0 6dad4a0d-1e1b-4dfc-be9b-b24200323080 Fri, 17 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 657 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-kiran-martin-leadership       Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility Reece Conca - Tackling Male Infertility All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.

      Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.

      When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.

      In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more. 

      To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       All too often when talking about infertility, we only tell one side of the story. Traditionally in the public discourse, it has very much fallen into the category of a ‘women’s issue’. However, as our guest this week Reece Conca can all too painfully attest, 40% of infertility issues are actually male factor related.

      Reece Conca is a former Australian Rules Footballer, who played over 150 games for Richmond and Freemantle.

      When Reece and his partner Bell were finding it difficult to conceive, it took them far too long to discover that Reece has a condition called Azoospermia, which effects 1% of men - a condition where in Reece had no sperm in his semen.

      In this Vulnerabiltea House, Reece speaks openly and honestly about the physical and emotional toll of a fertility journey he is very much still on, the hormone injections, the surgeries and much, much more. 

      To follow Annabelle and Reece on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@annabelleandreece

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Infertility Fertility AFL infertility sport counselling children medical tests vulnerability sperm count fertility male factor infertility anxiety reflection emotional trauma azoospermia guilt masculinity communication relationship embryo hormones pregnancy burden donor sperm blame grateful support networks Reece Conca Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Infertility, Fertility, AFL, infertility, sport, counselling, children, medical tests, vulnerability, sperm count, fertility, male factor infertility, anxiety, reflection, emotional trauma, azoospermia, guilt, masculinity, communication, relationship, embryo, hormones, pregnancy, burden, donor sperm, blame, grateful, support networks, Reece Conca, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 6 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg aa24ef44-ea8c-47b6-805b-b16b007197f2 57fb0d2f-327a-4aef-b4eb-b24200322f7a Sun, 12 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4295 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/reece-conca-tackling-male-infertility       IMPERFIX: Luke McGregor - Living With Anxiety IMPERFIX: Luke McGregor - Living With Anxiety In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we revisit our chat with Australian comedian Luke McGregor. Many of us live with Anxiety, Luke McGregor has for a lot of his life. For Luke, his anxiety became so overwhelming that it resulted in him having panic attacks on stage in front of audiences. In this clip Luke explains what anxiety looks like for him and what he now does to manage his anxiety, allowing him to continue to work and to get the most out of life.

      You can hear the original episode in full, with Luke McGregor, here https://apple.co/3CGQJJq 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this episode of the IMPERFIX, we revisit our chat with Australian comedian Luke McGregor. Many of us live with Anxiety, Luke McGregor has for a lot of his life. For Luke, his anxiety became so overwhelming that it resulted in him having panic attacks on stage in front of audiences. In this clip Luke explains what anxiety looks like for him and what he now does to manage his anxiety, allowing him to continue to work and to get the most out of life.

      You can hear the original episode in full, with Luke McGregor, here https://apple.co/3CGQJJq 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Luke McGregor comedian comedy anxiety the imperfects ryan shelton hugh van cuylenburg josh van cuylenburg mental health health Luke McGregor, comedian, comedy, anxiety, the imperfects, ryan shelton, hugh van cuylenburg, josh van cuylenburg, mental health, health full 6 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1fd50ff2-ee4d-4320-b85a-b16b00168bc5 5df9b5db-4481-4973-b4bf-b2420032e080 Fri, 10 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 786 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-luke-mcgregor-living-with-anxiety       James Clear - Down The Habit Hole James Clear - Down The Habit Hole Every Thursday over 3 million people want to hear what James Clear has to say. They do so in the form of his ‘3-2-1 newsletter’, one of most popular newsletters on the planet. In 2018 James Clear published his book Atomic Habits, a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. And that book has now sold over 15million copies. So you won’t be surprised to hear how excited we were to have Jame Clear as this weeks guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      In this episode we learn about the importance of habits. Both the good and bad ones. We learn James’s four laws of behaviour change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make is easy, make it satisfying); the value of goals; we discuss Josh, Hugh and Ryan’s own personal history with habit setting; and how small incremental changes to your habits can set you on the path to achieving your goals and ultimately becoming the kind of person you would like to be.

      You can purchase James Clear’s best selling book - Atomic Habits here, https://bit.ly/3UKx0in.

      If you would like to subscribe to James’ 3-2-1 Newsletter, click here, https://bit.ly/44swR6o.

      And you can find James’ habit tracking app ‘Atoms’ here https://bit.ly/4b1Pq41

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Every Thursday over 3 million people want to hear what James Clear has to say. They do so in the form of his ‘3-2-1 newsletter’, one of most popular newsletters on the planet. In 2018 James Clear published his book Atomic Habits, a comprehensive, practical guide on how to change your habits and get 1% better every day. And that book has now sold over 15million copies. So you won’t be surprised to hear how excited we were to have Jame Clear as this weeks guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      In this episode we learn about the importance of habits. Both the good and bad ones. We learn James’s four laws of behaviour change (make it obvious, make it attractive, make is easy, make it satisfying); the value of goals; we discuss Josh, Hugh and Ryan’s own personal history with habit setting; and how small incremental changes to your habits can set you on the path to achieving your goals and ultimately becoming the kind of person you would like to be.

      You can purchase James Clear’s best selling book - Atomic Habits here, https://bit.ly/3UKx0in.

      If you would like to subscribe to James’ 3-2-1 Newsletter, click here, https://bit.ly/44swR6o.

      And you can find James’ habit tracking app ‘Atoms’ here https://bit.ly/4b1Pq41

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Habits genetics science positivity family training growth potential health comparison heroism competition goals systems effort process trajectory compassion time behaviour change fun creative progress theory procrastination planning risk accountability expectation identity achievement momentum belief possibility Habits, genetics, science, positivity, family, training, growth, potential, health, comparison, heroism, competition, goals, systems, effort, process, trajectory, compassion, time, behaviour, change, fun, creative, progress, theory, procrastination, planning, risk, accountability, expectation, identity, achievement, momentum, belief, possibility full 6 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1200e3b7-2ad2-42f2-b400-b16400ca5f16 e7833536-247b-47e3-beba-b242003230f3 Sun, 05 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 4466 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/james-clear-down-the-habit-hole       IMPERFIX: Johann Hari & Josh Talk About Addiction IMPERFIX: Johann Hari & Josh Talk About Addiction In this episode of the IMPERFIX we revisit one of our many conversations with Johann Hari. However this IMPERFIX starts with Josh, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast, when he felt compelled to share a realisation, that he had been addicted to the internet for much of his life. Johann’s response was as always, heartfelt, engaging, hopeful and empowering. And we thought it was worth revisiting.

      You can hear the episode in full here. https://bit.ly/4flaoMG 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this episode of the IMPERFIX we revisit one of our many conversations with Johann Hari. However this IMPERFIX starts with Josh, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast, when he felt compelled to share a realisation, that he had been addicted to the internet for much of his life. Johann’s response was as always, heartfelt, engaging, hopeful and empowering. And we thought it was worth revisiting.

      You can hear the episode in full here. https://bit.ly/4flaoMG 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 6 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bf973dd-0075-4c16-990e-b163000514d4 cc819223-dd05-4de8-b512-b24200325c66 Fri, 03 May 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1221 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-johann-hari-josh-talk-about-addiction       Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong Pallavi Sharda - Where We Belong What would you do if a teacher said you couldn’t achieve your dreams because your hair and skin colour weren’t acceptable?

      When this became Pallavi Sharda’s reality she moved to India by herself and became the first Australian women to lead a Bollywood movie

      In this episode we meet Pallavi Sharda, a powerhouse actress, who grew up in Taylors Lakes, a suburban area in Melbourne’s west, who went on to not only clock Bollywood, but see tremendous success on screens in Australia, the UK and the US.

      Pallavi is a VERY impressive person, but she grew up believing that she needed to be exceptional in order to have value in Australia. From living with racism as a second generation immigrant, to navigating Bollywood as a foreigner, Pallavi has been on a search for belonging, carving out a place in the world for herself & all future generations of ‘multi-hyphenated’ Australians.

      To listen to the Audible Original podcast, Sleep Sound with Pallavi Sharda**,** follow this link: *https://bit.ly/4bhkeNV*

      To watch Pallavi in 'Wedding Season' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UBUdDh

      To watch Pallavi in the Australian series, 'The Twelve', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dins5j

      To watch Pallavi in 'The One' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UE4GhL

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       What would you do if a teacher said you couldn’t achieve your dreams because your hair and skin colour weren’t acceptable?

      When this became Pallavi Sharda’s reality she moved to India by herself and became the first Australian women to lead a Bollywood movie

      In this episode we meet Pallavi Sharda, a powerhouse actress, who grew up in Taylors Lakes, a suburban area in Melbourne’s west, who went on to not only clock Bollywood, but see tremendous success on screens in Australia, the UK and the US.

      Pallavi is a VERY impressive person, but she grew up believing that she needed to be exceptional in order to have value in Australia. From living with racism as a second generation immigrant, to navigating Bollywood as a foreigner, Pallavi has been on a search for belonging, carving out a place in the world for herself & all future generations of ‘multi-hyphenated’ Australians.

      To listen to the Audible Original podcast, Sleep Sound with Pallavi Sharda**,** follow this link: *https://bit.ly/4bhkeNV*

      To watch Pallavi in 'Wedding Season' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UBUdDh

      To watch Pallavi in the Australian series, 'The Twelve', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4dins5j

      To watch Pallavi in 'The One' on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UE4GhL

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Multiculturalism Bollywood diversity culture dance migrant displacement racism sexuality entertainment artistry survivalism ambition values privilege expatriation shame feminism exploitation fear struggling burn out exceptionalism belonging othering community journey tokenism empathy inclusion healing storytelling fame Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Pallavi Sharda India Me too Minorities Skilled Migrants Parents Multiculturalism, Bollywood, diversity, culture, dance, migrant, displacement, racism, sexuality, entertainment, artistry, survivalism, ambition, values, privilege, expatriation, shame, feminism, exploitation, fear, struggling, burn out, exceptionalism, belonging, othering, community, journey, tokenism, empathy, inclusion, healing, storytelling, fame, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Pallavi Sharda, India, Me too, Minorities, Skilled Migrants, Parents full 6 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d33f5ce2-7b12-4e8a-8913-b16000239ca7 1554b9b2-040d-44d7-bb92-b24200338b57 Sun, 28 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5578 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/pallavi-sharda-where-we-belong       IMPERFIX: How to Live Again, with Sam Willoughby. IMPERFIX: How to Live Again, with Sam Willoughby. In this week’s ImperFIX, we revisit an episode from season 2 with Australian BMX racer, world champion and Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him a tetraplegic.

      In this snippet, we hear Sam describe the bike accident that lead to his injury and his incredible journey of recovery. Most importantly, he shares how meeting NASCAR crew chief, Booty Barker, inspired him to live life again.

      You can hear the full chat with Sam Willoughby here https://apple.co/4gfVA2L 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this week’s ImperFIX, we revisit an episode from season 2 with Australian BMX racer, world champion and Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him a tetraplegic.

      In this snippet, we hear Sam describe the bike accident that lead to his injury and his incredible journey of recovery. Most importantly, he shares how meeting NASCAR crew chief, Booty Barker, inspired him to live life again.

      You can hear the full chat with Sam Willoughby here https://apple.co/4gfVA2L 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       neck Injury BMX Olympian Olympics Injury Broken Neck Spinal cord injury The Imperfects Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Sam Willoughby Life Living live again Hospital NASCAR Booty Barker Wheelchair Disabled Independance tetraplegic neck Injury, BMX, Olympian, Olympics, Injury, Broken Neck, Spinal cord injury, The Imperfects, Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Sam Willoughby, Life, Living, live again, Hospital, NASCAR, Booty Barker, Wheelchair, Disabled, Independance, tetraplegic full 6 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1070a36a-d84c-4b25-8efc-b15d004bf9ab b4ce04b3-14ed-4434-a542-b24200323519 Fri, 26 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1347 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-how-to-live-again-with-sam-willoughby       Dr Emily - Joy Decision Dr Emily - Joy Decision Have you ever felt so elated, that in that very moment, you felt yourself and the world around you were in perfect harmony? That feeling is joy! 

      But for many of us, ‘joy’ can seem elusive, almost impossible to experience, or an emotion that we feel we just don’t have time for. And for some of us, it may feel like we have lost the ability to experience joy altogether. 

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Em explores the experience of Joy. What is it and how we can tap into it. We learn how mobilising joy is and how infectious and connecting it can be. 

      Because as Dr Em explains, we are often surrounded by joy in our everyday lives,  but don’t pause long enough to see it. 

      This is an incredibly powerful, uplifting conversation, but it may be difficult to listen to if you're currently experiencing hardship or trauma. If you'd like to skip this one, we encourage you to come back when you're ready.

      To watch this episode on youtube follow this link: https://youtu.be/JPJ5UXm-5LI

      To listen to Gina Chick’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 

      To hear Sean Turnell’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UaXmJ3

      To stream Inside Out on Disney+ follow this link https://bit.ly/49C7gc7

      To read the Betoota Advocate follow this link https://bit.ly/3JkO3kC, or you can read The Onion here https://bit.ly/3U1SUfg.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Have you ever felt so elated, that in that very moment, you felt yourself and the world around you were in perfect harmony? That feeling is joy! 

      But for many of us, ‘joy’ can seem elusive, almost impossible to experience, or an emotion that we feel we just don’t have time for. And for some of us, it may feel like we have lost the ability to experience joy altogether. 

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Em explores the experience of Joy. What is it and how we can tap into it. We learn how mobilising joy is and how infectious and connecting it can be. 

      Because as Dr Em explains, we are often surrounded by joy in our everyday lives,  but don’t pause long enough to see it. 

      This is an incredibly powerful, uplifting conversation, but it may be difficult to listen to if you're currently experiencing hardship or trauma. If you'd like to skip this one, we encourage you to come back when you're ready.

      To watch this episode on youtube follow this link: https://youtu.be/JPJ5UXm-5LI

      To listen to Gina Chick’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 

      To hear Sean Turnell’s episode of The Imperfects, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UaXmJ3

      To stream Inside Out on Disney+ follow this link https://bit.ly/49C7gc7

      To read the Betoota Advocate follow this link https://bit.ly/3JkO3kC, or you can read The Onion here https://bit.ly/3U1SUfg.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Joy psychology discomfort being present happiness temporary feeling emotional contagion exercise time despair barriers learning history neurodiversity stress response reunion grief movement gratitude habits values collective effervescence connection positive resonance music dr emily josh van cuylenburg ryan shelton hugh van cuylenburg the imperfects Joy, psychology, discomfort, being present, happiness, temporary feeling, emotional contagion, exercise, time, despair, barriers, learning history, neurodiversity, stress response, reunion, grief, movement, gratitude, habits, values, collective effervescence, connection, positive resonance, music, dr emily, josh van cuylenburg, ryan shelton, hugh van cuylenburg, the imperfects full 6 15 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f41d6d84-8dea-4ed1-812b-b157004f7abf f9cfd548-994f-452c-96c6-b242003240fa Sun, 21 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 3715 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-joy-decision       An Imperfect Chat About Men An Imperfect Chat About Men In this bonus episode of The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh have an imperfect conversation about mens violence against women.

      To say it's a massive problem in Australia is an understatement. Violence and aggression can take many forms that span from small micro-aggressions all the way through to rape and murder. It effects ALL women, with the most vulnerable and marginalised in our community, at the greatest risk. We don’t have the answers to solve it. But we don’t want to remain silent. Through this conversation and many more we'll have on the podcast, it’s our hope that more men start to have the conversation as well.

      You can follow Penny Moodie’s advocacy on instagram here, https://bit.ly/3JIBf81.

      To listen to our previous episode on consent with Chanel Contos follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm 

      Or to purchase Chanel's book, Consent Laid Bare, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49BNDRC

      To listen to our previous conversation about men’s violence with Tarang Chawla follow this link: https://apple.co/3APcuGi 

      To learn more about this problem or we recommend Our Watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV & White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

      If you are a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

      If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

      Or, you can call SafeSteps, Victoria's 24/7 family violence crisis service, on 1800 015 188, or visit this link: https://bit.ly/4b1SlsQ. They can provide financial and material aid, pet safety support and court advocacy, as well as support to people with a disability. 
      Or, for further support, contact The Orange Door, who can link you with family violence and parental support services: https://bit.ly/3Q8efTb

      If you need support now, use Ask Izzy: a free website and service that connects people in need with housing, a meal, money help, family violence support & counselling: https://bit.ly/3xAVnG4

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this bonus episode of The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh have an imperfect conversation about mens violence against women.

      To say it's a massive problem in Australia is an understatement. Violence and aggression can take many forms that span from small micro-aggressions all the way through to rape and murder. It effects ALL women, with the most vulnerable and marginalised in our community, at the greatest risk. We don’t have the answers to solve it. But we don’t want to remain silent. Through this conversation and many more we'll have on the podcast, it’s our hope that more men start to have the conversation as well.

      You can follow Penny Moodie’s advocacy on instagram here, https://bit.ly/3JIBf81.

      To listen to our previous episode on consent with Chanel Contos follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RNKpEm 

      Or to purchase Chanel's book, Consent Laid Bare, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49BNDRC

      To listen to our previous conversation about men’s violence with Tarang Chawla follow this link: https://apple.co/3APcuGi 

      To learn more about this problem or we recommend Our Watch https://bit.ly/3w0BQhV & White Ribbon https://bit.ly/3W6nMhs

      If you are a man concerned about your behaviour please contact No To Violence: https://bit.ly/3UlyiA5

      If you feel like you are in immediate danger please call 000. If you need someone to talk to we recommend the national 24-hour sexual assault, family and domestic violence counselling line 1800 RESPECT on 1800 732 732.

      Or, you can call SafeSteps, Victoria's 24/7 family violence crisis service, on 1800 015 188, or visit this link: https://bit.ly/4b1SlsQ. They can provide financial and material aid, pet safety support and court advocacy, as well as support to people with a disability. 
      Or, for further support, contact The Orange Door, who can link you with family violence and parental support services: https://bit.ly/3Q8efTb

      If you need support now, use Ask Izzy: a free website and service that connects people in need with housing, a meal, money help, family violence support & counselling: https://bit.ly/3xAVnG4

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       mens violence bondi junction murder violence men man women violence against women silence spekaing out Hugh van cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Safety Safe Feeling unsafe mens violence, bondi junction, murder, violence, men, man, women, violence against women, silence, spekaing out, Hugh van cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Safety, Safe, Feeling unsafe full 6 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 214f5dfb-d742-4f22-aa54-b156007f2494 52a738dc-664c-498f-b2f7-b24200324060 Thu, 18 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 1905 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/an-imperfect-chat-about-men       Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World Fern Brady - Autistic in a Non-Autistic World In this episode, Scottish comedian, Fern Brady joins us in the The Vulnerabilitea House.

      In pulling the card “how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?”, Fern shares a very recent story, after receiving a terrifying phone call from her doctor.

      Fern also discusses being diagnosed with Autism in her 30s, 20 years after telling a doctor she thought she was Autistic. 

      Fern talks with with great insight and humour, not only about life since her diagnosis, but what it was like living for 30 years with Autism and not knowing - always feeling different to the average person…yet having no idea why.

      She's an all round brilliant human and we know you are going to love this conversation as much as we did! 

      To watch the full episode on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/-DLkVQj8N34

      To purchase Fern’s book, 'Strong Female Character', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4aSot20.

      To see Fern’s Comedy special on Netlfix follow this link: https://bit.ly/49AkQNp.

      And you can see Fern’s hilarious promo featuring her dad, here https://bit.ly/3vVRb3a

      There are still tickets available Fern’s antipodean Live tour “I gave you milk to drink”. Tickets still available in Sydney https://bit.ly/49usjgM, & NZ https://bit.ly/3TYM0r9.

      To learn more about the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Lanyard Fern talks about in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q466iC

      You can purchase the book Aspergirls by Rudy Simone here https://bit.ly/3QmYKXZ, and you can stream Six Feet Under here https://bit.ly/3TTZRiD.

      To try Sam Harris’s meditation app you can follow this link: https://bit.ly/4d7HrUz
      Or to read his book Lying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3vGDHIK

      To see Susan Boyle’s Britain’s Got Talent Audition, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VTeKUY

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this episode, Scottish comedian, Fern Brady joins us in the The Vulnerabilitea House.

      In pulling the card “how would your ambitions change if you only had one year to live?”, Fern shares a very recent story, after receiving a terrifying phone call from her doctor.

      Fern also discusses being diagnosed with Autism in her 30s, 20 years after telling a doctor she thought she was Autistic. 

      Fern talks with with great insight and humour, not only about life since her diagnosis, but what it was like living for 30 years with Autism and not knowing - always feeling different to the average person…yet having no idea why.

      She's an all round brilliant human and we know you are going to love this conversation as much as we did! 

      To watch the full episode on YouTube click here: https://youtu.be/-DLkVQj8N34

      To purchase Fern’s book, 'Strong Female Character', follow this link: https://bit.ly/4aSot20.

      To see Fern’s Comedy special on Netlfix follow this link: https://bit.ly/49AkQNp.

      And you can see Fern’s hilarious promo featuring her dad, here https://bit.ly/3vVRb3a

      There are still tickets available Fern’s antipodean Live tour “I gave you milk to drink”. Tickets still available in Sydney https://bit.ly/49usjgM, & NZ https://bit.ly/3TYM0r9.

      To learn more about the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Lanyard Fern talks about in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q466iC

      You can purchase the book Aspergirls by Rudy Simone here https://bit.ly/3QmYKXZ, and you can stream Six Feet Under here https://bit.ly/3TTZRiD.

      To try Sam Harris’s meditation app you can follow this link: https://bit.ly/4d7HrUz
      Or to read his book Lying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3vGDHIK

      To see Susan Boyle’s Britain’s Got Talent Audition, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VTeKUY

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       neurodivergent autism feminism masking advocating comedy communication cruelty validity representation shame embarrassment meltdowns socialising routine labelling triggers friendship school suicide self-harm mental health spectrum resilience cognitive dissonance honesty stripping The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Fern Brady neurodivergent, autism, feminism, masking, advocating, comedy, communication, cruelty, validity, representation, shame, embarrassment, meltdowns, socialising, routine, labelling, triggers, friendship, school, suicide, self-harm, mental health, spectrum, resilience, cognitive dissonance, honesty, stripping, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Fern Brady full 6 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b6c63485-0ebc-4e39-a69b-b14f00593b12 36dc3fd5-48ba-4ffc-ae2c-b24200323a9a Sun, 14 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5218 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/fern-brady-autistic-in-a-non-autistic-world       IMPERFIX: Imposter Syndrome with Hamish Blake IMPERFIX: Imposter Syndrome with Hamish Blake Imposter syndrome and self doubt aren’t necessarily things you think when you think of Australian comedian Hamish Blake. However when Hamish visited us for a VulnerabilTea House in season 4, that’s exactly what came up.

      In this episode of The IMPERFIX, we revisit  a vulnerable moment where Josh shared his very real self doubt about his role on the show. This evolves into a beautiful conversation about the self doubt we all feel in the work we do, and culminates in Hamish dropping one of the greatest analogies of all time.

      To listen to the full episode with Hamish Blake, follow this link:  https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Imposter syndrome and self doubt aren’t necessarily things you think when you think of Australian comedian Hamish Blake. However when Hamish visited us for a VulnerabilTea House in season 4, that’s exactly what came up.

      In this episode of The IMPERFIX, we revisit  a vulnerable moment where Josh shared his very real self doubt about his role on the show. This evolves into a beautiful conversation about the self doubt we all feel in the work we do, and culminates in Hamish dropping one of the greatest analogies of all time.

      To listen to the full episode with Hamish Blake, follow this link:  https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Hamish Blake Self Doubt Imposter Syndrome Voice in your head Help The Imperfects The Imperfix Anxiety Stress Doubt Doubting yourself Confidence Low confidence Ryan Shelton Friendship Josh van Cuylenburg Hugh van Cuylenburg Hamish Blake, Self Doubt, Imposter Syndrome, Voice in your head, Help, The Imperfects, The Imperfix, Anxiety, Stress, Doubt, Doubting yourself, Confidence, Low confidence, Ryan Shelton, Friendship, Josh van Cuylenburg, Hugh van Cuylenburg full 6 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d8a7b100-40d3-4540-ab21-b14c017edac8 7525a301-f1a4-4eb0-b32f-b242003238cc Wed, 10 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 631 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-hamish-blake-on-self-doubt       Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life Imagine being falsely imprisoned, in a foreign country, where you barely speak the language, during a military coup, with no guarantee of a trial (fair or otherwise) and no idea whether you’ll ever be allowed home? 

      That's what Australian economist Sean Turnell lived through for 650 days, when in 2021 he was arrested during a military coup over-throwing the democratic government of Aang san Suu Kyi.

      Sean is a remarkable person and a brilliant story teller who radiates positivity. In this episode, he describes in horrifying, and yet often beautiful, detail his ordeal in the Myanmar prison system.

      Through Sean’s story we get a unique perspective…and a shining example of how resilient the human spirit can be.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Jts7nD

      To purchase Sean's book, An Unlikely Prisoner, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMyFlJ

      To purchase Kylie Moore Gilberts book, The Uncaged Sky, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMbNCV

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Imagine being falsely imprisoned, in a foreign country, where you barely speak the language, during a military coup, with no guarantee of a trial (fair or otherwise) and no idea whether you’ll ever be allowed home? 

      That's what Australian economist Sean Turnell lived through for 650 days, when in 2021 he was arrested during a military coup over-throwing the democratic government of Aang san Suu Kyi.

      Sean is a remarkable person and a brilliant story teller who radiates positivity. In this episode, he describes in horrifying, and yet often beautiful, detail his ordeal in the Myanmar prison system.

      Through Sean’s story we get a unique perspective…and a shining example of how resilient the human spirit can be.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Jts7nD

      To purchase Sean's book, An Unlikely Prisoner, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMyFlJ

      To purchase Kylie Moore Gilberts book, The Uncaged Sky, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TMbNCV

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Optimism risk resilience foreign policy fear positivity guilt hope friendship trauma meditation storytelling imagination creativity despair bravery honesty humanity compassion kindness history inspiration perspective courage agency insecurity The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Sean Turnell 650 Days Optimism, risk, resilience, foreign policy, fear, positivity, guilt, hope, friendship, trauma, meditation, storytelling, imagination, creativity, despair, bravery, honesty, humanity, compassion, kindness, history, inspiration, perspective, courage, agency, insecurity, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Sean Turnell, 650 Days full 6 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 583505e2-155a-412e-ac38-b149001a58d2 4195bcaf-bbd3-4890-b9a2-b24200323c3a Sun, 07 Apr 2024 20:00:00 +0000 5573 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/sean-turnell-a-prisoner-s-guide-to-life       IMPERFIX: Jamila Rizvi on Living with a Brain Tumour IMPERFIX: Jamila Rizvi on Living with a Brain Tumour In 2018, writer, author & change advocate Jamila Rizvi was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour and needed surgery.
      In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit Jamila’s story; the tumour and its varied complications, the surgeries and how Jamila and her husband communicated the news to their son. 

      Jamila is an all round wonderful human being and this is an incredibly moving episode.
      You can hear the entire chat with Jamila here: https://apple.co/4icJmtx 

      This episode includes a discussion about disordered eating, if you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In 2018, writer, author & change advocate Jamila Rizvi was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour and needed surgery.
      In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit Jamila’s story; the tumour and its varied complications, the surgeries and how Jamila and her husband communicated the news to their son. 

      Jamila is an all round wonderful human being and this is an incredibly moving episode.
      You can hear the entire chat with Jamila here: https://apple.co/4icJmtx 

      This episode includes a discussion about disordered eating, if you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Jamila Rizvi Brain Tumour Brain Tumor The Imperfects The Imperfix Anxiety Stress Illness Mental Health Jamila Rizvi, Brain Tumour, Brain Tumor, The Imperfects, The Imperfix, Anxiety, Stress, Illness, Mental Health full 6 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ab3991ab-e89c-453e-8dde-b147002de73e 1ab8407d-f8b2-4b13-a1f0-b24200324448 Wed, 03 Apr 2024 19:00:00 +0000 1390 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-jamila-rizvi-on-living-with-the-effects-o       Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version Of Me Elizabeth Day - The Me-est Version Of Me We’re not sure if podcasts can date. But if they could we would want to date Elizabeth Day’s podcast - ‘How to fail?’. (A proposition Hugh awkwardly put to Elizabeth in the final moments of the show).

      This conversation covers a lot of ground. Elizabeth vulnerably discusses her journey through infertility, IVF and her eventual decision to stop fertility treatment; we explore the role exercise and strength training can have in reclaiming one's connection to their body; Ryan and Elizabeth bond over a love of reality TV; and there’s much much more.

      It’s fair to say there was a lot of chat and a lot of love in the room for this one.

      Elizabeth Day is a Journalist, podcaster and author. The podcast ‘How to fail’ is a brilliant (and wildly successful…ironically) pod that shares intimate conversations with guests about their experiences with failure. And we couldn't recommend it any more highly.

      You can find links to Elizabeth’s podcast, her books and everything else she is doing here https://bit.ly/3VCnSNE.

      To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/b01GMVnoRuk 

      We encourage you to visit your local bookstore to purchase any of the books mentioned in this episode, but you can also find them here.

      And you can listen to our episode of The Imperfects with Pat Cummins here: https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ 

      This episode discusses fertility treatments, miscarriage, grief and acceptance. If these topics feel like too much for you to hear right now, please revisit this episode when you are ready.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We’re not sure if podcasts can date. But if they could we would want to date Elizabeth Day’s podcast - ‘How to fail?’. (A proposition Hugh awkwardly put to Elizabeth in the final moments of the show).

      This conversation covers a lot of ground. Elizabeth vulnerably discusses her journey through infertility, IVF and her eventual decision to stop fertility treatment; we explore the role exercise and strength training can have in reclaiming one's connection to their body; Ryan and Elizabeth bond over a love of reality TV; and there’s much much more.

      It’s fair to say there was a lot of chat and a lot of love in the room for this one.

      Elizabeth Day is a Journalist, podcaster and author. The podcast ‘How to fail’ is a brilliant (and wildly successful…ironically) pod that shares intimate conversations with guests about their experiences with failure. And we couldn't recommend it any more highly.

      You can find links to Elizabeth’s podcast, her books and everything else she is doing here https://bit.ly/3VCnSNE.

      To watch the full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/b01GMVnoRuk 

      We encourage you to visit your local bookstore to purchase any of the books mentioned in this episode, but you can also find them here.

      And you can listen to our episode of The Imperfects with Pat Cummins here: https://apple.co/4eHc4zJ 

      This episode discusses fertility treatments, miscarriage, grief and acceptance. If these topics feel like too much for you to hear right now, please revisit this episode when you are ready.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Elizabeth Day Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Grief Loss Misscarriage Infertility Fertility IVF Trying for a baby Babies Children Family Anxiety Competitive Striving Vulnerbilities Vulernability Death Life Low moments infertility miscarriage grief humility success productivity authenticity vulnerability strength sharing avoidance conflict suicidal ideation loneliness growth gratefulness depression trauma courage purpose family relationships friendships guilt parenting healing humanity Elizabeth Day, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Grief, Loss, Misscarriage, Infertility, Fertility, IVF, Trying for a baby, Babies, Children, Family, Anxiety, Competitive, Striving, Vulnerbilities, Vulernability, Death, Life, Low moments, infertility, miscarriage, grief, humility, success, productivity, authenticity, vulnerability, strength, sharing, avoidance, conflict, suicidal ideation, loneliness, growth, gratefulness, depression, trauma, courage, purpose, family, relationships, friendships, guilt, parenting, healing, humanity full 6 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 5a62fbea-e87f-4f9d-8062-b141005dda67 2aac531d-42a3-4332-b80b-b2420032e754 Sun, 31 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 5918 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/elizabeth-day-the-me-est-version-of-me       IMPERFIX: Truth vs Harmony with Dr Em IMPERFIX: Truth vs Harmony with Dr Em In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit one of our most popular episodes ever and in it, a topic that is very close to Hugh, Ryan and Josh’s respective bones. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

      Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? And how does living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

      To listen to the full Truth Vs Harmony episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IW3gbw

      To listen to Hamish Blake's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

      And to hear the follow up bonus episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3AStVpg 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this episode of The Imperfix we revisit one of our most popular episodes ever and in it, a topic that is very close to Hugh, Ryan and Josh’s respective bones. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

      Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? And how does living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

      To listen to the full Truth Vs Harmony episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IW3gbw

      To listen to Hamish Blake's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

      And to hear the follow up bonus episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3AStVpg 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily Musgrove Truth Vs Harmony Truth Harmony Harmonious Relationships Cold Coffee The Imperfects The Imperfix Hugh van Cuylenburg Hugh and Penny Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Discomfort Dr Emily Musgrove, Truth Vs Harmony, Truth, Harmony, Harmonious, Relationships, Cold Coffee, The Imperfects, The Imperfix, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Hugh and Penny, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Discomfort full 6 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1f03d771-5fd9-4c91-83b5-b13e00423b7d cac779ac-12e6-4b6a-863c-b24200323d81 Wed, 27 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 1125 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-truth-vs-harmony-with-dr-em       Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure Gary Barlow - The Pain Behind The Pleasure Very few people have experienced Gary Barlow’s level of success and fame. He’s the lead singer of the nineties British pop band Take That, he’s won 6 Ivor Novello Awards for song writing & composing, sold more the 50 million albums and filled stadiums of screaming fans across the world! But despite all this, as we’ve come to learn, he’s one of the nicest, most genuine people going around.

      In this episode, Gary shares his experience of rising to such fame, and what happens when he lost it.

      He opens up about the devastating burden of jealousy between him and bandmate Robbie Williams, his journey with disordered eating, the loss of his daughter Poppy and the love of his life, the one constant through it all - his wife.

      So sit back and pour yourself a cup of vulnerabilitea, this is a big one.

      To buy tickets to Take That’s upcoming tour of Australia and New Zealand visit: https://bit.ly/3INExGA.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4crzmJT

      To hear Ryan’s episode on shame & jealousy, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/4gWYZEs 

      To hear Hamish Blake’s episode on his friendship with Ryan & Hugh, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

      To listen to Gina Chick’s episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 

      The Robbie Williams documentary is available on Netflix: https://bit.ly/493WWta.

      For film recommendation ‘Salt Burn’ follow this link: https://apple.co/3x3GvQp.

      To purchase your own set of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:


      This episode with Gary Barlow includes a discussion about disordered eating and a conversation about a child who was delivered still born. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Very few people have experienced Gary Barlow’s level of success and fame. He’s the lead singer of the nineties British pop band Take That, he’s won 6 Ivor Novello Awards for song writing & composing, sold more the 50 million albums and filled stadiums of screaming fans across the world! But despite all this, as we’ve come to learn, he’s one of the nicest, most genuine people going around.

      In this episode, Gary shares his experience of rising to such fame, and what happens when he lost it.

      He opens up about the devastating burden of jealousy between him and bandmate Robbie Williams, his journey with disordered eating, the loss of his daughter Poppy and the love of his life, the one constant through it all - his wife.

      So sit back and pour yourself a cup of vulnerabilitea, this is a big one.

      To buy tickets to Take That’s upcoming tour of Australia and New Zealand visit: https://bit.ly/3INExGA.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4crzmJT

      To hear Ryan’s episode on shame & jealousy, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/4gWYZEs 

      To hear Hamish Blake’s episode on his friendship with Ryan & Hugh, follow this link: https://apple.co/49gV9Tz 

      To listen to Gina Chick’s episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UKpxQ8 

      The Robbie Williams documentary is available on Netflix: https://bit.ly/493WWta.

      For film recommendation ‘Salt Burn’ follow this link: https://apple.co/3x3GvQp.

      To purchase your own set of Vulnerabilitea House Cards, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      If you or someone you love is experiencing disordered eating, we recommend the following organisations:


      This episode with Gary Barlow includes a discussion about disordered eating and a conversation about a child who was delivered still born. If this feels like too much for you right now, please come back to this episode when you're feeling ready.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Gary Barlow Robbie Williams Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenbug Ryan Shelton Take That 90s The Nineties British Pop Pop Bands Shame Jealousy Fame Love Eating Disorder bulimia Disordered eating Running Loss Loss of a child Stillborn Grief Anger Sadness Popstar Take That Tour London British England Gary Barlow, Robbie Williams, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenbug, Ryan Shelton, Take That, 90s, The Nineties, British Pop, Pop Bands, Shame, Jealousy, Fame, Love, Eating Disorder, bulimia, Disordered eating, Running, Loss, Loss of a child, Stillborn, Grief, Anger, Sadness, Popstar, Take That Tour, London, British, England full 6 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 02e76312-726d-4c95-84ea-b137004fda39 3e8aefe1-d851-44b9-9389-b24200324044 Sun, 24 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 3437 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/gary-barlow-the-pain-behind-the-pleasure       IMPERFIX: Christian O'Connell's Panic Attacks IMPERFIX: Christian O'Connell's Panic Attacks In 2018, Christian O Connell was one of the most successful people in British Radio, he was on top of his world, and then…the panic attacks began. The attacks got so bad and so regular that he couldn’t perform live and it nearly cost him his career.

      In this episode, we revisit Christian’s experience, the physical and mental toll of his panic attacks as well as the societal pressures and expectations he felt as a man - his need to appear strong and provide for his family.

      And we hear how he eventually sought for help and started rebuilding his life.

      To hear the full episode with Christian, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fY1C7W 

      You can purchase a copy of Christian’s book here: https://bit.ly/3IKdFqI

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In 2018, Christian O Connell was one of the most successful people in British Radio, he was on top of his world, and then…the panic attacks began. The attacks got so bad and so regular that he couldn’t perform live and it nearly cost him his career.

      In this episode, we revisit Christian’s experience, the physical and mental toll of his panic attacks as well as the societal pressures and expectations he felt as a man - his need to appear strong and provide for his family.

      And we hear how he eventually sought for help and started rebuilding his life.

      To hear the full episode with Christian, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fY1C7W 

      You can purchase a copy of Christian’s book here: https://bit.ly/3IKdFqI

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Christian O'Connell Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The imperfects The Imperfix Panic Attacks Panic Anxiety Stress Radio Show Being a man Manly Seeking help Seeing a therapist UK Radio Success Getting Help seeing a psychologist The Christian O'Connell Show Gold FM Men Mens Mental Health Mental Health Christian O'Connell, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The imperfects, The Imperfix, Panic Attacks, Panic, Anxiety, Stress, Radio Show, Being a man, Manly, Seeking help, Seeing a therapist, UK, Radio, Success, Getting Help, seeing a psychologist, The Christian O'Connell Show, Gold FM, Men, Mens Mental Health, Mental Health full 6 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0eb2c47f-9201-4042-83c7-b1330048f9a9 b0077136-148d-4e6b-af3f-b242003240ea Wed, 20 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 871 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-christian-oconnells-panic-attacks       Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too Dr Emily - Social Anxiety, They’ve Got It Too “Get your butterflies in formation”. If you take one thing away from this episode, it’s how to handle the nervous, anxious, flutter of stomach butterflies that arises when we’re socially anxious.

      Social interactions can be challenging. You may believe that everyone else has all their shit figured out and can effortlessly walk into a social situation and just be themselves. But it turns out, we all, at some point, get social anxiety.

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily, delves deeper into what it means to experience social anxiety, before during & after a social situation. She explores the ways in which anxiety shows up, where it might come from and what we can do to “get our butterflies in formation”.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/I53wE7epCX0 

      To listen to Dr Emily's episode on The Inner Critic, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 

      To listen to Dr Emily's episode on Rejection Sensitivity, follow this link: https://apple.co/4i1qixZ 

      To purchase The Resilience Project's gratitude & wellbeing journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

      To learn more about the four domains of social anxiety & read David Moscovitch's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43fDuIy

      To learn more about The Spotlight Effect & see research Dr Em sited by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Husted Medvec, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cd4Rr0

      For book recommendation, How To be Yourself, by Ellen Hendriksen and to learn more about her free online course 'Rise Above Social Anxiety', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TAol1o

      To dive deeper into Lisa Feldman Barret's work, including the research on reframing anxiety as arousal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VhjuTV

      To learn more about Safety Behaviours and their role in social anxiety, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3wTqBIp & https://bit.ly/43hfp4a & https://bit.ly/3vhjR6o

      To participate in a free Cognitive Behavioural Therapy study run by The Black Dog Institute & UNSW, aimed at reducing social anxiety, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49cvV6M

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       “Get your butterflies in formation”. If you take one thing away from this episode, it’s how to handle the nervous, anxious, flutter of stomach butterflies that arises when we’re socially anxious.

      Social interactions can be challenging. You may believe that everyone else has all their shit figured out and can effortlessly walk into a social situation and just be themselves. But it turns out, we all, at some point, get social anxiety.

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily, delves deeper into what it means to experience social anxiety, before during & after a social situation. She explores the ways in which anxiety shows up, where it might come from and what we can do to “get our butterflies in formation”.

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://youtu.be/I53wE7epCX0 

      To listen to Dr Emily's episode on The Inner Critic, follow this link: https://apple.co/3XaFdw9 

      To listen to Dr Emily's episode on Rejection Sensitivity, follow this link: https://apple.co/4i1qixZ 

      To purchase The Resilience Project's gratitude & wellbeing journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

      To learn more about the four domains of social anxiety & read David Moscovitch's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43fDuIy

      To learn more about The Spotlight Effect & see research Dr Em sited by Thomas Gilovich and Victoria Husted Medvec, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4cd4Rr0

      For book recommendation, How To be Yourself, by Ellen Hendriksen and to learn more about her free online course 'Rise Above Social Anxiety', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TAol1o

      To dive deeper into Lisa Feldman Barret's work, including the research on reframing anxiety as arousal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3VhjuTV

      To learn more about Safety Behaviours and their role in social anxiety, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3wTqBIp & https://bit.ly/43hfp4a & https://bit.ly/3vhjR6o

      To participate in a free Cognitive Behavioural Therapy study run by The Black Dog Institute & UNSW, aimed at reducing social anxiety, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49cvV6M

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Social anxiety rejection sensitivity people pleasing fear shame peer evaluation perception appearance anxiety about anxiety social skills fatal flaw alcohol compassion trauma empathy avoidance cognitive behavioural therapy confidence safety behaviours exposure Hugh van Cuylenburg Dr Emily Dr Emily Musgrove Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton the imperfects Social anxiety, rejection sensitivity, people pleasing, fear, shame, peer evaluation, perception, appearance, anxiety about anxiety, social skills fatal flaw, alcohol, compassion, trauma, empathy, avoidance, cognitive behavioural therapy, confidence, safety behaviours, exposure, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Dr Emily, Dr Emily Musgrove, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, the imperfects full 6 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg db066f8c-dee4-455a-a65e-b1330062dd07 2704c581-0f7e-4197-a150-b242003252bd Sun, 17 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 4971 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-social-anxiety-they-ve-got-it-too       IMPERFIX: Kate Langbroek on The Risks of Love IMPERFIX: Kate Langbroek on The Risks of Love Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person. We absolutely love her, and we’re clearly not alone. Kate, has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel; with her mate Hughesy on the radio; or in countless podcasts, and radio shows since.
      On this episode of The Imperfix, we revisit, when in 2022, Kate generously shared with us what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now.

      To hear the full episode with Kate, follow this link https://apple.co/4fy5o84 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person. We absolutely love her, and we’re clearly not alone. Kate, has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel; with her mate Hughesy on the radio; or in countless podcasts, and radio shows since.
      On this episode of The Imperfix, we revisit, when in 2022, Kate generously shared with us what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now.

      To hear the full episode with Kate, follow this link https://apple.co/4fy5o84 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Kate Langbroek Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Love Children Cancer Hospitals Childrens cancer Loving Heart ache Strength Coping Challenges Test of life Blindness Blind Imperfects ImperFIX Kate Langbroek, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Love, Children, Cancer, Hospitals, Childrens cancer, Loving, Heart ache, Strength, Coping, Challenges, Test of life, Blindness, Blind, Imperfects, ImperFIX full 6 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg beeda52f-e6b1-49a4-885c-b131002e0d2b 4e43bafe-bd51-4860-892f-b24200324495 Wed, 13 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 941 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-kate-langbroek-on-the-risks-of-love       Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential Adam Grant - The Potential of Your Potential World leading organisational psychologists, Adam Grant is this week's guest in The Academy of Imperfection and honestly, we can’t believe how much ground the brilliant man managed to cover in this episode. 

      I mean, sure, you might expect him to touch on the value of embracing our imperfections. Or perhaps he might explore imposter syndrome & the importance in believing in others' belief in yourself. Or how procrastination can actually be a creative force. Or maybe even some tips for those of us who have found ourselves languishing.

      All of this might seem pretty reasonable stuff to cover. However you might not expect a deep dive into the lessons learned from a junior olympic diving career or an actual magic trick! This ep covers it all…and much much more. 

      To watch this episode on youtube (and see the magic trick) follow this link: https://youtu.be/s2sY3-mT-u8 

      If you’re interested in hearing more from Adam, the best place to start is his website: https://adamgrant.net

      Recommended books & articles mentioned in the episode:

      Listen to Adam’s interview with Steve Martin on his ReThinking Podcast: https://bit.ly/3Tosvtb and transcript: https://bit.ly/3T3cKXa

      To watch Matthew Mitcham’s dive, follow think link: https://bit.ly/3InmPJJ

      To listen to our episode with Dr Emily on Truth vs Harmony, follow this link: https://apple.co/40pgYO7 

       

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      ]]>       World leading organisational psychologists, Adam Grant is this week's guest in The Academy of Imperfection and honestly, we can’t believe how much ground the brilliant man managed to cover in this episode. 

      I mean, sure, you might expect him to touch on the value of embracing our imperfections. Or perhaps he might explore imposter syndrome & the importance in believing in others' belief in yourself. Or how procrastination can actually be a creative force. Or maybe even some tips for those of us who have found ourselves languishing.

      All of this might seem pretty reasonable stuff to cover. However you might not expect a deep dive into the lessons learned from a junior olympic diving career or an actual magic trick! This ep covers it all…and much much more. 

      To watch this episode on youtube (and see the magic trick) follow this link: https://youtu.be/s2sY3-mT-u8 

      If you’re interested in hearing more from Adam, the best place to start is his website: https://adamgrant.net

      Recommended books & articles mentioned in the episode:

      Listen to Adam’s interview with Steve Martin on his ReThinking Podcast: https://bit.ly/3Tosvtb and transcript: https://bit.ly/3T3cKXa

      To watch Matthew Mitcham’s dive, follow think link: https://bit.ly/3InmPJJ

      To listen to our episode with Dr Emily on Truth vs Harmony, follow this link: https://apple.co/40pgYO7 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Adam Grant Perfectionism Procrastination Languishing Hidden Potential Potenital Imposter Syndrome Imposter Anxiety Stress Mobile Phones Kids Parenting Kids Phone use Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton High School Magic Trick Diving Adam Grant, Perfectionism, Procrastination, Languishing, Hidden Potential, Potenital, Imposter Syndrome, Imposter, Anxiety, Stress, Mobile Phones, Kids, Parenting, Kids Phone use, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, High School, Magic Trick, Diving full 6 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 528fed32-bbd7-42fd-b51d-b12200494ac4 1f820cd1-b2ca-47d3-bdfd-b24200324985 Sun, 10 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 5455 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/adam-grant-the-potential-of-your-potential       IMPERFIX: Ben Crowe's Purpose IMPERFIX: Ben Crowe's Purpose In this inaugural episode of the imperfix, Hugh takes us back to our very first Academy of Imperfection, where special guest Ben Crowe explores what it actually means to define your purpose. We discuss Ryan, Hugh & Ben’s purposes, how they defined them, and how important they are in shaping their respective every-days. We also delve a little deeper into Josh’s seeming ‘lack of purpose’ and find that he might actually have a bit more purpose there than he realises.

      To hear the full episode, the first time Ben visited The Imperfects click here https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

      For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

      You can listen to the Ted Talk  'Finding your purpose in 5 minutes' here https://bit.ly/3T5LkQF

       

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      ]]>       In this inaugural episode of the imperfix, Hugh takes us back to our very first Academy of Imperfection, where special guest Ben Crowe explores what it actually means to define your purpose. We discuss Ryan, Hugh & Ben’s purposes, how they defined them, and how important they are in shaping their respective every-days. We also delve a little deeper into Josh’s seeming ‘lack of purpose’ and find that he might actually have a bit more purpose there than he realises.

      To hear the full episode, the first time Ben visited The Imperfects click here https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

      For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

      You can listen to the Ted Talk  'Finding your purpose in 5 minutes' here https://bit.ly/3T5LkQF

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 6 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg bc7e2b17-76bb-4c7f-a4e8-b12900432475 644f6fd1-2fcd-4fc1-b1e8-b24200325200 Wed, 06 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 1157 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/imperfix-ben-crowes-purpose       Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life They say that by the time he retires, Pat Cummins could be one of Australia’s most successful cricket captains. And if 2023 is anything to go by, "they" might be right. Pat captained the team winning The ODI World Cup, The ICC World Test Championship and retaining The Ashes. And individually, he was not only named The ICC Men's Cricketer of the Year, but also signed a record-breaking contract to play in India in the IPL this year. So yeah, Pat wins a lot.

      But this episode isn't just about cricket. Because as Pat talks about with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he's lost a lot as well - especially in his personal life. Most notably, Pat tragically lost his mother Maria to cancer last year (2023), which he opens up about here, sharing how important life is outside of cricket - an approach that's trickled through to the entire team.

      If you love cricket (maybe even as much as Hugh & Josh), or just want to hear how someone deals with struggles while at the top of their game, this is a special episode.

      If you enjoyed this episode, you might like our episodes with: 

      To listen to Nick Cave on Rick Ruben's podcast Tetragrammaton, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ThOxhf

      To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3P8Whzy

       

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      ]]>       They say that by the time he retires, Pat Cummins could be one of Australia’s most successful cricket captains. And if 2023 is anything to go by, "they" might be right. Pat captained the team winning The ODI World Cup, The ICC World Test Championship and retaining The Ashes. And individually, he was not only named The ICC Men's Cricketer of the Year, but also signed a record-breaking contract to play in India in the IPL this year. So yeah, Pat wins a lot.

      But this episode isn't just about cricket. Because as Pat talks about with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he's lost a lot as well - especially in his personal life. Most notably, Pat tragically lost his mother Maria to cancer last year (2023), which he opens up about here, sharing how important life is outside of cricket - an approach that's trickled through to the entire team.

      If you love cricket (maybe even as much as Hugh & Josh), or just want to hear how someone deals with struggles while at the top of their game, this is a special episode.

      If you enjoyed this episode, you might like our episodes with: 

      To listen to Nick Cave on Rick Ruben's podcast Tetragrammaton, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ThOxhf

      To watch this episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3P8Whzy

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Leadership Stoicism Hugh van Cuylenburg Pat Cummins Josh van Cuylenburg Grief Losing a parent Cancer Failure Success Cricket Cricket Captain Australian Cricket Captain Philip Hughes Community Sport Sport Positivity Work Life Balance Family Parenthood Fatherhood Loss Bouncers The Ashes Bowling Leadership, Stoicism, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Pat Cummins, Josh van Cuylenburg, Grief, Losing a parent, Cancer, Failure, Success, Cricket, Cricket Captain, Australian Cricket Captain, Philip Hughes, Community Sport, Sport, Positivity, Work Life Balance, Family, Parenthood, Fatherhood, Loss, Bouncers, The Ashes, Bowling full 6 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1cec8e1b-aeac-4d93-90dc-b11301651f57 5c9f71fc-3209-42cc-a6e7-b24200327680 Sun, 03 Mar 2024 19:00:00 +0000 5558 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/pat-cummins-love-loss-life       A Very Imperfect Welcome Back A Very Imperfect Welcome Back We’re back… almost! As has become tradition, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a formal welcome back episode to chat about the season ahead.

      They talk about their brand new extra weekly episode called The ImperFIX, the show’s foray into YouTube, aaaand just build general hype around the exciting upcoming guests on the show.

      Oh. And Hugh demonstrates his brand new sleeping position.

      It’s so, so good to be back.

      To watch this episode on YouTube (and see Hugh's sleeping position), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IcHHDn

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      To purchase tickets to The Imperfects Live Show, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49Is3ev

       

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      ]]>       We’re back… almost! As has become tradition, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a formal welcome back episode to chat about the season ahead.

      They talk about their brand new extra weekly episode called The ImperFIX, the show’s foray into YouTube, aaaand just build general hype around the exciting upcoming guests on the show.

      Oh. And Hugh demonstrates his brand new sleeping position.

      It’s so, so good to be back.

      To watch this episode on YouTube (and see Hugh's sleeping position), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IcHHDn

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      To purchase tickets to The Imperfects Live Show, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49Is3ev

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Sleeping Positions Live Show The Imperfects Lunchboxes Running Sleep Walking Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Sleeping Positions, Live Show, The Imperfects, Lunchboxes, Running, Sleep Walking trailer 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 642123e9-6de8-4b05-99ea-b11e004c134a 469ef370-435b-4faa-adf5-b24200326b5a Sun, 25 Feb 2024 19:00:00 +0000 1540 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/a-very-imperfect-welcome-back       Lael Stone - Parent Yourself First Lael Stone - Parent Yourself First To look after our loved ones, we need to start by looking after ourselves. And according to parenting expert Lael Stone, that means looking back and showing compassion to our younger selves.

      In this b-b-b-bonus summer episode we’re very lucky to have Lael back for a third time (her previous episodes are linked below) as we prepare for a new year with new challenges.

      But don’t worry. You’ll be ready for anything after an hour with Lael Stone.

      To learn more about Lael and her work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RXZvg

      To learn more about Lael's school, Woodline Primary, follow this link: https://bit.ly/487YAKj

      To hear our first two episodes with Lael, follow these links:

      To hear our episode with Gina Chick, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UKpxQ8 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       To look after our loved ones, we need to start by looking after ourselves. And according to parenting expert Lael Stone, that means looking back and showing compassion to our younger selves.

      In this b-b-b-bonus summer episode we’re very lucky to have Lael back for a third time (her previous episodes are linked below) as we prepare for a new year with new challenges.

      But don’t worry. You’ll be ready for anything after an hour with Lael Stone.

      To learn more about Lael and her work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RXZvg

      To learn more about Lael's school, Woodline Primary, follow this link: https://bit.ly/487YAKj

      To hear our first two episodes with Lael, follow these links:

      To hear our episode with Gina Chick, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UKpxQ8 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 49 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 9af70347-e77a-420b-a0d2-b0d5005a73ee 51c384cc-40b5-4fc1-a642-b24200325561 Sun, 21 Jan 2024 19:00:00 +0000 3238 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/lael-stone       Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half Mrs Claus - Santa’s Better Half Heads up: Mrs Claus is VERY close friends with comedian, Urzila Carlson. As such, this Special Christmas Episode is definitely not appropriate for kids.

      Last year, we were honoured to sit down with the one and only Santa Claus as he joined us in The Vulnerabilitea House. A big thank you to Glenn Robbins for organising that interview for us! Link below if you missed it.

      This year, Hugh, Josh and Ryan meet the woman who claims to be the brains behind the operation, Mrs Claus (or is it Ms Claus?). In a very busy time of the year for her, she generously picks a few cards from the Vulnerabilitea House card deck and shares what really goes down behind the scenes on… The Pole.

      The Imperfects will donate all ad revenue from this episode to Urzila Carlson's charity of choice, Women’s Refuge. They are New Zealand's largest nationwide organisation that supports and helps women and children experiencing family violence. If you'd like to know more about the charity, or make a donation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41lUUTd

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48fzwlf

      To see Urzila Carlson live in 2024, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RdhAn

      To listen to last years Vulnerabilitea House episode with Santa Claus, follow this link: https://apple.co/40Y7HNs. Or to watch it, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41or14A

      To listen to Urzila's podcast, That's Enough Already, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RDowb6

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Heads up: Mrs Claus is VERY close friends with comedian, Urzila Carlson. As such, this Special Christmas Episode is definitely not appropriate for kids.

      Last year, we were honoured to sit down with the one and only Santa Claus as he joined us in The Vulnerabilitea House. A big thank you to Glenn Robbins for organising that interview for us! Link below if you missed it.

      This year, Hugh, Josh and Ryan meet the woman who claims to be the brains behind the operation, Mrs Claus (or is it Ms Claus?). In a very busy time of the year for her, she generously picks a few cards from the Vulnerabilitea House card deck and shares what really goes down behind the scenes on… The Pole.

      The Imperfects will donate all ad revenue from this episode to Urzila Carlson's charity of choice, Women’s Refuge. They are New Zealand's largest nationwide organisation that supports and helps women and children experiencing family violence. If you'd like to know more about the charity, or make a donation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41lUUTd

      To watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48fzwlf

      To see Urzila Carlson live in 2024, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46RdhAn

      To listen to last years Vulnerabilitea House episode with Santa Claus, follow this link: https://apple.co/40Y7HNs. Or to watch it, follow this link: https://bit.ly/41or14A

      To listen to Urzila's podcast, That's Enough Already, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RDowb6

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Christmas Mrs Claus Urzila Carlson Ryan Shelton Hugh van Cuylengurg Josh van Cuylengurg Xmas Presents Santa Riendeer Rudolf Randolf Red Nose Brown Nose South Pole North Pole Tooth Fairy Easter Bunny The Devil The Pole Pole Christmas, Mrs Claus, Urzila Carlson, Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylengurg, Josh van Cuylengurg, Xmas, Presents, Santa, Riendeer, Rudolf, Randolf, Red Nose, Brown Nose, South Pole, North Pole, Tooth Fairy, Easter Bunny, The Devil, The Pole, Pole full 5 48 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b586afe6-0bd4-4818-8151-b0d500549601 7ed27ca1-ff5f-491e-a19b-b24200329773 Sun, 17 Dec 2023 19:00:00 +0000 1945 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/mrs-claus-santa-s-better-half       Dr Emily - Merry Not-Enoughmas Dr Emily - Merry Not-Enoughmas For some people, Christmas Day is the most wonderful time of the year. But for others, catching up with friends and family at this time of the year can lead to pain and sadness and as Dr Emily describes it, an overwhelming feeling of “not-enoughness”.

      In this special bonus episode, Dr Emily explains where this feeling comes from and why it pops up year after year. But as always she gives us some helpful advice on what we can do to address it and feel a little less alone this Christmas.

      So from us to you, on this Season Finale… Merry Not-Enoughmas.


      To find volunteering opportunities through Australian Volunteers, or Seek Volunteer, follow these links: https://bit.ly/41kiTSv & https://bit.ly/3NmkbXl

      For anyone in WA, you can also find group activities and volunteer opportunities through Act, Below, Commit, by following this link: https://bit.ly/3uYD3W0

      For book recommendation, The Stress Prescription, 7 Days To More Joy and Ease, by Elissa Epel, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47OjU81

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       For some people, Christmas Day is the most wonderful time of the year. But for others, catching up with friends and family at this time of the year can lead to pain and sadness and as Dr Emily describes it, an overwhelming feeling of “not-enoughness”.

      In this special bonus episode, Dr Emily explains where this feeling comes from and why it pops up year after year. But as always she gives us some helpful advice on what we can do to address it and feel a little less alone this Christmas.

      So from us to you, on this Season Finale… Merry Not-Enoughmas.


      To find volunteering opportunities through Australian Volunteers, or Seek Volunteer, follow these links: https://bit.ly/41kiTSv & https://bit.ly/3NmkbXl

      For anyone in WA, you can also find group activities and volunteer opportunities through Act, Below, Commit, by following this link: https://bit.ly/3uYD3W0

      For book recommendation, The Stress Prescription, 7 Days To More Joy and Ease, by Elissa Epel, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47OjU81

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bridget Northeast Christmas Xmas Not Enough loneliness Anxiety Stress Christmas Parties New Years Holidays Families Parenting Dr Emily, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bridget Northeast, Christmas, Xmas, Not Enough, loneliness, Anxiety, Stress, Christmas Parties, New Years, Holidays, Families, Parenting full 5 47 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ab14373f-ff61-456e-96b4-b0d4005d8a9a 4399a2ea-58a1-40bb-b51b-b24200332c8b Sun, 10 Dec 2023 19:00:00 +0000 3825 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-merry-not-enoughmas       Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing Chanel Contos - Consensual Healing Dear Men,
      Please listen to this episode about consent and rape culture.
      Hugh, Ryan & Josh x

      On the face of it, this Academy of Imperfection with Chanel Contos may seem like a heavy episode. An episode about consent, rape culture and sexual violence might not seem like an episode that concerns you. That may be true, but if the #MeToo movement taught us anything, it’s that you probably know someone who’s either been raped or sexually assaulted in some way.
      We have a lot to learn about consent, and we owe it to the women in our lives to listen to Chanel Contos.

      To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

      To purchase Chanel's book, 'Consent Laid Bare', follow this link: https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh

      Recommended TV series, Sex Education and Heart Break High can be viewed on Netflix. 

      To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid', follow this link: https://bit.ly/49XPFgh

      If you have experienced, or are at risk of sexual violence, sexual assault, family or domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are feeling unsafe, always call the police on 000.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dear Men,
      Please listen to this episode about consent and rape culture.
      Hugh, Ryan & Josh x

      On the face of it, this Academy of Imperfection with Chanel Contos may seem like a heavy episode. An episode about consent, rape culture and sexual violence might not seem like an episode that concerns you. That may be true, but if the #MeToo movement taught us anything, it’s that you probably know someone who’s either been raped or sexually assaulted in some way.
      We have a lot to learn about consent, and we owe it to the women in our lives to listen to Chanel Contos.

      To learn more about Chanel, her work and the Teach Us Consent campaign, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QVhlK0

      To purchase Chanel's book, 'Consent Laid Bare', follow this link: https://bit.ly/40Z0Xgh

      Recommended TV series, Sex Education and Heart Break High can be viewed on Netflix. 

      To view a version of the 'rape culture pyramid', follow this link: https://bit.ly/49XPFgh

      If you have experienced, or are at risk of sexual violence, sexual assault, family or domestic violence, call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are feeling unsafe, always call the police on 000.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Chanel Contos Sexual Violence Rape Culture Rape Sexual Assult Empathy Kindness Vulnerability Communication Entitled Oportunists Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton The Academy of Imperfection Consent Chanel Contos, Sexual Violence, Rape Culture, Rape, Sexual Assult, Empathy, Kindness, Vulnerability, Communication, Entitled Oportunists, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, The Academy of Imperfection, Consent full 5 46 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 148b5666-b8ac-4a11-9cf1-b0c9017b0fe7 31366875-f2f2-4191-8f9b-b24200325012 Sun, 03 Dec 2023 19:00:00 +0000 4792 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/chanel-contos-consensual-healing       Gina Chick - Don't Fight Life Gina Chick - Don't Fight Life Gina Chick grew up… different. She wasn’t like the other kids, and they let her know about it. But as an adult she learned to see her “different” as a strength, which led to her most well-known achievement, outlasting everyone else for 67 days in the Tasmanian wilderness to win ALONE Australia.

      But as you’ll hear, that’s only a part of her story - as is the fact that she’s very close friends with Hugh Jackman.

      After going through some of the lowest lows a human can experience, Gina learned the power of discomfort and is here to spread the word in our very first ever outdoor episode!
       
      To learn more about Gina, her rewilding camps and 5Rythyms dance, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QRnkzq

      To watch Alone Australia, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Rd3m3

      This episode includes a discussion about the loss of a child, if this feels like it might be too much for you to listen to right now, feel free to come back to it when you're feeling up to it. 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Gina Chick grew up… different. She wasn’t like the other kids, and they let her know about it. But as an adult she learned to see her “different” as a strength, which led to her most well-known achievement, outlasting everyone else for 67 days in the Tasmanian wilderness to win ALONE Australia.

      But as you’ll hear, that’s only a part of her story - as is the fact that she’s very close friends with Hugh Jackman.

      After going through some of the lowest lows a human can experience, Gina learned the power of discomfort and is here to spread the word in our very first ever outdoor episode!
       
      To learn more about Gina, her rewilding camps and 5Rythyms dance, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QRnkzq

      To watch Alone Australia, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Rd3m3

      This episode includes a discussion about the loss of a child, if this feels like it might be too much for you to listen to right now, feel free to come back to it when you're feeling up to it. 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       Gina Chick Alone Australia Alone Discomfort Wild The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Bridget Northeast Nature Connection Grief Healing Recovery Children Loss Trauma Survival Gina Chick, Alone Australia, Alone, Discomfort, Wild, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Bridget Northeast, Nature, Connection, Grief, Healing, Recovery, Children, Loss, Trauma, Survival full 5 45 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 618dda52-cbd8-4c74-ae25-b0bb016fee3f 97733ff2-3b2a-4af6-a864-b24200325e5f Sun, 26 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000 6532 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/gina-chick-dont-fight-life       Hamish Macdonald - How To Be You Hamish Macdonald - How To Be You As co-host of The Project, Hamish Macdonald has seen and done more than most journalists could ever dream to achieve in their entire career.

      Before The Project and a stint hosting ABC’s Q+A program, Hamish worked and reported around the world from war zones to natural disasters, winning a bunch of prestigious awards including a coveted Walkley Award in the process.

      But as he discusses with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he’s also faced bullying throughout his life, whether that be from students during his high school days, or from online trolls during his Q+A days - a challenging experience that drove him to leave social media forever.

      This open and honest chat covers it all, and turns out to be a pretty handy, albeit accidental guide on How To Be You.

      To listen to Hamish's new podcast, Take Me To Your Leader, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ukzpph

      To listen to our episode with Missy Higgins, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fVM8Bo 

      To listen to our episode on stress and burnout with Dr Emily, follow this link: https://apple.co/3CE41WT 

      To listen to Josh's song, We Were Here, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

      To read article recommendation, Why The Internet Isn't Fun Anymore, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FZGnTh

       

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      ]]>       As co-host of The Project, Hamish Macdonald has seen and done more than most journalists could ever dream to achieve in their entire career.

      Before The Project and a stint hosting ABC’s Q+A program, Hamish worked and reported around the world from war zones to natural disasters, winning a bunch of prestigious awards including a coveted Walkley Award in the process.

      But as he discusses with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, he’s also faced bullying throughout his life, whether that be from students during his high school days, or from online trolls during his Q+A days - a challenging experience that drove him to leave social media forever.

      This open and honest chat covers it all, and turns out to be a pretty handy, albeit accidental guide on How To Be You.

      To listen to Hamish's new podcast, Take Me To Your Leader, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ukzpph

      To listen to our episode with Missy Higgins, follow this link: https://apple.co/4fVM8Bo 

      To listen to our episode on stress and burnout with Dr Emily, follow this link: https://apple.co/3CE41WT 

      To listen to Josh's song, We Were Here, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

      To read article recommendation, Why The Internet Isn't Fun Anymore, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FZGnTh

       

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      ]]>       hamish macdonald War Zones Bullying Journalism Burnout Stress Relationships Coming out Being gay School Hugh van cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton hamish macdonald, War Zones, Bullying, Journalism, Burnout, Stress, Relationships, Coming out, Being gay, School, Hugh van cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton full 5 44 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1443e1fb-38b9-4be7-b34f-b0ba016c8a1b dd00c091-48d1-49cf-9caa-b24200325b6b Sun, 19 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000 6882 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hamish-macdonald-how-to-be-you       Dr Louise Newson - Maybe it’s Menopause Dr Louise Newson - Maybe it’s Menopause Menopause, or THE Menopause according to our guest lecturer Dr Louise Newson, affects every woman at some point in her life. That’s 51% of the entire world! And even if you’re not a woman, chances are you know a few of them.

      Either way, the menopause IS coming. And you better be ready.

      Dr Louise Newson is a GP and Menopause specialist who is campaigning for better menopause care for all women. But despite her specialisation and regular lecturing on the subject, even she didn’t pick up on the signs when her own menopause kicked in and convinced her she hated her own husband!
      This episode isn’t just everything you need to know about your own menopause, this is everything you need to know about your wife’s/mother’s/daughter’s/sister’s/friend’s/colleague’s menopause.

      To learn more about Louise, her work and to access more information on the menopause and peri-menopause, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49rgqJH

      To download Louise's Balance app, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS

      To learn more and purchase Dr Louise's books, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ueOQ2p

      For Australian support, information & research, visit the below websites: 

      • WellFemme is a Telehealth menopause clinic, providing evidence-based menopause information and treatment in collaboration with your GP: https://bit.ly/3FYcAdn
      • Menopause Friendly provides information and practical resources to support staff experiencing menopausal symptoms at work and helps managers and HR professionals understand how they can provide the right support to their workforce: https://bit.ly/49rgx85
      • VITAL is an innovative research project that women can take part in to map the experience of Australian women around peri/menopause. It operates as a registry that collects data via a questionnaire. This data could determine how best to support the population and the research is run by Assoc Prof Erin Morton at Flinders University: https://bit.ly/3QQydTl

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see your doctor, a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Menopause, or THE Menopause according to our guest lecturer Dr Louise Newson, affects every woman at some point in her life. That’s 51% of the entire world! And even if you’re not a woman, chances are you know a few of them.

      Either way, the menopause IS coming. And you better be ready.

      Dr Louise Newson is a GP and Menopause specialist who is campaigning for better menopause care for all women. But despite her specialisation and regular lecturing on the subject, even she didn’t pick up on the signs when her own menopause kicked in and convinced her she hated her own husband!
      This episode isn’t just everything you need to know about your own menopause, this is everything you need to know about your wife’s/mother’s/daughter’s/sister’s/friend’s/colleague’s menopause.

      To learn more about Louise, her work and to access more information on the menopause and peri-menopause, follow this link: https://bit.ly/49rgqJH

      To download Louise's Balance app, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FOhpWS

      To learn more and purchase Dr Louise's books, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ueOQ2p

      For Australian support, information & research, visit the below websites: 

      • WellFemme is a Telehealth menopause clinic, providing evidence-based menopause information and treatment in collaboration with your GP: https://bit.ly/3FYcAdn
      • Menopause Friendly provides information and practical resources to support staff experiencing menopausal symptoms at work and helps managers and HR professionals understand how they can provide the right support to their workforce: https://bit.ly/49rgx85
      • VITAL is an innovative research project that women can take part in to map the experience of Australian women around peri/menopause. It operates as a registry that collects data via a questionnaire. This data could determine how best to support the population and the research is run by Assoc Prof Erin Morton at Flinders University: https://bit.ly/3QQydTl

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see your doctor, a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 43 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg bdae2bc1-1034-4159-b73e-b0b40157c19a 4cd17327-091b-4b16-a8fe-b2420032b55c Sun, 12 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000 4259 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-louise-newson-maybe-it-s-menopause       Dr Emily - Who Do You Desire? Dr Emily - Who Do You Desire? We know, we know, we know. ‘Who Do You Desire? is a very click-baity title. But we’re pretty confident that if you DO take the bait (come onnnn), you’ll be nicely rewarded.

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Mimetic Desire - the idea that whether we like it or not, pure originality is impossible. All of us are being influenced by someone. The question is, are we proud of the someones currently influencing us, or does our influencer list need a shake up?

      Once again, Dr Emily has the answers.

      For book recommendation, 'Wanting, Mimetic Desire: How to Avoid Chasing the Things You Don't Want', by Luke Burgis, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QIpFOm

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We know, we know, we know. ‘Who Do You Desire? is a very click-baity title. But we’re pretty confident that if you DO take the bait (come onnnn), you’ll be nicely rewarded.

      In this episode, our resident psychologist Dr Emily talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Mimetic Desire - the idea that whether we like it or not, pure originality is impossible. All of us are being influenced by someone. The question is, are we proud of the someones currently influencing us, or does our influencer list need a shake up?

      Once again, Dr Emily has the answers.

      For book recommendation, 'Wanting, Mimetic Desire: How to Avoid Chasing the Things You Don't Want', by Luke Burgis, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3QIpFOm

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 42 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a58e24ec-d849-408a-a61d-b0b1001d2475 d724a14f-43a4-468c-890b-b24200326f21 Sun, 05 Nov 2023 19:00:00 +0000 3553 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-who-do-you-desire       Steve Hooker - The Ups & Downs & Ups Steve Hooker - The Ups & Downs & Ups Not many of us have won Olympic Gold. And even fewer of us have jumped over a 6m high bar. But Australian pole vaulting champion Steve Hooker has done both. And boy oh boy does he have a story to tell!? That was rhetorical btw, he definitely does have a story to tell.

      What would you do if you were the best in the world at something one day, and then the next day you suddenly couldn’t do that thing anymore?? At all. That’s pretty much what happened to Steve. And on this episode he tells childhood friends Hugh and Josh, along with newhood friend Ryan, how he was able to get through that and how it affected his mental health.

      To donate to the Community Spirit Foundation through the sMile relay event, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Sg33WL

      To buy ticket's to the Zatopek race where Hugh, Steve, Brendan and Simon will be attempting to break the 400m relay record (in the mens 40-44 age group), follow this link (and remember use the code "theimperfects" at the top of the ticket listing for $5 of the proceeds to be donated to the Community Spirit Foundation): https://bit.ly/473VKW8

      To watch Steve's winning jump in the 2008 Beijing Olympics, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40cDuYl

      To watch the pink dildo security camera footage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40dbF2c

      For app recommendation, Calm, (compassion and loving kindness meditations), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MhcRMe

      For book recommendation, Positivity, by Barbra Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FxjBSf

       

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      ]]>       Not many of us have won Olympic Gold. And even fewer of us have jumped over a 6m high bar. But Australian pole vaulting champion Steve Hooker has done both. And boy oh boy does he have a story to tell!? That was rhetorical btw, he definitely does have a story to tell.

      What would you do if you were the best in the world at something one day, and then the next day you suddenly couldn’t do that thing anymore?? At all. That’s pretty much what happened to Steve. And on this episode he tells childhood friends Hugh and Josh, along with newhood friend Ryan, how he was able to get through that and how it affected his mental health.

      To donate to the Community Spirit Foundation through the sMile relay event, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Sg33WL

      To buy ticket's to the Zatopek race where Hugh, Steve, Brendan and Simon will be attempting to break the 400m relay record (in the mens 40-44 age group), follow this link (and remember use the code "theimperfects" at the top of the ticket listing for $5 of the proceeds to be donated to the Community Spirit Foundation): https://bit.ly/473VKW8

      To watch Steve's winning jump in the 2008 Beijing Olympics, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40cDuYl

      To watch the pink dildo security camera footage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/40dbF2c

      For app recommendation, Calm, (compassion and loving kindness meditations), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MhcRMe

      For book recommendation, Positivity, by Barbra Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3FxjBSf

       

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      ]]>       Steve Hooker Pole vaulting Medals Olympic Bullying High school Hugh van cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg The imperfects Success Winning Failure Steve Hooker, Pole vaulting, Medals, Olympic, Bullying, High school, Hugh van cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, The imperfects, Success, Winning, Failure full 5 41 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f960b37f-6c53-4675-9b5d-b0a70028ba02 bf7a7eb3-31de-4447-bedd-b24200327eb9 Sun, 29 Oct 2023 19:00:00 +0000 5926 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/steve-hooker-the-ups-downs-ups       Lewis Hobba - Success Is Never Enough Lewis Hobba - Success Is Never Enough Lewis Hobba grew up idolising Triple J. But despite being chosen as Triple J’s drive-time co-host by the age of 30, and being selected by Andrew Denton as one of Australia’s most creative and talented young performers for the show Hungry Beast, Lewis never felt like he succeeded in anything.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Lewis tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like behind the scenes for him during this time and how he dealt with crippling anxiety on a daily basis until eventually seeking help.

      To listen to Lewis's podcast 'Silver Bullet', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ScFmyB

      To hear Ryan's episode where he talks about shame, jealousy and finding his purpose, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46AfnW3

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

       

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      ]]>       Lewis Hobba grew up idolising Triple J. But despite being chosen as Triple J’s drive-time co-host by the age of 30, and being selected by Andrew Denton as one of Australia’s most creative and talented young performers for the show Hungry Beast, Lewis never felt like he succeeded in anything.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Lewis tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like behind the scenes for him during this time and how he dealt with crippling anxiety on a daily basis until eventually seeking help.

      To listen to Lewis's podcast 'Silver Bullet', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ScFmyB

      To hear Ryan's episode where he talks about shame, jealousy and finding his purpose, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46AfnW3

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House card sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 40 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 711f54d0-ffbd-434d-ad64-b0a1006495e7 41f7b812-e829-4a48-ba86-b24200334db4 Sun, 22 Oct 2023 19:00:00 +0000 5148 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/lewis-hobba-success-is-never-enough       Taryn Brumfitt - Every Body Is Perfect Taryn Brumfitt - Every Body Is Perfect As Australian of the Year, Taryn Brumfitt is making a massive impact on an issue that effects people everywhere… BODY IMAGE.

      Not only is Taryn a body image campaigner, she’s also a documentarian, having made two docos encouraging us to EMBRACE our bodies, not matter what they look like. We highly recommend you watch them - links below.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, Taryn talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her own body image journey, including a vulnerable Before & After image of herself that broke the internet and changed her life. Don’t worry they fixed the internet soon after.

      Taryn Brumfitt's documentary Embrace is available on Netflix, Stan, Amazon Prime, Youtube, Google Play & Apple TV.

      Embrace Kids is available on Binge, Foxtel, Apple TV, Google Play & Amazon Prime. 

       

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      ]]>       As Australian of the Year, Taryn Brumfitt is making a massive impact on an issue that effects people everywhere… BODY IMAGE.

      Not only is Taryn a body image campaigner, she’s also a documentarian, having made two docos encouraging us to EMBRACE our bodies, not matter what they look like. We highly recommend you watch them - links below.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, Taryn talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about her own body image journey, including a vulnerable Before & After image of herself that broke the internet and changed her life. Don’t worry they fixed the internet soon after.

      Taryn Brumfitt's documentary Embrace is available on Netflix, Stan, Amazon Prime, Youtube, Google Play & Apple TV.

      Embrace Kids is available on Binge, Foxtel, Apple TV, Google Play & Amazon Prime. 

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 39 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 54ff14cd-cf81-4b66-bb0f-b09900293b78 896c5d38-25ef-4833-8310-b24200327633 Sun, 15 Oct 2023 20:00:00 +0000 5190 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/taryn-brumfitt-every-body-is-perfect       Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here Tim Minchin - Lucky To Be Here Tim Minchin is an Australian comedian, actor, writer, musician, poet, composer, and songwriter. He’s probably best known for his music, his comedy, and well… his ‘Matilda: The Musical’… but has it really all been “luck”?

      Tim talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about so many different things in this fascinating chat about art and creativity, family, free-will, success, failure and the importance of taking life one level at a time.

      For tickets to Tim's new show, An Unfunny Evening with Tim Minchin and His Piano, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZxAGVs
      To watch Tim perform White Wine in The Sun, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RzwORS
      To purchase The Resilience Project's journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

      To listen to our episode with Dr James van Cuylenburg, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZFS0YA

       

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      ]]>       Tim Minchin is an Australian comedian, actor, writer, musician, poet, composer, and songwriter. He’s probably best known for his music, his comedy, and well… his ‘Matilda: The Musical’… but has it really all been “luck”?

      Tim talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about so many different things in this fascinating chat about art and creativity, family, free-will, success, failure and the importance of taking life one level at a time.

      For tickets to Tim's new show, An Unfunny Evening with Tim Minchin and His Piano, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZxAGVs
      To watch Tim perform White Wine in The Sun, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RzwORS
      To purchase The Resilience Project's journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RUBke7

      To listen to our episode with Dr James van Cuylenburg, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZFS0YA

       

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      ]]>       Tim Minchin Free Will The Imperfects Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Luck Creativity Success Anxiety Resentment Tim Minchin, Free Will, The Imperfects, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Luck, Creativity, Success, Anxiety, Resentment full 5 38 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 27ba2046-bd1a-4d6f-bb01-b08a006fb081 6ac13e53-5c5e-4b29-a7fe-b242003287c9 Sun, 08 Oct 2023 19:00:00 +0000 6378 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/tim-minchin-lucky-to-be-here       Vulnerability Update: Josh Wrote a Song! Vulnerability Update: Josh Wrote a Song! If you know, you know. And if you do know, you’re just as bonkers excited as we are.

      Buuut if you don’t know, that’s totally fine too.

      Those that were able to make it along to our Live On Stage show this year were treated to the debut performance of a song, written and performed by our very own Josh van Cuylenburg. But this song was not without context.

      In Season 3 Josh shared a vulnerable story from 13 years ago that resulted in him losing the confidence to realise his lifelong dream of writing music (link to that episode below). But when we were planning our Live on Stage Show, we asked Josh to consider writing and performing an original song. And ohhhhh boy… HE DELIVERED.

      Today we are very proud and excited to announce that “We Were Here” has not only been recorded, but the song is now available on Spotify, with a seriously moving official music video that you can WATCH on YouTube. Links below.

      To listen to Josh's song on Spotify, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

      To watch the film clip on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuMrC0AZ4ko

      To listen to the original Vulnerabilitea House episode where Josh first talked about losing his confidence to write music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tdYkKI

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       If you know, you know. And if you do know, you’re just as bonkers excited as we are.

      Buuut if you don’t know, that’s totally fine too.

      Those that were able to make it along to our Live On Stage show this year were treated to the debut performance of a song, written and performed by our very own Josh van Cuylenburg. But this song was not without context.

      In Season 3 Josh shared a vulnerable story from 13 years ago that resulted in him losing the confidence to realise his lifelong dream of writing music (link to that episode below). But when we were planning our Live on Stage Show, we asked Josh to consider writing and performing an original song. And ohhhhh boy… HE DELIVERED.

      Today we are very proud and excited to announce that “We Were Here” has not only been recorded, but the song is now available on Spotify, with a seriously moving official music video that you can WATCH on YouTube. Links below.

      To listen to Josh's song on Spotify, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zyg3bG

      To watch the film clip on YouTube, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uuMrC0AZ4ko

      To listen to the original Vulnerabilitea House episode where Josh first talked about losing his confidence to write music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tdYkKI

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 37 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 78808f2e-341f-4fef-84a8-b08a006f9081 1d10640a-6b5f-4955-8273-b24200328318 Wed, 04 Oct 2023 20:00:00 +0000 1094 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/vulnerability-update-josh-wrote-a-song       Dan Sultan - Stopping The Bullshit Dan Sultan - Stopping The Bullshit Eastern Arrernte and Gurindji singer/songwriter Dan Sultan is a 5-time ARIA Award winner and respected stalwart of the Australian music industry.

      But alongside his creative achievements, is Dan’s struggle with addiction. Dan talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about everything from the adversity he’s faced on and off the stage, to the joy he now gets from his young family, and his ongoing love of creativity.

      To purchase or listen to Dan's new album, Dan Sultan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZBv9NQ
      To watch Paul Keating's historic Redfern speech that Josh mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EVltnA
      To listen to our episode with Brooke Blurton, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/459k1c6

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       Eastern Arrernte and Gurindji singer/songwriter Dan Sultan is a 5-time ARIA Award winner and respected stalwart of the Australian music industry.

      But alongside his creative achievements, is Dan’s struggle with addiction. Dan talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about everything from the adversity he’s faced on and off the stage, to the joy he now gets from his young family, and his ongoing love of creativity.

      To purchase or listen to Dan's new album, Dan Sultan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZBv9NQ
      To watch Paul Keating's historic Redfern speech that Josh mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EVltnA
      To listen to our episode with Brooke Blurton, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/459k1c6

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 36 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 69343ecc-de88-44ee-b25f-b08a006f35fd 566afb08-9e9d-46f8-9fc9-b242003283ee Sun, 01 Oct 2023 19:00:00 +0000 3259 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dan-sultan-stopping-the-bullshit       Jack's Gambling Addiction Story Jack's Gambling Addiction Story For Jack, it’s progress, not perfection when it comes to his battle with gambling addiction.
      This one is a slightly different episode for The Imperfects. Jack isn’t a celebrity, or an expert. But he is a person with imperfections, just like everyone else. And Jack has been kind enough to share his all-too-familiar story with Hugh, Ryan and Josh.
      Jack discusses his crippling battle with sports gambling, his experience at rehab, and how he was finally able to escape his life of keeping secrets.
      Jack’s story of gambling addiction is not a story we hear often, but it’s sadly a very common one - particularly in Australia

      To contact Gambler Helpline, call 1800 858 858
      To learn more about BetStop, and the national self exclusion register, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zzub4l

      To learn more about Gamblers Anonymous, and find GA meetings near you, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZuXmpn
      For app recommendation, My Spiritual Toolkit, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RCa04a

      For mindfulness, meditation and sleep app recommendation, Calm, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RxzIGV

      This episodes contains a discussion around addiction and mentions suicidal thoughts, if this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, we recommend skipping this one and only listening when you feel ready. 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       For Jack, it’s progress, not perfection when it comes to his battle with gambling addiction.
      This one is a slightly different episode for The Imperfects. Jack isn’t a celebrity, or an expert. But he is a person with imperfections, just like everyone else. And Jack has been kind enough to share his all-too-familiar story with Hugh, Ryan and Josh.
      Jack discusses his crippling battle with sports gambling, his experience at rehab, and how he was finally able to escape his life of keeping secrets.
      Jack’s story of gambling addiction is not a story we hear often, but it’s sadly a very common one - particularly in Australia

      To contact Gambler Helpline, call 1800 858 858
      To learn more about BetStop, and the national self exclusion register, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Zzub4l

      To learn more about Gamblers Anonymous, and find GA meetings near you, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZuXmpn
      For app recommendation, My Spiritual Toolkit, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RCa04a

      For mindfulness, meditation and sleep app recommendation, Calm, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RxzIGV

      This episodes contains a discussion around addiction and mentions suicidal thoughts, if this feels like too much for you to listen to right now, we recommend skipping this one and only listening when you feel ready. 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 35 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 16cdf3df-a696-4446-8ff2-b08901898fa3 a382ee83-cd73-42a3-aa19-b24200328c90 Wed, 27 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4691 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jacks-gambling-addiction       Dr Emily - Other People Matter Dr Emily - Other People Matter Dr Emily is back - and once again proving why she is increasingly becoming the most popular person on The Imperfects.

      This Emisode is all about a fundamental part of Positive Psychology… the beautiful idea that OTHER PEOPLE MATTER.

      Now, you’re probably thinking… of course other people matter, right? Seems pretty obvious. But here, Dr Emily explains what it is about ‘other people’, that matters so much, and how much it relates to our never-ending search for that elusive thing we call “happiness”.

      To learn more about positive psychology and Christopher Peterson's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3t7AvnP

      To learn more about the impact of physical touch to build trust and corporation and to read about the NBA basketball study mentioned in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48puJ0R

      To learn more about Eudimonic and hedonistic happiness, and Martin Seligman's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PRs88w

      For Josh's recommendation, This Is Water, by David Foster Wallace, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eC7xzavzEKY&t=6s

      For book recommendation, 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tbjkl0

      For book recommendation, 'The Courage To Be Disliked', by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga, follow this link: https://bit.ly/452d8cA

      For book recommendation, 'On Living', by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3rz3tfE

      For book recommendation, 'Love 2.0' by Barbara Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48psM4B

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily is back - and once again proving why she is increasingly becoming the most popular person on The Imperfects.

      This Emisode is all about a fundamental part of Positive Psychology… the beautiful idea that OTHER PEOPLE MATTER.

      Now, you’re probably thinking… of course other people matter, right? Seems pretty obvious. But here, Dr Emily explains what it is about ‘other people’, that matters so much, and how much it relates to our never-ending search for that elusive thing we call “happiness”.

      To learn more about positive psychology and Christopher Peterson's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3t7AvnP

      To learn more about the impact of physical touch to build trust and corporation and to read about the NBA basketball study mentioned in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48puJ0R

      To learn more about Eudimonic and hedonistic happiness, and Martin Seligman's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PRs88w

      For Josh's recommendation, This Is Water, by David Foster Wallace, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eC7xzavzEKY&t=6s

      For book recommendation, 'The Happiness Trap' by Russ Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tbjkl0

      For book recommendation, 'The Courage To Be Disliked', by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga, follow this link: https://bit.ly/452d8cA

      For book recommendation, 'On Living', by Hospice Chaplain Kerry Egan, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3rz3tfE

      For book recommendation, 'Love 2.0' by Barbara Fredrickson, follow this link: https://bit.ly/48psM4B

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 34 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b21f8e2e-c562-4801-8df6-b0850060d2c5 aaa0fb63-beea-4fca-88fd-b24200329a29 Sun, 24 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4212 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-other-people-matter       Brooke Blurton - The Path Of Most Resilience Brooke Blurton - The Path Of Most Resilience To only say that Brooke Blurton was on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, would not only be a crime to Show Notes, but a huge disservice to you. As Hugh, Ryan and Josh quickly discover, that doesn’t even scratch the surface of what makes Brooke the inspiring, resilient, game-changing, youth-working, breath of fresh air that she is.

      While Brooke does touch on her Bachelor and Bachelorette experiences (and why she decided to do it), what makes this Vulnerabilitea House truly special is the story that she vulnerably tells about her upbringing in WA. An traumatic experience that no doubt changed her forever, but one that she now says she wouldn’t change.


      To watch Brooke's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46fdGwB

      To listen to Brooke's podcast, Not So PG, with co-host Matty Mills, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PG88FR

      To purchase Brooke's memoir, Big Love, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45PfSLs

      To learn more about the Uluru Statement of The Heart and The Voice, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3Pmd69F & https://bit.ly/3Rs7T2y

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      This episode contains a conversation which mentions sexual assault and suicide. If this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

      Additionally, if are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       To only say that Brooke Blurton was on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, would not only be a crime to Show Notes, but a huge disservice to you. As Hugh, Ryan and Josh quickly discover, that doesn’t even scratch the surface of what makes Brooke the inspiring, resilient, game-changing, youth-working, breath of fresh air that she is.

      While Brooke does touch on her Bachelor and Bachelorette experiences (and why she decided to do it), what makes this Vulnerabilitea House truly special is the story that she vulnerably tells about her upbringing in WA. An traumatic experience that no doubt changed her forever, but one that she now says she wouldn’t change.


      To watch Brooke's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46fdGwB

      To listen to Brooke's podcast, Not So PG, with co-host Matty Mills, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PG88FR

      To purchase Brooke's memoir, Big Love, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45PfSLs

      To learn more about the Uluru Statement of The Heart and The Voice, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3Pmd69F & https://bit.ly/3Rs7T2y

      To purchase our Vulnerabilitea House cards sets, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PBFlkR

      This episode contains a conversation which mentions sexual assault and suicide. If this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

      Additionally, if are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       resilience Brooke Blurton The Bachelor Queer Love Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Strength Childself Trauma resilience, Brooke Blurton, The Bachelor, Queer Love, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Strength, Childself, Trauma full 5 33 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 17812ecf-bbc5-46fc-8ca4-b07e0025d0a0 f9741b8d-50db-41fd-ad7b-b2420032900f Sun, 17 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4558 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/brooke-blurton-the-path-of-most-resilience       Penny Moodie's New Book - OCD & Finding Joy Again Penny Moodie's New Book - OCD & Finding Joy Again Penny Moodie first shared her OCD story on The Imperfects in 2020. Since then, we and she have been flooded with incredible feedback from OCD sufferers who finally felt seen. Now Penny is back because she’s written an incredible book about OCD called The Joy Thief and it’s out now (link below).
      In this beautifully moving episode, Penny talks openly with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about some of the confronting moments from her book.
      The reason Penny calls OCD ‘the joy thief’ is because it attempts to steal so much of the joy from your life. In Penny’s case, it almost stole her blossoming relationship with Hugh in the early days, and as a child it tried to take the one thing she held most sacred - the safety of her mother.
      This may be a b-b-b-bonus episode, but it’s also a v-v-v-very special one.

      To purchase Penny's book, The Joy Thief, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RkMTuC

      To learn more about OCD and to access resources to assist with getting help and how to manage it, follow these links: 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Penny Moodie first shared her OCD story on The Imperfects in 2020. Since then, we and she have been flooded with incredible feedback from OCD sufferers who finally felt seen. Now Penny is back because she’s written an incredible book about OCD called The Joy Thief and it’s out now (link below).
      In this beautifully moving episode, Penny talks openly with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about some of the confronting moments from her book.
      The reason Penny calls OCD ‘the joy thief’ is because it attempts to steal so much of the joy from your life. In Penny’s case, it almost stole her blossoming relationship with Hugh in the early days, and as a child it tried to take the one thing she held most sacred - the safety of her mother.
      This may be a b-b-b-bonus episode, but it’s also a v-v-v-very special one.

      To purchase Penny's book, The Joy Thief, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RkMTuC

      To learn more about OCD and to access resources to assist with getting help and how to manage it, follow these links: 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 32 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ce6f76c5-a770-470f-abbd-b07c004b4c8a 33f2022d-6e40-4b4e-838d-b2420032b63e Wed, 13 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 2742 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/penny-moodie-ocd       Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight Professor Tim Spector - Food Fight Food is such a mystery. Well, I mean, it’s the stuff we eat when we’re hungry, we know that much. But there are so many mysterious things ABOUT food. Like… What actually are healthy foods? What are good fats? Is meat good for you? Is orange juice really that bad? And can food truly be as effective as medicine?

      Professor Tim Spector has done all the research, written books (link below) and is one of the world’s top 100 most cited scientists. Tim really knows about food and he really wants to help all of us eat better and feel happier.

      And he’s here to answer all of the questions from students Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Academy of Imperfection.

      To purchase Tim's book, Food for Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EvBP6c
      To learn more about Tim, his other books and his research, follow this link: https://tim-spector.co.uk/
      To learn more about Zoe, Tim's personalised nutrition company, follow this link; https://zoe.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Food is such a mystery. Well, I mean, it’s the stuff we eat when we’re hungry, we know that much. But there are so many mysterious things ABOUT food. Like… What actually are healthy foods? What are good fats? Is meat good for you? Is orange juice really that bad? And can food truly be as effective as medicine?

      Professor Tim Spector has done all the research, written books (link below) and is one of the world’s top 100 most cited scientists. Tim really knows about food and he really wants to help all of us eat better and feel happier.

      And he’s here to answer all of the questions from students Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Academy of Imperfection.

      To purchase Tim's book, Food for Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EvBP6c
      To learn more about Tim, his other books and his research, follow this link: https://tim-spector.co.uk/
      To learn more about Zoe, Tim's personalised nutrition company, follow this link; https://zoe.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 31 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 44d84047-1105-494d-bc28-b0770052dbb5 32ff8346-b769-4ce1-8808-b2420032de5a Sun, 10 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 3944 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/tim-spector-food-fight       Grant Denyer - Self-Worth Was Worth Fighting For Grant Denyer - Self-Worth Was Worth Fighting For Whether it was Family Feud or whether it was the weather, Grant Denyer has been a larger than life fixture on Australian TV for 25 years. But it hasn’t all been big smiles and Gold Logies.

      In this raw and vulnerable chat with the most joyous man on the telly, Grant opens up about his past dependence on the pain medication (OxyContin) that he needed after suffering a serious injury that broke his back. He tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how that dependence not only jeopardised his career, but his marriage and family.

      While this is a side of Grant Denyer that you may not know, it is a story of hope and resilience about a successful (and loveable) man who nearly lost it all… but found enough strength and self-worth to fight for his life.

      To watch Grant's Gold Logie acceptance speech, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EmsIEL
      To watch the trailer for Painkiller on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3R5H308
      To listen to Grant's podcast, It's All True, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4bN6ATO


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Whether it was Family Feud or whether it was the weather, Grant Denyer has been a larger than life fixture on Australian TV for 25 years. But it hasn’t all been big smiles and Gold Logies.

      In this raw and vulnerable chat with the most joyous man on the telly, Grant opens up about his past dependence on the pain medication (OxyContin) that he needed after suffering a serious injury that broke his back. He tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how that dependence not only jeopardised his career, but his marriage and family.

      While this is a side of Grant Denyer that you may not know, it is a story of hope and resilience about a successful (and loveable) man who nearly lost it all… but found enough strength and self-worth to fight for his life.

      To watch Grant's Gold Logie acceptance speech, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3EmsIEL
      To watch the trailer for Painkiller on Netflix, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3R5H308
      To listen to Grant's podcast, It's All True, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4bN6ATO


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Grant Denyer Painkillers Medication Love Loveable Self Worth Hugh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Josh van Cuylenburg Race cars Divorce Divorced parents TV Logies Grant Denyer, Painkillers, Medication, Love, Loveable, Self Worth, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Josh van Cuylenburg, Race cars, Divorce, Divorced parents, TV, Logies full 5 30 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg eb0e0cc5-c888-4268-b455-b072004d4cf8 83090f54-019f-4562-ab41-b2420032ae1b Sun, 03 Sep 2023 20:00:00 +0000 6035 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/grant-denyer-self-worth-was-worth-fighting-for       Dr Emily - Friendship 4 Eva Dr Emily - Friendship 4 Eva Monica. Chandler. Rachel. Ross. Phoebe. Joey. We all love Friends. But what about friendSHIPS? Why are our friendships so important to us? 

      In this episode, Dr Emily explains everything - our different types of friends, why they matter SO much, and what it is about someone that makes us like them? (Spoiler alert: it’s got nothing to do with how impressive they are)


      To listen to Will McMahon's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3E9qfxF

      To listen to 360's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45p6qy7

      To learn more and read some of Robin Dunbar's research, follow these links: https://bit.ly/45KyDiy & https://bit.ly/45KKjls

      To learn more about William Rawlin's work around expectations in friendships, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OOaZLj

      To learn more about The Beautiful Mess Effect, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qNcSA2

      For book recommendation, 'Platonic, The Surprising New Science of Making and Keeping Friends As an Adult', by Marisa Franco, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GZU5v

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Monica. Chandler. Rachel. Ross. Phoebe. Joey. We all love Friends. But what about friendSHIPS? Why are our friendships so important to us? 

      In this episode, Dr Emily explains everything - our different types of friends, why they matter SO much, and what it is about someone that makes us like them? (Spoiler alert: it’s got nothing to do with how impressive they are)


      To listen to Will McMahon's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3E9qfxF

      To listen to 360's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45p6qy7

      To learn more and read some of Robin Dunbar's research, follow these links: https://bit.ly/45KyDiy & https://bit.ly/45KKjls

      To learn more about William Rawlin's work around expectations in friendships, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OOaZLj

      To learn more about The Beautiful Mess Effect, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qNcSA2

      For book recommendation, 'Platonic, The Surprising New Science of Making and Keeping Friends As an Adult', by Marisa Franco, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GZU5v

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Friendship Dr Emily Musgrove Hugh van Cuylenburg Josh van Cuylenburg Ryan Shelton Friends Making Friends Adult friendships Childhood friends Best Friends Friendship, Dr Emily Musgrove, Hugh van Cuylenburg, Josh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton, Friends, Making Friends, Adult friendships, Childhood friends, Best Friends full 5 29 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 9037e51e-50fa-4f8c-ab46-b06900399321 bb756753-52db-4c3d-b055-b2420032caf0 Sun, 27 Aug 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4808 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-friendship-4-eva       Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty Myf Warhurst - The Anxiety of Uncertainty Myf Warhurst is an icon. An Australian icon. Everyone, we have an icon on our podcast.

      From Spicks & Specks to Triple J, and Eurovision to Bluey… oh and doing a whole show about menopause… HER menopause… Australia has LOVED Myf Warhurst for a long, long time.

      You might even think it’s impossible to love her more, well just wait until you hear her honesty and vulnerability in this Vulnerabilitea House.

      Myf talks about the anxiety that comes with her line of work, how she’s dealt with the ups and downs that come with a career in the entertainment industry, and what she’s learned from the tragic loss of people close to her.

      To watch The Truth About Menopause with Myf Warhurst, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47C1nMo

      To listen to Myf's podcast, 'Bank On' with Zan Rowe, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YFBIyc

      To purchase Myf's memoir, Time of My Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OIOjMp

      To listen to Chrissie Swan's Imperfects episode that Myf talks about, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO

      This episode contains a discussion about suicide. If this feels like it's too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Myf Warhurst is an icon. An Australian icon. Everyone, we have an icon on our podcast.

      From Spicks & Specks to Triple J, and Eurovision to Bluey… oh and doing a whole show about menopause… HER menopause… Australia has LOVED Myf Warhurst for a long, long time.

      You might even think it’s impossible to love her more, well just wait until you hear her honesty and vulnerability in this Vulnerabilitea House.

      Myf talks about the anxiety that comes with her line of work, how she’s dealt with the ups and downs that come with a career in the entertainment industry, and what she’s learned from the tragic loss of people close to her.

      To watch The Truth About Menopause with Myf Warhurst, follow this link: https://bit.ly/47C1nMo

      To listen to Myf's podcast, 'Bank On' with Zan Rowe, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YFBIyc

      To purchase Myf's memoir, Time of My Life, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OIOjMp

      To listen to Chrissie Swan's Imperfects episode that Myf talks about, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3qL7WeO

      This episode contains a discussion about suicide. If this feels like it's too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       #MyfWarhurst #The Imperfects #theimperfects #myf #Anxiety #Uncertainty #Menopause #Loss #Guilt #grief alcoholism #Hugh van Cuylenburg #Joshvancuylenburg #Ryanshelton #MyfWarhurst, #The Imperfects, #theimperfects, #myf, #Anxiety, #Uncertainty, #Menopause, #Loss, #Guilt, #grief, alcoholism, #Hugh van Cuylenburg, #Joshvancuylenburg, #Ryanshelton full 5 28 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg de9fd6f3-c92e-4c69-8ae5-b0620017d74e f2ba883e-edd3-4e12-998c-b2420032ad72 Sun, 20 Aug 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4122 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/myf-warhurst       Osher Günsberg- In & Out Of Control Osher Günsberg- In & Out Of Control For 20 years, Osher Günsberg has been one of Australia’s most famous and successful TV/radio/podcast personalities. Since hosting the wildly popular Australian Idol, to handing out roses on The Bachelor (and SO MUCH in between), there aren’t many showbiz stories that rival Osher’s sustained success.

      But if we’ve learned anything on this podcast, behind every perfect story is an imperfect reality. And as you’ll hear in this honest chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Osher’s journey has been exactly that... imperfect.

      Osher talks about his struggle with alcohol addiction, his relationship with control, and living with ADHD. He also explains why he decided to change his name at the height of his fame.


      To listen to Osher's podcast, Better Than Yesterday, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YuYEjN

      For book recommendation, Emotional Agility, by Susan David, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3KF6GAV

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
      This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
      Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       For 20 years, Osher Günsberg has been one of Australia’s most famous and successful TV/radio/podcast personalities. Since hosting the wildly popular Australian Idol, to handing out roses on The Bachelor (and SO MUCH in between), there aren’t many showbiz stories that rival Osher’s sustained success.

      But if we’ve learned anything on this podcast, behind every perfect story is an imperfect reality. And as you’ll hear in this honest chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, Osher’s journey has been exactly that... imperfect.

      Osher talks about his struggle with alcohol addiction, his relationship with control, and living with ADHD. He also explains why he decided to change his name at the height of his fame.


      To listen to Osher's podcast, Better Than Yesterday, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YuYEjN

      For book recommendation, Emotional Agility, by Susan David, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3KF6GAV

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
      This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
      Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 27 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 937b696c-0cc9-432c-807c-b05d005e0d33 7a1614cd-1997-4480-b63e-b24200335a99 Sun, 13 Aug 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4971 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/osher-gu-nsberg-in-out-of-control       Dr Richard Harris - “That Thing In Thailand” Dr Richard Harris - “That Thing In Thailand” While our guest might humbly refer to his heroics as “that thing in Thailand”, it was in fact far more significant…

      In 2018, the world was gripped by the terrifying story of thirteen boys who were miraculously saved from inside a Thai cave. Maybe you’ve seen one of the billion docos made about it, or the Hollywood film directed by Ron Howard. As you probably already know, the most miraculous part was HOW these boys were saved, thanks in large part to today’s guest, Australian deep-diving anaesthetist, Dr Richard “Harry” Harris.

      In this fascinating Academy of Imperfection, “Harry” answers some of the 5000 questions that Hugh, Ryan and Josh wanted to ask (but didn’t have time), and then ultimately shares some valuable insights on the art of risk.

      To learn more or purchase 'The Art of Risk' by Dr Richard Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44R70EP

      To listen to Dr Harris's podcast, Real Risk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OJil3Q

      To learn more about the National Geographic documentary, The Rescue, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpDeEp

      Documentary, 'The Trapped 13' that Dr Harris mentions in the episode in available to watch in Australia on Netflix. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       While our guest might humbly refer to his heroics as “that thing in Thailand”, it was in fact far more significant…

      In 2018, the world was gripped by the terrifying story of thirteen boys who were miraculously saved from inside a Thai cave. Maybe you’ve seen one of the billion docos made about it, or the Hollywood film directed by Ron Howard. As you probably already know, the most miraculous part was HOW these boys were saved, thanks in large part to today’s guest, Australian deep-diving anaesthetist, Dr Richard “Harry” Harris.

      In this fascinating Academy of Imperfection, “Harry” answers some of the 5000 questions that Hugh, Ryan and Josh wanted to ask (but didn’t have time), and then ultimately shares some valuable insights on the art of risk.

      To learn more or purchase 'The Art of Risk' by Dr Richard Harris, follow this link: https://bit.ly/44R70EP

      To listen to Dr Harris's podcast, Real Risk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OJil3Q

      To learn more about the National Geographic documentary, The Rescue, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpDeEp

      Documentary, 'The Trapped 13' that Dr Harris mentions in the episode in available to watch in Australia on Netflix. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 26 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 6f23c997-bcb2-4545-9129-b05400703e5b ed4ced49-c35c-4e4c-ade2-b2420032bbde Sun, 06 Aug 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4126 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-richard-harris-that-thing-in-thailand       Dr Emily - When Are You Triggered? Dr Emily - When Are You Triggered? The phrase, “That’s triggering” or “I’m triggered”, has become more and more common. And while people are triggered by an event, or a topic, or even a scene in a TV show, what does it truly mean to be ‘triggered’? And should we really be avoiding triggering topics, or should we be exposing ourselves to them?

      In this extremely helpful episode, Dr Emily goes deep on triggers. She explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it means to actually be ‘triggered’, and how we often use the term incorrectly. She also talks about the use of Trigger Warnings in shows and podcasts, like the ones you often hear at the beginning of The Imperfects.

      There’s a HEAP more fascinating information in this one so get your notebooks out and listen up to the brilliant Dr Em!

      To watch Susan David's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YfosA1

      To delve further into the research around trigger warnings, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3KCvObB, https://bit.ly/3Kh6uHH, https://bit.ly/3q9hBLW, https://bit.ly/3Qeuwaa, https://bit.ly/3rOVrz2, https://bit.ly/3rPrNcV

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       The phrase, “That’s triggering” or “I’m triggered”, has become more and more common. And while people are triggered by an event, or a topic, or even a scene in a TV show, what does it truly mean to be ‘triggered’? And should we really be avoiding triggering topics, or should we be exposing ourselves to them?

      In this extremely helpful episode, Dr Emily goes deep on triggers. She explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it means to actually be ‘triggered’, and how we often use the term incorrectly. She also talks about the use of Trigger Warnings in shows and podcasts, like the ones you often hear at the beginning of The Imperfects.

      There’s a HEAP more fascinating information in this one so get your notebooks out and listen up to the brilliant Dr Em!

      To watch Susan David's Ted Talk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YfosA1

      To delve further into the research around trigger warnings, follow these links: https://bit.ly/3KCvObB, https://bit.ly/3Kh6uHH, https://bit.ly/3q9hBLW, https://bit.ly/3Qeuwaa, https://bit.ly/3rOVrz2, https://bit.ly/3rPrNcV

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1efd31b4-3222-4a4d-acde-b04a004d8976 8d6cfb1f-72bc-4880-bd54-b2420032cd00 Sun, 30 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000 2943 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-trigger-warnings       Christie Whelan Browne - Unbreakable Christie Whelan Browne - Unbreakable Christie Whelan Browne is one of the funniest (and most talented) people in Australia. If you know, you know. She’s won multiple awards and done everything from stage and musical theatre, to TV drama and comedy… and most recently Dancing with the Stars.

      But it’s her journey, before the #MeToo movement (and continues today) that’s making the biggest impact. Christie has rarely spoken so openly about her very public and tumultuous experience through the courts, in the media and even within her own family, as she became the face of a high-profile criminal trial and subsequent defamation trial that turned her life upside down.

      Historically, making the world a better, safer and more equal place for women has never been easy. Far from it. And in this episode Christie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like for her, as she landed in the firing line while trying to protect other women like her. To us, Christie is an inspiration and we couldn’t be more grateful to her for sharing her imperfect story with us.

      To watch the True Stories episode with Christie, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BV2x6Y

      To view The Blessed One on Instagram, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NYEiu7

      This episode discusses allegations of indecent assault, if this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Christie Whelan Browne is one of the funniest (and most talented) people in Australia. If you know, you know. She’s won multiple awards and done everything from stage and musical theatre, to TV drama and comedy… and most recently Dancing with the Stars.

      But it’s her journey, before the #MeToo movement (and continues today) that’s making the biggest impact. Christie has rarely spoken so openly about her very public and tumultuous experience through the courts, in the media and even within her own family, as she became the face of a high-profile criminal trial and subsequent defamation trial that turned her life upside down.

      Historically, making the world a better, safer and more equal place for women has never been easy. Far from it. And in this episode Christie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what it was like for her, as she landed in the firing line while trying to protect other women like her. To us, Christie is an inspiration and we couldn’t be more grateful to her for sharing her imperfect story with us.

      To watch the True Stories episode with Christie, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BV2x6Y

      To view The Blessed One on Instagram, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NYEiu7

      This episode discusses allegations of indecent assault, if this brings up anything for you, you can contact 1800 RESPECT on 1800 737 732. 1800 RESPECT is a national 24/7 counselling line for anyone who has experienced, or is at risk of, family and domestic violence and/or sexual assault.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 8939f5ac-bd36-40f6-9956-b00b018a1a8d 508fdc8d-ddb8-48bf-817f-b2420032c404 Sun, 23 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000 5521 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/christie-whelan-browne-unbreakable       Laura Henshaw - What Do They Think Of Me? Laura Henshaw - What Do They Think Of Me? Laura Henshaw has achieved a lot. Not only is she an author, law graduate and podcaster, but she is the CEO and co-founder of the wildly popular and successful health & fitness app, KIC - which she started and still runs with friend, and former Imperfects guest, Steph Claire-Smith.

      But behind her success, Laura still worries what people think of her. And in this Vulnerabilitea House, she vulnerably tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh where this comes from and how this anxiety continues to crop up for her in everyday life.

      We’ve got a feeling this’ll be a verrry relatable one.

      To listen to Ben Crowe's episode that Laura mentions in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Ockd52

      To listen to Steph Clare Smith's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46G3luN

      To learn more about KIC and to download the app, follow this link: https://kicapp.com/

      To listen to Laura and Steph's podcast, KICPOD, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NX7XUM

      To read and purchase Laura and Steph's new book, You Take Care, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43tzMJS

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Laura Henshaw has achieved a lot. Not only is she an author, law graduate and podcaster, but she is the CEO and co-founder of the wildly popular and successful health & fitness app, KIC - which she started and still runs with friend, and former Imperfects guest, Steph Claire-Smith.

      But behind her success, Laura still worries what people think of her. And in this Vulnerabilitea House, she vulnerably tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh where this comes from and how this anxiety continues to crop up for her in everyday life.

      We’ve got a feeling this’ll be a verrry relatable one.

      To listen to Ben Crowe's episode that Laura mentions in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Ockd52

      To listen to Steph Clare Smith's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/46G3luN

      To learn more about KIC and to download the app, follow this link: https://kicapp.com/

      To listen to Laura and Steph's podcast, KICPOD, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NX7XUM

      To read and purchase Laura and Steph's new book, You Take Care, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43tzMJS

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3ff81131-ef8c-4d0c-b2fb-b03e007176b0 e7a26d56-2693-4ba8-9b8d-b2420032c73e Sun, 16 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000 2911 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/laura-henshaw-what-do-they-think-of-me       James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks James van Cuylenburg - Love Your Wonky Bricks Other than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode.

      James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics.

      This episode is not just about kids. It’s about the human experience and why we should all acknowledge and love our “wonky bricks” and make the most of our short time on this floating ball we call earth. PRESS PLAY ALREADY!


      To learn more about James's work, or book into see him or another psychologist at Engage One on One, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MV947W

      To learn more about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Other than being a Clinical Psychologist (with a child specialisation), Dr James van Cuylenburg is not only Hugh and Josh’s cousin, but in Hugh’s opinion, he’s the greatest piano player in the world - which provides zero context for this incredible episode.

      James covers so much in this 90 minutes that it’s almost impossible to sum up here. Everything from the development of our kids today, screentime issues, the cost of ambition, the importance of self-compassion and James’s own experiences with bullying and how it motivated him to study psychology. Among MANY other topics.

      This episode is not just about kids. It’s about the human experience and why we should all acknowledge and love our “wonky bricks” and make the most of our short time on this floating ball we call earth. PRESS PLAY ALREADY!


      To learn more about James's work, or book into see him or another psychologist at Engage One on One, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MV947W

      To learn more about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MVgNTC

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 15505e1a-0251-4c98-a315-b00b018a444e 21bf7d38-750c-49f3-8659-b2420032c86e Sun, 09 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000 5150 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/james-van-cuylenburg-love-your-wonky-bricks       Dr Emily - How to Stress Less Dr Emily - How to Stress Less What do you do when you’re stressed? Watch the telly? Scroll the innuhnet? Fix yourself a stiff VB on the rocks?

      We all feel stressed and burned out from time to time. It’s unfortunately a reality of life. But double-unfortunately, most of us don’t know how to correctly deal with it. And that’s why Dr Emily is here to help!

      In this extremely practical episode, Dr Emily explains the science behind WHY we get stressed. But more importantly, she tells us what we can do to alleviate the stress and WHY it will work.

      And why does she know all these things? Because she’s a… [to be sung] PSYCHOLOGIST!!!

      To listen to Kate Reid's Imperfects episode, follow these links: (pt1) https://bit.ly/45wqwqQ & (pt2) https://bit.ly/3BQFAlz

      For book recommendation, 'Burnout, The secret to solving the stress cycle', by Emily & Amelia Nagoski, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IGQZrY

      For book recommendation  'The Joy of Movement' by Kelly McGonigal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ODdzoU

      For app recommendation, 'One Sec', follow this link: https://one-sec.app/

      For book recommendation, 'Mans Search for Meaning' by Victor E Frankl, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BSddDq

      For further reading on The Polyvagal Theory, follow this link https://rb.gy/23wtb

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       What do you do when you’re stressed? Watch the telly? Scroll the innuhnet? Fix yourself a stiff VB on the rocks?

      We all feel stressed and burned out from time to time. It’s unfortunately a reality of life. But double-unfortunately, most of us don’t know how to correctly deal with it. And that’s why Dr Emily is here to help!

      In this extremely practical episode, Dr Emily explains the science behind WHY we get stressed. But more importantly, she tells us what we can do to alleviate the stress and WHY it will work.

      And why does she know all these things? Because she’s a… [to be sung] PSYCHOLOGIST!!!

      To listen to Kate Reid's Imperfects episode, follow these links: (pt1) https://bit.ly/45wqwqQ & (pt2) https://bit.ly/3BQFAlz

      For book recommendation, 'Burnout, The secret to solving the stress cycle', by Emily & Amelia Nagoski, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IGQZrY

      For book recommendation  'The Joy of Movement' by Kelly McGonigal, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ODdzoU

      For app recommendation, 'One Sec', follow this link: https://one-sec.app/

      For book recommendation, 'Mans Search for Meaning' by Victor E Frankl, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BSddDq

      For further reading on The Polyvagal Theory, follow this link https://rb.gy/23wtb

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1dd3da23-ddcf-4ef8-9f9e-b00b01899b4b 9b86f458-f4a7-4b09-acb3-b2420032d3e3 Sun, 02 Jul 2023 20:00:00 +0000 3883 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-stress-and-burnout       Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship Hugh & Penny - The Elephant in the Relationship You might remember Penny Moodie from her first appearance on The Imperfects when she talked about her own experience with OCD. Link below if you don’t! Well, Penny is back to talk about something else; her marriage with Hugh. Or, more specifically, and far less click-baity, the mental load in her marriage with Hugh.

      “The mental load” is the cognitive effort that’s required to juggle the often invisible labour of running a household. Something that Penny noticed was becoming too much for her to handle.

      In this unique episode, Hugh and Penny talk about how they dealt with this, and in doing so give us the rare opportunity to hear a real married couple talk about their real issues. All while Ryan and Josh pretend to not be on Team Penny. If you or your partner is struggling with the very real issue of mental overload, this episode is probably for you.

      To learn more about Fair Play, the book, the cards and Eve Rodsky's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45uLCFS

      To watch Bluey episode The Pool, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MSORzF

      To read more about how breast feeding equates to a full time work load, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sLkPR

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       You might remember Penny Moodie from her first appearance on The Imperfects when she talked about her own experience with OCD. Link below if you don’t! Well, Penny is back to talk about something else; her marriage with Hugh. Or, more specifically, and far less click-baity, the mental load in her marriage with Hugh.

      “The mental load” is the cognitive effort that’s required to juggle the often invisible labour of running a household. Something that Penny noticed was becoming too much for her to handle.

      In this unique episode, Hugh and Penny talk about how they dealt with this, and in doing so give us the rare opportunity to hear a real married couple talk about their real issues. All while Ryan and Josh pretend to not be on Team Penny. If you or your partner is struggling with the very real issue of mental overload, this episode is probably for you.

      To learn more about Fair Play, the book, the cards and Eve Rodsky's work, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45uLCFS

      To watch Bluey episode The Pool, mentioned in this episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MSORzF

      To read more about how breast feeding equates to a full time work load, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sLkPR

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 43ca25d9-9fd3-4e52-b900-b00b01897292 0e9f8948-abfe-4741-8039-b2420032d585 Sun, 25 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4109 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hugh-penny-the-elephant-in-the-relationship       Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel Michael (Wippa) Wipfli - Light at the End of the Tunnel If you live in Sydney, you probably know Wippa. He’s on NOVA every morning with Fitzy and Kate Ritchie (or 6-7pm in the rest of the country), but he's also a veteran of Australian radio, having been on air for 20 years, making his start in Port Augusta before moving to Perth, then Melbourne and now Sydney.

      Wippa and Ryan have been great friends for a long time. They even co-hosted the NOVA drive show for two years with Monty Dimond in 2009 and 2010. During this time, Wippa went through one of the darkest periods of his life and leant on Ryan for support. Wippa talks about that time in this episode - how he got through it and the positives he takes out of it all these years later.

      But if it’s not Wippa’s extreme vulnerability that will stay with you after this episode, it’s the truly bizarre but incredible gift that he surprises Ryan with at the end. Wow.


      To watch Wippa sing 'The Confrontation' from Les Miserables with Hugh Jackman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BVhcPH

       

      This episode contains a conversation which mentions depression and suicidal thoughts. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       If you live in Sydney, you probably know Wippa. He’s on NOVA every morning with Fitzy and Kate Ritchie (or 6-7pm in the rest of the country), but he's also a veteran of Australian radio, having been on air for 20 years, making his start in Port Augusta before moving to Perth, then Melbourne and now Sydney.

      Wippa and Ryan have been great friends for a long time. They even co-hosted the NOVA drive show for two years with Monty Dimond in 2009 and 2010. During this time, Wippa went through one of the darkest periods of his life and leant on Ryan for support. Wippa talks about that time in this episode - how he got through it and the positives he takes out of it all these years later.

      But if it’s not Wippa’s extreme vulnerability that will stay with you after this episode, it’s the truly bizarre but incredible gift that he surprises Ryan with at the end. Wow.


      To watch Wippa sing 'The Confrontation' from Les Miserables with Hugh Jackman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BVhcPH

       

      This episode contains a conversation which mentions depression and suicidal thoughts. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If are worried about someone you know, need to talk to someone bereaved by suicide, or want to start a discussion about suicide prevention in your family or community, Conversations Matter is a practical online resource to support safe and effective discussions about suicide, to access, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Wx9tAO

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 91ef5910-2a29-4735-81b6-b00b01891579 efa46fe5-ad31-4987-9b05-b2420032e219 Sun, 18 Jun 2023 20:00:00 +0000 3895 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/michael-wippa-wipfli       Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success Kemi Nekvapil - The Secret of Your Success We all want to be successful. But what is ‘success’? And what if we’ve been thinking about it in the wrong way?

      Enter Kemi Nekvapil… back for the second time on The Imperfects!

      Kemi has worked in the wellness industry for 25 years and holistic leadership for 10 years. She is a mother, a wife, an endurance athlete, a gardener, an author with three books, and a certified Dare To Lead facilitator having trained personally with the one and only Brené Brown!

      In this Academy of Imperfection, Kemi joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about finding TRUE success - which… surprise, surprise… has nothing to do with your achievements or your salary.

      To listen to Kemi's first Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BT7VaY

      To listen to Kemi's new Audible Original podcast, Power Talks with Kemi Nekvapil, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ovvun1

      To learn more about what Kemi does, and to purchase her book, 'Power, A Woman's Guide to Living and Leading Without Apology', follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sFDBt

      To listen to Will McMahon Imperfects episode, mentioned in this episode follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MyMa4U

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We all want to be successful. But what is ‘success’? And what if we’ve been thinking about it in the wrong way?

      Enter Kemi Nekvapil… back for the second time on The Imperfects!

      Kemi has worked in the wellness industry for 25 years and holistic leadership for 10 years. She is a mother, a wife, an endurance athlete, a gardener, an author with three books, and a certified Dare To Lead facilitator having trained personally with the one and only Brené Brown!

      In this Academy of Imperfection, Kemi joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about finding TRUE success - which… surprise, surprise… has nothing to do with your achievements or your salary.

      To listen to Kemi's first Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BT7VaY

      To listen to Kemi's new Audible Original podcast, Power Talks with Kemi Nekvapil, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ovvun1

      To learn more about what Kemi does, and to purchase her book, 'Power, A Woman's Guide to Living and Leading Without Apology', follow this link: https://bit.ly/45sFDBt

      To listen to Will McMahon Imperfects episode, mentioned in this episode follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MyMa4U

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b6f4c6c8-eff4-403a-95eb-b00b0188f54d 96037cc7-05de-41c5-9f66-b242003324da Sun, 11 Jun 2023 20:41:18 +0000 4812 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/kemi-nekvapil-the-secret-of-your-success       Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made This is Pt2 of our chat with award-winning chef and owner of Melbourne restaurant, Attica. Go back and listen to Pt 1 if you haven’t yet. It’s a doozy. As the second part, this is a double-doozy… or a... twoozy… I guess.

      In this episode, Ben explains how he managed to build empathy amongst the staff at Attica through something he created called Staff Speeches. He also shares a harrowing bullying story from his childhood when his mother saved him from certain catastrophe, and finally Ben opens up for the first time publicly about his challenging journey with body image.

      As one of the most respected and celebrated chefs in the world, we’re very grateful that we were able to sit down with Ben like this. He left a very positive impression on all 3 of us, for very different reasons. Thanks Ben.

      To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

      To listen to our episode on how to write a gratitude letter, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GtpVT

      To learn more about the mountain bike riding trip that Hugh, Ben and Hamish went on, visit Blue Darby Pods Ride Tasmania or follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IEs1tg

      This episode contains a graphic description of bullying experienced by our guest at a young age. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If you or someone you know is experiencing body image issues or an eating disorder, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support please contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       This is Pt2 of our chat with award-winning chef and owner of Melbourne restaurant, Attica. Go back and listen to Pt 1 if you haven’t yet. It’s a doozy. As the second part, this is a double-doozy… or a... twoozy… I guess.

      In this episode, Ben explains how he managed to build empathy amongst the staff at Attica through something he created called Staff Speeches. He also shares a harrowing bullying story from his childhood when his mother saved him from certain catastrophe, and finally Ben opens up for the first time publicly about his challenging journey with body image.

      As one of the most respected and celebrated chefs in the world, we’re very grateful that we were able to sit down with Ben like this. He left a very positive impression on all 3 of us, for very different reasons. Thanks Ben.

      To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

      To listen to our episode on how to write a gratitude letter, follow this link: https://bit.ly/45GtpVT

      To learn more about the mountain bike riding trip that Hugh, Ben and Hamish went on, visit Blue Darby Pods Ride Tasmania or follow this link: https://bit.ly/3IEs1tg

      This episode contains a graphic description of bullying experienced by our guest at a young age. If this feels like it is too much for you to listen to right now, you may want to skip this one and come back another time.

      If you or someone you know is experiencing body image issues or an eating disorder, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support please contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 16a77ee2-6ffc-4d51-8363-b00b01886d38 544b35df-e21a-404b-b548-b24200337eec Sun, 04 Jun 2023 22:00:00 +0000 4234 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ben-shewry-pt-2-how-the-chef-was-made       Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence Originally from New Zealand, Ben Shewry is the head chef and owner of Melbourne-based restaurant Attica - the highly respected restaurant that has been included in the World’s 50 Best Restaurants numerous times.

      Ben’s chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh was so big and so special, it needed to be split across 2 big and special episodes.

      In this first big and special part, they talk about what makes Attica such a unique place, how he approaches his work, and how he deals with the anxiety that arose from his divorce.
      But, what is sprinkled across everything Ben does, is his unwavering commitment to excellence and his adoration of change.

      To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

      For book recommendation, Kitchen Confidential, by Anthony Bourdain, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43hC7rC

      To watch the trailer for 'The Menu' movie, that ben mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BPYEQC

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Originally from New Zealand, Ben Shewry is the head chef and owner of Melbourne-based restaurant Attica - the highly respected restaurant that has been included in the World’s 50 Best Restaurants numerous times.

      Ben’s chat with Hugh, Ryan and Josh was so big and so special, it needed to be split across 2 big and special episodes.

      In this first big and special part, they talk about what makes Attica such a unique place, how he approaches his work, and how he deals with the anxiety that arose from his divorce.
      But, what is sprinkled across everything Ben does, is his unwavering commitment to excellence and his adoration of change.

      To learn more about Attica and to book, follow this link: https://bit.ly/4386LUP

      For book recommendation, Kitchen Confidential, by Anthony Bourdain, follow this link: https://bit.ly/43hC7rC

      To watch the trailer for 'The Menu' movie, that ben mentions in the episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BPYEQC

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg be639d54-2e9b-4172-a358-b00b0187f0c1 e1970bea-066e-4ba0-ac02-b2420032e4f5 Sun, 28 May 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4348 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ben-shewry-pt-1-the-other-side-of-excellence       Dr Emily - Curb Your Perfectionism Dr Emily - Curb Your Perfectionism We’ve spent about four and a half years on this podcast telling you why we’re all imperfect. But on this episode, Dr Emily actually explains why trying to be PERFECT is… well… really bad. And not only why it’s really bad, but why perfectionism’s mere existence is stealing all the good from our lives.

      Take it away Dr Emily……… PSYCHOLOGIST!

      To learn more about Lynn Lyon's work around anxiety and perfectionism, follow this link: https://www.lynnlyons.com/

      To hear Josh's first VulnerabiliTea House, where he talks about "the notebook" and why he struggles to write music now, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OsQVj2

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We’ve spent about four and a half years on this podcast telling you why we’re all imperfect. But on this episode, Dr Emily actually explains why trying to be PERFECT is… well… really bad. And not only why it’s really bad, but why perfectionism’s mere existence is stealing all the good from our lives.

      Take it away Dr Emily……… PSYCHOLOGIST!

      To learn more about Lynn Lyon's work around anxiety and perfectionism, follow this link: https://www.lynnlyons.com/

      To hear Josh's first VulnerabiliTea House, where he talks about "the notebook" and why he struggles to write music now, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OsQVj2

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 15 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 35454e2c-9aab-481c-98b5-b009006bc9d5 54d593ec-f718-4a86-b10c-b24200335c7d Sun, 21 May 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4157 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily       Broden Kelly - When Anger & Creativity Collide Broden Kelly - When Anger & Creativity Collide If you don’t know comedy sketch group Aunty Donna, then take a moment, open your local internet browser and watch their incredible stuff for a bit (some of it is linked below). Then come back and listen to this episode with Aunty Donna's, Broden Kelly.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Broden talks about his own and Aunty Donna’s creative process, and how it’s evolved over the years while working together on stage and on the telly. But at the heart of this conversation, is Broden’s vulnerability in regards to his anger - how it affected his life and work, and what he did to get on top of it, before it got on top of him.

      To watch Aunty Donna's Coffee Cafe on iview, follow this link: https://bit.ly/450zgVE

      To watch Aunty Donna's Real Estate Agents video, that is mentioned in the podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nTvEV4

      To Listen to Broden's podcast, The Footy with Broden Kelly, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3pv8S6

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       If you don’t know comedy sketch group Aunty Donna, then take a moment, open your local internet browser and watch their incredible stuff for a bit (some of it is linked below). Then come back and listen to this episode with Aunty Donna's, Broden Kelly.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Broden talks about his own and Aunty Donna’s creative process, and how it’s evolved over the years while working together on stage and on the telly. But at the heart of this conversation, is Broden’s vulnerability in regards to his anger - how it affected his life and work, and what he did to get on top of it, before it got on top of him.

      To watch Aunty Donna's Coffee Cafe on iview, follow this link: https://bit.ly/450zgVE

      To watch Aunty Donna's Real Estate Agents video, that is mentioned in the podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nTvEV4

      To Listen to Broden's podcast, The Footy with Broden Kelly, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3pv8S6

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 903a5106-fd20-47b2-81a8-b001001a39d5 0ad62561-942e-4654-9f78-b2420032eee4 Sun, 14 May 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4159 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/broden-kelly-when-anger-creativity-collide       Emma Murray - How Mindfulness Actually Works Emma Murray - How Mindfulness Actually Works Emma Murray is the high-performance mindset coach for the Richmond Football Club and Mum to four children.

      As the founder of High-Performance Mindfulness - a company that uses mindfulness, psychology and meditation to help people perform at their best - Emma works with elite athletes, corporate executives, students and actors.

      In this very practical and vulnerable episode, Emma explains how high-performance mindfulness has not only helped her clients, but also helped her when in 2016, her son Will (13 at the time) sustained a spinal cord injury that left him in a wheelchair for life.


      To learn more about Emma Murray and High Performance Mindfulness, follow this link: https://www.highperformancemindfulness.com.au/

      For book recommendation, The Mindful Athlete  by George Mumford, follow this link: https://bit.ly/417XF8R

      For book recommendation, Sacred Hoops by Phil Jackson, follow this linkhttps://bit.ly/3pcXL1L

      To listen to Emma's son Will on The Dyl and Friends podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NGoGgD

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Emma Murray is the high-performance mindset coach for the Richmond Football Club and Mum to four children.

      As the founder of High-Performance Mindfulness - a company that uses mindfulness, psychology and meditation to help people perform at their best - Emma works with elite athletes, corporate executives, students and actors.

      In this very practical and vulnerable episode, Emma explains how high-performance mindfulness has not only helped her clients, but also helped her when in 2016, her son Will (13 at the time) sustained a spinal cord injury that left him in a wheelchair for life.


      To learn more about Emma Murray and High Performance Mindfulness, follow this link: https://www.highperformancemindfulness.com.au/

      For book recommendation, The Mindful Athlete  by George Mumford, follow this link: https://bit.ly/417XF8R

      For book recommendation, Sacred Hoops by Phil Jackson, follow this linkhttps://bit.ly/3pcXL1L

      To listen to Emma's son Will on The Dyl and Friends podcast, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NGoGgD

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 24dc7502-6579-4675-831c-aff8001efa41 baa258b9-3d0a-437e-9107-b2420032f277 Sun, 07 May 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4622 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/emma-murray-how-mindfulness-actually-works       360 (Matt Colwell) - From Addiction to Authenticity 360 (Matt Colwell) - From Addiction to Authenticity This extremely raw and revealing episode with Australian rapper 360 is all about authenticity. 10 years ago, 360 (Matt Colwell) was one of the most successful and respected artists in Australia. His songs and albums went multi-platinum, he was winning prestigious ARIA and APRA awards and his enormous tours sold out nationally. But what no one knew at the time, is he was simultaneously battling an addiction that nearly took his life.

      Here, with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, 360 tells the whole story, including how he reached a point where he could make music and tour again in his own authentic way.

      To buy tickets to 360's 2023 tour and listen to his new music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LvcjSO

      To purchase book recommendation, Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LawC6D

      To watch Johann Hari's Ted Talk, Everything You Know About Addiction is Wrong, follow this link: https://bit.ly/446s4qA

      To watch Karen Perlmutter's Ted Talk, 'The island of sanity: Navigating through loved ones' addictions', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NagDs4

      To listen to "I'm Sorry" by 360, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3V9GbaT

      If you are a friend or family member of someone with an addiction, below are some support services: 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       This extremely raw and revealing episode with Australian rapper 360 is all about authenticity. 10 years ago, 360 (Matt Colwell) was one of the most successful and respected artists in Australia. His songs and albums went multi-platinum, he was winning prestigious ARIA and APRA awards and his enormous tours sold out nationally. But what no one knew at the time, is he was simultaneously battling an addiction that nearly took his life.

      Here, with Hugh, Ryan and Josh, 360 tells the whole story, including how he reached a point where he could make music and tour again in his own authentic way.

      To buy tickets to 360's 2023 tour and listen to his new music, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LvcjSO

      To purchase book recommendation, Chasing the Scream by Johann Hari, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3LawC6D

      To watch Johann Hari's Ted Talk, Everything You Know About Addiction is Wrong, follow this link: https://bit.ly/446s4qA

      To watch Karen Perlmutter's Ted Talk, 'The island of sanity: Navigating through loved ones' addictions', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3NagDs4

      To listen to "I'm Sorry" by 360, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3V9GbaT

      If you are a friend or family member of someone with an addiction, below are some support services: 

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg aed0bdf4-50f0-4d85-b8eb-aff0007ae024 59fdb472-0944-4169-a59b-b2420032f8e3 Sun, 30 Apr 2023 20:30:00 +0000 7581 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/360-matt-colwell-from-addiction-to-authenticity       Dr Emily - How Anger Affects Us All Dr Emily - How Anger Affects Us All We all get angry. Some of us show our anger and some of us suppress it, but at the end of the day, we’re all susceptible to being angry.

      In this episode, Dr Emily goes into the many aspects of anger - how it can show up in our lives, how it affects us and the people around us, and of course, what we can do about it.


      If you liked this episode, you might be interested in book recommendation, When the Body Says No, The Hidden Cost of Stress, by Dr Gabor Mate: https://bit.ly/3NcTFQS

      To view research and studies around emotional suppression, anger and mortality, follow these links, https://bit.ly/3UZvOGr , https://bit.ly/3H5h8zS and https://bit.ly/3LlBDup

      To learn more about Chris Germer's work, around anger as information, mindfulness and self-compassion, follow this link: https://chrisgermer.com/
       
      To lean more about Robyn Walser's work on the four components of anger and to purchase a self-directed, commitment and acceptance therapy based workbook on managing emotions and anger, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H6QINY

      To listen to Tarang Chawla's Imperfects episode about men's violence against women,  follow this link: https://bit.ly/3N4altS

      To listen to Tarang Chawla's podcast, There's No Place Like Home, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H5w2Wy

      To learn more about the Oura Ring Hugh spoke about, follow this link: https://ouraring.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       We all get angry. Some of us show our anger and some of us suppress it, but at the end of the day, we’re all susceptible to being angry.

      In this episode, Dr Emily goes into the many aspects of anger - how it can show up in our lives, how it affects us and the people around us, and of course, what we can do about it.


      If you liked this episode, you might be interested in book recommendation, When the Body Says No, The Hidden Cost of Stress, by Dr Gabor Mate: https://bit.ly/3NcTFQS

      To view research and studies around emotional suppression, anger and mortality, follow these links, https://bit.ly/3UZvOGr , https://bit.ly/3H5h8zS and https://bit.ly/3LlBDup

      To learn more about Chris Germer's work, around anger as information, mindfulness and self-compassion, follow this link: https://chrisgermer.com/
       
      To lean more about Robyn Walser's work on the four components of anger and to purchase a self-directed, commitment and acceptance therapy based workbook on managing emotions and anger, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H6QINY

      To listen to Tarang Chawla's Imperfects episode about men's violence against women,  follow this link: https://bit.ly/3N4altS

      To listen to Tarang Chawla's podcast, There's No Place Like Home, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3H5w2Wy

      To learn more about the Oura Ring Hugh spoke about, follow this link: https://ouraring.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a775b78e-02f3-4e32-9dd1-afec00084680 52e2fe46-51f9-4569-8384-b242003302d9 Sun, 23 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4022 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-how-anger-affects-us-all       Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The Thief of Joy What if you were one of the best swimmers in the world, but you still couldn’t beat your older sister? That’s what Olympic swimmer Bronte Campbell has been facing for most of her career with her sister, Cate Campbell.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Bronte opens up about being at the top of the professional swimming world, but still living in someone’s shadow. And how comparison stole much of the joy she might have otherwise felt. But she also describes how the perspective provided by her brother with Cerebral Palsy made her realise what’s truly important.


      To listen to Libby Trickett's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MMGupL

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       What if you were one of the best swimmers in the world, but you still couldn’t beat your older sister? That’s what Olympic swimmer Bronte Campbell has been facing for most of her career with her sister, Cate Campbell.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Bronte opens up about being at the top of the professional swimming world, but still living in someone’s shadow. And how comparison stole much of the joy she might have otherwise felt. But she also describes how the perspective provided by her brother with Cerebral Palsy made her realise what’s truly important.


      To listen to Libby Trickett's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MMGupL

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 61eff8a7-ce45-40d0-9b2a-afe6004fbd88 4d079928-4fbe-4496-8580-b24200330758 Sun, 16 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000 4122 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/bronte-campbell-comparison-the-thief-of-joy       Some Things We Wish We Knew Earlier Some Things We Wish We Knew Earlier This B-B-B-BONUS episode arrives thanks to Hugh - a man who claims to hate lists. At least he did until he saw a list called “40 Things I Wish I’d Known at 40” (link below).

      The list of things resonated with Hugh so much, that he sent it to Ryan and Josh and they decided to do an episode about it. This is that episode. It’d be weird if it wasn’t though wouldn’t it?

      There’s no guest in this one, it’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh speaking about the things from the list that spoke to each of them most.

      But we’ll be back soon with a proper guest next episode!

      To read the full list of 40 things from Robin Sharma, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Mzwcci
      The list is originally from The Everyday Hero Manifesto, by Robin Sharma: http://bit.ly/3KCnYh7

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       This B-B-B-BONUS episode arrives thanks to Hugh - a man who claims to hate lists. At least he did until he saw a list called “40 Things I Wish I’d Known at 40” (link below).

      The list of things resonated with Hugh so much, that he sent it to Ryan and Josh and they decided to do an episode about it. This is that episode. It’d be weird if it wasn’t though wouldn’t it?

      There’s no guest in this one, it’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh speaking about the things from the list that spoke to each of them most.

      But we’ll be back soon with a proper guest next episode!

      To read the full list of 40 things from Robin Sharma, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Mzwcci
      The list is originally from The Everyday Hero Manifesto, by Robin Sharma: http://bit.ly/3KCnYh7

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f048eb28-0042-42fe-8d66-afde002a35ba 7842e377-cdbd-4fb8-a099-b2420033088f Wed, 12 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000 2089 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/some-things-we-wish-we-knew-earlier       Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children? Ann Davidman - Should You Have Children? When Ryan spoke about his ongoing indecision surrounding whether or not he should have children (Episode: To Breed or Not To Breed - link below), it definitely struck a chord with a lot of people who could relate. One of those people was “Parenthood Clarity Mentor” Ann Davidman, who helps people all over the world to answer the question, ‘Should I have children?’

      So, as a sort-of-follow-up episode, Ann joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Academy of Imperfection to provide some much-needed guidance to anyone who is also stuck in the ‘not-knowing’!

      Ann started her Parenthood Clarity Course in 1991 (link below) and it has helped thousands of parents and non-parents find the clarity they needed. So Ann certainly has some experience in the area.

      To listen to Ryan's episode, To Breed or Not To Breed, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Ko2N2p

      To learn more about Ann Davidman, her work and her motherhood clarity course, follow this link: https://www.motherhoodisitforme.com/

      To learn more about Ann's fatherhood clarity course, follow this link: http://bit.ly/43fx7ok

      To purchase the book, 'Motherhood Is It For Me?', by Ann Davidman & Denise L Carlini, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3ZZmcMU

      To read Ann's article in Vox, 'Should I have kids: 6 tips to help you decide if you want to start a family', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nXj9aF

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       When Ryan spoke about his ongoing indecision surrounding whether or not he should have children (Episode: To Breed or Not To Breed - link below), it definitely struck a chord with a lot of people who could relate. One of those people was “Parenthood Clarity Mentor” Ann Davidman, who helps people all over the world to answer the question, ‘Should I have children?’

      So, as a sort-of-follow-up episode, Ann joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Academy of Imperfection to provide some much-needed guidance to anyone who is also stuck in the ‘not-knowing’!

      Ann started her Parenthood Clarity Course in 1991 (link below) and it has helped thousands of parents and non-parents find the clarity they needed. So Ann certainly has some experience in the area.

      To listen to Ryan's episode, To Breed or Not To Breed, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Ko2N2p

      To learn more about Ann Davidman, her work and her motherhood clarity course, follow this link: https://www.motherhoodisitforme.com/

      To learn more about Ann's fatherhood clarity course, follow this link: http://bit.ly/43fx7ok

      To purchase the book, 'Motherhood Is It For Me?', by Ann Davidman & Denise L Carlini, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3ZZmcMU

      To read Ann's article in Vox, 'Should I have kids: 6 tips to help you decide if you want to start a family', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nXj9aF

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 68d3dd55-1293-491e-badd-afd90017ab31 2146a525-e40a-4e3b-9ac7-b24200330d83 Sun, 09 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000 3935 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ann-davidman-should-you-have-children       Dilruk Jayasinha - When Drinking Stopped Being Funny Dilruk Jayasinha - When Drinking Stopped Being Funny Dil’s rise from accountant, to one of Australia’s most successful stand-up comedians is incredible. But what might be even incredible…er is how he was able to finally get sober after years of relying on alcohol.

      In this vulnerable episode, Dil reveals to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what his life was like when his drinking was out of control, and how when he stopped, it forced him to change the way approached his work and his life.


      To purchase tickets to Dilruk's comedy show "Heart Stopper", follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zqxaQE
      To listen to Dilruk's podcast 'Fitbet' with Ben Lomas, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3znp2jV
      To listen to Dilruk's podcast, 'The Drivers Seat', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nsEwAb

      To listen to Dil phone into Hamish and Andy's radio show in 2010, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZCw0fr

      To watch the "Life Force" clip from Jonah Hill's documentary "Stutz"  (full documentary available on Netflix), follow this link: http://bit.ly/3U1BJKw

      For book recommendation 'The Tools' by Philip Stutz and Barry Michels, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3K4h8AJ

      To learn more about Philip Stutz and his work, follow this link: https://www.thetoolsbook.com/

      To read the article Hugh mentions, 'Exercise more effective than medicines to manage mental health', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3U5zo1p

      For book recommendation, The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nFhZAr

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
      This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
      Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dil’s rise from accountant, to one of Australia’s most successful stand-up comedians is incredible. But what might be even incredible…er is how he was able to finally get sober after years of relying on alcohol.

      In this vulnerable episode, Dil reveals to Hugh, Ryan and Josh what his life was like when his drinking was out of control, and how when he stopped, it forced him to change the way approached his work and his life.


      To purchase tickets to Dilruk's comedy show "Heart Stopper", follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zqxaQE
      To listen to Dilruk's podcast 'Fitbet' with Ben Lomas, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3znp2jV
      To listen to Dilruk's podcast, 'The Drivers Seat', follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nsEwAb

      To listen to Dil phone into Hamish and Andy's radio show in 2010, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ZCw0fr

      To watch the "Life Force" clip from Jonah Hill's documentary "Stutz"  (full documentary available on Netflix), follow this link: http://bit.ly/3U1BJKw

      For book recommendation 'The Tools' by Philip Stutz and Barry Michels, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3K4h8AJ

      To learn more about Philip Stutz and his work, follow this link: https://www.thetoolsbook.com/

      To read the article Hugh mentions, 'Exercise more effective than medicines to manage mental health', follow this link: https://bit.ly/3U5zo1p

      For book recommendation, The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3nFhZAr

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment.
      This episode discusses alcohol abuse. If you are struggling with your relationship with alcohol, or other drugs, you can access free, confidential, 24/7 support from Counselling Online. https://www.counsellingonline.org.au/
      Alternatively, seek support from friends and family, your local doctor, therapist, AA Group, or call lifeline on 13 11 14. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b9c9e838-3c31-40c0-a64b-afd60027bec8 8c3c24e7-a3e7-4a34-8df9-b24200331d2a Sun, 02 Apr 2023 20:00:00 +0000 6262 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dilruk-jayasinha-when-drinking-stopped-being-funny       Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy Dr Emily - A Guide To Getting Therapy Dr Emily is back in the studio with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to deliver a slightly different, but extremely practical episode.

      You may not be ready to see a therapist, but even the thought of it can be really overwhelming. Where do you start? Who’s the right therapist for you? What even happens once you’re in a therapy session? And which movies or TV shows get it right?

      Dr Em guides us through all of that, which will hopefully help you in your journey to find the right therapy for you. Whether that be now or down the track.


      If you are thinking about seeking professional support, but are not sure where to start, try the below resources: 

      To learn more about different types of mental health professionals and find services near you, visit Beyond Blue's Find a Mental Health Professional: http://bit.ly/3FMLyGs

      To learn more about what is Medicare rebatable, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nbibXP

      To learn more about counselling or to find a counsellor, visit The Australian Counselling Association: https://www.theaca.net.au/

      Or, visit The Australian Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists: https://www.arcapregister.com.au/

      To learn more about group therapy, visit Open Ground: https://www.openground.com.au/

      For self directed workbook recommendations try:

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily is back in the studio with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to deliver a slightly different, but extremely practical episode.

      You may not be ready to see a therapist, but even the thought of it can be really overwhelming. Where do you start? Who’s the right therapist for you? What even happens once you’re in a therapy session? And which movies or TV shows get it right?

      Dr Em guides us through all of that, which will hopefully help you in your journey to find the right therapy for you. Whether that be now or down the track.


      If you are thinking about seeking professional support, but are not sure where to start, try the below resources: 

      To learn more about different types of mental health professionals and find services near you, visit Beyond Blue's Find a Mental Health Professional: http://bit.ly/3FMLyGs

      To learn more about what is Medicare rebatable, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3nbibXP

      To learn more about counselling or to find a counsellor, visit The Australian Counselling Association: https://www.theaca.net.au/

      Or, visit The Australian Register of Counsellors and Psychotherapists: https://www.arcapregister.com.au/

      To learn more about group therapy, visit Open Ground: https://www.openground.com.au/

      For self directed workbook recommendations try:

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a healthcare professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 0db0954a-d91b-47ad-bbb0-afcf00184f05 c8a04873-0ab9-427e-a469-b24200331459 Sun, 26 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 4429 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-a-guide-to-getting-therapy       Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan Ben Crowe (Pt 2) - Now BE Your Inner Fan This Academy of Imperfection is a Part 2, or… addendum episode… with the phenom that is Ben Crowe! So, if you haven’t heard Part 1, please listen to that one first by following the link below.

      In this episode, Ben expands on what he said in Part 1 about listening to your inner fan rather than your inner critic. He guides Hugh, Ryan and Josh through some simple exercises where they access positive memories from their past, so they can reframe their belief system, that they’re worthy of love and connection and belonging, and also worthy of having the courage to chase their dreams and goals.

      These are exercises anyone can do - either during this episode, or even better, with Ben’s MojoCrowe Mindset Course available at the link below.

      To listen to part 1 of our chat with Ben, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Z0duNC

      To learn more about Ben Crowe, the Mojo Crowe app and course, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

      To watch Ryan's short film, Loop Hole, follow this link: https://bit.ly/42rAGr2

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       This Academy of Imperfection is a Part 2, or… addendum episode… with the phenom that is Ben Crowe! So, if you haven’t heard Part 1, please listen to that one first by following the link below.

      In this episode, Ben expands on what he said in Part 1 about listening to your inner fan rather than your inner critic. He guides Hugh, Ryan and Josh through some simple exercises where they access positive memories from their past, so they can reframe their belief system, that they’re worthy of love and connection and belonging, and also worthy of having the courage to chase their dreams and goals.

      These are exercises anyone can do - either during this episode, or even better, with Ben’s MojoCrowe Mindset Course available at the link below.

      To listen to part 1 of our chat with Ben, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3Z0duNC

      To learn more about Ben Crowe, the Mojo Crowe app and course, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

      To watch Ryan's short film, Loop Hole, follow this link: https://bit.ly/42rAGr2

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg e5e5b5e6-e2c4-4a02-9a15-afca01715f95 e0f139db-51d5-421c-b79e-b2420033149e Wed, 22 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 2741 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ben-crowe-pt-2-now-be-your-inner-fan       Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan Ben Crowe (Pt 1) - Meet Your Inner Fan Ben Crowe is a huge part of our humble Imperfects history. Ben’s first episode with us in 2021 continues to be one of our most listened to episodes, helping many of you, your friends and your family members.

      Ben is back in the Academy of Imperfection (split over two episodes) to spread even more wisdom that he's accrued from decades of working with elite athletes at Nike and now at MojoCrowe. Ben’s mission is simple yet powerful… be a good human-being first and a great athlete second. And the athletes he’s helped reach their peak, including Ash Barty, Andre Agassi and Dustin Martin will attest to the amazing impact his tools can have on all of us. Because it's like Ben says, if you play, have fun and compete… you’re an athlete.

      Most of what Ben talks about in this 2-part Academy of Imperfection is available to you via his incredible Mojo Mindset Course and app. 

      To learn more about Ben, Mojocrowe and the app, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

      To listen to Ben's season 3 Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

      For book recommendation, 'The Top Five Regrets of The Dying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2FFejai

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Ben Crowe is a huge part of our humble Imperfects history. Ben’s first episode with us in 2021 continues to be one of our most listened to episodes, helping many of you, your friends and your family members.

      Ben is back in the Academy of Imperfection (split over two episodes) to spread even more wisdom that he's accrued from decades of working with elite athletes at Nike and now at MojoCrowe. Ben’s mission is simple yet powerful… be a good human-being first and a great athlete second. And the athletes he’s helped reach their peak, including Ash Barty, Andre Agassi and Dustin Martin will attest to the amazing impact his tools can have on all of us. Because it's like Ben says, if you play, have fun and compete… you’re an athlete.

      Most of what Ben talks about in this 2-part Academy of Imperfection is available to you via his incredible Mojo Mindset Course and app. 

      To learn more about Ben, Mojocrowe and the app, follow this link: https://mojocrowe.com/

      To listen to Ben's season 3 Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3MrxtRN 

      For book recommendation, 'The Top Five Regrets of The Dying, follow this link: https://bit.ly/2FFejai

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg eec98b78-7138-4958-8252-afc701645aee 0519d34a-a256-434d-973d-b2420033b26a Sun, 19 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 3739 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ben-crowe-pt-1-meet-your-inner-fan       Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability Samuel Johnson - A Life of Vulnerability Most of us first met actor and writer Samuel Johnson - and his silky voice - when he burst onto our screens over 20 years ago in the iconic show, The Secret Life of Us. Since then Sam’s experienced a lot of good times, but also some of the most challenging times any of us could imagine.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Sam chooses to answer the card, ‘What childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?’. And he not only explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh why he feels so passionately about the importance of vulnerability, but he also goes on to be vulnerable in ways that we can all benefit from.

      Thank you, Sam.


      To support Samuel's charity 'Love Your Sister' and purchase a copy of Dear Lover, please follow this link: http://bit.ly/3J0ZWM8

      To donate directly to Love Your Sister, please follow this link: https://www.loveyoursister.org/


      This episode contains frequent references to suicide. If this topic sounds like it might be distressing for you to hear right now, we recommend skipping this one and coming back to it another time. The views and perspectives expressed in this episode come from our guests personal experience of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Most of us first met actor and writer Samuel Johnson - and his silky voice - when he burst onto our screens over 20 years ago in the iconic show, The Secret Life of Us. Since then Sam’s experienced a lot of good times, but also some of the most challenging times any of us could imagine.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Sam chooses to answer the card, ‘What childhood challenges best prepared you for adulthood?’. And he not only explains to Hugh, Ryan and Josh why he feels so passionately about the importance of vulnerability, but he also goes on to be vulnerable in ways that we can all benefit from.

      Thank you, Sam.


      To support Samuel's charity 'Love Your Sister' and purchase a copy of Dear Lover, please follow this link: http://bit.ly/3J0ZWM8

      To donate directly to Love Your Sister, please follow this link: https://www.loveyoursister.org/


      This episode contains frequent references to suicide. If this topic sounds like it might be distressing for you to hear right now, we recommend skipping this one and coming back to it another time. The views and perspectives expressed in this episode come from our guests personal experience of suicide. If you or someone you know is struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. 

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b5ce9b5d-ddbe-4f8b-8705-afc0002e3038 ae045a71-cfb9-4024-87c8-b24200338121 Sun, 12 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 2752 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/samuel-johnson-a-life-of-vulnerability       Hugh's Special... Verrry Special Hugh's Special... Verrry Special A lil b-b-b-bonus ep to announce some exciting news...
      Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg has filmed and released his Resilience Project talk as a Special on Amazon Prime Video! It's called 'Hugh van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' and it's out now.
      Hugh has been talking to people about Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness for a loooooong time, but now it's finally been filmed so everyone can watch it whenever they want.
      Watch 'Hugh Van Cuylenburg: G.E.M'  now on Prime Video, or listen to it on Audible.


      For Hugh's thickening hair spray recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3STaa5N
      For Hugh's volumizing hair powder recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpMCXl

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       A lil b-b-b-bonus ep to announce some exciting news...
      Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg has filmed and released his Resilience Project talk as a Special on Amazon Prime Video! It's called 'Hugh van Cuylenburg: G.E.M' and it's out now.
      Hugh has been talking to people about Gratitude, Empathy and Mindfulness for a loooooong time, but now it's finally been filmed so everyone can watch it whenever they want.
      Watch 'Hugh Van Cuylenburg: G.E.M'  now on Prime Video, or listen to it on Audible.


      For Hugh's thickening hair spray recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3STaa5N
      For Hugh's volumizing hair powder recommendation, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3YpMCXl

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3cfe0b88-3c69-4d23-8673-afbd00423f39 77ece226-4a80-4e4d-96e4-b2420033c0d4 Wed, 08 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 1245 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hughs-special-verrry-special       Chrissie Swan - Honesty Chrissie Swan - Honesty A few years ago, Australian TV and radio legend Chrissie Swan decided to finally be honest with herself. She stopped doing the things she didn’t want to do anymore, and started doing the things that made HER happy.

      In this inspiring episode, Chrissie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she was able to turn her life around and live as her true self. No more role-playing, just 100% Pure Swan. 


      For book recommendation 'The 12 Hour Walk' by Collin Obrady, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3KELETB

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       A few years ago, Australian TV and radio legend Chrissie Swan decided to finally be honest with herself. She stopped doing the things she didn’t want to do anymore, and started doing the things that made HER happy.

      In this inspiring episode, Chrissie tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh how she was able to turn her life around and live as her true self. No more role-playing, just 100% Pure Swan. 


      For book recommendation 'The 12 Hour Walk' by Collin Obrady, follow this link: http://bit.ly/3KELETB

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 5 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg c2b1fba0-3ce6-4f0f-98d5-afb70010f551 ed0c51ed-c732-4daf-9e16-b24200332a00 Sun, 05 Mar 2023 19:00:00 +0000 6275 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/chrissie-swan-honesty       Season 5 Trailer Season 5 Trailer It’s Season 5 and oooooooooooh baby, are we excited!!! Yes we are. Why? Because everything’s new BUT everything’s also the same! Y’know? Like when your fish and chip shop does a big renovation and you’re really excited because the shop’s all spiffy and new, but you’re also really excited and relieved that they still have potato cakes and dim sims and prawn toast and all the stuff you liked last year.

      So yeah it’s kinda like that. Sort of.

      Anyway, hi. We missed you.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       It’s Season 5 and oooooooooooh baby, are we excited!!! Yes we are. Why? Because everything’s new BUT everything’s also the same! Y’know? Like when your fish and chip shop does a big renovation and you’re really excited because the shop’s all spiffy and new, but you’re also really excited and relieved that they still have potato cakes and dim sims and prawn toast and all the stuff you liked last year.

      So yeah it’s kinda like that. Sort of.

      Anyway, hi. We missed you.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       trailer 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 12999726-7172-4cef-a7ab-afb500931ca2 fb99d114-bf3f-406b-8ea6-b24200332e6c Sun, 26 Feb 2023 19:00:00 +0000 1296 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/season-5-trailer       Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself Lael Stone - Take Care of Yourself Okay so quick brag… last year’s episode with parenting expert Lael Stone was 2022’s #1 Most Shared Episode on Apple Podcasts, which you can listen to at the link below. 💁‍♀️

      But now, Lael is back for a brand new b-b-b-bonus ep with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about YOU! Well… you and your kids and your loved ones and some other very shareable things that you might be verrrrrry interested in.

      As your kids start a new year of school and you start a new year of… you… you might be a lil overwhelmed with… everything. But as Lael explains, self-care is important. Because when we’re at our best, we bring the best version of ourselves to our family, friends and work.

      Thanks Lael… we LOVE this one.


      To listen to Lael's previous Imperfects episode, 'Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans' follow this link: https://apple.co/3HMCbH5
      To purchase Lael's book, follow this link: https://amzn.to/3WWCpRe
      To learn more about Lael's work, follow this link: https://laelstone.com.au/
      To watch Bluey episode, 'Facey Talk', on abc iview, follow this link: https://ab.co/3Yi5ojz

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Okay so quick brag… last year’s episode with parenting expert Lael Stone was 2022’s #1 Most Shared Episode on Apple Podcasts, which you can listen to at the link below. 💁‍♀️

      But now, Lael is back for a brand new b-b-b-bonus ep with Hugh, Ryan and Josh to talk all about YOU! Well… you and your kids and your loved ones and some other very shareable things that you might be verrrrrry interested in.

      As your kids start a new year of school and you start a new year of… you… you might be a lil overwhelmed with… everything. But as Lael explains, self-care is important. Because when we’re at our best, we bring the best version of ourselves to our family, friends and work.

      Thanks Lael… we LOVE this one.


      To listen to Lael's previous Imperfects episode, 'Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans' follow this link: https://apple.co/3HMCbH5
      To purchase Lael's book, follow this link: https://amzn.to/3WWCpRe
      To learn more about Lael's work, follow this link: https://laelstone.com.au/
      To watch Bluey episode, 'Facey Talk', on abc iview, follow this link: https://ab.co/3Yi5ojz

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 48 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 2414f009-5281-4956-8afb-af9d007529dc c8f9cd37-b0e8-45bf-96b8-b24200333077 Thu, 02 Feb 2023 19:00:00 +0000 4424 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/lael-stone-take-care-of-yourself       How (and Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone How (and Why) Ryan Dumped His iPhone Ryan loves his smart phone. Or at least, he used to.

      Recently, he became fed up with it ruling his life. Endless scrolling, lost time, and just general bleh. So, three months ago he traded in his beloved iPhone for a not-so-smart flip phone - which he affectionately refers to as his ‘SmugPhone’.

      In this b-b-b-bonus episode, Ryan talks Hugh and Josh through every aspect of his smug journey so far:

      - Why he gave up his iPhone
      - How it’s going - pros and cons
      - What’s his actual set up (how YOU can do it too!)
      - His fantasy phone/device that doesn’t exist… YET

      If you’ve been spending too much time on your phone, this could be the episode that inspires you to make a change as well.

      For more information, or to purchase the Nokia 2720 Flip, follow this link: https://nokia.ly/3WyNnMU

      Update* Ryan is now using Opel Mobile's Touch Flip which can be purchased via this link: https://bit.ly/3GUSd0K

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Ryan loves his smart phone. Or at least, he used to.

      Recently, he became fed up with it ruling his life. Endless scrolling, lost time, and just general bleh. So, three months ago he traded in his beloved iPhone for a not-so-smart flip phone - which he affectionately refers to as his ‘SmugPhone’.

      In this b-b-b-bonus episode, Ryan talks Hugh and Josh through every aspect of his smug journey so far:

      - Why he gave up his iPhone
      - How it’s going - pros and cons
      - What’s his actual set up (how YOU can do it too!)
      - His fantasy phone/device that doesn’t exist… YET

      If you’ve been spending too much time on your phone, this could be the episode that inspires you to make a change as well.

      For more information, or to purchase the Nokia 2720 Flip, follow this link: https://nokia.ly/3WyNnMU

      Update* Ryan is now using Opel Mobile's Touch Flip which can be purchased via this link: https://bit.ly/3GUSd0K

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 47 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg d0086c5b-3671-40f7-9016-af740038965c 4cc2ceeb-292c-4720-9448-b242003336f5 Sun, 15 Jan 2023 19:00:00 +0000 3710 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/how-and-why-ryan-dumped-his-iphone       Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House Santa Claus - A Special Vulnerabilitea House Well… it doesn’t get more exclusive than this!

      During the busiest time of his year, Santa Claus has been kind enough to join Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Imperfects studio, so he can enter The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Despite some issues with parking his sleigh and some disruptive reindeers during the recording of this episode, Santa still manages to answer all three of the cards he pulls from the Vulnerabilitea House deck.

      It’s safe to say that this is not our normal type of Imperfects episode. Obviously. But we couldn’t be more thankful to Glenn Robbins for making this interview happen.

      All the money we make from ads in this episode will be donated directly to ASHA to help the incomparable Dr Kiran Martin (former guest) provide essential medical care to the millions of poverty-stricken people currently living in the slums of Delhi. To learn more or donate to this incredible organisation, follow this link… https://asha-india.org

      Merry Everything to you all! See you in 2023!

      To listen to Glenn Robbin's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3G0mBI5
      To listen to Glenn's podcast, Somehow Related with Dave O'Neil & Glenn Robbins, follow this link: https://apple.co/3FXxZUZ

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Well… it doesn’t get more exclusive than this!

      During the busiest time of his year, Santa Claus has been kind enough to join Hugh, Ryan and Josh in the Imperfects studio, so he can enter The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Despite some issues with parking his sleigh and some disruptive reindeers during the recording of this episode, Santa still manages to answer all three of the cards he pulls from the Vulnerabilitea House deck.

      It’s safe to say that this is not our normal type of Imperfects episode. Obviously. But we couldn’t be more thankful to Glenn Robbins for making this interview happen.

      All the money we make from ads in this episode will be donated directly to ASHA to help the incomparable Dr Kiran Martin (former guest) provide essential medical care to the millions of poverty-stricken people currently living in the slums of Delhi. To learn more or donate to this incredible organisation, follow this link… https://asha-india.org

      Merry Everything to you all! See you in 2023!

      To listen to Glenn Robbin's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3G0mBI5
      To listen to Glenn's podcast, Somehow Related with Dave O'Neil & Glenn Robbins, follow this link: https://apple.co/3FXxZUZ

       

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      ]]>       full 4 46 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7d3de8c1-3751-4df0-8aa3-af6f001bf577 ce86bbdf-ad4b-4bff-8532-b242003338d7 Sun, 18 Dec 2022 19:00:00 +0000 1742 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/santa-claus-a-special-vulnerabilitea-house       Hugh van Cuylenburg - Ageing, and Other Reflections Hugh van Cuylenburg - Ageing, and Other Reflections In this third of three b-b-b-bonus episodes, Hugh enters the Vulnerabilitea House and answers the question, ‘What do you see when you look in the mirror?’

      For the first time in Hugh’s life, he doesn't see a young man reflected back at him, and he generously tells Ryan and Josh how this is effecting him.

      How do we feel when we realise we’re not “young” anymore? It really is the age-old question isn’t it?

      P.S. Keep an eye out for a very special Christmas episode next week!!! You won’t believe who our final guest of the year is!! Although, your kids will definitely believe it. 😉

       

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      ]]>       In this third of three b-b-b-bonus episodes, Hugh enters the Vulnerabilitea House and answers the question, ‘What do you see when you look in the mirror?’

      For the first time in Hugh’s life, he doesn't see a young man reflected back at him, and he generously tells Ryan and Josh how this is effecting him.

      How do we feel when we realise we’re not “young” anymore? It really is the age-old question isn’t it?

      P.S. Keep an eye out for a very special Christmas episode next week!!! You won’t believe who our final guest of the year is!! Although, your kids will definitely believe it. 😉

       

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      ]]>       full 4 45 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 65010404-7933-11ed-bef3-5bd9b5f25821 5c1fb297-ebe7-4ff5-a0cc-b24200333965 Sun, 11 Dec 2022 19:00:00 +0000 2171 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hugh-van-cuylenburg-ageing-and-other-reflections       Josh van Cuylenburg - How to Defeat Envy Josh van Cuylenburg - How to Defeat Envy In yet another b-b-b-bonus episode, it’s Josh’s turn to draw from the deck Vulnerabilitea House cards.

      And in doing so he shares his struggle with envy and jealousy amongst his successful friends, but also how it’s changed for him in recent years. And why.

       

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      ]]>       In yet another b-b-b-bonus episode, it’s Josh’s turn to draw from the deck Vulnerabilitea House cards.

      And in doing so he shares his struggle with envy and jealousy amongst his successful friends, but also how it’s changed for him in recent years. And why.

       

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      ]]>       full 4 44 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 40ff185e-7391-11ed-9437-d712b782d20d 7163a981-8d5b-4abb-ad74-b24200333d9d Sun, 04 Dec 2022 19:00:00 +0000 2541 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/josh-van-cuylenburg-how-to-defeat-envy       Esther Perel - Let's Be Better Lovers Esther Perel - Let's Be Better Lovers If there’s such thing as a b-b-b-bonus B-B-B-BONUS ep, this is it.

      Psychotherapist Esther Perel is THE woman to turn to for relationship advice - IYKYK! Her two TED talks have been viewed over sixty million times, she’s written two books that have both been featured on the New York Times Bestseller list, and her intimate podcasts with real people in real counselling sessions have positively changed the relationships of millions of couples - including ours.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, among other things, Esther tells Ryan and Josh (Hugh was sadly sick) why no relationship or partner is perfect, and to expect anything different is at our own peril.

      Whether you’re already in a relationship or currently looking for a partner, YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS EP! Pinky promise.

       

      To learn more about Esther Perel and her work, follow this link: www.estherperel.com

      To listen to Esther's podcasts, Where Should We Begin and How's Work with Esther Perel, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

      To purchase Esther's card game, Where Should We Begin, A Game of Stories, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/australia2022

      For tickets and tour information for Esther's remaining Australian shows, visit: www.tegdainty.com

      For book recommendation The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3gHVNCH

       

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      ]]>       If there’s such thing as a b-b-b-bonus B-B-B-BONUS ep, this is it.

      Psychotherapist Esther Perel is THE woman to turn to for relationship advice - IYKYK! Her two TED talks have been viewed over sixty million times, she’s written two books that have both been featured on the New York Times Bestseller list, and her intimate podcasts with real people in real counselling sessions have positively changed the relationships of millions of couples - including ours.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, among other things, Esther tells Ryan and Josh (Hugh was sadly sick) why no relationship or partner is perfect, and to expect anything different is at our own peril.

      Whether you’re already in a relationship or currently looking for a partner, YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY LEARN SOMETHING FROM THIS EP! Pinky promise.

       

      To learn more about Esther Perel and her work, follow this link: www.estherperel.com

      To listen to Esther's podcasts, Where Should We Begin and How's Work with Esther Perel, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast

      To purchase Esther's card game, Where Should We Begin, A Game of Stories, follow this link: https://www.estherperel.com/australia2022

      For tickets and tour information for Esther's remaining Australian shows, visit: www.tegdainty.com

      For book recommendation The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3gHVNCH

       

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      ]]>       full 4 43 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 9fef3c0c-7028-11ed-9ea6-73c048c39c4f 20927338-fa3d-4a6b-81b2-b24200334a71 Wed, 30 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +0000 3294 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/esther-perel-lets-be-better-lovers       Ryan Shelton - To breed, or not to breed Ryan Shelton - To breed, or not to breed Teeeeechnically the season is over… but who cares about rules when you’ve got three hosts who eat rules for breakfast!

      Hugh, Ryan and Josh have decided to add three B-B-B-BONUS Vulnerabilitea House episodes to the end of the season!

      To kick things off, Ryan answers the question: What parts of ageing scare you most?

      Ryan goes on to share something big that’s been on his mind recently - whether or not he should have children - and his fear around making a decision that he may regret later in life.

      Next time it’s Josh’s turn, as he picks a card for another special Vulnerabilitea House.

       

      For book recommendation, Embracing Uncertainty, by Susan Jeffers, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3AOkSCN

       

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      ]]>       Teeeeechnically the season is over… but who cares about rules when you’ve got three hosts who eat rules for breakfast!

      Hugh, Ryan and Josh have decided to add three B-B-B-BONUS Vulnerabilitea House episodes to the end of the season!

      To kick things off, Ryan answers the question: What parts of ageing scare you most?

      Ryan goes on to share something big that’s been on his mind recently - whether or not he should have children - and his fear around making a decision that he may regret later in life.

      Next time it’s Josh’s turn, as he picks a card for another special Vulnerabilitea House.

       

      For book recommendation, Embracing Uncertainty, by Susan Jeffers, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3AOkSCN

       

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      ]]>       full 4 42 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b4d70aee-6e13-11ed-8eba-5355e8d89bef 63bc028a-a193-41cf-b2e1-b24200335dd2 Sun, 27 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +0000 2605 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ryan-shelton-to-breed-or-not-to-breed       Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend If you look up ‘Nedd Brockmann’ in the dictionary you won’t find anything because it’s a proper noun. But if you google ‘Nedd Brockmann’, you’ll see the true meaning of ‘legendary’.

      For 46 days in 2022, Nedd ran 100km a day from Cottesloe Beach to Bondi Beach, literally RUNNING ACROSS THE ENTIRE COUNTRY.

      Why? That’s the best part. Nedd (23!) not only wanted to raise $1m for homelessness (it’s currently at $2.5m - link below to donate), but he also wanted to inspire people and show them they’re more capable than they think they are.

      But as Nedd explains to a stunned Hugh, Ryan and Josh, this superhuman feat came at great cost to Nedd’s physical and mental health.

       

      To donate to We Are Mobilise for Nedd's Record Run, please follow this link: https://www.neddsrecordrun.com/

      To learn more about the charity group We Are Mobilise, follow this link: https://wearemobilise.com/

      To listen to our episode with Harry Garside, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UNSzMy

       

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      ]]>       If you look up ‘Nedd Brockmann’ in the dictionary you won’t find anything because it’s a proper noun. But if you google ‘Nedd Brockmann’, you’ll see the true meaning of ‘legendary’.

      For 46 days in 2022, Nedd ran 100km a day from Cottesloe Beach to Bondi Beach, literally RUNNING ACROSS THE ENTIRE COUNTRY.

      Why? That’s the best part. Nedd (23!) not only wanted to raise $1m for homelessness (it’s currently at $2.5m - link below to donate), but he also wanted to inspire people and show them they’re more capable than they think they are.

      But as Nedd explains to a stunned Hugh, Ryan and Josh, this superhuman feat came at great cost to Nedd’s physical and mental health.

       

      To donate to We Are Mobilise for Nedd's Record Run, please follow this link: https://www.neddsrecordrun.com/

      To learn more about the charity group We Are Mobilise, follow this link: https://wearemobilise.com/

      To listen to our episode with Harry Garside, follow this link: https://apple.co/3UNSzMy

       

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      ]]>       full 4 41 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg a7d342d2-66c9-11ed-b99e-e3de0d2926e0 cd870317-6a83-4114-86f3-b24200334c42 Sun, 20 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +0000 5772 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/nedd-brockmann-the-man-the-myth-the-neddgend       Dr Emily - Lonely? You're Not Alone Dr Emily - Lonely? You're Not Alone Dr Emily is back with Hugh, Ryan and Josh for the final Emisode of the year, and she’s chosen to talk about something we can all relate to in one way or another… loneliness.

      In reflecting on last year’s raw episode with Christian O’Connell (link below), Dr Emily deep-dives into the many facets of loneliness.

      - Why do we feel lonely?

      - How do we handle our own loneliness?

      - What can we do to help others who feel lonely?

      The holiday season is approaching, which for some of us signals a happy time spent with the people we love. However for many of us, it can highlight feelings of loneliness. But like anything, the more we understand it, the more we can help ourselves and each other.

      As always, Dr Emily is here to help.

       

      To listen to Christian O'Connell's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3TxWonu


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily is back with Hugh, Ryan and Josh for the final Emisode of the year, and she’s chosen to talk about something we can all relate to in one way or another… loneliness.

      In reflecting on last year’s raw episode with Christian O’Connell (link below), Dr Emily deep-dives into the many facets of loneliness.

      - Why do we feel lonely?

      - How do we handle our own loneliness?

      - What can we do to help others who feel lonely?

      The holiday season is approaching, which for some of us signals a happy time spent with the people we love. However for many of us, it can highlight feelings of loneliness. But like anything, the more we understand it, the more we can help ourselves and each other.

      As always, Dr Emily is here to help.

       

      To listen to Christian O'Connell's Imperfects episode, follow this link: https://apple.co/3TxWonu


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 40 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg ab7e419a-5ff1-11ed-86a3-f3073c1e1466 e1911048-9c73-4fad-ade5-b2420033419e Sun, 13 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +0000 3975 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-lonely-youre-not-alone       A DARN GOSH BIG ANNOUNCEMENT A DARN GOSH BIG ANNOUNCEMENT We’re doing it. Well… there’s no turning back now.

      Hugh, Ryan and Josh are going live on tour around the country with a stage show that they promise will be some of the most imperfect shows they’ve ever done. Live. Uncut. 100% guaranteed imperfection!

      The Imperfects… LIVE ON STAGE in 2023

      Special pre-sale tickets available from November 11-14 2022

      Tickets available from livenation.com.au

       

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      ]]>       We’re doing it. Well… there’s no turning back now.

      Hugh, Ryan and Josh are going live on tour around the country with a stage show that they promise will be some of the most imperfect shows they’ve ever done. Live. Uncut. 100% guaranteed imperfection!

      The Imperfects… LIVE ON STAGE in 2023

      Special pre-sale tickets available from November 11-14 2022

      Tickets available from livenation.com.au

       

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      ]]>       bonus 4 39 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3655d8ae-5e31-11ed-a452-0b3915956816 cf01dc18-53b6-40f9-b51a-b24200334d85 Thu, 10 Nov 2022 22:00:00 +0000 872 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/a-darn-gosh-big-announcement       Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant Kate Reid (Pt 2) - The Life-Saving Croissant If you haven't heard Part 1 of our chat with Lune founder and master-baker, Kate Reid, we recommend you do that first. Because this episode, the sequel in our Croissantology, continues Kate's miraculous story as she attempts to overcome an eating disorder that forced her to leave her dream career in Formula 1.

      Here, Kate explains how she did that by going all in on creating the "perfect" croissant. And how that croissant launched a new pastry obsession for Melbournians, which eventually led to the pastry empire that is now Lune.

      This inspiring story is one of hope and resilience and... well, it will make you want a croissant... desperately.

       

      To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

       

      If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in part 1, contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

       

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      ]]>       If you haven't heard Part 1 of our chat with Lune founder and master-baker, Kate Reid, we recommend you do that first. Because this episode, the sequel in our Croissantology, continues Kate's miraculous story as she attempts to overcome an eating disorder that forced her to leave her dream career in Formula 1.

      Here, Kate explains how she did that by going all in on creating the "perfect" croissant. And how that croissant launched a new pastry obsession for Melbournians, which eventually led to the pastry empire that is now Lune.

      This inspiring story is one of hope and resilience and... well, it will make you want a croissant... desperately.

       

      To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

       

      If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in part 1, contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

       

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      ]]>       full 4 38 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 81f8d600-5d85-11ed-af8c-376cde3229e0 87ed733a-ffb3-4a2d-8821-b24200334cc3 Sun, 06 Nov 2022 19:00:00 +0000 6123 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/kate-reid-pt-2-the-life-saving-croissant       Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection Kate Reid (Pt 1) - The Impossibility of Perfection Lune is highly regarded as the most respected patisserie in Australia. The New York Times even called the Lune croissant the best in the world. And the woman behind it all is Kate Reid, a former Aerospace Engineer at the Williams F1 Team in the UK.

      Kate’s story has to be heard to be believed. It’s so epic, we had to break it into 2 parts.

      In Part 1, Kate talks about her time at Williams, and generously shares her struggles with anorexia, which eventually forced her to end her F1 dream and return home to Australia for her recovery.

      In Part 2, Kate tells the inspiring story of how she created Lune Croissanterie, and how she’s learned to embrace the fact that her world-renowned croissant will never be perfect.

      JUST. LIKE. US.

       

      To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

       

      If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in the episode contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

       

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      ]]>       Lune is highly regarded as the most respected patisserie in Australia. The New York Times even called the Lune croissant the best in the world. And the woman behind it all is Kate Reid, a former Aerospace Engineer at the Williams F1 Team in the UK.

      Kate’s story has to be heard to be believed. It’s so epic, we had to break it into 2 parts.

      In Part 1, Kate talks about her time at Williams, and generously shares her struggles with anorexia, which eventually forced her to end her F1 dream and return home to Australia for her recovery.

      In Part 2, Kate tells the inspiring story of how she created Lune Croissanterie, and how she’s learned to embrace the fact that her world-renowned croissant will never be perfect.

      JUST. LIKE. US.

       

      To purchase Kate's new cook book, 'Lune, Crossiants All Day, All Night' follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Nlp0z5

       

      If you or someone you know is experiencing an eating disorder or body image issues, The Butterfly Foundation is a fantastic resource and support. Please follow this link: butterfly.org.au

      For family and carer support, and to learn more about the organisation Hugh spoke about in the episode contact Eating Disorders Families Australia, or follow this link: edfa.org.au

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 37 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcce13e-5971-11ed-bb58-f7e3c84f5fd7 92863639-8629-4cb1-ab56-b24200337af3 Sun, 30 Oct 2022 19:00:00 +0000 4075 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/kate-reid-pt-1-the-impossibility-of-perfection       Oliver Burkeman - The JOY of Missing Out Oliver Burkeman - The JOY of Missing Out 4000 weeks. Like it or not, that’s (approximately) the average length of a human life. And while we intend to use that time wisely, and do all the things we care about, we often find ourselves doing the opposite.

      In this episode, UK author Oliver Burkeman tells us how to focus on the things that REALLY matter, rather than filling our time with the not-so-important things. Pulling from his best-selling (and incredible) book, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals, Oliver is this week’s lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      For Josh and Ryan, this book has already changed the way they are approaching their own 4000 weeks, and after hearing this episode, they hope you will also embrace your limitations and accept all the things you simply don't have time to do - no matter how much you think you want to do them.

       

      To learn more about Oliver's work and to subscribe to his newsletter, The Imperfectionist, follow this link: www.oliverburkeman.com

      To purchase Oliver's Book, 4000 Weeks, Time and How to Use It (the Australian release), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3F6AsMM

      For productivity app recommendation 'Things 3', follow this link: https://apple.co/3THRVjn

       

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      ]]>       4000 weeks. Like it or not, that’s (approximately) the average length of a human life. And while we intend to use that time wisely, and do all the things we care about, we often find ourselves doing the opposite.

      In this episode, UK author Oliver Burkeman tells us how to focus on the things that REALLY matter, rather than filling our time with the not-so-important things. Pulling from his best-selling (and incredible) book, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management For Mortals, Oliver is this week’s lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      For Josh and Ryan, this book has already changed the way they are approaching their own 4000 weeks, and after hearing this episode, they hope you will also embrace your limitations and accept all the things you simply don't have time to do - no matter how much you think you want to do them.

       

      To learn more about Oliver's work and to subscribe to his newsletter, The Imperfectionist, follow this link: www.oliverburkeman.com

      To purchase Oliver's Book, 4000 Weeks, Time and How to Use It (the Australian release), follow this link: https://bit.ly/3F6AsMM

      For productivity app recommendation 'Things 3', follow this link: https://apple.co/3THRVjn

       

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      ]]>       full 4 36 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcd06aa-5971-11ed-bb58-6bf508b51049 ea5d3b8f-6263-4cdc-ab60-b24200335ba0 Sun, 23 Oct 2022 19:00:00 +0000 4058 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/oliver-burkeman-the-joy-of-missing-out       Linda Marigliano - Strict Parents & Being a ‘Good Girl’ Linda Marigliano - Strict Parents & Being a ‘Good Girl’ As a DJ, TV presenter, award-winning podcaster and Triple J royalty, Linda Marigliano has had a big career and spoken to some of the biggest artists of all time. And now she joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Linda talks about her life growing up as the child of an Italian father and Chinese mother, and explains about how the criticism she received from her mother made her feel about herself - both then and now.

      Oh, and there’s some very practical advice on nose-hair trimming, thanks to Linda’s Mum, Janet.

       

      To listen to Linda's podcast, 'Tough Love', follow this link: https://apple.co/3EGNIrg

       

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      ]]>       As a DJ, TV presenter, award-winning podcaster and Triple J royalty, Linda Marigliano has had a big career and spoken to some of the biggest artists of all time. And now she joins Hugh, Ryan and Josh in The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Linda talks about her life growing up as the child of an Italian father and Chinese mother, and explains about how the criticism she received from her mother made her feel about herself - both then and now.

      Oh, and there’s some very practical advice on nose-hair trimming, thanks to Linda’s Mum, Janet.

       

      To listen to Linda's podcast, 'Tough Love', follow this link: https://apple.co/3EGNIrg

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 35 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc68bc-5971-11ed-bb58-bfb717dcd4e5 b5c01e23-d99b-4a29-bdb0-b24200335cfd Sun, 16 Oct 2022 19:00:00 +0000 3876 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/linda-marigliano-strict-parents-being-a-good-girl       Dr Kiran Martin - Truth, Leadership & Gratitude Dr Kiran Martin - Truth, Leadership & Gratitude After listening to this Academy of Imperfection, you’ll no doubt be heartily agreeing with Hugh, who introduces Dr Kiran Martin as the most impressive person he’s ever met.

      Over 30 years after jumping the fence to get inside a slum in Delhi so she could help treat the people in need, Dr Kiran now runs ASHA, an organisation she created that has helped over 900,000 people in over 100 slums across India. And counting!

      This is the story behind ASHA. And well… it’s incredible.

      But as this is an Academy, you will also learn things! Later in the episode, Dr Kiran shares her values around leadership and gratitude and explains the impact we can all have, when we simply “insist on the truth”.

       

      To learn more about Asha and to donate, follow this link: https://asha-india.org/

       

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      ]]>       After listening to this Academy of Imperfection, you’ll no doubt be heartily agreeing with Hugh, who introduces Dr Kiran Martin as the most impressive person he’s ever met.

      Over 30 years after jumping the fence to get inside a slum in Delhi so she could help treat the people in need, Dr Kiran now runs ASHA, an organisation she created that has helped over 900,000 people in over 100 slums across India. And counting!

      This is the story behind ASHA. And well… it’s incredible.

      But as this is an Academy, you will also learn things! Later in the episode, Dr Kiran shares her values around leadership and gratitude and explains the impact we can all have, when we simply “insist on the truth”.

       

      To learn more about Asha and to donate, follow this link: https://asha-india.org/

       

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      ]]>       full 4 34 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcd162c-5971-11ed-bb58-37b1dba8cb06 a604d39f-30ac-45f0-a22e-b24200335b42 Sun, 09 Oct 2022 19:00:00 +0000 4806 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-kiran-martin-truth-leadership-gratitude       Dr Emily - Rejection Sensitivity Dr Emily - Rejection Sensitivity None of us like to feel rejected. Whether it be at work, with friends, or on a date.

      In this Dr Emisode, Dr Emily - our very own psychologist - tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh why some of us have a sensitivity to rejection. She explains what we can do about it, and how we can act compassionately towards others, and avoid making them feel unnecessarily rejected as well.

       

      For research article, 'Recognising Emotion In Faces: Developmental Effects of Child Abuse and Neglect', by Seth Pollak, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3CqDee9

      For research reference and book recommendation, 'The Joy of Movement', by Kelly McGonigal follow this link: https://bit.ly/3fv6Uhb

      To watch the Ted Lasso clip about making yourself feel confident through movement, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3dTVYcF


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       None of us like to feel rejected. Whether it be at work, with friends, or on a date.

      In this Dr Emisode, Dr Emily - our very own psychologist - tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh why some of us have a sensitivity to rejection. She explains what we can do about it, and how we can act compassionately towards others, and avoid making them feel unnecessarily rejected as well.

       

      For research article, 'Recognising Emotion In Faces: Developmental Effects of Child Abuse and Neglect', by Seth Pollak, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3CqDee9

      For research reference and book recommendation, 'The Joy of Movement', by Kelly McGonigal follow this link: https://bit.ly/3fv6Uhb

      To watch the Ted Lasso clip about making yourself feel confident through movement, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3dTVYcF


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       full 4 33 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc8eaa-5971-11ed-bb58-af2e2197dfc8 04d4db96-676f-4dbc-aeff-b2420033647e Sun, 02 Oct 2022 19:00:00 +0000 3922 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-rejection-sensitivity       Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down Hamish McLachlan - A World Turned Upside Down While many of us may think of Channel 7’s Hamish McLachlan as the voice of sport in Australia, Hamish is very quick to point to Bruce McAvaney instead. As it turns out, we all love Bruce McAvaney A LOT and apologetically talk about him for quite a while - including a few wonderful Bruce stories from Hamish.

      When we finally get to the Vulnerabilitea House card selection, Hamish answers the question, ‘When did your life get turned upside down and how did things change?’. This prompts Hamish to show incredible vulnerability and recount two formative events from his family life, and how they’ve reframed his own relationship with the meaning of “challenging times”.

       

      For book recommendation, '4000 Weeks', by Oliver Burkeman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3C4G6x3

       

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      ]]>       While many of us may think of Channel 7’s Hamish McLachlan as the voice of sport in Australia, Hamish is very quick to point to Bruce McAvaney instead. As it turns out, we all love Bruce McAvaney A LOT and apologetically talk about him for quite a while - including a few wonderful Bruce stories from Hamish.

      When we finally get to the Vulnerabilitea House card selection, Hamish answers the question, ‘When did your life get turned upside down and how did things change?’. This prompts Hamish to show incredible vulnerability and recount two formative events from his family life, and how they’ve reframed his own relationship with the meaning of “challenging times”.

       

      For book recommendation, '4000 Weeks', by Oliver Burkeman, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3C4G6x3

       

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      ]]>       full 4 32 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb2e7a-5971-11ed-bb58-afa32432ede1 13c178c8-1a7b-45fb-a0c5-b2420033d793 Sun, 25 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4330 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hamish-mclachlan-a-world-turned-upside-down       Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent Stand-up comedian Nazeem Hussain lost his father to COVID-19 in 2021. In this episode, Nazeem shares the difficulties surrounding his family’s loss, and how his Dad’s life and sudden death has impacted his own life. But Nazeem also tells some wildly funny stories - in particular one about a "comedy concert" he did in Sri Lanka in front of The Prime Minister, which turned out to be organised by none other than his Dad.

      You probably already know Naz from his many, MANY appearances on the telly including The Project, Orange Is The New Brown or maybe even I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here. But his latest work sees him acting and writing on the new ABC show, Summer Love. Link below.

       

      To watch Nazeem in Summer Love, follow this link: https://ab.co/3BR4gLC

      To pre-order Nazeem's new children's book, follow this link https://bit.ly/3UlxSHW

      For recommendation, 'Raising Boys', by Steve Biddulph, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RLMpuV

      To read '7 Sneaky Ways Your Parents Influence Is Still Affecting Your Life', by Suzannah Weiss, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UhkTam

       

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      ]]>       Stand-up comedian Nazeem Hussain lost his father to COVID-19 in 2021. In this episode, Nazeem shares the difficulties surrounding his family’s loss, and how his Dad’s life and sudden death has impacted his own life. But Nazeem also tells some wildly funny stories - in particular one about a "comedy concert" he did in Sri Lanka in front of The Prime Minister, which turned out to be organised by none other than his Dad.

      You probably already know Naz from his many, MANY appearances on the telly including The Project, Orange Is The New Brown or maybe even I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here. But his latest work sees him acting and writing on the new ABC show, Summer Love. Link below.

       

      To watch Nazeem in Summer Love, follow this link: https://ab.co/3BR4gLC

      To pre-order Nazeem's new children's book, follow this link https://bit.ly/3UlxSHW

      For recommendation, 'Raising Boys', by Steve Biddulph, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3RLMpuV

      To read '7 Sneaky Ways Your Parents Influence Is Still Affecting Your Life', by Suzannah Weiss, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3UhkTam

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 31 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccda4a-5971-11ed-bb58-4797f100b390 0fccb20a-40a3-4ffc-8df0-b24200336883 Sun, 18 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 5421 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/nazeem-hussain-losing-a-parent       Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? Johann Hari (Pt 2) - Why Do We Do What We Do? In Part 2 of this Academy of Imperfection, author and profanity purveyor, Johann Hari answers more of your brilliant questions.

      As a result, Johann talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about intrinsic and extrinsic values, and how they affect the things we do and social media’s role in why we do them.

      Also (speaking of click-bait), in an Imperfects exclusive, Johann reveals his go-to KFC order.

      And double-also, we recorded this episode before the passing of Queen Elizabeth II, which will make more sense when you listen.

       

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      ]]>       In Part 2 of this Academy of Imperfection, author and profanity purveyor, Johann Hari answers more of your brilliant questions.

      As a result, Johann talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about intrinsic and extrinsic values, and how they affect the things we do and social media’s role in why we do them.

      Also (speaking of click-bait), in an Imperfects exclusive, Johann reveals his go-to KFC order.

      And double-also, we recorded this episode before the passing of Queen Elizabeth II, which will make more sense when you listen.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 30 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcaf612-5971-11ed-bb58-af5ebab508bc 4a646296-7443-4e30-a729-b242003528a3 Wed, 14 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3229 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/johann-hari-pt-2-why-do-we-do-what-we-do yes       Johann Hari (Pt 1) - How Can We Change? Johann Hari (Pt 1) - How Can We Change? Imperfects regular, Johann Hari joins us IN STUDIO for the first time to answer your questions!

      In this very special edition of The Academy of Imperfection (which we’ve split into 2 MASSIVE EPISODES OVER 2 MASSIVE... um... EPISODES!), Johann Hari talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about our ability to change our habits in the face of addiction. And why we can learn from the approach of Overeater’s Anonymous to help our addiction to our phones and the internet.

      Johann will be back later this week to answer more of your questions.

      For app recommendation 'Freedom', to block websites, follow this link: https://freedom.to/

      To learn more and purchase Johann's books, follow this link: https://johannhari.com/

       

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      ]]>       Imperfects regular, Johann Hari joins us IN STUDIO for the first time to answer your questions!

      In this very special edition of The Academy of Imperfection (which we’ve split into 2 MASSIVE EPISODES OVER 2 MASSIVE... um... EPISODES!), Johann Hari talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about our ability to change our habits in the face of addiction. And why we can learn from the approach of Overeater’s Anonymous to help our addiction to our phones and the internet.

      Johann will be back later this week to answer more of your questions.

      For app recommendation 'Freedom', to block websites, follow this link: https://freedom.to/

      To learn more and purchase Johann's books, follow this link: https://johannhari.com/

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 29 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcd0fce-5971-11ed-bb58-afb510cce78a 6cdbb1fd-3664-42e0-8389-b24200344f22 Sun, 11 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3065 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/johann-hari-pt-1-how-can-we-change yes       Mark Wilson from JET - Dealing with Loss Mark Wilson from JET - Dealing with Loss In 2003, JET’s Are You Gonna Be My Girl was one of the biggest songs on the planet. It was so big, Apple even used it for their first iPod ad. Remember? The one with the dancing silhouettes on the colourful backgrounds? Yeah, that was JET.

      As the bass player for JET, Mark Wilson has lived the dream of any musician. He’s toured the world and played to packed stadiums, and even stood with Beyonce and Jay Z at the MTV Video Music Awards before playing on stage in front of them.

      But Mark has also been dealt with some of the most challenging tragedies we can face. In this emotional episode, Mark talks about the good times and the bad times and how he’s dealt with loss in his life.

      After the interview, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh about some practical ways we can all deal with loss and trauma in our own lives.

       

      To watch Bessel van der Kolk's "6 ways to to heal trauma without medication" on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3q7FnEH

      To read or purchase book recommendation, "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BdSPgH

       

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      ]]>       In 2003, JET’s Are You Gonna Be My Girl was one of the biggest songs on the planet. It was so big, Apple even used it for their first iPod ad. Remember? The one with the dancing silhouettes on the colourful backgrounds? Yeah, that was JET.

      As the bass player for JET, Mark Wilson has lived the dream of any musician. He’s toured the world and played to packed stadiums, and even stood with Beyonce and Jay Z at the MTV Video Music Awards before playing on stage in front of them.

      But Mark has also been dealt with some of the most challenging tragedies we can face. In this emotional episode, Mark talks about the good times and the bad times and how he’s dealt with loss in his life.

      After the interview, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh about some practical ways we can all deal with loss and trauma in our own lives.

       

      To watch Bessel van der Kolk's "6 ways to to heal trauma without medication" on YouTube, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3q7FnEH

      To read or purchase book recommendation, "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3BdSPgH

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 28 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc0494-5971-11ed-bb58-5fd6853122a8 231f43af-ab83-4652-8c90-b24200337c71 Sun, 04 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 5701 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/mark-wilson-from-jet-dealing-with-loss       How to Write a Gratitude Letter How to Write a Gratitude Letter To celebrate Father's Day, Hugh plays some intimate audio of him reading a chapter of his book, 'Let Go', to his Dad (and Josh's Dad incidentally). But not just any old chapter, the final chapter ABOUT his Dad.

      Afterwards, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh, how writing a gratitude letter to your Dad (even if he isn't around anymore) can have a hugely positive impact.

      But of course, Gratitude Letters aren't just for Dads, they're for your Mum or any carer in your life as well.

      Happy Fathers Day. Have a listen, then go write a gratitude letter. ❤️

       

      To watch Fitzy (Ryan Fitzgerald) read his gratitude letter to his dad, follow this link: https://vimeo.com/352402397

      To view a version of the 'Power and Privilege Wheel' please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ecWnGS

       

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      ]]>       To celebrate Father's Day, Hugh plays some intimate audio of him reading a chapter of his book, 'Let Go', to his Dad (and Josh's Dad incidentally). But not just any old chapter, the final chapter ABOUT his Dad.

      Afterwards, Hugh explains to Ryan and Josh, how writing a gratitude letter to your Dad (even if he isn't around anymore) can have a hugely positive impact.

      But of course, Gratitude Letters aren't just for Dads, they're for your Mum or any carer in your life as well.

      Happy Fathers Day. Have a listen, then go write a gratitude letter. ❤️

       

      To watch Fitzy (Ryan Fitzgerald) read his gratitude letter to his dad, follow this link: https://vimeo.com/352402397

      To view a version of the 'Power and Privilege Wheel' please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3ecWnGS

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 27 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb9b8a-5971-11ed-bb58-ab2e41dd74a6 711bbf6e-18b6-480a-a3cd-b24200337303 Thu, 01 Sep 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2056 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/how-to-write-a-gratitude-letter       Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? Dr Emily - Who Is Your Inner Critic & Why Is It There? In this Emisode, Dr Emily explains some reasons why the inner critic is there in the first place, and where it’s coming from.

       

      To watch Shirzad Chamine's Ted Talk, 'Know Your Inner Saboteurs', follow this link: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa

      To learn more about Daniel Siegel research and to purchase Mindsight, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5

      To read the research article 'Positive Self-Statements, Power For Some, Peril For Others', follow this link, https://bit.ly/2L4k0k3 or, https://bit.ly/3RiTeDo

      To listen to Russ Harris talk about the problems with positive self-talk on The Life Lessons podcast with Simon Mundie, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TlOZJ8

      To learn more about Russ Harris's research and to purchase The Happiness Trap, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3wDAgzM


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this Emisode, Dr Emily explains some reasons why the inner critic is there in the first place, and where it’s coming from.

       

      To watch Shirzad Chamine's Ted Talk, 'Know Your Inner Saboteurs', follow this link: https://bit.ly/2Ybu5Aa

      To learn more about Daniel Siegel research and to purchase Mindsight, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TnNVV5

      To read the research article 'Positive Self-Statements, Power For Some, Peril For Others', follow this link, https://bit.ly/2L4k0k3 or, https://bit.ly/3RiTeDo

      To listen to Russ Harris talk about the problems with positive self-talk on The Life Lessons podcast with Simon Mundie, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3TlOZJ8

      To learn more about Russ Harris's research and to purchase The Happiness Trap, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3wDAgzM


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 26 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccd144-5971-11ed-bb58-23d21a823fb8 80c016e7-c4fd-4809-a983-b242003376d6 Sun, 28 Aug 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3911 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-who-is-your-inner-critic-why-is-it-there       Darcy Vescio - They/Them Matters & Here’s Why Darcy Vescio - They/Them Matters & Here’s Why Carlton footballer Darcy Vescio is one of the biggest names in the AFLW, having won multiple awards including the Carlton Best & Fairest, 2-time All Australian selection and the Mark of the Year. As a marquee player, Darcy is at the top of their game.

      But that’s just part of Darcy’s story. Less than a year ago, Darcy publicly came out as non-binary, announcing to the football community that they would now go by the they/them gender pronouns.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Darcy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what that experience was like for them. But also, after Hugh and Ryan regrettably slip up a few times during the episode, Darcy graciously explains why it matters so much to them when people do get their pronoun right.

       

      To watch Darcy's 2017 Mark of The Year, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Cp54Yy

       

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      ]]>       Carlton footballer Darcy Vescio is one of the biggest names in the AFLW, having won multiple awards including the Carlton Best & Fairest, 2-time All Australian selection and the Mark of the Year. As a marquee player, Darcy is at the top of their game.

      But that’s just part of Darcy’s story. Less than a year ago, Darcy publicly came out as non-binary, announcing to the football community that they would now go by the they/them gender pronouns.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Darcy tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh what that experience was like for them. But also, after Hugh and Ryan regrettably slip up a few times during the episode, Darcy graciously explains why it matters so much to them when people do get their pronoun right.

       

      To watch Darcy's 2017 Mark of The Year, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Cp54Yy

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb20ce-5971-11ed-bb58-8784d37e77c1 5b6d020d-dbb8-4306-82a0-b2420033799a Sun, 21 Aug 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2781 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/darcy-vescio-they-them-matters-here-s-why       Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path This Academy of Imperfection is a little different. As Hugh explains in the opener, this episode actually IS more like a lecture. But trust us, that’s a good thing.

      Dr Paul Callaghan has a lot of wisdom to share that he's accrued over a lifetime of wins, losses and even a near death experience that changed his life forever. As an Aboriginal man, much of Paul's wisdom has come from his experience on The Dreaming Path, which also happens to be the title of the book he’s co-written with his friend and Aboriginal elder, Uncle Paul Gordon.

      This book is one of the most impactful books we've ever read. Some might assume that aboriginal lore from tens of thousands of years ago would be irrelevant in today’s world. Faaaaar from it. Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon wrote this book for all of us, so after you finish this episode, pick up a copy at your local bookstore, and then, let’s all go bush with Paul!

       

      To purchase The Dreaming Path, Indigenous Thinking To Change Your Life, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3SLD0V4

       

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      ]]>       This Academy of Imperfection is a little different. As Hugh explains in the opener, this episode actually IS more like a lecture. But trust us, that’s a good thing.

      Dr Paul Callaghan has a lot of wisdom to share that he's accrued over a lifetime of wins, losses and even a near death experience that changed his life forever. As an Aboriginal man, much of Paul's wisdom has come from his experience on The Dreaming Path, which also happens to be the title of the book he’s co-written with his friend and Aboriginal elder, Uncle Paul Gordon.

      This book is one of the most impactful books we've ever read. Some might assume that aboriginal lore from tens of thousands of years ago would be irrelevant in today’s world. Faaaaar from it. Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon wrote this book for all of us, so after you finish this episode, pick up a copy at your local bookstore, and then, let’s all go bush with Paul!

       

      To purchase The Dreaming Path, Indigenous Thinking To Change Your Life, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3SLD0V4

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb1926-5971-11ed-bb58-c3a38df3e8bb d2850bb0-5582-4149-9edc-b24200337a26 Sun, 14 Aug 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3455 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-paul-callaghan-how-to-follow-the-dreaming-path       We Need to Talk... Again - Hugh, Ryan & Josh have a chat We Need to Talk... Again - Hugh, Ryan & Josh have a chat B-B-B-BONUS EP!!! A-A-A-AGAIN!!!

      Every now and then, Hugh, Ryan and Josh like to get together and chat about their own imperfections that they’ve been dealing with recently. This is one of those episodes.

      Hugh talks about “life seasons”, Ryan explains why European holidays aren’t always as perfect as they appear, and Josh talks about watching Morning Wars with Jennifer Anniston. 

       

      To read Hugh’s recommendation of Kimberly Gillan’s article in the Age, ‘Are You In Tune With Your Life Season’, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q6o4iC

       

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      ]]>       B-B-B-BONUS EP!!! A-A-A-AGAIN!!!

      Every now and then, Hugh, Ryan and Josh like to get together and chat about their own imperfections that they’ve been dealing with recently. This is one of those episodes.

      Hugh talks about “life seasons”, Ryan explains why European holidays aren’t always as perfect as they appear, and Josh talks about watching Morning Wars with Jennifer Anniston. 

       

      To read Hugh’s recommendation of Kimberly Gillan’s article in the Age, ‘Are You In Tune With Your Life Season’, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q6o4iC

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcd0178-5971-11ed-bb58-07bb4df9e291 60cfe5d7-cf7c-49a0-ae93-b2420033870d Sun, 07 Aug 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2940 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/we-need-to-talk-again-hugh-ryan-josh-have-a-chat       Dr Emily - You Are Not Your Emotions Dr Emily - You Are Not Your Emotions She’s back again! Our very own psychologist, Dr Emily!

      In this emisode, Dr Emily reflects on a very moving chat we had with comedian Steen Raskopoulos. 

      She talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Emotional Awareness, and explains why it’s not only important to identify your unpleasant emotions, but why it's even more important to express them when they arise.

      Oh, Hugh and tells us about going to Bondi.

       

      For book recommendation Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zmHW9Y

      For Susan David’s Ted Talk, The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OQvFAm

      To learn more about Matthew Lieberman’s study on ‘affect labelling’, (putting emotions into words) and its impact on our negative emotional experience, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PQrUMO

      To learn more about Dr Dan Siegel’s research into ‘mindsight’ and how we can ‘name and tame’ emotions, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q8PLqM

      To learn more about The Resilience Project’s Journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3cSVItf

      For app recommendation Day One, follow this link: https://dayoneapp.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       She’s back again! Our very own psychologist, Dr Emily!

      In this emisode, Dr Emily reflects on a very moving chat we had with comedian Steen Raskopoulos. 

      She talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the concept of Emotional Awareness, and explains why it’s not only important to identify your unpleasant emotions, but why it's even more important to express them when they arise.

      Oh, Hugh and tells us about going to Bondi.

       

      For book recommendation Atlas of The Heart by Brene Brown, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3zmHW9Y

      For Susan David’s Ted Talk, The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OQvFAm

      To learn more about Matthew Lieberman’s study on ‘affect labelling’, (putting emotions into words) and its impact on our negative emotional experience, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3PQrUMO

      To learn more about Dr Dan Siegel’s research into ‘mindsight’ and how we can ‘name and tame’ emotions, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3Q8PLqM

      To learn more about The Resilience Project’s Journals, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3cSVItf

      For app recommendation Day One, follow this link: https://dayoneapp.com/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcafb62-5971-11ed-bb58-535785a63b0e 3a060c9c-caa3-40b4-b19d-b24200337e4c Sun, 31 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2853 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-you-are-not-your-emotions       Steen Raskopoulos (REPEAT - but with new intro!) Steen Raskopoulos (REPEAT - but with new intro!) Okay, so we're dabbling with repeat episodes because we've taken a week off. But we have recorded a new intro bit so there ya go, at least there's SOME new stuff!

      This episode with comedian Steen Raskopoulos is not only one of our favourite episodes, but it's also the subject of next week's emisode with Dr Emily - which we can't wait for!

      So yeah, back to regular, imperfect programming next week!

       

      To listen to Steen’s podcast, Congrats On The New, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3yUjhtc

      To listen to Ryan on Steen’s podcast, please follow link: https://apple.co/3cyEC3Y

       

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      ]]>       Okay, so we're dabbling with repeat episodes because we've taken a week off. But we have recorded a new intro bit so there ya go, at least there's SOME new stuff!

      This episode with comedian Steen Raskopoulos is not only one of our favourite episodes, but it's also the subject of next week's emisode with Dr Emily - which we can't wait for!

      So yeah, back to regular, imperfect programming next week!

       

      To listen to Steen’s podcast, Congrats On The New, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3yUjhtc

      To listen to Ryan on Steen’s podcast, please follow link: https://apple.co/3cyEC3Y

       

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      ]]>       full 4 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb3672-5971-11ed-bb58-1fccb52dfb56 3760f1dc-7254-456d-a3b3-b24200338584 Sun, 24 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4760 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/steen-raskopoulos-repeat-but-with-new-intro       Michelle Brasier - The Case For Optimism Michelle Brasier - The Case For Optimism Maybe you know Michelle Brasier from Aunty Donna. Or maybe from Shaun Micallef’s Mad as Hell. Or maybe she’s made you laugh (or cry) in any number of things she’s done on the stage and screen over the years. 

      Or maybe you don’t her……… YET!

      Michelle Brasier is a singer, actor, writer and comedian who - as you’ll hear in this Vulnerabilitea House - has overcome multiple adversities since a young age. But despite the challenges, she still firmly believes in the practice of optimism. And after selecting the card, “Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist?”, Michelle explains why optimism is such an important part of her life.

      Thanks Michelle - you are a breath of fresh air!

       

      To see when and where Michelle is performing next, follow this link: https://www.michellebrasier.com/tour

      To listen to the soundtrack from the movie Once, follow this link: https://spoti.fi/3Rmckd0

      Parting Glass by Audionautix is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

      Artist: http://audionautix.com/

       

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      ]]>       Maybe you know Michelle Brasier from Aunty Donna. Or maybe from Shaun Micallef’s Mad as Hell. Or maybe she’s made you laugh (or cry) in any number of things she’s done on the stage and screen over the years. 

      Or maybe you don’t her……… YET!

      Michelle Brasier is a singer, actor, writer and comedian who - as you’ll hear in this Vulnerabilitea House - has overcome multiple adversities since a young age. But despite the challenges, she still firmly believes in the practice of optimism. And after selecting the card, “Are you more of an optimist or a pessimist?”, Michelle explains why optimism is such an important part of her life.

      Thanks Michelle - you are a breath of fresh air!

       

      To see when and where Michelle is performing next, follow this link: https://www.michellebrasier.com/tour

      To listen to the soundtrack from the movie Once, follow this link: https://spoti.fi/3Rmckd0

      Parting Glass by Audionautix is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution 4.0 license. https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

      Artist: http://audionautix.com/

       

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      ]]>       full 4 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcab544-5971-11ed-bb58-ab49c0629a48 f206579e-7d23-484c-9656-b242003388bb Sun, 17 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3012 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/michelle-brasier-the-case-for-optimism       Martin "Rac" Heppell - The other F word... FAILURE Martin "Rac" Heppell - The other F word... FAILURE We all fail. All of us. Why? Because we’re all imperfect. And no one talks about failure more passionately than The Resilience Project’s own Martin “Rac” Heppell. And he’s today’s guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      Some of you may remember Rac’s first memorable appearance in The Vulnerabilitea House last season. If you haven’t heard it, we know you’ll want to listen (or re-listen) after this one - link below.

      Failure, the other F word, is something we don’t like to talk about. It’s embarrassing. And sometimes it’s shameful. But as Martin explains, it’s important that we DO talk about failure. Because failure isn’t just normal… it’s crucial for our growth.

      Feel like a rev up? This ep’s for you.

      Rac’s back, baby… RAC’S BACK.

      ALSO… here’s some extra info about Rac that’ll be helpful before listening to the ep:

      - When Rac was a kid, his family spent some time living with a head-hunting tribe (there’s more on this in Rac’s first episode from last season)

      - Between 1993 and 1995, Rac played 7 senior AFL games for St Kilda and Melbourne

      - Rac works with The Resilience Project as one of their main Speakers, spending the majority of his time at schools, helping kids around Australia.

      To listen to our previous episode with Rac, follow this link: https://apple.co/3xWoKPy

       

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      ]]>       We all fail. All of us. Why? Because we’re all imperfect. And no one talks about failure more passionately than The Resilience Project’s own Martin “Rac” Heppell. And he’s today’s guest lecturer in The Academy of Imperfection.

      Some of you may remember Rac’s first memorable appearance in The Vulnerabilitea House last season. If you haven’t heard it, we know you’ll want to listen (or re-listen) after this one - link below.

      Failure, the other F word, is something we don’t like to talk about. It’s embarrassing. And sometimes it’s shameful. But as Martin explains, it’s important that we DO talk about failure. Because failure isn’t just normal… it’s crucial for our growth.

      Feel like a rev up? This ep’s for you.

      Rac’s back, baby… RAC’S BACK.

      ALSO… here’s some extra info about Rac that’ll be helpful before listening to the ep:

      - When Rac was a kid, his family spent some time living with a head-hunting tribe (there’s more on this in Rac’s first episode from last season)

      - Between 1993 and 1995, Rac played 7 senior AFL games for St Kilda and Melbourne

      - Rac works with The Resilience Project as one of their main Speakers, spending the majority of his time at schools, helping kids around Australia.

      To listen to our previous episode with Rac, follow this link: https://apple.co/3xWoKPy

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcce9ea-5971-11ed-bb58-db67cdc57fb1 6900cb1b-dd45-4fa5-be39-b24200347e13 Sun, 10 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000 5015 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/martin-rac-heppell-the-other-f-word-failure       Libby Trickett - When is Enough, Enough? Libby Trickett - When is Enough, Enough? Australia has had a LOT of success in the Olympic Swimming Pool. That’s an understatement. But one of our most successful and loved Olympians of recent times is golden girl, Libby Trickett. During her successful swimming career Libby was all smiles after winning gold medal after gold medal at three consecutive Olympic Games, but as she shares in this episode, on the inside she was struggling with a powerful feeling that she wasn’t enough.

      Libby tells us all about what that was like, as well as sharing her more recent struggles with motherhood, and how both have led to bouts of depression and anxiety.

      Libby displays extreme vulnerability in this episode - more of which is in her new book, Beneath the Surface.

      Thank you Libby.

       

      To listen to Libby’s podcast, All The Glitters, buy her book “Beneath The Surface, or learn more about her business “Unlocking Her Potential”, please follow this link: https://linktr.ee/libby_trickett

      For book recommendation “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2ylEihJ

      To listen to the Oprah’s Super Soul Conversation podcast with Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3ub2Nvl

      For book recommendation Atomic Habits by James Clear, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2CbKTNL

       

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      ]]>       Australia has had a LOT of success in the Olympic Swimming Pool. That’s an understatement. But one of our most successful and loved Olympians of recent times is golden girl, Libby Trickett. During her successful swimming career Libby was all smiles after winning gold medal after gold medal at three consecutive Olympic Games, but as she shares in this episode, on the inside she was struggling with a powerful feeling that she wasn’t enough.

      Libby tells us all about what that was like, as well as sharing her more recent struggles with motherhood, and how both have led to bouts of depression and anxiety.

      Libby displays extreme vulnerability in this episode - more of which is in her new book, Beneath the Surface.

      Thank you Libby.

       

      To listen to Libby’s podcast, All The Glitters, buy her book “Beneath The Surface, or learn more about her business “Unlocking Her Potential”, please follow this link: https://linktr.ee/libby_trickett

      For book recommendation “A New Earth” by Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2ylEihJ

      To listen to the Oprah’s Super Soul Conversation podcast with Eckhart Tolle, please follow this link: https://apple.co/3ub2Nvl

      For book recommendation Atomic Habits by James Clear, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/2CbKTNL

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc7578-5971-11ed-bb58-f37e593fb637 b7f9145f-6219-480f-be73-b24200338e34 Sun, 03 Jul 2022 20:00:00 +0000 5595 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/libby-trickett-when-is-enough-enough       Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill Dr Emily is back to help us all!

       

      Reflecting on our episode with Olympic BMX rider, Sam Willoughby from Season 2, Dr Emily talks us through the dangers of the Hedonistic Treadmill, and its slightly lesser known cousin, Hedonistic Adaptation.

       

      There’s a lot covered in this episode, including ‘Growth Mindset’, being mindful of what we want and why, and how quickly we actually adapt to finally getting those things we want.

       

      For book recommendation Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tTaRjU

      For book recommendation The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tT6e9E

      To watch Carol Dwecks Ted Talk, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OydHTz

      Reference for Sonja Lyubomrisky’s stats for the determinants of happiness: https://bit.ly/3xPDSy6


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       Dr Emily is back to help us all!

       

      Reflecting on our episode with Olympic BMX rider, Sam Willoughby from Season 2, Dr Emily talks us through the dangers of the Hedonistic Treadmill, and its slightly lesser known cousin, Hedonistic Adaptation.

       

      There’s a lot covered in this episode, including ‘Growth Mindset’, being mindful of what we want and why, and how quickly we actually adapt to finally getting those things we want.

       

      For book recommendation Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tTaRjU

      For book recommendation The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, follow this link: https://bit.ly/3tT6e9E

      To watch Carol Dwecks Ted Talk, please follow this link: https://bit.ly/3OydHTz

      Reference for Sonja Lyubomrisky’s stats for the determinants of happiness: https://bit.ly/3xPDSy6


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccbd58-5971-11ed-bb58-1fcb37c8995f 647ae378-f12a-44eb-a614-b24200339650 Sun, 26 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3062 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-the-pesky-hedonistic-treadmill       Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head Glenn Robbins - Listening to the Voice in Your Head For over 30 years, Glenn Robbins has been one of the funniest and most loved performers in Australia. From The Comedy Company and Kath & Kim, to The Panel and of course Russell Coight, Glenn has guaranteed his spot in the comedy history books.

       

      But Glenn hasn’t always seen it that way. From a young age he was told he was "average", and despite his many successes, has dealt with a lifetime of performance anxiety.

       

      In this edition of The Vulnerabilitea House, Glenn opens up and tells us how he manages to ignore the 'bad voice' in his head that tells him he's not good enough, and instead listen to the ‘good voice’, so he can face his fears and make good work he's proud of.

       

      We highly encourage you to listen to this episode - especially while power-walking through the suburbs with a set of hand weights.

       

      To listen to Glenn’s podcast with Dave O’Neil, click this link: https://apple.co/3O41PZv

      To watch Shane Warne on The Panel, click this link: https://bit.ly/39DB1R0

      Book recommendation Before & Laughter by Jimmy Carr can be found here: https://amzn.to/3y3Xss7

      Book recommendation From Strength To Strength by Arthur C Brooks can be found here: https://amzn.to/3OqJQfS

       

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      ]]>       For over 30 years, Glenn Robbins has been one of the funniest and most loved performers in Australia. From The Comedy Company and Kath & Kim, to The Panel and of course Russell Coight, Glenn has guaranteed his spot in the comedy history books.

       

      But Glenn hasn’t always seen it that way. From a young age he was told he was "average", and despite his many successes, has dealt with a lifetime of performance anxiety.

       

      In this edition of The Vulnerabilitea House, Glenn opens up and tells us how he manages to ignore the 'bad voice' in his head that tells him he's not good enough, and instead listen to the ‘good voice’, so he can face his fears and make good work he's proud of.

       

      We highly encourage you to listen to this episode - especially while power-walking through the suburbs with a set of hand weights.

       

      To listen to Glenn’s podcast with Dave O’Neil, click this link: https://apple.co/3O41PZv

      To watch Shane Warne on The Panel, click this link: https://bit.ly/39DB1R0

      Book recommendation Before & Laughter by Jimmy Carr can be found here: https://amzn.to/3y3Xss7

      Book recommendation From Strength To Strength by Arthur C Brooks can be found here: https://amzn.to/3OqJQfS

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc0c14-5971-11ed-bb58-dbfe802e6b6f dd992675-bbd6-4202-b896-b242003390b1 Sun, 19 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4212 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/glenn-robbins-listening-to-the-voice-in-your-head       Lael Stone - Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans Lael Stone - Creating Emotionally Intelligent Humans In the words of her own child, Lael Stone “works for the kids”.

      But while Lael is technically a therapist who supports parents in understanding their children, everything Lael talks about in this edition of The Academy of Imperfection could easily be applied to all of us in understanding the people in our lives - no matter what age. Whether that be our friends, parents, colleagues or even ourselves.

      Through her work, Lael helps adults process their own childhood trauma, and creates education systems that value emotional awareness, demonstrating why it all comes back to connection and compassion.

      Oh, and listen out for the dramatic moment when Ryan swoops in and inadvertently steals Josh’s “Good Question” (patent pending).

       

      To learn more about Lael’s work please visit her website at: https://laelstone.com.au/

      To watch Lael’s Ted Talk please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6fL09e8Tm9c&feature=emb_imp_woyt

      To learn more about Lael’s school please follow this link: https://woodlineprimary.com.au/

      To watch It’s Not About The Nail, please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

       

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      ]]>       In the words of her own child, Lael Stone “works for the kids”.

      But while Lael is technically a therapist who supports parents in understanding their children, everything Lael talks about in this edition of The Academy of Imperfection could easily be applied to all of us in understanding the people in our lives - no matter what age. Whether that be our friends, parents, colleagues or even ourselves.

      Through her work, Lael helps adults process their own childhood trauma, and creates education systems that value emotional awareness, demonstrating why it all comes back to connection and compassion.

      Oh, and listen out for the dramatic moment when Ryan swoops in and inadvertently steals Josh’s “Good Question” (patent pending).

       

      To learn more about Lael’s work please visit her website at: https://laelstone.com.au/

      To watch Lael’s Ted Talk please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=6fL09e8Tm9c&feature=emb_imp_woyt

      To learn more about Lael’s school please follow this link: https://woodlineprimary.com.au/

      To watch It’s Not About The Nail, please follow this link: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg

       

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      ]]>       full 4 15 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb0a6c-5971-11ed-bb58-43b67c4a2cd2 7b05f586-09f2-4d7e-b7bf-b242003393b8 Sun, 12 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4006 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/lael-stone-creating-emotionally-intelligent-humans       Harry Garside - A Boxer Who Dares To Be Different Harry Garside - A Boxer Who Dares To Be Different Harry Garside is an Australian boxer who won bronze at the Tokyo Olympics - the first Olympic medal in boxing for Australia in 33 years. But to simply describe Harry Garside as a champion boxer, would be to sell him waaaaaaay short.

      Because Harry is also a ballet dancer, a plumber and the guy who asked to wear a dress at the Olympic Opening Ceremony with the desire of defying gender stereotypes (request denied).

       

      To listen to the podcast with Deeyah Khan that Harry recommends, please follow the link https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-kunkEfHiLI

       

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      ]]>       Harry Garside is an Australian boxer who won bronze at the Tokyo Olympics - the first Olympic medal in boxing for Australia in 33 years. But to simply describe Harry Garside as a champion boxer, would be to sell him waaaaaaay short.

      Because Harry is also a ballet dancer, a plumber and the guy who asked to wear a dress at the Olympic Opening Ceremony with the desire of defying gender stereotypes (request denied).

       

      To listen to the podcast with Deeyah Khan that Harry recommends, please follow the link https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=-kunkEfHiLI

       

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      ]]>       full 4 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc8270-5971-11ed-bb58-df621ccbc9b8 57c9edf0-0e61-4234-86e0-b242003398ab Sun, 05 Jun 2022 20:00:00 +0000 5458 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/harry-garside-a-boxer-who-dares-to-be-different       Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony Dr Emily - Truth vs Harmony In this Emisode, Dr Emily returns to talk about a topic that is VERRRRRY close to the bones of Ryan, Hugh and Josh. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

      Does that ring any bells for you? Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? What’s the difference? And how do living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

      Dr Emily goes into all of it.

       

      In this episode, Dr Emily references conversations from Hamish Blake's episode and our last bonus episode. To listen to those, follow the links below:

      Hamish Blake's episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/hamish-blake-lets-talk-about-self-doubt/id1476501557?i=1000555382728

      Bonus episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/we-need-to-talk-hugh-checks-in-with-ryan-josh-after-a-big-month/id1476501557?i=1000556568682

      Dr Emily also references Rick Hanson, to follow his work visit: www.rickhanson.net

       

      If you have experienced, or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. - https://www.1800respect.org.au/services

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       In this Emisode, Dr Emily returns to talk about a topic that is VERRRRRY close to the bones of Ryan, Hugh and Josh. The ongoing battle of Truth vs Harmony.

      Does that ring any bells for you? Do you choose to live truthfully? Or harmoniously? And what does that even mean? What’s the difference? And how do living ‘truthfully’ or ‘harmoniously’ affect us and the people around us?

      Dr Emily goes into all of it.

       

      In this episode, Dr Emily references conversations from Hamish Blake's episode and our last bonus episode. To listen to those, follow the links below:

      Hamish Blake's episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/hamish-blake-lets-talk-about-self-doubt/id1476501557?i=1000555382728

      Bonus episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/we-need-to-talk-hugh-checks-in-with-ryan-josh-after-a-big-month/id1476501557?i=1000556568682

      Dr Emily also references Rick Hanson, to follow his work visit: www.rickhanson.net

       

      If you have experienced, or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000. - https://www.1800respect.org.au/services

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccc97e-5971-11ed-bb58-f78f7d01c3a2 67e115e5-c944-4869-9678-b2420033a0f5 Sun, 29 May 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3190 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-truth-vs-harmony       Max Gawn - The Comment That Changed Everything Max Gawn - The Comment That Changed Everything Big episode. HUGE episode in fact. Especially for Ryan.

      Ryan has been a long-suffering/recent-celebrating supporter of the Melbourne Demons his entire life. And today, Premiership captain of the Dees, Max Gawn is in The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Ryan. Breathe.

      Max tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about a courageous comment made by one of the players in a team meeting that addressed the negative way players were speaking to each other. The comment cut deep - not only for Max who felt shame for his own behaviour, but one that lead to greater connection, trust and respect between the players, and ultimately to their lifelong dream of an AFL Premiership (the greatest, most joyous day for their fans).

      Once again… breathe, Ryan.

      For more information on Active-Constructive Communication, start here… [https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/](https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/)

       

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      ]]>       Big episode. HUGE episode in fact. Especially for Ryan.

      Ryan has been a long-suffering/recent-celebrating supporter of the Melbourne Demons his entire life. And today, Premiership captain of the Dees, Max Gawn is in The Vulnerabilitea House.

      Ryan. Breathe.

      Max tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about a courageous comment made by one of the players in a team meeting that addressed the negative way players were speaking to each other. The comment cut deep - not only for Max who felt shame for his own behaviour, but one that lead to greater connection, trust and respect between the players, and ultimately to their lifelong dream of an AFL Premiership (the greatest, most joyous day for their fans).

      Once again… breathe, Ryan.

      For more information on Active-Constructive Communication, start here… [https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/](https://positivepsychology.com/active-constructive-communication/)

       

      See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

      ]]>       full 4 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb461c-5971-11ed-bb58-17344a40c1b2 9ee4763b-d57f-4d22-99aa-b2420033a389 Sun, 22 May 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4041 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/max-gawn-the-comment-that-changed-everything       Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men’s Violence Tarang Chawla - Men Talking About Men’s Violence We seriously hope you listen to this one. I mean, obviously we hope you listen to all our episodes but THIS ONE... well, we reckon this one’s important.

      Tarang Chawla’s younger sister Niki was the kindest person he knew. But in 2015, Niki was murdered by her partner who she was trying to break up with, as a result of domestic violence. Since then, Tarang has become an activist against men’s violence, educating all Australians on the many forms of abuse and its role in the mental health crisis.

      But as Tarang explains, “abuse” is often not what we think.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, guest lecturer Tarang Chawla talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the many forms of abuse, violence, coercive control, gender inequality, and how we can all play a part in a safer future and why that’s so important for all of us.

      If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000

      To listen to Tarang's podcast, "There's No Place Like Home" please follow the link below: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/theres-no-place-like-home-by-future-women/id1608086343

       

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      ]]>       We seriously hope you listen to this one. I mean, obviously we hope you listen to all our episodes but THIS ONE... well, we reckon this one’s important.

      Tarang Chawla’s younger sister Niki was the kindest person he knew. But in 2015, Niki was murdered by her partner who she was trying to break up with, as a result of domestic violence. Since then, Tarang has become an activist against men’s violence, educating all Australians on the many forms of abuse and its role in the mental health crisis.

      But as Tarang explains, “abuse” is often not what we think.

      In this Academy of Imperfection, guest lecturer Tarang Chawla talks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the many forms of abuse, violence, coercive control, gender inequality, and how we can all play a part in a safer future and why that’s so important for all of us.

      If you have experienced or are at risk of domestic and family violence and/or sexual assault, you can call the 24 hour national counselling service 1800RESPECT (1800 737 732). In an emergency, or if you are not feeling safe, always call the police on 000

      To listen to Tarang's podcast, "There's No Place Like Home" please follow the link below: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/theres-no-place-like-home-by-future-women/id1608086343

       

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      ]]>       full 4 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccad40-5971-11ed-bb58-e30a64badef5 2df323a7-e93e-47e0-92b1-b2420033a770 Sun, 15 May 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4583 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/tarang-chawla-men-talking-about-men-s-violence       Narelda Jacobs - Being True To You Narelda Jacobs - Being True To You You might think that TV journalist and proud indigenous woman Narelda Jacobs has a perfect life. She’s the co-host of Studio 10, makes regular appearances on The Project, she’s a three-time host of the Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras, and she’s... done lots of other things that are also on her Wikipedia page.

      But like all of us, Narelda’s life has been far from perfect. I mean come on guys, we’re all imperfect, surely you’ve learnt that by now!

      In this episode, Narelda talks openly about the challenges of falling pregnant as an 18-year-old... and then having to tell her parents. This would be hard for anyone, but Narelda grew up in an extremely religious household and her father was a Reverend of the Uniting Church. But that turned out to be a mere warm up for what was to come three years later, when she came out to her parents as gay.

      We loved this chat with Narelda. And well, we love Narelda. We’re sure you will too.

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      ]]>       You might think that TV journalist and proud indigenous woman Narelda Jacobs has a perfect life. She’s the co-host of Studio 10, makes regular appearances on The Project, she’s a three-time host of the Sydney Gay & Lesbian Mardi Gras, and she’s... done lots of other things that are also on her Wikipedia page.

      But like all of us, Narelda’s life has been far from perfect. I mean come on guys, we’re all imperfect, surely you’ve learnt that by now!

      In this episode, Narelda talks openly about the challenges of falling pregnant as an 18-year-old... and then having to tell her parents. This would be hard for anyone, but Narelda grew up in an extremely religious household and her father was a Reverend of the Uniting Church. But that turned out to be a mere warm up for what was to come three years later, when she came out to her parents as gay.

      We loved this chat with Narelda. And well, we love Narelda. We’re sure you will too.

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      ]]>       full 4 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccb57e-5971-11ed-bb58-33d2c48affd5 08aea7e4-ac9f-404f-90d9-b2420033a916 Sun, 08 May 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4876 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/narelda-jacobs-being-true-to-you       Dr Emily - Managing a Panic Attack Dr Emily - Managing a Panic Attack Welcome back to Dr Emily, our very own... PSYCHOLOGIST!

      Reflecting on the recent episode with Luke McGregor, in this episode Dr Emily talks about panic attacks. What are they? Why do we get them? And what do we do when they show up and scare the hell out of us?

      Thanks Dr Em

      To find out more about by Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap and his work as an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Trainer visit; https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       Welcome back to Dr Emily, our very own... PSYCHOLOGIST!

      Reflecting on the recent episode with Luke McGregor, in this episode Dr Emily talks about panic attacks. What are they? Why do we get them? And what do we do when they show up and scare the hell out of us?

      Thanks Dr Em

      To find out more about by Russ Harris, The Happiness Trap and his work as an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Trainer visit; https://www.actmindfully.com.au/

      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       full 4 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc89a0-5971-11ed-bb58-63b9460b7c49 e67fa2d6-ac22-419b-babf-b2420033ba92 Sun, 01 May 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2543 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/dr-emily-managing-a-panic-attack       Oliver Twist - Where is Home? Oliver Twist - Where is Home? Originally from Rwanda, stand-up comedian Oliver Twist spent 14 years in a Malawi refugee camp before finally arriving in Ipswich, Queensland with his family.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Oliver answers the question, “Where is home for you?” - a simple question for some, but a complicated one for Oliver.

      Oliver shares stories from his extraordinarily imperfect life in great detail. Everything from being displaced by the Rwandan Genocide, to living in the refugee camp, and eventually seeing Trevor Noah perform stand-up comedy on the internet. And, thanks to ANOTHER “good question” from Josh, Oliver reflects on what his Australian citizenship actually means to him.

      Oliver Twist’s incredible live shows, Jali and Griot, are still touring in select cities. You can find tickets on the link below:

      https://www.livenation.com.au/artist-oliver-twist-1340595

       

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      ]]>       Originally from Rwanda, stand-up comedian Oliver Twist spent 14 years in a Malawi refugee camp before finally arriving in Ipswich, Queensland with his family.

      In this Vulnerabilitea House, Oliver answers the question, “Where is home for you?” - a simple question for some, but a complicated one for Oliver.

      Oliver shares stories from his extraordinarily imperfect life in great detail. Everything from being displaced by the Rwandan Genocide, to living in the refugee camp, and eventually seeing Trevor Noah perform stand-up comedy on the internet. And, thanks to ANOTHER “good question” from Josh, Oliver reflects on what his Australian citizenship actually means to him.

      Oliver Twist’s incredible live shows, Jali and Griot, are still touring in select cities. You can find tickets on the link below:

      https://www.livenation.com.au/artist-oliver-twist-1340595

       

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      ]]>       full 4 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc13c6-5971-11ed-bb58-e35582530f0f bd061adb-59ab-4f06-be01-b2420033b374 Sun, 24 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000 3585 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/oliver-twist-where-is-home       Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology Kemi Nekvapil - How to Live a Life Without Apology Okay, so get this...not only is Kemi Nekvapil an author, speaker and coach, but she was trained by Brené Brown. Yuh. THE Brené Brown.

      As an author, Kemi has written a new book that you must read. It’s called ‘POWER: A woman’s guide to living and leading without apology’. And in our imperfect opinion, as 3 NON-women, it’s exactly what we all need right now.

      In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, Kemi shares her childhood experience living in foster care - being moved between 5 different families across England - and how it’s shaped her as the powerful woman she is today. Kemi then takes us through her interpretation of POWER - which happens to be a very convenient acronym...

      - Presence to understand what is and isn’t working in our lives.

      - Ownership of our personal narratives, especially our power stories.

      - Wisdom about our needs, boundaries and growth.

      - Equality as part of the diverse human family, all of us worthy.

      - Responsibility for our choices, healing and happiness.

      https://www.keminekvapil.com

       

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      ]]>       Okay, so get this...not only is Kemi Nekvapil an author, speaker and coach, but she was trained by Brené Brown. Yuh. THE Brené Brown.

      As an author, Kemi has written a new book that you must read. It’s called ‘POWER: A woman’s guide to living and leading without apology’. And in our imperfect opinion, as 3 NON-women, it’s exactly what we all need right now.

      In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, Kemi shares her childhood experience living in foster care - being moved between 5 different families across England - and how it’s shaped her as the powerful woman she is today. Kemi then takes us through her interpretation of POWER - which happens to be a very convenient acronym...

      - Presence to understand what is and isn’t working in our lives.

      - Ownership of our personal narratives, especially our power stories.

      - Wisdom about our needs, boundaries and growth.

      - Equality as part of the diverse human family, all of us worthy.

      - Responsibility for our choices, healing and happiness.

      https://www.keminekvapil.com

       

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      ]]>       full 4 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcae73a-5971-11ed-bb58-03d827a836ae 42dca749-7cb2-4990-b4df-b2420033bf84 Sun, 17 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4295 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/kemi-nekvapil-how-to-live-a-life-without-apology       Luke McGregor - Being Funny And Having Panic Attacks Luke McGregor - Being Funny And Having Panic Attacks Like all of us, Luke McGregor is imperfect. From his challenging childhood at home and school, to his crippling panic attacks on stage as a stand-up comedian, Luke generously shares some of the many stories from his imperfect life with us and of course with you.

      A lot gets covered here, including Luke’s ongoing battles with OCD and why he eventually turned to professional comedy after trying a handful of other careers first.

      But also, as you’d expect, Luke’s hilarious in this ep so please put your Giggle Hat on. Wait, you DO have a Giggle Hat don’t you?!?!

       

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      ]]>       Like all of us, Luke McGregor is imperfect. From his challenging childhood at home and school, to his crippling panic attacks on stage as a stand-up comedian, Luke generously shares some of the many stories from his imperfect life with us and of course with you.

      A lot gets covered here, including Luke’s ongoing battles with OCD and why he eventually turned to professional comedy after trying a handful of other careers first.

      But also, as you’d expect, Luke’s hilarious in this ep so please put your Giggle Hat on. Wait, you DO have a Giggle Hat don’t you?!?!

       

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      ]]>       full 4 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb036e-5971-11ed-bb58-c75272a52cac ed304dba-06aa-4380-a1b3-b2420033c46b Sun, 10 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000 4525 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/luke-mcgregor-being-funny-and-having-panic-attacks       We Need to Talk - Hugh checks in with Ryan & Josh after a big month We Need to Talk - Hugh checks in with Ryan & Josh after a big month B-B-B-BONUS EP!!!

      After what has been a very vulnerable month for The Imperfects, Hugh wanted to check in with Ryan and Josh to see how they’re feeling after some “big shares” in the first 4 episodes of the season.

      Firstly, Ryan reflects on how he’s feeling after revealing his worries around the supposed “love triangle” with Hugh and Hamish during Hamish’s Vulnerabilitea House episode. Then Josh talks about his self-doubt surrounding his role on the podcast, and of course where he’s at with his internet use since bravely sharing addiction with the group during the Johann Hari episode.

      We’ll be back to normal programming next episode with Luke McGregor, but until then, this episode’s all about us!

       

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      ]]>       B-B-B-BONUS EP!!!

      After what has been a very vulnerable month for The Imperfects, Hugh wanted to check in with Ryan and Josh to see how they’re feeling after some “big shares” in the first 4 episodes of the season.

      Firstly, Ryan reflects on how he’s feeling after revealing his worries around the supposed “love triangle” with Hugh and Hamish during Hamish’s Vulnerabilitea House episode. Then Josh talks about his self-doubt surrounding his role on the podcast, and of course where he’s at with his internet use since bravely sharing addiction with the group during the Johann Hari episode.

      We’ll be back to normal programming next episode with Luke McGregor, but until then, this episode’s all about us!

       

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      ]]>       bonus 4 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc4dfa-5971-11ed-bb58-abc5dac436d4 8a9498fd-3395-47d5-aa88-b2420033b45b Thu, 07 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2616 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/we-need-to-talk-hugh-checks-in-with-ryan-josh-afte       Introducing Dr Emily… PSYCHOLOGIST!!! Introducing Dr Emily… PSYCHOLOGIST!!! Please welcome the newest member of The Imperfects family... our resident psychologist, Dr Emily!

      Dr Emily recently joined The Imperfects behind the scenes, ensuring our episodes are released with care, compassion and professionalism.

      This season however, Hugh, Ryan and Josh begged Dr Emily to bring her knowledge directly to you with her very own regular episodes! Each month she will join Hugh, Ryan and Josh and bring in something from The Imperfects archives, to then give general advice and information based on the stories and themes from the episode.

      In this debut ‘Emisode’, Dr Emily discusses the final episode of 2021; “Georgia & Hugh”. If you haven’t heard that incredibly moving episode, you could listen to that first, but you’ll definitely be able to follow along if you haven’t heard it. Here’s a link to that ep just in case... https://apple.co/35xOmbs

      And here’s a link to the book by Oprah and Dr Bruce Perry mentioned by Dr Emily: https://bit.ly/3u1y1VV


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       Please welcome the newest member of The Imperfects family... our resident psychologist, Dr Emily!

      Dr Emily recently joined The Imperfects behind the scenes, ensuring our episodes are released with care, compassion and professionalism.

      This season however, Hugh, Ryan and Josh begged Dr Emily to bring her knowledge directly to you with her very own regular episodes! Each month she will join Hugh, Ryan and Josh and bring in something from The Imperfects archives, to then give general advice and information based on the stories and themes from the episode.

      In this debut ‘Emisode’, Dr Emily discusses the final episode of 2021; “Georgia & Hugh”. If you haven’t heard that incredibly moving episode, you could listen to that first, but you’ll definitely be able to follow along if you haven’t heard it. Here’s a link to that ep just in case... https://apple.co/35xOmbs

      And here’s a link to the book by Oprah and Dr Bruce Perry mentioned by Dr Emily: https://bit.ly/3u1y1VV


      The Imperfects is not a licensed mental health service and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice, treatment or assessment. The advice given in this episode is general in nature, but if you’re struggling, please see a health care professional, or call lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       full 4 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc305e-5971-11ed-bb58-4b74125204a0 03512156-ae88-498e-9a3b-b2420033c307 Sun, 03 Apr 2022 20:00:00 +0000 2446 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/introducing-dr-emily-psychologist       Hamish Blake - Let's Talk About Self-Doubt Hamish Blake - Let's Talk About Self-Doubt Hamish Blake is a very funny man. No surprises there. But as it turns out, Hamish Blake is also a man who experiences self-doubt. Hmm, SOME surprises there!

      And as the latest guest in The Vulnerabilitea House, Hamish tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the self-doubt he’s experienced while performing on TV, even after doing it for almost 20 years. Whether it be during one of his many appearances on panel shows, or even while standing in front of the contestants on his first day as host of Lego Masters.

      Later in the ep, Hamish, Ryan and Hugh openly discuss their evolving “love triangle” that has been triggering feelings of self-doubt within Ryan. Then Josh talks candidly about his own self-doubt regarding his role on The Imperfects.

      Yep. This one’s a big ol’ share-fest. Let’s hug.

       

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      ]]>       Hamish Blake is a very funny man. No surprises there. But as it turns out, Hamish Blake is also a man who experiences self-doubt. Hmm, SOME surprises there!

      And as the latest guest in The Vulnerabilitea House, Hamish tells Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the self-doubt he’s experienced while performing on TV, even after doing it for almost 20 years. Whether it be during one of his many appearances on panel shows, or even while standing in front of the contestants on his first day as host of Lego Masters.

      Later in the ep, Hamish, Ryan and Hugh openly discuss their evolving “love triangle” that has been triggering feelings of self-doubt within Ryan. Then Josh talks candidly about his own self-doubt regarding his role on The Imperfects.

      Yep. This one’s a big ol’ share-fest. Let’s hug.

       

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      ]]>       full 4 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc54bc-5971-11ed-bb58-57065d6063ea 34243a31-1c64-4a94-ac99-b2420033c7cb Sun, 27 Mar 2022 19:00:00 +0000 3093 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/hamish-blake-lets-talk-about-self-doubt       Johann Hari - Why You Can't Pay Attention Johann Hari - Why You Can't Pay Attention We can all feel it. And unfortunately, it’s getting worse. Paying attention and properly focussing these days is getting harder and harder. And in the first Academy of Imperfection for 2022, Johann Hari is here to explain to Hugh, Ryan and Josh exactly why that is. The good news is... it’s not our fault. But luckily there are things we can do about it. If you want to delve deeper into the topics and themes from this episode, please read (or listen to - like Hugh and Ryan did) Johann’s incredible new book, Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention. It might just be the thing that gets you off your phone for a bit. However, while Johann may be this week’s guest lecturer, Josh is certainly this week’s star pupil, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast. Josh didn’t plan to say what he said, but in finding the courage to speak his truth, his hope is that others with similar struggles will feel more supported, or at least feel less alone.

      Thank you Johann for returning to The Imperfects, and thank you Josh for being imperfect.

      For more information about Johann Hari and where to his book visit: https://stolenfocusbook.com/

      @theimperfectspodcast

       

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      ]]>       We can all feel it. And unfortunately, it’s getting worse. Paying attention and properly focussing these days is getting harder and harder. And in the first Academy of Imperfection for 2022, Johann Hari is here to explain to Hugh, Ryan and Josh exactly why that is. The good news is... it’s not our fault. But luckily there are things we can do about it. If you want to delve deeper into the topics and themes from this episode, please read (or listen to - like Hugh and Ryan did) Johann’s incredible new book, Stolen Focus: Why You Can’t Pay Attention. It might just be the thing that gets you off your phone for a bit. However, while Johann may be this week’s guest lecturer, Josh is certainly this week’s star pupil, delivering what may be one of the most powerful and moving acts of vulnerability we’ve ever seen on this podcast. Josh didn’t plan to say what he said, but in finding the courage to speak his truth, his hope is that others with similar struggles will feel more supported, or at least feel less alone.

      Thank you Johann for returning to The Imperfects, and thank you Josh for being imperfect.

      For more information about Johann Hari and where to his book visit: https://stolenfocusbook.com/

      @theimperfectspodcast

       

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      ]]>       full 4 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc28fc-5971-11ed-bb58-9b1ae0120656 caba1137-4b66-4e02-b544-b2420033bf98 Sun, 20 Mar 2022 19:00:00 +0000 4311 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/johann-hari-why-you-cant-pay-attention       Kate Langbroek - Love Story Kate Langbroek - Love Story Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person and we absolutely love her.

      Kate has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel, or with her mate Hughesy on the radio. Now she’s written her first book, “Ciao, Bella” - filled with stories from her amazing and colourful life. But even with all her success, like all of us, Kate’s life hasn’t been perfect.

      In this raw episode, Kate generously shares what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now. Afterwards, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh and gives us some insight on the emotion of LOVE, and how positive emotions like love can drastically improve our mental health.

      @theimperfectspodcast

       

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      ]]>       Kate Langbroek, in our humble opinion, is a very special person and we absolutely love her.

      Kate has experienced decades of success on Australian TV and radio - whether it was every Wednesday night on The Panel, or with her mate Hughesy on the radio. Now she’s written her first book, “Ciao, Bella” - filled with stories from her amazing and colourful life. But even with all her success, like all of us, Kate’s life hasn’t been perfect.

      In this raw episode, Kate generously shares what it was like when her eldest son Lewis was diagnosed with Leukaemia, and how it impacted her life and her family - then and now. Afterwards, Hugh talks with Ryan and Josh and gives us some insight on the emotion of LOVE, and how positive emotions like love can drastically improve our mental health.

      @theimperfectspodcast

       

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      ]]>       full 4 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc378e-5971-11ed-bb58-4b7282a0f37f a6e32afb-6508-49c8-94f6-b2420033cad3 Sun, 13 Mar 2022 19:00:00 +0000 5178 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/kate-langbroek-love-story       Season 4 Trailer Season 4 Trailer We’re back... for a warm up ep... and as you’ll soon hear... we’re properly professional now!

      Not because of the three of us, because of the new members of our Imperfects team... Bridget Northeast, BOTH British Andys (Hall and Poole), George Martin, Jamieson Moore and Dr Emily!

      This really is our highest level of excitement EVER.

      So, so, so good to see you,

      Hugh, Ryan & Josh

       

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      ]]>       We’re back... for a warm up ep... and as you’ll soon hear... we’re properly professional now!

      Not because of the three of us, because of the new members of our Imperfects team... Bridget Northeast, BOTH British Andys (Hall and Poole), George Martin, Jamieson Moore and Dr Emily!

      This really is our highest level of excitement EVER.

      So, so, so good to see you,

      Hugh, Ryan & Josh

       

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      ]]>       trailer 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbb5f2-5971-11ed-bb58-2bbd72563e17 25d0a2a3-e72d-4bd7-9c51-b2420033c5f2 Sun, 06 Mar 2022 19:00:00 +0000 1602 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/season-4-trailer       Georgia & Hugh Georgia & Hugh In this extremely special episode, Hugh reads the opening chapter from his second book, ‘Let Go’ to his younger sister (and Josh’s older sister) Georgia van Cuylenburg - a heartfelt letter from him to her.

       

      What follows is an incredibly powerful conversation between the two of them that, for the first time, addresses unspoken feelings and issues that have existed for years.

       

      We’ve been fortunate to have witnessed many beautiful examples of vulnerability on this podcast over the years… but guys… seriously… this is next level. (And I can say that because it’s me Ryan writing this)

       

      Thank you Georgia for allowing us to share this. At times it doesn’t feel like we should be listening in, but gee whiz, I think I can pre-speak for everyone here and say we feel so lucky and privileged that we are. 

       

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      ]]>       In this extremely special episode, Hugh reads the opening chapter from his second book, ‘Let Go’ to his younger sister (and Josh’s older sister) Georgia van Cuylenburg - a heartfelt letter from him to her.

       

      What follows is an incredibly powerful conversation between the two of them that, for the first time, addresses unspoken feelings and issues that have existed for years.

       

      We’ve been fortunate to have witnessed many beautiful examples of vulnerability on this podcast over the years… but guys… seriously… this is next level. (And I can say that because it’s me Ryan writing this)

       

      Thank you Georgia for allowing us to share this. At times it doesn’t feel like we should be listening in, but gee whiz, I think I can pre-speak for everyone here and say we feel so lucky and privileged that we are. 

       

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      ]]>       full 3 27 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcaef96-5971-11ed-bb58-27360a9ac180 cb1c0b58-3379-46b5-81bc-b24200340413 Wed, 22 Dec 2021 19:00:00 +0000 3397 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/georgia-hugh       Almost end of year wrap - (Part 2) Almost end of year wrap - (Part 2) A Part 1 wouldn't be complete without a Part 2. 

      So here it is... wrapping up the wrap up!

      After Hugh kicked things off with a beautiful bang in Part 1, Part 2 sees Josh and Ryan follow suit and reflect on 2 moments from the podcast that meant a lot to them in 2021 - powerful moments from Martin Heppell and Ben Crowe.

      Once again, thank you for your ears. We love you. Now go tell someone special that you love them.

       

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      ]]>       A Part 1 wouldn't be complete without a Part 2. 

      So here it is... wrapping up the wrap up!

      After Hugh kicked things off with a beautiful bang in Part 1, Part 2 sees Josh and Ryan follow suit and reflect on 2 moments from the podcast that meant a lot to them in 2021 - powerful moments from Martin Heppell and Ben Crowe.

      Once again, thank you for your ears. We love you. Now go tell someone special that you love them.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 26 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcca052-5971-11ed-bb58-fb455d5acb34 395739ca-fc9d-49df-8146-b2420033cb51 Thu, 16 Dec 2021 07:32:35 +0000 1723 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/almost-end-of-year-wrap-part-2       Almost end of year wrap - (Part 1) Almost end of year wrap - (Part 1) We had to split our "End of Year Wrap" into 2 parts because of what came up in this ep.

      Without wanting to spoil it, it's yet another example of what can happen when we start the conversation and show a lil vulnerability to the ones we love.

      There will obviously be a Part 2, and then a few more very VERY special episodes to round out the year.

      Thank you for listening to us. We love you and appreciate you a LOT.

       

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      ]]>       We had to split our "End of Year Wrap" into 2 parts because of what came up in this ep.

      Without wanting to spoil it, it's yet another example of what can happen when we start the conversation and show a lil vulnerability to the ones we love.

      There will obviously be a Part 2, and then a few more very VERY special episodes to round out the year.

      Thank you for listening to us. We love you and appreciate you a LOT.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 25 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccc4a6-5971-11ed-bb58-738ada074aab 995c08ba-7d27-4180-b4ef-b2420033d6d0 Wed, 08 Dec 2021 00:48:00 +0000 1934 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/almost-end-of-year-wrap-part-1       The Vulnerabilitea House - Peter Helliar The Vulnerabilitea House - Peter Helliar Whether it’s TV, film, stand-up comedy, radio, books, podcasts... or... Straughanie, Peter “Pete” Helliar has been making us laugh for over 20 years and has found a lot of success doing it. But like anyone, Pete’s life has at times been imperfect.

      In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Pete speaks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about one of the most difficult times in his life when one of his close friends and colleagues, Richard Marsland, took his own life.

      Hugh then shares some practical ways you can talk to people in your life who you think might be struggling.

       

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      ]]>       Whether it’s TV, film, stand-up comedy, radio, books, podcasts... or... Straughanie, Peter “Pete” Helliar has been making us laugh for over 20 years and has found a lot of success doing it. But like anyone, Pete’s life has at times been imperfect.

      In this episode of The Vulnerabilitea House, Pete speaks with Hugh, Ryan and Josh about one of the most difficult times in his life when one of his close friends and colleagues, Richard Marsland, took his own life.

      Hugh then shares some practical ways you can talk to people in your life who you think might be struggling.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 24 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcae186-5971-11ed-bb58-d768cd136c9d a5681dd1-c23b-4acb-aed5-b242003443a9 Mon, 22 Nov 2021 01:31:00 +0000 3050 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-peter-helliar       Your Non-Free Gift! (Unannounced Surprise Podcast Episode) Your Non-Free Gift! (Unannounced Surprise Podcast Episode) Surprise! We have something special for you. Okay fine... it MAY be merchandise. Fine, you twisted our arm... it IS merchandise. But GOOD merchandise! PUN merchandise!!!

      Have a listen and go to thevulnerabiliteabag.com. BUT BE QUICK!

       

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      ]]>       Surprise! We have something special for you. Okay fine... it MAY be merchandise. Fine, you twisted our arm... it IS merchandise. But GOOD merchandise! PUN merchandise!!!

      Have a listen and go to thevulnerabiliteabag.com. BUT BE QUICK!

       

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      ]]>       full 3 23 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbb142-5971-11ed-bb58-2b3aacdd72df 38fa04ce-193a-4b52-a551-b2420033cd29 Sun, 14 Nov 2021 23:54:00 +0000 1497 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/your-non-free-gift-unannounced-surprise-podcast-ep       The Academy of Imperfection - Jeff Warren The Academy of Imperfection - Jeff Warren You may have an image of what a “meditation teacher” sounds like. Whatever you’re thinking of, we’re pretty sure you’re not thinking of Jeff Warren. Jeff Warren is not your traditional meditation “guru”. He’s just... well, a guy. A Canadian guy! And alongside his own challenges with ADD and Bipolar diagnoses (among other things), he’s found a life and successful career in mindfulness and meditation. And if you’re like us, you’ll want to be his best friend.

      Jeff is currently best known for his “Daily Trip” meditations on the Calm app. But he’s also written books and taught meditation to all walks of life around the world. For everything you need to know about Jeff including his weekly Do Nothing Project, go to jeffwarren.org

       

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      ]]>       You may have an image of what a “meditation teacher” sounds like. Whatever you’re thinking of, we’re pretty sure you’re not thinking of Jeff Warren. Jeff Warren is not your traditional meditation “guru”. He’s just... well, a guy. A Canadian guy! And alongside his own challenges with ADD and Bipolar diagnoses (among other things), he’s found a life and successful career in mindfulness and meditation. And if you’re like us, you’ll want to be his best friend.

      Jeff is currently best known for his “Daily Trip” meditations on the Calm app. But he’s also written books and taught meditation to all walks of life around the world. For everything you need to know about Jeff including his weekly Do Nothing Project, go to jeffwarren.org

       

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      ]]>       full 3 22 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcadad8-5971-11ed-bb58-2b30e4646919 12dc787c-e00f-42a6-9e49-b2420033d346 Mon, 08 Nov 2021 09:03:35 +0000 4382 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-academy-of-imperfection-jeff-warren       The Dyl & Friends crossover episode The Dyl & Friends crossover episode We’ve been big fans of the Dyl & Friends podcast for a long time now. We love everything about the former AFL footballer and host of the Dyl & Friends podcast, Dylan Buckley. To that end, we are very excited to release this episode of our podcast as a Dyl & Friends and The Imperfects collaboration. As you will hear, Dylan is authentic and open. He embraces his imperfections and as such this chat is a true mix of both shows. Dylan starts off interviewing us about how The Imperfects started, and then we welcome Dylan into the Vulnerabilitea House where he delivers one of the most vulnerable and heart felt tea house shares we’ve had to date.

       

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      ]]>       We’ve been big fans of the Dyl & Friends podcast for a long time now. We love everything about the former AFL footballer and host of the Dyl & Friends podcast, Dylan Buckley. To that end, we are very excited to release this episode of our podcast as a Dyl & Friends and The Imperfects collaboration. As you will hear, Dylan is authentic and open. He embraces his imperfections and as such this chat is a true mix of both shows. Dylan starts off interviewing us about how The Imperfects started, and then we welcome Dylan into the Vulnerabilitea House where he delivers one of the most vulnerable and heart felt tea house shares we’ve had to date.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 21 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbfaa8-5971-11ed-bb58-f7eea6d678c7 289ce33d-c6d8-4d7e-a074-b2420033da70 Mon, 01 Nov 2021 00:52:00 +0000 4575 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-dyl-friends-crossover-episode       The Vulnerabilitea House - Dr Yves Rees The Vulnerabilitea House - Dr Yves Rees Today we welcome Dr Yves Rees into The Vulnerabilitea House. 

       

      One morning, in a hotel room in Canada, aged 30, Yves had a life changing epiphany. With this came a range of emotions - happiness, confusion, pain, joy...and almost everything in between.

       

      As well as being a renowned history professor at La Trobe University, Yves is transgender.

       

      In today’s episode of The Imperfects, Ryan, Josh and Hugh are educated and enlightened by the insightful and vulnerable Dr Yves Rees. Dr Rees has recently released their memoir, All About Yves.

       

      If this episode sparks anything for you that you wish to explore further, we recommend transhub.org.au as a fantastic resource to learn more.

       

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      ]]>       Today we welcome Dr Yves Rees into The Vulnerabilitea House. 

       

      One morning, in a hotel room in Canada, aged 30, Yves had a life changing epiphany. With this came a range of emotions - happiness, confusion, pain, joy...and almost everything in between.

       

      As well as being a renowned history professor at La Trobe University, Yves is transgender.

       

      In today’s episode of The Imperfects, Ryan, Josh and Hugh are educated and enlightened by the insightful and vulnerable Dr Yves Rees. Dr Rees has recently released their memoir, All About Yves.

       

      If this episode sparks anything for you that you wish to explore further, we recommend transhub.org.au as a fantastic resource to learn more.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 20 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc5b6a-5971-11ed-bb58-3ff1cc18f252 273fb733-0686-48df-9ae8-b2420033d3f0 Mon, 25 Oct 2021 06:09:00 +0000 3508 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-dr-yves-rees       Becky Lucas - The power of laughter Becky Lucas - The power of laughter On this week's episode of the podcast we talk to Australian comedian Becky Lucas. Becky has written a book -Acknowledgements, and as you will hear Hugh is BIT of a fan.

      We cover a-lot in this ep, from bitchy English exchange students, Becky’s parents' divorce, 'dick-lit’, the stresses of lock down; and somehow we manage to squeeze in a discussion of 90s NBL basketball under the ‘auspice’ of a special birthday surprise.

      Afterwards we discuss the role of laughter and comedy in our lives and why laughter is such an incredible thing for changing our mood and improving our mental health.

      Yep, as I said, we cover quite a lot...

      If this chat has brought up any troubling emotions or thoughts for you, as always we strongly recommend Lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       On this week's episode of the podcast we talk to Australian comedian Becky Lucas. Becky has written a book -Acknowledgements, and as you will hear Hugh is BIT of a fan.

      We cover a-lot in this ep, from bitchy English exchange students, Becky’s parents' divorce, 'dick-lit’, the stresses of lock down; and somehow we manage to squeeze in a discussion of 90s NBL basketball under the ‘auspice’ of a special birthday surprise.

      Afterwards we discuss the role of laughter and comedy in our lives and why laughter is such an incredible thing for changing our mood and improving our mental health.

      Yep, as I said, we cover quite a lot...

      If this chat has brought up any troubling emotions or thoughts for you, as always we strongly recommend Lifeline on 13 11 14.

       

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      ]]>       full 3 19 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc1cc2-5971-11ed-bb58-1b366ee047a9 04402b5f-b2df-479e-9a6e-b2420033d417 Tue, 12 Oct 2021 03:05:00 +0000 4948 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/becky-lucas-the-power-of-laughter       The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell The Vulnerabilitea House - Martin Heppell There is no one else in the world quite like our guest this week. 

      For years people kept telling Hugh he needed to bring on a new presenter to meet the demand from schools and workplaces around the country. He said he would only ever do it if he found someone extraordinary. In 2015, Hugh found that extraordinary person - Martin Heppell. In today’s episode, Ryan, Hugh and Josh are both moved and inspired as Martin steps into the Vulnerabilitea and shares a heart breaking story from his childhood. As only Martin can do, he starts the interview by sharing the trauma of his past, but ends the interview leaving the boys inspired to be better people. Warning. This episode contains references to child abuse.

         

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        ]]>         There is no one else in the world quite like our guest this week. 

        For years people kept telling Hugh he needed to bring on a new presenter to meet the demand from schools and workplaces around the country. He said he would only ever do it if he found someone extraordinary. In 2015, Hugh found that extraordinary person - Martin Heppell. In today’s episode, Ryan, Hugh and Josh are both moved and inspired as Martin steps into the Vulnerabilitea and shares a heart breaking story from his childhood. As only Martin can do, he starts the interview by sharing the trauma of his past, but ends the interview leaving the boys inspired to be better people. Warning. This episode contains references to child abuse.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 18 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc9972-5971-11ed-bb58-736992ee9222 915043d3-4972-4b43-b77a-b2420033dfb5 Tue, 28 Sep 2021 04:31:00 +0000 2780 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-martin-heppell           The Academy Of Imperfection - Daniel Ellenberg The Academy Of Imperfection - Daniel Ellenberg Ready to learn? Us too.

          In The Academy of Imperfection this week, imperfect students Hugh, Ryan and Josh speak with American psychologist, leadership coach and specialist in the area of male relationships, Daniel Ellenberg. Daniel shares some very insightful stuff on how men relate to other men - why they do what they do, and why they DON’T do what they don’t do! But by the end of the episode, what was supposed to be a casual “lecture” turns into a men’s workshop of sorts, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh show a lot more vulnerability towards each other than they were expecting. The recording of this episode was definitely a memorable experience.

          Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a co-founder of Relationships That Work https://www.relationshipsthatwork.com, the founder/director of Strength with Heart men’s groups and workshops https://www.strengthwithheart.com, and a principal in Rewire Leadership Institute https://rewireleadership.com

           

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          ]]>           Ready to learn? Us too.

          In The Academy of Imperfection this week, imperfect students Hugh, Ryan and Josh speak with American psychologist, leadership coach and specialist in the area of male relationships, Daniel Ellenberg. Daniel shares some very insightful stuff on how men relate to other men - why they do what they do, and why they DON’T do what they don’t do! But by the end of the episode, what was supposed to be a casual “lecture” turns into a men’s workshop of sorts, as Hugh, Ryan and Josh show a lot more vulnerability towards each other than they were expecting. The recording of this episode was definitely a memorable experience.

          Daniel Ellenberg, PhD is a co-founder of Relationships That Work https://www.relationshipsthatwork.com, the founder/director of Strength with Heart men’s groups and workshops https://www.strengthwithheart.com, and a principal in Rewire Leadership Institute https://rewireleadership.com

           

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          ]]>           full 3 17 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcba9d6-5971-11ed-bb58-f7520114dd92 e9f67474-dfe0-4fe4-a57a-b2420033d7d1 Tue, 14 Sep 2021 23:23:00 +0000 3923 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-academy-of-imperfection-daniel-ellenberg           The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh Van Cuylenburg The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh Van Cuylenburg Two episodes in a week, what is going on? Well, it's another Vulnerabilitea House that's what. This week it's Josh's turn.

          Lockdown rules meant this teahouse was spread across three tea houses but it doesn't detract from the quality of the tea, and the vulnerableness. Josh discusses an issue he's had for a long, long time and Hugh takes some time to delve a little deeper into the concept of vulnerability. What is it? Why is it important? How do we best practise it?

          Being vulnerable can be scary, but it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

           

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          ]]>           Two episodes in a week, what is going on? Well, it's another Vulnerabilitea House that's what. This week it's Josh's turn.

          Lockdown rules meant this teahouse was spread across three tea houses but it doesn't detract from the quality of the tea, and the vulnerableness. Josh discusses an issue he's had for a long, long time and Hugh takes some time to delve a little deeper into the concept of vulnerability. What is it? Why is it important? How do we best practise it?

          Being vulnerable can be scary, but it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 16 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb4d6a-5971-11ed-bb58-f755b06adaf2 ae3e9fe8-c8f7-46e1-948c-b2420033da11 Mon, 30 Aug 2021 04:00:00 +0000 2656 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-josh-van-cuylenburg           Just The Three Of Us (a bonus snap podcast because we needed a chat) Just The Three Of Us (a bonus snap podcast because we needed a chat) In the beginning, it was novel. A change of pace. A good excuse to bake our own bread and believe that “we’ll always bake our own bread from now on because it’s so nice to wake up to the smell of fresh bread in the morning!”

          But come on... seriously... we’re not baking bread anymore are we? This whole COVID thing has become a proper bummer. Like, next-level maximum bummer.

          So, because we’ve all been feeling the pinch recently, Hugh assembled Ryan and Josh for a very unplanned Snap Podcast to talk about it, and share what’s been helping him cope with the current and ongoing shitness of lockdown.

          This isn’t a regular episode. There’s no guests, no experts and no tea. It’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh trying to find some light during an extremely challenging time.

          Hope you’re doing okay out there. We know it’s tough. But hopefully this helps a little.

           

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          ]]>           In the beginning, it was novel. A change of pace. A good excuse to bake our own bread and believe that “we’ll always bake our own bread from now on because it’s so nice to wake up to the smell of fresh bread in the morning!”

          But come on... seriously... we’re not baking bread anymore are we? This whole COVID thing has become a proper bummer. Like, next-level maximum bummer.

          So, because we’ve all been feeling the pinch recently, Hugh assembled Ryan and Josh for a very unplanned Snap Podcast to talk about it, and share what’s been helping him cope with the current and ongoing shitness of lockdown.

          This isn’t a regular episode. There’s no guests, no experts and no tea. It’s just Hugh, Ryan and Josh trying to find some light during an extremely challenging time.

          Hope you’re doing okay out there. We know it’s tough. But hopefully this helps a little.

           

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          ]]>           bonus 3 14 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbf382-5971-11ed-bb58-d32ce420558f 9170dad1-25b1-494c-9c16-b24200342382 Tue, 24 Aug 2021 04:07:00 +0000 2585 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/just-the-three-of-us-a-bonus-snap-podcast-because           Travis Boak - Dealing with trauma Travis Boak - Dealing with trauma Travis Boak is one of the best footballers in the country. At age 33, he is showing no signs of slowing down, in fact many believe he is just getting better. His brilliance on the ground is a direct result of the hard work he puts into his game. What many don’t know however, is that he works just as hard on his mental and emotional health. Due to the tragic passing of his father, Travis has, for way too long, carried the baggage and trauma of this tragedy. Join Travis for this heartfelt conversation as he talks us through the power of letting go of the things you cannot control and embracing the uncertainties of life.

           

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          ]]>           Travis Boak is one of the best footballers in the country. At age 33, he is showing no signs of slowing down, in fact many believe he is just getting better. His brilliance on the ground is a direct result of the hard work he puts into his game. What many don’t know however, is that he works just as hard on his mental and emotional health. Due to the tragic passing of his father, Travis has, for way too long, carried the baggage and trauma of this tragedy. Join Travis for this heartfelt conversation as he talks us through the power of letting go of the things you cannot control and embracing the uncertainties of life.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 13 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc70aa-5971-11ed-bb58-8f612f1f602c abbadc97-d992-4f15-b59c-b2420033eb01 Mon, 16 Aug 2021 03:17:00 +0000 4718 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/travis-boak-dealing-with-trauma           The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton Thirsty? How about a nice cup of Vulnerabilitea from The Vulnerabilitea House? Join Hugh and Josh as they listen to co-host Ryan Shelton pick a card at random and get vulnerable.

          Ryan shares some recent discoveries he’s had with his psychologist in regards to how certain aspects of his childhood prepared him... or DIDN’T prepare him for adulthood.

          N.B. There’s also a quick digression into the nostalgic world of 90s NBL Basketball. Don’t worry, it’s quick.

          Also, while being vulnerable can be scary, it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

           

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          ]]>           Thirsty? How about a nice cup of Vulnerabilitea from The Vulnerabilitea House? Join Hugh and Josh as they listen to co-host Ryan Shelton pick a card at random and get vulnerable.

          Ryan shares some recent discoveries he’s had with his psychologist in regards to how certain aspects of his childhood prepared him... or DIDN’T prepare him for adulthood.

          N.B. There’s also a quick digression into the nostalgic world of 90s NBL Basketball. Don’t worry, it’s quick.

          Also, while being vulnerable can be scary, it creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. Just make sure to be mindful about who you’re vulnerable with. It’s always important to trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 12 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcba2d8-5971-11ed-bb58-63296d2ca865 08d960e5-5abf-4559-8c05-b2420033dfde Sun, 01 Aug 2021 21:00:00 +0000 1908 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-ryan-shelton           The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician The Academy of Imperfection - Dr Billy Garvey, Paediatrician Go get your pens and notebooks everyone!

          In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, students Hugh, Ryan, Josh sit down with famed paediatrician, Dr Billy Garvey of The Royal Children’s Hospital.

          Currently, Billy regretfully has a two and a half year waiting list to see him in person, but is keen to reach as many of you as possible NOW. And with all the talk on our podcast about parenting recently, we felt this was a very necessary episode.

          Billy may not look like one of Australia’s most respected and in-demand paediatricians, as we speak about in the episode, but gee whiz, he sure does talk like it!

           

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          ]]>           Go get your pens and notebooks everyone!

          In this edition of The Academy of Imperfection, students Hugh, Ryan, Josh sit down with famed paediatrician, Dr Billy Garvey of The Royal Children’s Hospital.

          Currently, Billy regretfully has a two and a half year waiting list to see him in person, but is keen to reach as many of you as possible NOW. And with all the talk on our podcast about parenting recently, we felt this was a very necessary episode.

          Billy may not look like one of Australia’s most respected and in-demand paediatricians, as we speak about in the episode, but gee whiz, he sure does talk like it!

           

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          ]]>           full 3 11 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbffa8-5971-11ed-bb58-7b5c22da5956 02589bcb-2c31-4431-ac8d-b24200342ab9 Mon, 19 Jul 2021 04:08:00 +0000 4383 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-academy-of-imperfection-dr-billy-garvey-paedia           The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg... Round 2 The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg... Round 2 Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg is back in the hotseat for a second round in the Vulnerabilitea House! And guys... wowee. Potentially inspired by the most recent Vulnerabilitea House episode with Missy Higgins, Hugh opens up about how much he is actually struggling right now. In fact, he’s probably as raw and honest and vulnerable as he’s ever been on The Imperfects. The Vulnerabilitea House (and the whole podcast tbh) is all about encouraging vulnerability by sharing our own struggles and imperfections. Why? Because being vulnerable creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. But like we’ve said a number of times on this podcast, you can’t just be vulnerable with anyone. It’s important to always trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg.

           

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          ]]>           Our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg is back in the hotseat for a second round in the Vulnerabilitea House! And guys... wowee. Potentially inspired by the most recent Vulnerabilitea House episode with Missy Higgins, Hugh opens up about how much he is actually struggling right now. In fact, he’s probably as raw and honest and vulnerable as he’s ever been on The Imperfects. The Vulnerabilitea House (and the whole podcast tbh) is all about encouraging vulnerability by sharing our own struggles and imperfections. Why? Because being vulnerable creates stronger and more authentic connections with others. But like we’ve said a number of times on this podcast, you can’t just be vulnerable with anyone. It’s important to always trust and feel safe with those you open up to.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 10 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcacdae-5971-11ed-bb58-f3e9ddd12e63 35365a2f-282d-497e-becb-b2420033e23d Sun, 04 Jul 2021 23:37:00 +0000 1965 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-hugh-van-cuylenburg-round           Christian O'Connell - Breakfast Radio, panic attacks & starting afresh Christian O'Connell - Breakfast Radio, panic attacks & starting afresh At the beginning of 2018, Christian O'Connell was the host of the number one breakfast radio show in England, he averaged over 2 million listeners a day, he'd won basically every award possible in the radio industry, he was seemingly on top of his world.

          Unbeknownst to almost everyone in his life though, he could barely make it on the air. At the age of 45, Christian had started suffering debilitating panic attacks. And they were becoming an almost daily occurrence.

          In this episode of The Imperfects, we talk with Christian about his anxiety & the panic attacks that nearly ended his career in radio. We chat about the life changing move him and his family have since made; we talk about being a vulnerable father; we talk about the challenges of starting a new in Australia...we talk about alot...it's a really good chat.

           

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           At the beginning of 2018, Christian O'Connell was the host of the number one breakfast radio show in England, he averaged over 2 million listeners a day, he'd won basically every award possible in the radio industry, he was seemingly on top of his world.

          Unbeknownst to almost everyone in his life though, he could barely make it on the air. At the age of 45, Christian had started suffering debilitating panic attacks. And they were becoming an almost daily occurrence.

          In this episode of The Imperfects, we talk with Christian about his anxiety & the panic attacks that nearly ended his career in radio. We chat about the life changing move him and his family have since made; we talk about being a vulnerable father; we talk about the challenges of starting a new in Australia...we talk about alot...it's a really good chat.

           

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 9 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccf8ea-5971-11ed-bb58-9bd07ac66464 529a6a5b-ef65-4ede-a82f-b2420033e53a Sun, 20 Jun 2021 23:54:00 +0000 4962 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/christian-oconnell-breakfast-radio-panic-attacks-s           The Vulnerabilitea House - Missy Higgins The Vulnerabilitea House - Missy Higgins Prepare yourself for a very different episode of The Vulnerabilitea House (for a few reasons):

          1. We welcome our first guest... MISSY HIGGINS IS BACK ON THE POD!
          2. We all live in Melbourne and it was COVID lockdown at the time of recording so we were on Zoom.
          3. The whole thing almost didn’t happen at all... and you’ll hear why.

          For those new to The Vulnerabilitea House, here’s how it works. We get together, we sip tea, someone picks a card from the deck of vulnerability-invoking questions, and then they answer that question, making themselves vulnerable to the group AND YOU.

          In theory, it should be pretty simple. But on this occasion, we kinda messed up and accidentally made it very unsimple for Missy. We felt terrible. But boy oh boy...did she bounce back!

           

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          ]]>           Prepare yourself for a very different episode of The Vulnerabilitea House (for a few reasons):

          1. We welcome our first guest... MISSY HIGGINS IS BACK ON THE POD!
          2. We all live in Melbourne and it was COVID lockdown at the time of recording so we were on Zoom.
          3. The whole thing almost didn’t happen at all... and you’ll hear why.

          For those new to The Vulnerabilitea House, here’s how it works. We get together, we sip tea, someone picks a card from the deck of vulnerability-invoking questions, and then they answer that question, making themselves vulnerable to the group AND YOU.

          In theory, it should be pretty simple. But on this occasion, we kinda messed up and accidentally made it very unsimple for Missy. We felt terrible. But boy oh boy...did she bounce back!

           

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 3 8 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc622c-5971-11ed-bb58-df3a29dc263a 5d0a482e-5484-45c9-860d-b2420033e3a0 Mon, 07 Jun 2021 09:58:00 +0000 1877 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-missy-higgins           The Academy of Imperfection - James Victore The Academy of Imperfection - James Victore Welcome back to The Academy of Imperfection - a conversational lecture series that features guest lecturers talking with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you about different areas of imperfection. Today, designer, author and teacher, James Victore talks about CREATIVITY.

          Before writing his brilliant 2019 book ‘Feck Perfuction: Dangerous Ideas on the Business of Creativity’, James created commerical work for Moet & Chandon, Time magazine and Yohji Yamamoto and has had his work exhibited in Nwe York’s MoMA and The Louvre in Paris. Oh... AND HE’S WON AN EMMY.

          James is verrrrry passionate and hence there’s a language warning on this ep.

          For more James Victore stuff, please visit him on his website jamesvictore.com or on Instagram @jamesvictore.

           

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          ]]>           Welcome back to The Academy of Imperfection - a conversational lecture series that features guest lecturers talking with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you about different areas of imperfection. Today, designer, author and teacher, James Victore talks about CREATIVITY.

          Before writing his brilliant 2019 book ‘Feck Perfuction: Dangerous Ideas on the Business of Creativity’, James created commerical work for Moet & Chandon, Time magazine and Yohji Yamamoto and has had his work exhibited in Nwe York’s MoMA and The Louvre in Paris. Oh... AND HE’S WON AN EMMY.

          James is verrrrry passionate and hence there’s a language warning on this ep.

          For more James Victore stuff, please visit him on his website jamesvictore.com or on Instagram @jamesvictore.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 7 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcac53e-5971-11ed-bb58-0b286811732e c434fa9a-4e05-4da4-82e6-b242003423c2 Sun, 23 May 2021 21:35:06 +0000 3848 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-academy-of-imperfection-james-victore           The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg The Vulnerabilitea House - Josh van Cuylenburg We’re back in The Vulnerabilitea House! This time it’s Josh van Cuylenburg. The proven question-ASKER, becomes a first-time question-ANSWERER as he sips some Vunerabilitea and shares an honest and raw story from his past that not even his brother Hugh knew about - all in the name of vulnerability and connection. Pour yourself a cup of tea everyone... it’s great to see you again.

           

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          ]]>           We’re back in The Vulnerabilitea House! This time it’s Josh van Cuylenburg. The proven question-ASKER, becomes a first-time question-ANSWERER as he sips some Vunerabilitea and shares an honest and raw story from his past that not even his brother Hugh knew about - all in the name of vulnerability and connection. Pour yourself a cup of tea everyone... it’s great to see you again.

           

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          ]]>           full 3 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc4094-5971-11ed-bb58-cb85e80e1200 ebe87267-f2ee-4b5a-831a-b2420033ea2c Sun, 09 May 2021 21:00:00 +0000 1093 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-josh-van-cuylenburg-1           Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumor Jamila Rizvi - Living with the effects of a brain tumor Jamila Rizvi is a writer/author, journalist, commentator, change advocate, feminist and all round wonderful human being.

          In 2018 Jamila was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour. In the podcast, Jamila tells us of these challenging recent years...the multiple surgeries, the radiotherapy treatment the continuing recovery and the effects all of this has had on her life, her family and her mental health.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. This episode was edited with the help of Michael Liberale. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

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          ]]>           Jamila Rizvi is a writer/author, journalist, commentator, change advocate, feminist and all round wonderful human being.

          In 2018 Jamila was met with horrible news. She was diagnosed with a rare brain tumour. In the podcast, Jamila tells us of these challenging recent years...the multiple surgeries, the radiotherapy treatment the continuing recovery and the effects all of this has had on her life, her family and her mental health.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. This episode was edited with the help of Michael Liberale. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 3 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb94fa-5971-11ed-bb58-136f44300557 2901939f-6418-41c5-93b0-b2420033ee80 Sun, 25 Apr 2021 21:00:00 +0000 5840 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jamila-rizvi-living-with-the-effects-of-a-brain-tu           The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton The Vulnerabilitea House - Ryan Shelton This week on the podcast we return to The Vulnerabilitea House, and this time its Ryan Shelton's turn.

          The Vulnerabilitea House, is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, where we share something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all over a nice cup of tea.

           

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          ]]>           This week on the podcast we return to The Vulnerabilitea House, and this time its Ryan Shelton's turn.

          The Vulnerabilitea House, is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, where we share something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all over a nice cup of tea.

           

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 3 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbee78-5971-11ed-bb58-2b4818d691ae c01ac87d-a669-4d05-865f-b2420033f4d2 Sun, 11 Apr 2021 21:00:00 +0000 1105 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-ryan-shelton-1           The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe The Academy of Imperfection - Ben Crowe Welcome to the very first episode of The Academy of Imperfection!

          Presented by The Imperfects, this new series of conversational lectures will feature experts talking about different areas of imperfection with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you.

          The inaugural guest lecturer is someone we are extremely excited about. Ben Crowe. Along with Brene Brown, Ben has easily been the most mentioned person on The Imperfects over the last few years.

          Since working at NIKE for decades, Ben has worked closely with everyone from Andre Agassi to Cathy Freeman and surfing champion Steph Gilmore. And more recently with our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg and Ryan Shelton!

          Here, Ben talks to the class about the importance of self-compassion, connection and purpose. We dare say, this is the one that might just change your life - or at the very least, help you embrace your weird for a few days.

          For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

           

          Ted Talk - Finding your purpose in 5 minutes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVsXO9brK7M

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          ]]>           Welcome to the very first episode of The Academy of Imperfection!

          Presented by The Imperfects, this new series of conversational lectures will feature experts talking about different areas of imperfection with students Hugh, Ryan, Josh and you.

          The inaugural guest lecturer is someone we are extremely excited about. Ben Crowe. Along with Brene Brown, Ben has easily been the most mentioned person on The Imperfects over the last few years.

          Since working at NIKE for decades, Ben has worked closely with everyone from Andre Agassi to Cathy Freeman and surfing champion Steph Gilmore. And more recently with our very own Hugh van Cuylenburg and Ryan Shelton!

          Here, Ben talks to the class about the importance of self-compassion, connection and purpose. We dare say, this is the one that might just change your life - or at the very least, help you embrace your weird for a few days.

          For more from Ben Crowe, please visit his website mojocrowe.com or find him on Instagram.

           

          Ted Talk - Finding your purpose in 5 minutes https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vVsXO9brK7M

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          ]]>           full 3 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc4602-5971-11ed-bb58-676fe6a4bc16 9ab89ee7-293b-4337-926f-b2420033fc84 Sun, 28 Mar 2021 20:00:00 +0000 4489 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-academy-of-imperfection-ben-crowe           The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg The Vulnerabilitea House - Hugh van Cuylenburg The most hyped pun in podcasting, well, sort of...

          This is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, something a bit shorter than normal, which we’ll scatter between the longer eps. As you’ll see from the title of these episodes (pun revealed in the ep!), they’re designed to encourage vulnerability. 

          First up. it's Hugh's turn to be vulnerable, if all goes well, we'll try and get some more imperfect people sharing something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all shared over a nice cup of tea.

           

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          ]]>           The most hyped pun in podcasting, well, sort of...

          This is a new style of episode from The Imperfects, something a bit shorter than normal, which we’ll scatter between the longer eps. As you’ll see from the title of these episodes (pun revealed in the ep!), they’re designed to encourage vulnerability. 

          First up. it's Hugh's turn to be vulnerable, if all goes well, we'll try and get some more imperfect people sharing something honest and a little bit vulnerable, all shared over a nice cup of tea.

           

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 3 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc7d8e-5971-11ed-bb58-c762caf08bc8 5be43d74-9c57-40d7-a5e8-b242003437e7 Sun, 14 Mar 2021 20:00:00 +0000 1242 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/the-vulnerabilitea-house-hugh-van-cuylenburg           Rick Davies - Living with OCD Rick Davies - Living with OCD Best known for his role as ‘Jimmy’ on TV show, Offspring, actor Rick Davies doesn’t remember a time in his life without Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Despite that, this is the first time Rick is speaking publicy about it. Rick selflessly shares a number of uncomfortable (and slightly embarrassing) stories from his life with OCD, and afterwards Hugh chats with Ryan and Josh about some resources for anyone who has OCD or knows someone who does.

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          ]]>           Best known for his role as ‘Jimmy’ on TV show, Offspring, actor Rick Davies doesn’t remember a time in his life without Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Despite that, this is the first time Rick is speaking publicy about it. Rick selflessly shares a number of uncomfortable (and slightly embarrassing) stories from his life with OCD, and afterwards Hugh chats with Ryan and Josh about some resources for anyone who has OCD or knows someone who does.

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 3 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcc246a-5971-11ed-bb58-bbc6b9595e29 85765510-f1ce-4b06-81fd-b24200341211 Mon, 01 Mar 2021 10:13:00 +0000 6467 https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/ yes           Trailer - Season 3 Trailer - Season 3 In preparation for what they “promise” will be the biggest year yet for The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a short warm-up episode. Yes, there’ll of course NEW episodes in Season 3, but also there’ll be new TYPES of episodes, including one that involves an extremely overhyped pun.

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          ]]>           In preparation for what they “promise” will be the biggest year yet for The Imperfects, Hugh, Ryan and Josh catch up for a short warm-up episode. Yes, there’ll of course NEW episodes in Season 3, but also there’ll be new TYPES of episodes, including one that involves an extremely overhyped pun.

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           trailer 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcad56a-5971-11ed-bb58-7306e4b68c71 5b71b334-c03e-41e7-93cd-b24200341322 Mon, 22 Feb 2021 05:00:00 +0000 319 https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/           Steph Claire Smith - Body Image, Modelling & Instagram Steph Claire Smith - Body Image, Modelling & Instagram Steph Claire Smith is one of Australia's most successful models. She rose to fame as the Instagram 'it girl' and has managed to transform this fame into a highly accomplished international modelling career; and with the help of best friend Laura, a fast growing health & fitness brand, Keep It Cleaner.

          If anyone's life looks perfect, it's Steph's. However, as she bravely details in this fascinating chat with Hugh, we shouldn't always believe what we see on Instagram.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable insights from their conversation, as well as discussing Hugh's own flash-in-a-pan modelling career.

          WARNING: This episode of The Imperfects contains references to eating disorders and behaviours.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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          ]]>           Steph Claire Smith is one of Australia's most successful models. She rose to fame as the Instagram 'it girl' and has managed to transform this fame into a highly accomplished international modelling career; and with the help of best friend Laura, a fast growing health & fitness brand, Keep It Cleaner.

          If anyone's life looks perfect, it's Steph's. However, as she bravely details in this fascinating chat with Hugh, we shouldn't always believe what we see on Instagram.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable insights from their conversation, as well as discussing Hugh's own flash-in-a-pan modelling career.

          WARNING: This episode of The Imperfects contains references to eating disorders and behaviours.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 2 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcb8aaa-5971-11ed-bb58-2b7c2fc8fe89 9f02128d-c27c-4d4d-9679-b242003410e8 Wed, 25 Nov 2020 00:18:00 +0000 6330 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/steph-claire-smith-body-image-modelling-instagram           Will McMahon - Depression & High School Expectations Will McMahon - Depression & High School Expectations In 2019 Will McMahon and Woody Whitelaw (of Will & Woody fame) released the video, "Best Mates Sit Down For A Heart To Heart About Depression". If you haven't seen it, you really must. It's a fantastic example of the power of vulnerability.

          Will McMahon has enjoyed a phenomenal career in radio, currently co-hosting the drive slot on the KISS network. He's at the top of his game, yet Will has achieved all this whilst enduring the undulations of living with a mental illness.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh explore some of these valuable lessons a little further, surrounding the topics of ‘male friendship’ and ‘expectations’.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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          ]]>           In 2019 Will McMahon and Woody Whitelaw (of Will & Woody fame) released the video, "Best Mates Sit Down For A Heart To Heart About Depression". If you haven't seen it, you really must. It's a fantastic example of the power of vulnerability.

          Will McMahon has enjoyed a phenomenal career in radio, currently co-hosting the drive slot on the KISS network. He's at the top of his game, yet Will has achieved all this whilst enduring the undulations of living with a mental illness.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh explore some of these valuable lessons a little further, surrounding the topics of ‘male friendship’ and ‘expectations’.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 2 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bccf1d8-5971-11ed-bb58-2b58eaf70e68 e1e6e4b8-9fea-461f-8590-b24200341b6c Thu, 22 Oct 2020 23:52:00 +0000 5391 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/will-mcmahon-depression-high-school-expectations           Sam Willoughby - The Tragic Injury That Changed His Life Sam Willoughby - The Tragic Injury That Changed His Life On this week’s episode, Hugh chats with Australian BMX racer, world champion, multi-Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him with tetraplegia. At 29 Sam has lived a remarkable life and is an incredible person who tells his life story with candour and honesty.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss Sam's journey whilst exploring some of the life lessons we can learn from this incredible person.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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          ]]>           On this week’s episode, Hugh chats with Australian BMX racer, world champion, multi-Olympian, Sam Willoughby. In 2016, Sam experienced a life-changing neck injury which left him with tetraplegia. At 29 Sam has lived a remarkable life and is an incredible person who tells his life story with candour and honesty.

          Following the chat, Ryan and Hugh discuss Sam's journey whilst exploring some of the life lessons we can learn from this incredible person.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 2 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcca5fc-5971-11ed-bb58-7f8eb57bc02b 9239585e-b0a3-48a0-9fa5-b242003420d0 Mon, 28 Sep 2020 01:53:00 +0000 6172 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/sam-willoughby-the-tragic-injury-that-changed-his           Steen Raskopoulos - Comedy & Depression Steen Raskopoulos - Comedy & Depression This week we talk to the wonderful Australian comedian, actor and improviser Steen Raskopoulos. Over the past 8 years Steen Raskopoulos has enjoyed a remarkable career with acclaimed stand up shows, starring roles on tv shows, working with his comedic idols, copious awards...the works. In this episode Steen talks candidly of the mental health struggles going on behind the scenes during this meteoric rise.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Steen's story.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           This week we talk to the wonderful Australian comedian, actor and improviser Steen Raskopoulos. Over the past 8 years Steen Raskopoulos has enjoyed a remarkable career with acclaimed stand up shows, starring roles on tv shows, working with his comedic idols, copious awards...the works. In this episode Steen talks candidly of the mental health struggles going on behind the scenes during this meteoric rise.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Steen's story.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 2 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbe7de-5971-11ed-bb58-5712feefd03c 516905f2-82fb-4fa4-b051-b242003424a8 Sun, 13 Sep 2020 23:22:00 +0000 5251 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/steen-raskopoulos-comedy-depression yes           Catriona Bisset - Exercise, Anxiety & Female Empowerment Catriona Bisset - Exercise, Anxiety & Female Empowerment This week we talk to Australian athlete, the incredible Catriona Bisset. Catriona talks candidly of her unconventional...almost unintentional journey of becoming the fastest woman in Australian history over 800m.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Catriona's fascinating journey.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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          ]]>           This week we talk to Australian athlete, the incredible Catriona Bisset. Catriona talks candidly of her unconventional...almost unintentional journey of becoming the fastest woman in Australian history over 800m.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh discuss some of the valuable lessons we can learn from Catriona's fascinating journey.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg & Josh van Cuylenburg. Mixed and mastered by Windmill Audio. A special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           full 2 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbdb18-5971-11ed-bb58-4f2dac25ccd8 e0b32879-40b5-407b-91cf-b242003464d7 Mon, 31 Aug 2020 01:18:00 +0000 5041 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/catriona-bisset-exercise-anxiety-female-empowermen           Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection Johann Hari - The Importance of Connection In the first episode of season two, Hugh chats with international best-selling author, Johann Hari.

          For those of you who listened to season one, you will have heard us mention Johann Hari, and his book Lost Connections, ALOT. We’re big fans.

          In fact, he’s had a huge influence on not just us, but some of our previous guests (see Missy Higgins Ep. 1). So, even though it’s a bit of a different episode than what we’d usually do, we couldn’t be more excited to be starting the season with Johann as our first guest.

          Hugh and Johann have a fascinating discussion around anxiety, depression, addiction, connection and how our mental health is connected to the work around us.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh try hard not to completely fanboy over Johann as they attempt to further explore some of these powerful ideas.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg and Josh van Cuylenburg. A very very special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

          See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

          ]]>           In the first episode of season two, Hugh chats with international best-selling author, Johann Hari.

          For those of you who listened to season one, you will have heard us mention Johann Hari, and his book Lost Connections, ALOT. We’re big fans.

          In fact, he’s had a huge influence on not just us, but some of our previous guests (see Missy Higgins Ep. 1). So, even though it’s a bit of a different episode than what we’d usually do, we couldn’t be more excited to be starting the season with Johann as our first guest.

          Hugh and Johann have a fascinating discussion around anxiety, depression, addiction, connection and how our mental health is connected to the work around us.

          Following this, Ryan and Hugh try hard not to completely fanboy over Johann as they attempt to further explore some of these powerful ideas.

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

          The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh van Cuylenburg and Josh van Cuylenburg. A very very special thank you also to No Mono (Pie Eater) for generously allowing us to use ‘Keep On’ as the theme song for this podcast.

          For more information and links to anything discussed in today’s episode, please visit: https://theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

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          ]]>           full 2 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 3bcbcd3a-5971-11ed-bb58-03971a918a20 ec0d8bad-65c6-48bc-a3e7-b242003436a9 Mon, 17 Aug 2020 04:49:00 +0000 5410 https://www.theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/ yes           Trailer - Season 2 Trailer - Season 2 Hugh and Ryan take a quick look at season two of The Imperfects. With guests like Johann Hari, Steen Raskopolous and Catriona Bisset (plus many more), there's a lot to look forward to. Hugh and Ryan also discuss some exciting changes for The Imperfects in 2020. As always thanks to No Mono (Pie Eater) for allowing us to use Keep On as the theme to this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           Hugh and Ryan take a quick look at season two of The Imperfects. With guests like Johann Hari, Steen Raskopolous and Catriona Bisset (plus many more), there's a lot to look forward to. Hugh and Ryan also discuss some exciting changes for The Imperfects in 2020. As always thanks to No Mono (Pie Eater) for allowing us to use Keep On as the theme to this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           trailer 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 5f793041-e5fb-4d53-a010-aaeea5a6850b 6aa1b61c-44d0-425e-a9a6-b24200342c6f Wed, 12 Aug 2020 03:34:00 +0000 525 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/trailer-season-2           Penny Moodie - Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) Penny Moodie - Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - It's often quoted yet misunderstood. In this special bonus ep, Hugh talks to Penny Moodie about what living with OCD anxiety is really like. Penny, amongst other things, is also Hugh’s wife, so we get to know what living with Hugh is really like! If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

           

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          ]]>           Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) - It's often quoted yet misunderstood. In this special bonus ep, Hugh talks to Penny Moodie about what living with OCD anxiety is really like. Penny, amongst other things, is also Hugh’s wife, so we get to know what living with Hugh is really like! If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14.

           

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          ]]>           bonus 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg cf268c6b-eca0-4fad-8078-ed38af0cf5c5 58baba2b-4e21-4602-b743-b2420034311f Thu, 30 Apr 2020 03:23:00 +0000 4412 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/penny-moodie-obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd           Coronavirus & our mental health Coronavirus & our mental health A different episode for very different times. In this special episode, Ryan & Hugh take a break from our standard format to discuss some tools & strategies we can implement to increase our resilience and improve our mental health during these unprecedented times. This episode was recorded prior to the increased quarantine measures implemented but the Australian Government. All necessary precautions and procedures were taken to adhere to appropriate social distancing at the time of recording this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           A different episode for very different times. In this special episode, Ryan & Hugh take a break from our standard format to discuss some tools & strategies we can implement to increase our resilience and improve our mental health during these unprecedented times. This episode was recorded prior to the increased quarantine measures implemented but the Australian Government. All necessary precautions and procedures were taken to adhere to appropriate social distancing at the time of recording this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           bonus 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 7563eccf-9412-44ae-bc87-823b22411bb7 592b54a7-da37-4476-acbe-b24200345011 Thu, 02 Apr 2020 11:33:00 +0000 3153 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/coronavirus-our-mental-health           Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose This special, end-of-season episode sees co-host Ryan Shelton step into the interviewee's chair. Ryan talks about his bold career ambitions, and the complex feelings of jealousy and shame when he didn't feel like he was successful enough and how uncovering his purpose has freed him from the vicious cycle of feeling inadequate.

           

          To watch the Ted talk on purpose, click here

           

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. For more info please visit: theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

           

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          ]]>           This special, end-of-season episode sees co-host Ryan Shelton step into the interviewee's chair. Ryan talks about his bold career ambitions, and the complex feelings of jealousy and shame when he didn't feel like he was successful enough and how uncovering his purpose has freed him from the vicious cycle of feeling inadequate.

           

          To watch the Ted talk on purpose, click here

           

          If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. For more info please visit: theresilienceproject.com.au/podcast/

           

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          ]]>           full 1 6 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f2b1a582-4298-4b8f-a0ae-469baebf0fcb 8842d875-a112-4bf8-8dd1-b2420034a843 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 00:09:00 +0000 4198 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/ryan-shelton-shame-jealousy-purpose           Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image Clare Bowditch - Music, Panic Attacks & Body Image This week, Hugh has an incredibly moving chat with the wonderful Clare Bowditch. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           This week, Hugh has an incredibly moving chat with the wonderful Clare Bowditch. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           full 1 5 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg f9e5fd71-6151-4152-b6a7-8f6c0b69e658 da1ae359-fa2d-40d5-b468-b2420034efe4 Thu, 21 Nov 2019 23:03:00 +0000 5285 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/clare-bowditch-music-panic-attacks-body-image           Georgie Gardner - Parenting & Living in the Spotlight Georgie Gardner - Parenting & Living in the Spotlight Hugh sits down for a fascinating chat with Georgie Gardner, host of The Today Show. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           Hugh sits down for a fascinating chat with Georgie Gardner, host of The Today Show. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we strongly recommend lifeline on 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. Thank you also to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           full 1 4 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 5b2b7d1443c24c8fb46335a960c787d5 0a63bac3-0608-45b0-adbf-b24200343aea Mon, 14 Oct 2019 03:48:00 +0000 4872 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/georgie-gardner-parenting-living-in-the-spotlight           Erin Deering - How Money Doesn't Always Make You Happy Erin Deering - How Money Doesn't Always Make You Happy In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Erin Deering. Erin is the co-founder of Australian swimwear company Triangl. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Erin Deering. Erin is the co-founder of Australian swimwear company Triangl. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           full 1 3 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 1950193491734093b3155272e71ddd71 a0d6a815-4569-4b4a-b51e-b2420034b291 Thu, 26 Sep 2019 05:43:00 +0000 4698 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/erin-deering-how-money-doesnt-always-make-you-happ           Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes Jack Watts - Anxiety, Pressure in Football and Mistakes In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his biggest mistakes and the pressures of professional sport. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           In this episode of The Imperfects, Hugh sits down with Australian rules Footballer Jack Watts, who talks openly of his biggest mistakes and the pressures of professional sport. If this episode has triggered anything for you around mental health, we recommend lifeline, 13 11 14. The Imperfects is brought to you by The Resilience Project. Produced by Ryan Shelton, Hugh & Josh van Cuylenburg. A very special thanks to 'No Mono' for generously allowing us to use 'Keep On' as the theme song for this podcast.

           

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          ]]>           full 1 2 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 53753553958b4736b2b7e9a76f0ad301 69cb04ee-1bab-4906-9a7c-b24200347d6e Wed, 11 Sep 2019 07:36:00 +0000 4262 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/jack-watts-anxiety-pressure-in-football-and-mistak           Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection Missy Higgins - Quitting Music, Depression & Connection In this first episode of The Imperfects, Hugh chats with Australian singer-songwriter Missy Higgins, who makes herself vulnerable in a way she never has before publicly. In sharing her battles with her own mental ill-health and how it drove her to temporarily quit music, Missy explains why ‘connection’ was ultimately her saviour. Following the interview, Ryan quizzes Hugh on what we can learn from Missy’s story, and how these lessons can be applied to our own imperfect lives.

           

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          ]]>           In this first episode of The Imperfects, Hugh chats with Australian singer-songwriter Missy Higgins, who makes herself vulnerable in a way she never has before publicly. In sharing her battles with her own mental ill-health and how it drove her to temporarily quit music, Missy explains why ‘connection’ was ultimately her saviour. Following the interview, Ryan quizzes Hugh on what we can learn from Missy’s story, and how these lessons can be applied to our own imperfect lives.

           

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          ]]>           full 1 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg 5ad5e398c9e547148db0b21c94a83e07 68bc9718-709a-44a5-8723-b242003483e7 Tue, 27 Aug 2019 09:01:00 +0000 4857 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/missy-higgins-quitting-music-depression-connection           An introduction An introduction The Resilience Project's Hugh van Cuylenburg chats to a variety of interesting people, sharing their struggles and imperfections. Hugh and Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives. Guests include, Missy Higgins, Jack Watts, Georgie Gardner, Erin Deering and Ryan Shelton. If this episode has triggered anything for you, we strongly recommend lifeline 13 11 14. A 'The Resilience Project Pocast'. . Music - No Mono - Keep on.

           

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          ]]>           The Resilience Project's Hugh van Cuylenburg chats to a variety of interesting people, sharing their struggles and imperfections. Hugh and Ryan Shelton then discuss some valuable take aways we can all apply to our own imperfect lives. Guests include, Missy Higgins, Jack Watts, Georgie Gardner, Erin Deering and Ryan Shelton. If this episode has triggered anything for you, we strongly recommend lifeline 13 11 14. A 'The Resilience Project Pocast'. . Music - No Mono - Keep on.

           

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          ]]>           trailer 1 1 Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg b2e310b530e94450a24f0ff90e16a2eb 122ca07d-7f5b-4cf2-b6a5-b24200350102 Wed, 14 Aug 2019 05:08:00 +0000 945 https://omny.fm/shows/the-imperfects/an-introduction